posted September 08, 2021 02:00 AM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
Aries Sun & NN here!

Thank you for this post! I'll come back and add things as I go.

The one thing that I want to emphasize first is that the majority of Aries Women DO NOT seek to dominate their partners. We cannot stand passivity in a man. No! We want our equal - someone that we can admire & respect. Who puts in effort and can teach *US* something for a change!

If we can dominate you... we will never take you seriously or invest in you. You'll just be a source of convenience and you *will* get your feelings hurt. Sorry not sorry.

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Agreed, although I don't care if people are passive. I will encourage people to speak up, and often feel like a bouncer to some friends, because I stick up for people. I can still be very shy, unless I'm angry.

posted September 08, 2021 02:02 AM            

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Originally posted by SimplyLuna:
I'm not sure if this is an Aries thing, for the most part I don't feel I can be myself with many people. I feel highly restricted.

I think I am more Aries like as a child. I was conditioned to censor how I speak or do things, to be calm ( I was hyper) and thinking the way I do. Even up to today. And I can feel a strong resistant when someone tries to tell me what to do. It isn't that they're telling me what to do that create this inner tension. It's going in a direction I am not being myself or the right path for me. I feel more I depend on others how to behave/act/talk, the more I feel lost and not finding something that works for me. I've been doing that for far too long, now I am a sad Aries lol I lost all my confidence in myself as a person. But I have faith I'll find it again. It's a matter of time.

This leads me to isolate myself. I recouped to avoid being confused with my own direction/myself/my wants/etc with others - because I then try mold myself who they want me to be. I find myself drained. We would have to go our separate ways when it reached that point. I do value people to be themselves and encourage them to do what they like and aim for it. "Just do it" is my go to saying. I am contradicted because Aries sun/venus square with my Cancer rising and Libra moon by sign.

I can become pleasant one minute and "defiant" then feel guilty for hurting others. I am learning to distinguish if I am hurting someone or they are trying to put me in a spot they're comfortable having me.

I get along with other Aries placements so far. They tend to pick themselves back up after being sad/upset/hardship. Sex talk is common in our conversation. They're open about it - I like that we don't censor or deem it as inappropriate to talk about and it applies to other things. A sense of freedom. I think they understand passion while others may see it as anger. With Aries Venus, I like it when someone go after what they love without questions, because it feels genuine from their heart. this is my 2 cents.

Aries23, my Venus is at 23 degrees :P

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That is exactly an Aries thing. And with Moon in Libra, there is a paradox added in there too (for good measure).

Its exactly what I was speaking about on my above posts. That Aries truly just wants to be themesleves(unfiltered and unedited).

But if there is Lib/Cancer or Cap affecting the Asc,there are restrictions either internally (or perceived to be coming externally) that frustrate the native.

Your placements are similar to mine. I have Aries Asc/Moon in Can/Mars in Lib. You have Aries Sun/Moon in Lib with Can Asc.

I grew up in an environment where feelings were not spoken much, they had to be "sensed". So censoring how you speak was important (as someone could easily get hurt).

My IC is Cancer. Moon is in the 4th house. My Father is Cancer Sun and he was always very tense, moody and unpredictable.So we had to always get out of his way.

Much of the impulsive nature of Aries had to be restrained. There was internal counsel from Mercury in authoritative Cap in 10th square Asc. As well as receptive, "mind everyone's feelings" Moon in Cancer.So undiluted self expression was not OK.

Add to this tension, Mars is Libra opp Asc in Aries. The expression of momentary anger or frustration was to be done in a palatable, "acceptable" way. I couldn't just go "buck wild".Anger was (and still is) discouraged.

Its only when I am with family that I feel these restrictions weighing heavily on me. That's why I can't be with them for an extended period.I don't feel like myself.

In relationships, i feel that I still need to present a certain face. An amicable one. Not that I want to be "mean" per se. I just can't be me. The partner may get offended.

So that's why I get excited when I am in my own company OR the company of those who are supportive of my "unfiltered" self. I live for that.

How is the Pluto in Cap transit treating you? It is currently squaring my Asc from the MC and there have been deaths in the family(typical of Pluto).

But moreover, I am coming to terms with the sense of mortality in life as an overarching general thing.

My Uncles passed on, my cousins/Aunts are getting older, my Mom/Dad too.It's quite surreal to feel the sense of having to "grow up" because everyone around you is progressively looking like an "old" person.

posted September 08, 2021 02:05 AM            

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Originally posted by SimplyLuna:
Aries23, my Venus is at 23 degrees :P

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posted September 08, 2021 02:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

In essence, I think I have always seen myself as "the baby". Infact I don't think the soul part of me wants rhe responsibility of "adulting". Well atleast not on anybody else's terms but mine💁🏿‍♂️.

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I can relate to this. I was only the baby, until my sister was born, so I've mostly been the more responsible one, but she has always been more organized. In some ways, I felt like an adult long before I was one, but some things I just don't like/I'm not good at.

posted September 08, 2021 06:45 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Aries Jupiter, Mercury, and Sun here...

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posted September 08, 2021 06:47 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Somewhat. I can fit in, but not if it compromises anything that I believe in. I'd rather be on the outside. It also depends on other people, and how they feel about me. I've had issues, when I wasn't an issue, and it was due to someone wanting me out, for whatever reason. Like my sister with her husband, or someone online who tried a few times in the past.

I was bullied as a kid, and dropped out of school because of it. At the previous school, I had been miserable, until I was nice to one of the girls who was dropped from the popular group. Others were, too, and when she was accepted back into the group, she stood up for me, and so did her friends, when a frenemy started in on me.

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posted September 08, 2021 06:55 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I can relate to this. I was only the baby, until my sister was born, so I've mostly been the more responsible one, but she has always been more organized. In some ways, I felt like an adult long before I was one, but some things I just don't like/I'm not good at.

Geez, I'm chatty tonight.

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posted September 08, 2021 11:10 AM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
Aries Sun & NN here!

Thank you for this post! I'll come back and add things as I go.

The one thing that I want to emphasize first is that the majority of Aries Women DO NOT seek to dominate their partners. We cannot stand passivity in a man. No! We want our equal - someone that we can admire & respect. Who puts in effort and can teach *US* something for a change!

If we can dominate you... we will never take you seriously or invest in you. You'll just be a source of convenience and you *will* get your feelings hurt. Sorry not sorry.

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posted September 08, 2021 03:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Selfish? Yes. Childish? Yes.🤣🤣

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Indeed.

posted September 08, 2021 05:34 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Agreed, although I don't care if people are passive. I will encourage people to speak up, and often feel like a bouncer to some friends, because I stick up for people. I can still be very shy, unless I'm angry.

I do care if I hurt feelings. I'm not interested in hurting anyone.

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Let me elaborate.

I stick up for the underdog often. I stand strong for my values and the people I care about - like most Aries Women do. Definitely! However... I'm not interested in DATING a passive or weak individual whatsoever. Absolutely not.

And although Aries MEN are usually dominant, they prefer a spicy, fun woman that can keep up with them. Not a doormat! Aries is NOT into that sh*t.

posted September 08, 2021 05:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Gracha:

I cannot agree more as an Aries sun/mars woman, I abhor a passive man. He has to show me that he's an assertive leader, teach me something new and so forth. If I get the sense he's immature or seems like a boy stuck in a man's body, I will not take him serious nor have respect, he'll be just for a good time short term boy imo. The man I felt very connected to was an Aries sun/mars as well, he represented all of the qualities I wanted in a man but unfortunately he had personality and control issues. I enjoy knowing that I have all the tools to go after my goals and know how to network etc and I like this in a man.

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Girl I cannot stomach Man-boys!! I eat them for breakfast like the large plant in the 'Little Shop of Horrors' movie. Aries Women like a man that's just as badass as they are (if not more so). He's powerful yet loving!

posted September 09, 2021 03:05 AM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
Indeed.

This is found more often in the men LOL

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posted September 09, 2021 03:12 AM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
Girl I cannot stomach Man-boys!! I eat them for breakfast like the large plant in the 'Little Shop of Horrors' movie. Aries Women like a man that's just as badass as they are (if not more so). He's powerful yet loving!

Now some Scorpio Women may enjoy bossing man-boys around because they often have control issues. Maybe even Cancer Women (especially Sun) - as they often want to mother and/or smother their men.

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Leo,Gem,Can & Sag can be "man-children" at worst. These signs take THE most time ime to mature when present in a male's chart.

posted September 09, 2021 04:38 PM              

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Originally posted by Gracha:

I cannot agree more as an Aries sun/mars woman, I abhor a passive man. He has to show me that he's an assertive leader, teach me something new and so forth. If I get the sense he's immature or seems like a boy stuck in a man's body, I will not take him serious nor have respect, he'll be just for a good time short term boy imo. The man I felt very connected to was an Aries sun/mars as well, he represented all of the qualities I wanted in a man but unfortunately he had personality and control issues. I enjoy knowing that I have all the tools to go after my goals and know how to network etc and I like this in a man.

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Just because a man might be more passive and/or receptive in nature, doesn't mean he can't be a good leader. The Sign Capricorn is a Yin/Feminine Sign, and it is definitely correlated with leadership. There is an old astrological saying (must be quite old since I heard it from Isabel M. Hickey who was born at the beginning of the 1900's ) that, "Leo rules by divine right [often shows up in royalty etc] and Capricorn rules by delegated authority [i.e. merit]"

In fact, for a man to be a truly good leader, he needs to be in touch with his Yin/Feminine side pretty strongly, because that makes him more intuitive, empathic, adaptable, with an ability to work as a team/be cooperative.

Men that are hyper Yang/masculine, like the Aries Sun/Mars guy, commonly are overly controlling, very ego and self centered, are overly impatient and/or intolerant, etc. They in reality, though they like to and are good at "taking charge", don't actually make very good leaders. They lack balance and integration.

My brother is a pretty good, true leader type, and he has Libra Sun, very early Virgo Asc cusping Leo with early and close Virgo Venus-Mars conjunction conjunct his Asc, Scorpio Moon, and chart ruler just barely in Libra (cusping Virgo). Jupiter, Uranus, and Neptune are fairly strong/highlighted. You'll note that he has a good balance between Yang and Yin. (and many women find him as sexy as heck, even though he is a bit shorter than average).

posted September 09, 2021 06:53 PM            

We're not talking about extreme hyper-masculinity or abusive a**holes. We're simply saying that we prefer men who can easily initiate & lead that are confident in who they are. I don't want to be with a man that sits around waiting to "receive" or be energetically "penetrated" all the time.

Major turnoff. Especially to most Aries Women. *gags* lol

Most of the Capricorn Men I've known are rarely feminine in nature. I respect them. Men of ANY sign can be masculine! It's up to the individual to connect with & own his inherent primal instincts as a male or not. A man can (and should) have an integrated feminine side *without* becoming entirely feminine in nature overall. Balance is key!

posted September 09, 2021 07:01 PM            

When it comes to Leos I *always* reference The Lion King! They are either evil, jealous POS trash like Scar... or extraordinary, regal, loving kings like Mufasa. Leo Men who embody the latter are my TOTAL favorite to partner with.

posted September 10, 2021 01:57 AM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosionV2:
Just because a man might be more passive and/or receptive in nature, doesn't mean he can't be a good leader. The Sign Capricorn is a Yin/Feminine Sign, and it is definitely correlated with leadership. There is an old astrological saying (must be quite old since I heard it from Isabel M. Hickey who was born at the beginning of the 1900's ) that, "Leo rules by divine right [often shows up in royalty etc] and Capricorn rules by delegated authority [i.e. merit]"

In fact, for a man to be a truly good leader, he needs to be in touch with his Yin/Feminine side pretty strongly, because that makes him more intuitive, empathic, adaptable, with an ability to work as a team/be cooperative.

Men that are hyper Yang/masculine, like the Aries Sun/Mars guy, commonly are overly controlling, very ego and self centered, are overly impatient and/or intolerant, etc. They in reality, though they like to and are good at "taking charge", don't actually make very good leaders. They lack balance and integration.

My brother is a pretty good, true leader type, and he has Libra Sun, very early Virgo Asc cusping Leo with early and close Virgo Venus-Mars conjunction conjunct his Asc, Scorpio Moon, and chart ruler just barely in Libra (cusping Virgo). Jupiter, Uranus, and Neptune are fairly strong/highlighted. You'll note that he has a good balance between Yang and Yin. (and many women find him as sexy as heck, even though he is a bit shorter than average)

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posted September 10, 2021 01:58 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I’m really glad that I’m an Aries.

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posted September 10, 2021 02:09 AM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
@Galactic

We're not talking about extreme hyper-masculinity or abusive a**holes. We're simply saying that we prefer men who can easily initiate & lead that are confident in who they are. I don't want to be with a man that sits around waiting to "receive" or be energetically "penetrated" all the time.

Major turnoff. Especially to most Aries Women. *gags* lol

Most of the Capricorn Men I've known are rarely feminine in nature. I respect them. Men of ANY sign can be masculine! It's up to the individual to connect with & own his inherent primal instincts as a male or not. A man can (and should) have an integrated feminine side *without* becoming entirely feminine in nature overall. Balance is key!

I'm primarily feminine in nature so why would I want to be with a man who was the same?? I want my masculine counterpart.

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This sounded very "Libra" lol. In their highly evolved state, i see little difference between feminine &masculine energy btw. Both somehow "merge" and become indistinguishable.

This reminds me of "Po" on "Kung Fu panda" when he learns to "harness" the energy of the universe during the confrontation with the main antagonist Peacock named "Chen".

There is a small point where (whilst in the air and catching the cannon balls meant to kill him)the "yin" and "yang" symbols are merged into one.

posted September 10, 2021 02:21 AM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
@Galactic

We're not talking about extreme hyper-masculinity or abusive a**holes. We're simply saying that we prefer men who can easily initiate & lead that are confident in who they are. I don't want to be with a man that sits around waiting to "receive" or be energetically "penetrated" all the time.

Major turnoff. Especially to most Aries Women. *gags* lol

Most of the Capricorn Men I've known are rarely feminine in nature. I respect them. Men of ANY sign can be masculine! It's up to the individual to connect with & own his inherent primal instincts as a male or not. A man can (and should) have an integrated feminine side *without* becoming entirely feminine in nature overall. Balance is key!

I'm primarily feminine in nature so why would I want to be with a man who was the same?? I want my masculine counterpart.

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posted September 10, 2021 02:42 AM            

The Masculine & Feminine are not the same. They serve two very different (yet equally important) purposes. That's proven fact.

I've said several times now that it is indeed important for us all to integrate (embrace) BOTH energies within us. But one energy is *always* more dominant in each individual than the other. When you try to erase polarity and the Yin/Yang dynamic in the context of romantic relationships, you are bound to kill the attraction. You will likely begin to feel like "roommates" instead of lovers, just using each other for conveniency and lackluster sex until something better *finally* comes along. The man will even become more interested in video games & porn than his own woman. I see it all the time!

And I have no interest in that kind of relationship. I want contrast and depth. Passion & mystery. In a Tango Dance... there's always a leader and a follower and the masculine meeting with the feminine. Fire & Water "merging" together to create steam. And it's a mesmerizing thing to witness! You put 2 Followers together and get what?? A hot mess!! LOL

Equal Importance does not = Being THE SAME. That's hella boring to me. Keep sh*t spicy.

posted September 10, 2021 02:47 AM            

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Originally posted by Gracha:

Thank you again spot on. I don't know why that poster wrote all of those assumptions, it was quite ridiculous.

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You're very welcome.