posted December 16, 2018 03:26 AM            

He says he often thinks of me, look at my photos and even dreams of me... but he doesn't miss me.

If you keep thinking of someone and looking at her pics, isn't that = you miss that person?

He also says he has feelings for me, feels emotionally attached and connected...but it isn't love. What is it then since we are already past the infatuation phase? Friendship?

posted December 16, 2018 03:54 AM            

Just tell him you dream about a tall, dark chocolate, muscular hunk you met at the coffee shop once.

In your dreams, you see yourself caressing his thick pectorial muscles with your fingers and embracing his well-defined back. Before he plunges you into the throes of passion with his intense love-making

posted December 16, 2018 04:35 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
He has Neptune square Mercury so I'm often confused by what he says.

He says he often thinks of me, look at my photos and even dreams of me... but he doesn't miss me.

If you keep thinking of someone and looking at her pics, isn't that = you miss that person?

He also says he has feelings for me, feels emotionally attached and connected...but it isn't love. What is it then since we are already past the infatuation phase? Friendship?

He has Pluto conjunct Moon so I know he feels deeply but he's not easy to open up.

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I can relate to that a lot actually. I like to think of a guy I find really super hot but I don't miss him. I like to think about him and fantasize because that makes me feel good (we did meet in real life before so it's not just pure fantasy) but apart from intense sexual attraction and the occassional "aw he is cute" there is no emotional attachment. I don't have merc sq nep though.

posted December 16, 2018 06:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Valmu83:
Neptune square Mercury exact at my chart. I can relate completely to that. I don’t miss people when I don’t see them but I dream a lot. Not the same thing

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posted December 16, 2018 06:17 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
I can relate to that a lot actually. I like to think of a guy I find really super hot but I don't miss him. I like to think about him and fantasize because that makes me feel good (we did meet in real life before so it's not just pure fantasy) but apart from intense sexual attraction and the occassional "aw he is cute" there is no emotional attachment. I don't have merc sq nep though.

Also, it is possible to feel emotionally attached to someone and NOT be in love. I can also relate to that.

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I'm not talking about sexual fantasizing. That I do sometimes too. When I asked him if he hopes to see me, he says yes. And that's not missing a person? Then what is missing to you?

posted December 16, 2018 06:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:
Does he have a venus mars aspect? or moon mars maybe?

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posted December 16, 2018 06:29 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Reading all that gave me a headache. He is playing footsie.

Just tell him you dream about a tall, dark chocolate, muscular hunk you met at the coffee shop once.

In your dreams, you see yourself caressing his thick pectorial muscles with your fingers and embracing his well-defined back. Before he plunges you into the throes of passion with his intense love-making

After that,just break off and say "oh but it doesn't mean anything.Coz I still like you".

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posted December 16, 2018 06:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I'm not talking about sexual fantasizing. That I do sometimes too. When I asked him if he hopes to see me, he says yes. And that's not missing a person? Then what is missing to you?

What other kinds of emotional attachment you have? I'm not referring to mother-child/siblings/best friends kind. I personally don't feel emotional attachment to an opposite sex unless I've special romantic feelings for him.

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Mmh I dunno, it's just my guess but there might be a difference in "hoping to see someone" and missing someone. That is just me trying to interpret these words though. Missing someone is more like feeling a pull, a yearning to someone, while "hoping to see someone" just sounds a bit weaker than thatß. But like I said, just a guess from my side.

"What other kinds of emotional attachment you have? "

posted December 16, 2018 06:53 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
Mmh I dunno, it's just my guess but there might be a difference in "hoping to see someone" and missing someone. That is just me trying to interpret these words though. Missing someone is more like feeling a pull, a yearning to someone, while "hoping to see someone" just sounds a bit weaker than thatß. But like I said, just a guess from my side.

"What other kinds of emotional attachment you have? "

A strong liking and not in a "friend" type of way. Like I have a big amount of love and affection for my boyfriend but I'm not "in love" with him if that makes sense?

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Hmm.. to me hoping/wishing/yearning to see someone is just a play of words. It means the same. The only difference is the one you hope/wish/yearn to see is a friend, lover, family member or what?

Like you said, you have love and affection for your bf and this isn't a "friendship" feeling, right? That's what I'm trying to ascertain from what he said.

posted December 16, 2018 07:21 AM            

Either they feel sexuall excitement and fullfillment and attraction to his partner, but no emotional satisfaction.

Or he feel emotional fullfillment, closeness, satisfaction or whatever one calls it, but no sexual attraction. This is the cliche "I love you but I don't feel attraction anymore" or the "It now feels like we are just siblings or friends. I care for you very much but feel no real attraction excitement etc anymore".

The venus square mars guys especially, will often not feel both this at the same time. This because the venus (cozy friendly feelings) and the Mars (attraction) is bc of the square unbalanced, like a table with unbalanced legs so the table will tip on one side or the other and be all wobbly.

If I make any sense, sorry if I'm not clear

I guess Moon-Mars square may have a similar effect. Moon (emotional closeness) vs Mars (sexual attraction).

posted December 16, 2018 07:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:
I have read this archetype about Venus-Mars people, especially Venus square mars men.

Either they feel sexuall excitement and fullfillment and attraction to his partner, but no emotional satisfaction.

Or he feel emotional fullfillment, closeness, satisfaction or whatever one calls it, but no sexual attraction. This is the cliche "I love you but I don't feel attraction anymore" or the "It now feels like we are just siblings or friends. I care for you very much but feel no real attraction excitement etc anymore".

The venus square mars guys especially, will often not feel both this at the same time. This because the venus (cozy friendly feelings) and the Mars (attraction) is bc of the square unbalanced, like a table with unbalanced legs so the table will tip on one side or the other and be all wobbly.

If I make any sense, sorry if I'm not clear

I guess Moon-Mars square may have a similar effect. Moon (emotional closeness) vs Mars (sexual attraction).

To me it sounds like he is saying he feels emotionally close and safe and cozy, but not like he is high on love as we are in the beginning of a relationship. But I don't know you guys or his inner thoughts feelings etc so its just an idea

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I've Venus square Mars. He doesn't. I can feel attracted but not in love, but I won't feel in love w/o sexual attraction, if that makes sense?

Moon square Mars people are defensive and easily offended. We tend to be emotional and have emotional outbursts. We both have this aspect.

I'm actually more curious the way he likes to talk in circles is it the effect of Neptune square Mercury?

posted December 16, 2018 08:08 AM            

You are knowledgeable so I’m sure you already know this well, but blame my virgo asc for being overbearing

We have to take in the whole chart for this analysis. There are most surely more indicators.

Also your synastry. How is you guys mercuries aspected in your synastry?

I have mercury trine neptune, so its smoother then a square and no it does not have that kind of talking in circles effect on me.
Sounds almost like side stepping like a cancer?

posted December 16, 2018 08:12 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
What do you mean you don't miss people when you don't see them?? Isn't it usually you miss people you don't see and won't miss them if you see them all the time?

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posted December 16, 2018 08:22 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
He has Neptune square Mercury so I'm often confused by what he says.

He says he often thinks of me, look at my photos and even dreams of me... but he doesn't miss me.

If you keep thinking of someone and looking at her pics, isn't that = you miss that person?

He also says he has feelings for me, feels emotionally attached and connected...but it isn't love. What is it then since we are already past the infatuation phase? Friendship?

He has Pluto conjunct Moon so I know he feels deeply but he's not easy to open up.

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posted December 16, 2018 08:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:

Edit: Oh, I've to clarify the part about hoping to see me. I asked him if he was hoping to see me when he came to this place, he said yes.

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posted December 16, 2018 08:50 AM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:
As we in this forum always end up saying, “one little aspect alone can not count for a behavior, personality trait etc”

You are knowledgeable so I’m sure you already know this well, but blame my virgo asc for being overbearing

We have to take in the whole chart for this analysis. There are most surely more indicators.

Also your synastry. How is you guys mercuries aspected in your synastry?

I have mercury trine neptune, so its smoother then a square and no it does not have that kind of talking in circles effect on me.
Sounds almost like side stepping like a cancer?

I have a guy friend with the square and no he is rather forward in his speach and thinking. But as said there are many factors that has an effect^^

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I heard that Neptune square Mercury people communicate in bits and pieces that's why I specifically asked about this aspect. He has Cancer Mars which also makes him quite self-protective and indirect. E.g. though he says this but he wants to know if I love him. I asked him why and he avoided my qn.

In Synastry we have:
Sun trine Mercury DW
My Mercury square his Saturn
His Mercury square my Neptune/Asc

posted December 16, 2018 09:02 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
So he was asked and replied with yes. Of course he was hoping to see you. He obviously likes you and is attracted to you. But he never said "I am hoping to see " you himself?

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posted December 16, 2018 09:04 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
he may also have either neptune or mercury aspecting the ruler of the 7th or a planet in the 7th

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posted December 16, 2018 09:16 AM            

Do you think about him often?

There was an actual study done that found that certain brainwaves can actually reach people even if they are miles apart. Explaining how some people "know" when a loved one is in danger. The brain is like an antenna giving out frequencies.

Also explains why, occasionally, those seemingly "odd things" happen, like when you suddenly think of someone you haven't thought of in years, or seen in years, and then some short time later you get a phone call from them.

Just throwing that bit of info out there, fwiw.

posted December 16, 2018 09:42 AM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
I tend to ascribe to the saying "if you're thinking about someone, then they are thinking about you."

Do you think about him often?

There was an actual study done that found that certain brainwaves can actually reach people even if they are miles apart. Explaining how some people "know" when a loved one is in danger. The brain is like an antenna giving out frequencies.

Also explains why, occasionally, those seemingly "odd things" happen, like when you suddenly think of someone you haven't thought of in years, or seen in years, and then some short time later you get a phone call from them.

Just throwing that bit of info out there, fwiw.

Also, for me, I don't miss people. It's a very rare thing for me to miss someone.
Venus Libra, Moon in 11th, moon sign ruler conjunct Saturn and Uranus.

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Yes, I can understand what you're saying. Two weeks ago I was missing him as I was overseas. When we met he said he dreamt of me. There was another time I found myself deeply yearning for him and when we met he told me he was thinking of me every day for the whole week.

posted December 16, 2018 09:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:
I have read this archetype about Venus-Mars people, especially Venus square mars men.

Either they feel sexuall excitement and fullfillment and attraction to his partner, but no emotional satisfaction.

Or he feel emotional fullfillment, closeness, satisfaction or whatever one calls it, but no sexual attraction. This is the cliche "I love you but I don't feel attraction anymore" or the "It now feels like we are just siblings or friends. I care for you very much but feel no real attraction excitement etc anymore".

The venus square mars guys especially, will often not feel both this at the same time. This because the venus (cozy friendly feelings) and the Mars (attraction) is bc of the square unbalanced, like a table with unbalanced legs so the table will tip on one side or the other and be all wobbly.

If I make any sense, sorry if I'm not clear

I guess Moon-Mars square may have a similar effect. Moon (emotional closeness) vs Mars (sexual attraction).

To me it sounds like he is saying he feels emotionally close and safe and cozy, but not like he is high on love as we are in the beginning of a relationship. But I don't know you guys or his inner thoughts feelings etc so its just an idea

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i have venus square mars and i'd say it's more that if i can love someone i can also probably hate them just as strongly

i have moon square mars too, cant agree with the touchy defensive thing someone else mentioned, but where i can relate is that only people i'm very close to can affect me emotionally and everyone else

also have venus opposite moon (my moon and venus are part of a kite with mercury and uranus) which is probably why i tend to go for relationships that can be rollercoasters in spite of that not being nearly as peaceful or balanced as i'd like in theory

as far as people i've been with go my fiancee is the one i've been both the closest to emotionally and the most sexually attracted to, but i can hate her as much as i love her and there's definitely times where i wish she'd bash my head in while i slept so i wouldnt have to deal with anything or wanted to strangle her...i've also stayed 14 years despite a lot of ups and downs

at the same time i havent been physically attracted to everyone ive been into on a more emotional level and vice versa so that's been part of other relationships i suppose

@Hikaru29

i can relate to an extent, sometimes i miss my ex (who i wasnt physically attracted to) because i really enjoyed talking to her but i have no love for her left and i don't actually want her in my life

posted December 16, 2018 10:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
@Hikaru29

i can relate to an extent, sometimes i miss my ex (who i wasnt physically attracted to) because i really enjoyed talking to her but i have no love for her left and i don't actually want her in my life

i just miss some of the nicer things about her but without all the feeling

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If I don't love a person anymore I actually won't miss that person at all. I may at times think of them and wonder how they're doing but I won't feel like seeing them nor miss them.