posted November 06, 2019 08:34 PM              

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
^ Do you witness the messages that come Galactic ? or do you just let them be ?

I think a man doesn't die unless he wants to tho, somewhere deep down.

Nice of you to reply in such a calm manner after me going in like a mustang.

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posted November 06, 2019 09:05 PM              

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
GalacticCoreExplosion, thank you for information. What do you use for Parans calculation, Astro.com or some astrological software?
Also, I don’t think you should take dreams like the absolute truth. Even some truth might come from it, it might be mixed with our fears and unconscious experience of reality. In addition, I have some experience when the other people came and messed with my dreams. We both were aware of it. It was an experiment. It made me more aware of how we could be influenced and led even in deeper level.

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You're welcome Libraurr. Astro.com has a couple options I believe. Somebody with Solar Fire (name?) once did it for me.

Interesting point about dreams. There are different kinds and levels of dreams for sure. But my partner and I have learned to recognize the feel of specific "guidance dreams". As to your experiments--yes, that makes sense and certainly is possible, but in a case like that, this is a specific intention and agreement between friends, and so one's Expanded self will be like, "Sure, we'll go along with this and help out the process."

These are not so much guidance dreams. As to unfriendly nonphysicals potentially slipping in distorting info or the like, it's not very likely since it's our Expanded self that screens out and helps us remember certain dreams over others. Interestingly, both my partner and I have had precognitive dreams that literally happened t!t for tat later in the physical.

posted November 06, 2019 09:06 PM              

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
^ And dodging questions I forgot to add..... (ghosting them more like if we go along with the thread theme, just to keep it on topic you knw)

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It's my Sun square Pluto...

posted November 08, 2019 09:43 PM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:

These are not so much guidance dreams. As to unfriendly nonphysicals potentially slipping in distorting info or the like, it's not very likely since it's our Expanded self that screens out and helps us remember certain dreams over others. Interestingly, both my partner and I have had precognitive dreams that literally happened t!t for tat later in the physical.

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posted November 09, 2019 07:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Stellia:
So I've been ghosted by a close friend and I'm absolutely devastated.

I just don't get it. It *could* be accidental but it hurts crazy bad whatever the story behind it. I was already missing him before he went incommunicado, now it's been multiplied by a thousand.

Anyway, it got me thinking. Which sign placements are most likely to ghost you, and why. And is ghosting about *them* or about *you*?

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posted October 17, 2022 03:24 PM            

Uranus/ Aquarius- as they tend to like sudden changes and their freedom.

Leo- maybe their ego was hurt or you don’t make them feel great about themselves. Possibly they are enjoying the spotlight from another direction in life.

Pluto/Scorpio- as they prefer to have control in their own
secretive ways.

Taurus- may be indulging in their affections with another.

Aries- so must gusto that they burn themselves out and move on quickly.

Libra- though known for balance and ruled by Venus can sometimes come off fickle or passive aggressive if afflicted.

Pisces- as Rockwell mentioned, a need for much emotional reprieve. Maybe even fear of hurting someone or cowardness.

Virgo- they may be too busy being productive or trying to find a solution. Possibly picking things apart.

Sagittarius- just being stuck on their own mission or train of thought. Not a personal attack just their constant need to delve into the yonder.

Gemini- fickle as well. Likes variety. Will have their hands in many pickle jars so to speak.

Cancer- may be offended or moody and in need of reprieve. Also, may have family issues that is prioritizing their time.

Capricorn- may be too busy with work to notice. Might keep telling themself they will contact you tomorrow when there is free time.

I really see this come into play when someone has a Venus square mars natal s or through synastry. There is an intensity but it is not always expressed appropriately. Known for hot/cold and timing issues.

But really there’s a multitude of reasons. I suppose the mindset of self and lack of accountability comes with the superficially of our electronic era. People are surrounded by people so easily accessible by their phones but they become overwhelmed by the constant barrage to stay connected. It’s much easier for people to be superficial then to account for the complexity of vulnerable relationships. People are more insecure than ever , putting themselves out there. So when an issue pops up either directly or through sparked insecurity it’s much easier to ignore it. Push a button and walk away. They can indulge themselves in instant gratification of superficial relationships that help them ignore what they don’t want to see or deal with. It’s a trend now. It is also a way to abuse people and is very painful.

Sometimes, it’s just life. Time slips away and you mean to get back to it. It’s not always personal or intended to ghost people either.

Also, I’d say the south node could definitely have something to do with this. Familiarity and comfort that a person needs to grow past.

posted October 18, 2022 06:23 AM            

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Originally posted by vansio:
Does "ghosting" mean ignoring or just not reaching out ?

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I can imagine it could be both or either…it’s a matter of perspective I guess.

I see it in the sense of having no contact when someone would normally expect a response or regular interaction.

posted October 18, 2022 10:05 AM            

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Originally posted by vansio:
Does "ghosting" mean ignoring or just not reaching out ?

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posted October 18, 2022 10:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Lamplighter848:
Star, that is very understandable.

I have Venus trine Pluto
Venus square mars
And so my most intimate relationships of my life have hit these areas.
I’m a cancer ascendant with a sun In Pisces.
Pluto and mars in Scorpio
So much freaking water and emotions I need reprieve often
With venus in Aquarius I value my freedom
In my 9th (higher learning)
And sn in Sagittarius 6th (daily routine)
I find much need for introspection.
Lmao

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posted October 19, 2022 02:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Lamplighter848:
Star, that is very understandable.

I have Venus trine Pluto
Venus square mars
And so my most intimate relationships of my life have hit these areas.
I’m a cancer ascendant with a sun In Pisces.
Pluto and mars in Scorpio
So much freaking water and emotions I need reprieve often
With venus in Aquarius I value my freedom
In my 9th (higher learning)
And sn in Sagittarius 6th (daily routine)
I find much need for introspection.
Lmao

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Some Aquarius like me...Mars!
I think my Mercury Taurus in house 12 have something to do with this.

I've had to ghost friends who wanted to stay in touch all day. I love talking on the phone. But this friend decided to make it an expectation that I can talk on the phone like that all the time. I couldn't just ignore her, I had to flat out ask her to contact me less.

My in laws are not a fan of my ghosting. Sometimes she will want immediate answers, that I am not ready to answer yet.

My friend triggered a migraine about the birthday cake I was getting him when I was trying to pack for a wedding.

posted October 19, 2022 08:21 AM            

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Originally posted by rockwell:
Ghosting means that a person (acquaintance, friend, lover) with whom you had regular contact breaks off contact without a word. Like a ghost a person disappears from your life during ghosting. No farewell, no explanatory words, only questions remain for the ghosting victim.

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So, ignoring someone and avoiding contact

I think ghosting boils down to mismatched expectations one had for the other. Like, isn’t “ghosting” usually a connotation for casual dating? To hook up with someone and not hear from them again, in spite of your wishes (expectations).

Ghosting ≈ to be let down (expectations) but without the other person explicitly saying “(Not available anymore.) Good-bye.”

I’ve ghosted before, an ex friend, because an explanation would cause needless suffering (didn’t want to perpetuate negativity or cast blame), and my mind was made up (is not a speaking matter.) Person crossed boundaries over a period of time and I just couldn’t engage any longer. Aquarius Sun

Though, this kind of “ghosting” is more related to “INFJ door slam”. Cutting ties (contact) with difficult connections is healthy. Good riddance. Being able to allow situations to be unresolved—acknowledging discomfort without overreacting or forcing—is also healthy.

posted October 19, 2022 10:24 AM            

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Originally posted by vansio:

So, ignoring someone and avoiding contact

I think ghosting boils down to mismatched expectations one had for the other. Like, isn’t “ghosting” usually a connotation for casual dating? To hook up with someone and not hear from them again, in spite of your wishes (expectations).

Ghosting ≈ to be let down (expectations) but without the other person explicitly saying “(Not available anymore.) Good-bye.”

I’ve ghosted before, an ex friend, because an explanation would cause needless suffering (didn’t want to perpetuate negativity or cast blame), and my mind was made up (is not a speaking matter.) Person crossed boundaries over a period of time and I just couldn’t engage any longer. Aquarius Sun

Though, this kind of “ghosting” is more related to [b]“INFJ door slam”. Cutting ties (contact) with difficult connections is healthy. Good riddance. Being able to allow situations to be unresolved—acknowledging discomfort without overreacting or forcing—is also healthy.

IMO.. whenever I hear someone complain about being ghosted I tend to think they didn’t advocate for themselves? If there’s something you need to get off your chest, about your values or expectations, do it, for yourself. Yet, do not expect the other person to do anything in return (don’t say something to garner a reaction) - that’s not the same, neither is it the point of communication.

Like… OP is calling the man her friend but clearly she has feelings for him. Unmet feelings that she attributes to him. Being devastated about falling out of touch with someone… points to romantic desire. My various friends and I could go a week or so without directly responding and I wouldnt flinch lol I probably just keep sending them memes/articles/YouTube links. I don’t notice

Another question, is ghosting the same as being jilted? [/B]

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Yes, it definitely is about mismatched expectations and it usually has a connotation for casual dating but not always. I've posted this counterexample before:

"An Aquarius female friend got ghosted a few weeks ago. Her good friend totally cut ties with her out of the blue and banned her from all social media channels. My Aquarius friend was devasted and suffered like a dog. When she saw the ghost in real life again, she confronted her and it turned out that everything was based on a misunderstanding. The ghost thought that the Aquarius friend would ignore her, which was not the case. Their friendship is basically over because the ghost destroyed her trust"

So ghosting does not just apply to dating but to all sorts of human interaction (online communication too and especially dating sites). It did even happen to me in professional life once. I think you're making it too easy for yourself. What if the victim, like my Aquarius friend, didn't even get the chance to speak up for herself before she was ghosted and what if the ghosting was based on a misunderstanding?

While I would cut ties with toxic people (sociopaths, psychopaths, stalker, cheaters and liars..), please keep in mind that not every victim is toxic and deserves such a treatment. I don't think the OP did. Adults should be able to talk through problems and clarify misunderstandings. It's the easiest thing in the world to ask another person: "Did I understand you correctly when you said/ did XXX?" Even if your expections are mismatched you can even wrap rejection charmingly!! The point is: nagging uncertainty is usually much more hurtful than a clear and clearly communicated end. The consequences can be traumatic for some victims and it therefore does not avoid suffering and negativity but actually increases it! Some psychologists consider ghosting in international literature to be passive-aggressive behavior and a form of emotional abuse. Ghosting is and therefore always will be the act of a coward and it says way more about the ghost than about the victim***
Ghosted once and I have to admit that I wouldn't want such a person back in my life. If the person has tried to explain themselves before countless times and it doesn't work - fine leave! But not saying a word? Well, those who act fairly and give a reason have more dignity IMO.

I can relate to the OP. I don't think that it always comes down to romantic attraction and desire but it can be a factor. For example, I've always been a boy-girl and have always had more male than female friends. My Venus in Taurus finds it hard to let go when I like someone but it's not the case that I bombard my friends with messages. It's easy for me to go a week or even longer without contact - especially if you live far away from each other and yet the f***ing Pisces' ghosting still stung!

***For me are ghoster's for the most part people who are immature in relationships, have trouble communicating their feelings, and shy away from arguments.

posted October 20, 2022 09:59 AM            

Humbleness and detachment (reflection and discernment) can be equally dignified as a pointed statement.

I’m of the camp: person-to-person «when you have nothing kind to say, don’t say anything at all» On the contrary to Rockwell, I find it wise to avert “arguments”, if one has that skill and self-control. Nothing is worth arguing over. Stress kills.

I’m also of the camp that if I have to explain to someone how to treat me, it’s a sign that we’re probably not compatible in character.

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/feb/28/six-new-dating-terms-youve-ne ver-heard-of

Some people have insecure attachment styles. I would assume secure people.. either communicate on behalf of the connection before jumping to conclusions, without fear or avoidance, or, if easier to deduce, considering the other person’s behavior, adjust their own expectations of the other accordingly.

posted October 31, 2022 09:29 PM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:

As soon as someone shows too much noisiness, I'm quick to ghost them and throw them out of my life and erase their traces. I don't like to another human being too close to me, knowing every detail of my life. Life is more fun and less complicated this way, and you will have a lot more time and energy to focus on yourself instead of wasting them on people who have no use for you.

With my family it's different. I never tell them details about my life and future plans, but even if I do, I always make sure to ask them to keep that a secret.

I have sun in taurus exactly opposite pluto in scorpio, and aquarius saturn right on DC.

I also ghost people who are loud, obnoxious and share details of their life with almost anybody. I also ghost gossipers and negative/jealous/toxic people.

signs I am least likely to ghost are Aries (suns and moons), leo (moons), scorpio (suns)

Overall, I think the signs of Taurus and Scorpio are the most likely to ghost someone. Due to the fact that they tend to trust others very slowly.

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posted October 31, 2022 10:37 PM            

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Originally posted by vansio:

Humbleness and detachment (reflection and discernment) can be equally dignified as a pointed statement.

I’m of the camp: person-to-person «when you have nothing kind to say, don’t say anything at all» On the contrary to Rockwell, I find it wise to avert “arguments”, if one has that skill and self-control. Nothing is worth arguing over. Stress kills.

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