posted January 23, 2021 11:11 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
My conjunction is at the beginning of the 8th house. I'm very careful, because of what I've witnessed my whole life, and also because I was almost killed when I was small (by a man). I want to know that if they get angry, they won't try to hurt me physically. I want to know that they won't gaslight me, or screw with my family (what's left of it).

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posted January 23, 2021 12:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Somna7H:
Killing ?
Are you kidding ?
I can't kill a mosquito well.
I have Exalted Saturn Conjunct Mars in my 5th Libra. I'm always in Control.

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posted January 23, 2021 06:54 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I wasn’t talking about you.

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posted January 24, 2021 01:21 AM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
No, she meant that she was almost killed by ANOTHER man when she was younger.

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posted January 24, 2021 11:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
What are his Venus aspects because that modifies. I can be jealous and possessive as well but your ex’s reaction was overboard. I’d get jealous but I’m normally chill unless they cross the line. He abused you?? That’s a no-no. You’re right to leave him.

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Moon conjunct Venus, Venus Opposite Jupiter and Uranus, Venus inconjunct Saturn, and Venus bi-quintile Pluto.

Yes, it was a dark time for me. It left some traumatic feelings, I was afraid of men for awhile: I always thought all those men would punch/hit me or pushed me to the wall and hurt me. I couldn't even stand close around men, even in an elevator I would start shaking and chose standing behind the corner.

I couldn't seek help because I didn't think they would understand because some part of me I blamed my own self too to let it happened to me, so I tried to heal myself with my own Sagittarius way: religion, philosophy, and travelling. A time to learn about myself and other people.

posted January 24, 2021 12:53 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I’m actually someone who is there for people, and it takes a lot for me to give up on someone. I never used to want to date around, because I had no interest in dating that many people. I’m more than capable of maintaining a commitment.

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Yes, I've seen my ex also was someone who was there for people, but it was applied more to his friends than me as his gf at that time. I don't know, maybe my expectation is different that his about "being there". But, emotionally, for me, I didn't get it from him.

My ex also once told me that he didn't want to date around anymore. That's why he asked me to marry him after two weeks in a relationship, he felt like we were already a soulmate and I found he had already watched me long before I knew him.

When I found out he cheated, he told me that he had no interest to date them or anything serious. He said, he only had one serious relationship (that was with me) and the other just not a serious thing. It was something that didn't make sense for me, because he chatted intensely with them and flirted like he wanted to pursue them into a relationship. He also played a girl who actually liked him, claiming that they were agreed it was just a not serious thing. Sorry, for me, it doesn't sound like a loyalty but a trouble maker and simply unfaithful.

When I asked him for a break up after a month (first break up), he told me he didn't used to be in a short relationship, he used to be at least a year in a relationship. Then he tried to find in the internet why gf asked for a break up and asked friends about it, and I didn't know to whom he asked and how he got the conclusion that I probably found another man better than him. No matter how I tried to tell him, the break up was because I didn't see that we were in one mission and vision in the relationship (we have venus sq venus and mercury sq mercury), his extravagant lifestyle also didn't match with me, he still kept listening to other people who didn't know me well because of my distant and private personality which people easily misunderstood. While the fact is, I didn't want my relationship became a topic at my work or friendship, so I didn't share and told anyone the problems I had unless the relationship was over after some times.

Everyone has their own dark side, yes, but I couldn't stay to change or help or be there with his Gemini's dark side for longer. It was really obvious his Gemini venus played out in our relationship. I knew really well his insecurity, but the relationship was just not good for us.

posted January 24, 2021 12:59 PM            

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Originally posted by hearttreasure:
Moon conjunct Venus, Venus Opposite Jupiter and Uranus, Venus inconjunct Saturn, and Venus bi-quintile Pluto.

Yes, it was a dark time for me. It left some traumatic feelings, I was afraid of men for awhile: I always thought all those men would punch/hit me or pushed me to the wall and hurt me. I couldn't even stand close around men, even in an elevator I would start shaking and chose standing behind the corner.

I couldn't seek help because I didn't think they would understand because some part of me I blamed my own self too to let it happened to me, so I tried to heal myself with my own Sagittarius way: religion, philosophy, and travelling. A time to learn about myself and other people.

It needs 3 years for me to accept that not every men will hurt me and my ex is just someone who has his own problems psychologically or maybe he has a hurt life before, I don't know.

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People with Venus-Saturn hard aspects can come across cold and unfeeling, but they’re by no means violent. Have to also check their Mars to see how well they manage their anger. Does he have a fiery Mars or Mars in 1H or forming hard aspects with Sun/Mercury/Pluto/Moon/ASC?

I understand the self-blaming tendency as I did that too when I left my toxic ex. I hated him but I hated myself more and it took me a long time to heal and trust men again. Religion healed me and I’ve come to understand that it isn’t my fault as I didn’t do anything wrong. I’ve a Sag Moon btw, haha. Always managed to bounce back.

What I know about bullies and abusive people is they always have some insecurity and low self-esteem issue, resulting in suppressed rage. This does not justify their behaviour, of course. They need to really go for treatment, healing and not project their issues on others.

posted January 24, 2021 01:32 PM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
I really wanted to respond to this..but I didn't want to give a generic response.
(Gemini Sun with Tarrus Venus)

Possessiveness can be an issue because Tarrus Venus takes there time to pick the right person once they pick that person they don't want to let go.

Laugh away if you may..the best companion I ever had was my loyal Brown Female Tabby cat.

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Nothing to laugh away about, it means that you treat your cat very well. It's a good thing.

I kind of agree with what Galactic said,

"But preferring animals to people is sometimes a reaction to potential fear of being potentially hurt by people since people are far more complex beings and are more apt to disappoint, upset, and/or hurt you than an animal."

My youngest sister has the same issue, she prefers dog than people, it's because she is very sensitive and afraid that people will hurt/betray her loyalty/trust because she knows how loyal she is in the relationship.

Sometimes it's also a sign of knowing too much bad story about relationship especially it's coming from people they look up to or care about. It makes them sad at the same time angry and it builds up into some feelings of insecure/trust issues of people. Or sometimes there's a deep pain from the closest.

I tried to help my youngest sister to let loose a lil bit with my own way. I know that what I have been through gives her some traumatic feelings too because she said before it happened to me, she looked up to me. Some part of me feels guilty telling the details and she heard it across the room, crying. I should realize that not everyone could handle to hear it.

posted January 25, 2021 08:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
People with Venus-Saturn hard aspects can come across cold and unfeeling, but they’re by no means violent. Have to also check their Mars to see how well they manage their anger. Does he have a fiery Mars or Mars in 1H or forming hard aspects with Sun/Mercury/Pluto/Moon/ASC?

I understand the self-blaming tendency as I did that too when I left my toxic ex. I hated him but I hated myself more and it took me a long time to heal and trust men again. Religion healed me and I’ve come to understand that it isn’t my fault as I didn’t do anything wrong. I’ve a Sag Moon btw, haha. Always managed to bounce back.

What I know about bullies and abusive people is they always have some insecurity and low self-esteem issue, resulting in suppressed rage. This does not justify their behaviour, of course. They need to really go for treatment, healing and not project their issues on others.

EDIT: Btw his Venus opposite Uranus...this is one of the aspects I listed of people who may have unstable or fleeting relationships, regardless of Venus sign.

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He has Mars in Taurus, like I mentioned before Venus in Gemini Mars in Taurus, I don't know the house of Mars since I couldn't get his birth time at that time. I've tried from 00.01 AM to 23.59 PM, his Moon and Venus is still in Gemini.

Mars aspects:
- Mercury conjunct Mars
- Mars opposite Pluto & Saturn
- Mars inconjunct Jupiter & Uranus

I didn't know he has Mars/Pluto hard aspect before, wow, no wonder..

posted January 25, 2021 09:44 PM            

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Originally posted by hearttreasure:
He has Mars in Taurus, like I mentioned before Venus in Gemini Mars in Taurus, I don't know the house of Mars since I couldn't get his birth time at that time. I've tried from 00.01 AM to 23.59 PM, his Moon and Venus is still in Gemini.

Mars aspects:
- Mercury conjunct Mars
- Mars opposite Pluto & Saturn
- Mars inconjunct Jupiter & Uranus

I didn't know he has Mars/Pluto hard aspect before, wow, no wonder..

His insecurity increased because he was the type who sought attentions, need it, wanted it, all the time, through words and I was a quiet and only wanted to talk about deeper issues at that time.

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posted January 26, 2021 05:38 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I know people with Mars square Pluto and they’re not violent so can’t just base on this. Here you can see his Mars is receiving harsh aspects all over. With Saturn it shows someone with pent up frustrations. He feels that people are often blocking his way. With Pluto he can be aggressive. With Uranus it makes one impulsive and a rebel, and Jupiter expands all these energies. Taurus Mars becomes bullish once their temper flares.

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I mean, no wonder he raped me. He thought a woman like me would have a hard time leaving, after he took away what I protected the most since I came from a religious and conservative family. To dominate. But, he was wronged, because I cared more of my mental health, if I don't have it, how can I manage to carry myself in a positive way? How can I survive life for better? How can I help people in need?

He once joked about it with his friends, domination through sex, but I didn't understand at that time. I'm still not quite sure what that means? Manipulate the person through giving sexual pleasure?

posted January 26, 2021 12:18 PM            

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Originally posted by hearttreasure:
I mean, no wonder he raped me. He thought a woman like me would have a hard time leaving, after he took away what I protected the most since I came from a religious and conservative family. To dominate. But, he was wronged, because I cared more of my mental health, if I don't have it, how can I manage to carry myself in a positive way? How can I survive life for better? How can I help people in need?

He once joked about it with his friends, domination through sex, but I didn't understand at that time. I'm still not quite sure what that means? Manipulate the person through giving sexual pleasure?

I believe he was a kind person, but broken. He also once asked me to help him, but I couldn't because I didn't have a capability to that at the time, and I think he should make that change start from himself, made a promise to himself, and showed me that he tried, but our relationship was getting worst each week.

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posted February 09, 2021 06:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
What I mean is his behaviour did not come from one aspect alone but a combination which is shown through his Mars. I’m sorry you suffered so much with him. I don’t believe anyone who rape and physically abuse someone has kindness left in their heart. Did you report him??

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I don't know, but I believe he still has some kindness in him because I had seen him playing with kids and he was so good at it.

My family helped me to report him because I couldn't do it by myself since I was in trauma and confused at the same time. But at the end, I decided to not continue the process and we made an agreement that he had to keep a specified distance from me (we worked in the same department, so sometimes if he saw me walking out the room or alone, he followed me or watched me, waited for me, and else, like, a creepy stalker).

It's a long story ago, I do not even hate him anymore and do not remember his face exactly.

posted February 09, 2021 06:13 PM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:
Nm (edited)

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posted June 09, 2021 10:32 PM            

Never cheated on a partner, always wanted a stable relationship, never had many sexual partners.

What I notice most about my romantic life is that I don't have a physical type. I don't have a preference, truly. If the person is interesting and intelligent, that's what attracts me to them. Seems like ******** , but it's true. If you look back at my exes, they're all completely different from each other in terms of looks.

And I also don't mean intelligent in an academic sense, but a "I'm a curious person and I have many interests and hobbies and ideas that I'd like to share with you" type of intelligence. There are a lot of people out there who are smart, but boring.

On the same vein, it's very important to me that my partner is interested in music/books/film. It's not just about "liking music" (because most people in the world do) or appreciating artsy fartsy stuff; it's about being passionate about these things and not being a basic ***** in terms of taste. I love when I meet a person and we spend hours talking about a book, the characters of said book, the themes, the references, how it connects to other media... It's genuinely something that wins me over.