posted September 10, 2018 03:17 AM            

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I think I look gorgeous and I've heard this from other people too. Unfortunately, when I was younger, my eating habits weren't healthy. They still aren't healthy, but they aren't as bad as they were before.

Because of my eating decisions in my younger years, my Sun sign is probably obvious. I have Sun and Venus in Taurus in 6th house.

As soon as I heard from a professional that I was pre-diabetic from my eating habits, I cut back on how much I was eating and I lost a lot of weight just from not eating too much. I'm still classified as overweight, but I used to be obese. My current weight is around 145 lbs in American. I'm not sure what the other countries that use pounds are. Anyway, I'm roughly 5 feet and just barely short of 5'1''. My height is why I'm considered overweight.

Maybe when Uranus transits my 6th house, it will help me actually get in shape.

I used to be self-conscious about my small breasts. When I finally realized my breasts weren't going to grow any bigger, I was disappointed. At the very least, I'm not getting serious back pain from having breasts that are too big.

However, with age, beauty fades. I like to be known for my personality more than my appearance. Yes, I'm gorgeous, but that doesn't mean I'm going to stay gorgeous. Aging is a thing and I happen to want a great deal more recognition for what's within. I have a personality and I hate when someone just notices me for my looks.

[b]Edit: I think that men get the short end of the stick when it comes to appearance. I'm not helping matters much since I prefer women, but my personal preferences when it comes to men aren't easy to find. Men don't seem to have as many options when it comes to fashion either. It's a bit depressing when a man wants to make an effort to look good and no one acknowledges it and just treats him badly.[/B]

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I think you are only thinking in terms of western men. Men in the other cultures like to take care of themselves. I’ve seen plenty and with good fashion sense. I think men in general are better looking because honestly a lot of us women need makeup and luckily we have so many ways to fix ourselves to feel beautiful. And long hair helps to frame our faces where as men don’t usually wear makeup to look good. And yet they tend to have shorter hair, so a lot of focus is on their face. A guy literally needs to have a very good looking face to be seem as attractive. That’s why when good looking men are REALLY good looking. But this is my opinion. Im a girl and I’ll admit that Im absolutely not good looking without makeup. As I know a lot of other girls who aren’t either, but than again I think there are many people that I hear people swear are goodlooking and Im like really? I dont see it... I have my own idea of what is pretty and I even idealize that in myself. I am so grateful for makeup. Hallelujer 🙌🏻

Again I repeat this is merely my opinion!!!!

posted September 10, 2018 08:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Funny. I was thinking about this exact thing yesterday and was about to post a thread "Venus: the real deceiver?".

I met a really dashing dancer at a party once and we flirted up a storm before I gave him my numbers. But before the night was over, several people I knew told me that they had also given him their numbers. And I was disappointed.

After observing him from a distance I realised that I was more sincere than he. That for him the number or "quantity" of people that found him attractive was more important than the quality.

Because for him it was a form of validation that his self esteem depended on. He still wanted to feel that he still "got it" and the number of people that gave him their numbers, validated this need for him. It was not meant to hurt me. He needed that to survive being HIM.

And that was the last time I went for model/dancer/aspiring actor types lol.

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Oh, jeeze. I'm sorry about that happening. I've seen it and experienced myself, and it's just so shallow and petty to go from person to person and use them for validation like that. But yeah, it usually isn't intended to hurt, but it can at times, because when you're being sincerely interested, and realize they're not, it can leave you feeling put out, and like your time's just been wasted for nothing.

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But yes, it touched on the same themes you raised about beauty not making life "better" or "easier". And how its mostly other people's perceptions that make it seem that "Pretty is Power".

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Preach it! Life ain't magically better with beauty. It's really a misconception and over idealization.

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One thing I have learned of beauty (or handsomeness in my case lol) is that contrary to popular belief, its always entirely based on how you FEEL. And not what others think.

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Exactly, how we feel is key.

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However whenever I take a picture, my confidence drops tremendously. I look awful in pictures.

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Also I don’t know what it is, but I rarely get complimented online. I see people get complimented all the time, but rarely people compliment me online

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I haven't checked it, but based on the address, I can say this is true LOL! But also, for me, if someone is attractive, not just physically, and I like them. (if I like someone, their physical attraction goes through the roof), so if they're being what could be called "creepy", well, I actually don't mind! I like some inappropriate perviness, too. Let's not get into detail lol
But it's only IF I like them and have gotten to know them a bit. A random dude like the one above would actually repulse me xD I've had plenty of so called "hot" guys get pervy and for the most part, it piszses me off. One guy, not long ago, a "hottie" was trying to use his looks to get attention, and was saying and doing inappropriate things. I just told him to put his shirt back on and stop acting like an attention wh*re. He did not like that, naturally.

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I'm not in much of a mood to talk about myself today, but I will share that my mom was, for a time, a successful model, but it didn't save her from a life of hardship

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Yep, again, exactly. It just doesn't magically make life better. Everything has its ups and downs.

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I will never feel bad for someone bc they are hot though, I will feel bad for them for other reasons but not for that.

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it's one thing to feel sad, hurt etc if you really want children but it's totally different to feel worthless like a woman is only good for making babies..

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( I never got a fake. baby to play with, when someone bought one for me I started crying).

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In general these days there is an increase of both men and women not wanting kids, I think it was less stressful before to bring a child to the world, people had a lot more support and the cost of living was a lot lower, now both men and women work and most people in spite of this are living pay check to pay check so more people of both gender don't want to be bothered with kids bc is just too damn stressful.

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That's true I think. Surviving and making in the world is usually what's on everyone's mind, especially in certain parts of the world. However, for me, even if I was rich and lived a lavish life, I still think I'd not want my fun spoiled by kids. If someone thinks their life would be enriched, so be it, but not moi.

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a complaint of mine that people never talk about the reality of motherhood, its a taboo or something and I feel the negative aspects of it should be talked about a lot more openly and talking about it should be normalized a lot more. If this was done, a lot MORE people that quite frankly probably shouldn't have kids would not have kids and more people who are truly meant for that kind of life would. Too many romanticize having kids end up having kids and are not fit parents.

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I couldn't agree more, really. WAAAAY too much idealization happens when it comes to having children. In my ideal world, potential parents would be schooled about raising a child, what can go wrong, what you've got to deal with for the next 18 years, the good and the bad, and if they STILL want one even after being told the facts, so be it!

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Also, one other fear, I just don't wanna carry something in my body like an alien or parasite and also squize it out and risk getting ruptures and stitches down there. And net even be able to pee or poo or function normally, that happens to many miserable birth givers!

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LOL It's so nice to hear that someone else calls them what I do. I used to think I was heartless when around women talking about babies, and I would chime in and say "have fun carrying a little parasite in your belly that steals your food. It won't even be over when you give birth."

A straightforward girlfriend of mine who doesn't want children, she once said "if children weren't cute, mothers would murder them for the BS they pull."

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I think you are only thinking in terms of western men. Men in the other cultures like to take care of themselves. I’ve seen plenty and with good fashion sense.

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Exactly. Like in London - fashion haven for metrosexuals. And don't get me started on how gorgeous some middle easten men dress, and some Indians, even. Mongolians know how to dress, IMO, but that's just my idea. Especially traditional clothing. That's style!

posted September 10, 2018 09:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
Another thing that came to mind is Mars in Scorpio, or even Mars conjunct Pluto.

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Is 2°42' Orb good enough for this ?
I have Mars Conjunct Pluto in Libra 6th.
But, I don't think I'm that Attractive.
I'm telling from my own personal experience.
May be cos Mars in Libra detriment or 6th House ?

posted September 10, 2018 09:53 AM            

I have always been secure and confident, they are two attributes I have never had to worry about. I was also bullied as a kid and had a horrendous childhood, and still no issues with those two feelings.

posted September 10, 2018 10:22 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Hot guys get laid more though but then they feel they don't have to work as hard on been interesting and the art of maintaining a good conversation

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posted September 10, 2018 10:48 AM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
I think you are only thinking in terms of western men. Men in the other cultures like to take care of themselves. I’ve seen plenty and with good fashion sense.

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posted September 10, 2018 11:08 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
Same as guys with big d!icks! They don't try in bed because they think the job is done! Pfft!

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Exactly!

posted September 11, 2018 01:58 AM            

it might be because my AC in leo, which is pretty difficult for me to handle sometimes, because my taurus sun and pisces moon aren't the most outgoing signs

although all my life I never paid attention to what I wore and how I looked...I couldn't care less...it's a trait of moon/venus square and also sun in the 10th which is inclined towards under-dressing...but a few years ago jupiter passed over my AC for the second time (the first time happened when I was little and I'm not sure what changed in my appearance then), and what happened was that I bought a lot of nice clothes, perfumes, shoes..even started wearing makeup and went to a lot of parties!...it was a super fun time!....after that some of the results of that transit have stayed with me, and I have become more conscious in my choice of style since then

In general I always think that I look nice (even when I knew I dressed ugly!), and I am always thankful for my health and feminine beauty

posted September 11, 2018 04:36 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
Same as guys with big d!icks! They don't try in bed because they think the job is done! Pfft!

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From what I've heard from my lady friends, guys that are too big are jerks because they end don't care if they bruise there ladies cervix.

For some reason I was thinking of the movie "I Feel Pretty" after reading this thread.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt6791096/

posted September 15, 2018 01:01 AM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
From what I've heard from my lady friends, guys that are too big are jerks because they end don't care if they bruise there ladies cervix.

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having passion is different from tossing the woman onto the bed and treating her like an object that means nothing to you

some women fancy that though!...it's the same as getting turned on by being humiliated!...oh well, those big ones are made to fit somewhere!

posted September 15, 2018 01:02 AM            

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I have a Leo Mars

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posted September 18, 2018 04:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Melinn:
[b] Yes you get me! <3 And thank you for that analyze, about saturn not wanna burden itself. Its absolutely just like that! I know, even without not having kids, that its a huge, huuge burden, mentally and in other ways too. And yes I'm selfish in the way that, I really care for my me time. Its like the oxygene mask in airplanes.

You put the mask on your self first, then the others. I have to feel good in order to make my child, etc feel good. Unfortunately, that kind of partner that will help you with your burden 50/50, is nearly impossible to find imo. Also, I would never fel rested and happy with that mental burden anyway, so I would never be happy and be a good and happy mother to my child.

And I would go crazy, about what to eat and not eat as pregnant. What to give the child and not to give it etc, I'm virgo asc and plutonic, I would get seriously INSANE about worrying about that kids health and education! And I'm also religious, and its too hard to raise a child in this world with values.

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This whole comment makes me feel like I wrote it myself (except of the rrligious part) under another nickname.
You know it's better to not do it than do it wrong when it comes to such serious matters as having children. It's something that you will have to deal with for the rest of your life and you will never be able to take back. Plus you will do it alone, you can't count on anyone especially a man since they are very spoiled compared to women and it's mainly our fault. If I ever had a boy I woulf raise him the same way I would rais a girl when it comes to chores and family responsibilities.
If you aren't able to support you and your child by yourself emotionally, practically and fincially then you shouldn't have one..
I can't imagine something more difficult than that.

Like you I would get paranoid even about small things (I can't even cook for myself). It's true that if you'll feel miserable you will make your child feel like that too even unintentionally.

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Also, one other fear, I just don't wanna carry something in my body like an alien or parasite and also squize it out and risk getting ruptures and stitches down there. And net even be able to pee or poo or function normally, that happens to many miserable birth givers!

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AMEN GIRL! It's the first time someone says that to me. In my case the problem is not only with me though.. I feel disgusted even seeing other women being pregnant. I feel disgusted when thinking that something is growing inside you/them like a parasite as you very well described it.

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Yeah, if I was a guy, sure I would wan't 1-2 kids, I would just be a doner, and work all day and just come home to "pet" my child, very cynical but yeah thats the harsh truth in many cases.

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Exactly! Work is the best excuse where no one tells you anything. You are always justify if you say the magic word "work".
Work is the best thing and the easiest plus most good paying (both literally and not) burden in the world.

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posted September 23, 2018 04:06 AM            

I also had a problem with expressing myself. I wasn’t shy, but there was always something holding me back. I always felt constraint.

What really helped me were acting classes, therapy, a healthy lifestyle and lots of life experience!!

When I left school I met different people.. people who accepted me more and encouraged me to be myself. Feeling attractive and loved really helped me loving myself. Or was it the other way around? I don’t know.

I’m 33 now and expecting my first child. At 27 my life started to change for the better and gained momentum. Meeting people, having great relationships, lots of sex and finding some recognition at work. That’s also when I had my Saturn Return in my 1st House!!

I still have bad days and fight depression and anxiety from time to time, but it’s never as bad as it used to!
I know that I’m attractive and a nice person. I don’t hide anymore. I’m not the prettiest girl in the room, but I don’t have to. Although looks still mean a lot to me, I don’t define myself through them anymore. My life is far from perfect, but it’s my life and I truly like it.

posted September 24, 2018 04:36 PM            

I always wanted to wear pretty things. Because people labels you based on your appearance I gave my self-expression away just to play it safe and hide in the shadow.

Show skin -> you're a sl*t, wear make up -> you're fake, carry brand names -> you're materialistic -- I grew up in a family that gossips a lot but I understand everyone does.. Somehow it makes me uncomfortable (maybe it is my 12h Gemini). I feel I can be sensitive about these comments I wasn't ready to handle the potentials having those label. More I get older more I am wasting my time worrying how people think of me, for better or worse I gradually build up courage. I am still a little shy (cancer rising) but I want to dress sexy if I feel sexy. I want to dress hobo if I am tired. I think this is my 11H Venus trine Uranus. I value self-expression and want the same for others too.