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Topic: Sags aren't usually clingy so what's his deal?
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ChildofVenus
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posted December 15, 2021 09:50 PM
  
I was texting him for a while and then I stopped. He messaged me asking if everything was ok. I didn't respond then he said I guess you don't want to talk anymore. He said since I didn't want to talk anymore he was probably going to unfriend me on Fb. I told him I was busy but if he wanted to unfriend me fine. He said he doesn't want to but it seemed like I didn't want to talk anymore. After I told him I liked talking to him. I don't get what his issue is Sags usually aren't clingy.  IP: Logged |
SOSA21
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posted December 16, 2021 08:06 AM
Lot of Pluto going on here,
Scorpio Ascendant
Venus Square Pluto and a overall afflicted VenusIP: Logged |
SOSA21
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posted December 16, 2021 08:13 AM
Cuz prolly has a bad view about relationships.
Saturn and Pluto are in his 12th house
Saturn at the 19th degree (Libra degree)
Pluto at 25th degree (Aries degree) Square Venus exact which is also at 25 degreesAries and Pisces seem to rule his 5th house ( sex, casual love, dating ) So since the 5th house is the outlet for both these energies I can see how that can make someone clingy IP: Logged |
Amoranthaniela
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posted December 16, 2021 08:26 AM
I'm dating a Sagittarius stellium with some Capricorn in the mix, and I figured he'd be chill and distant but no, he's mega clingy and hyper romantic and mushy lolIP: Logged |
charlie
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posted December 16, 2021 09:51 AM
Moon in 4th?IP: Logged |
Librapurr
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posted December 16, 2021 10:24 AM
Transit Venus Pluto right on his natal Venus. Plus, his natal Pluto things and moon/IC. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 16, 2021 12:21 PM
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Originally posted by charlie:
Moon in 4th?
My 1st thought. But then again, I have Moon in 4th in Cancer (to top it off) and both friends and lovers have complained that I am too detached. My thinking is that it goes right back to the nature of most men i.e the less clingy you are, the more they like you (coz they wonder how you function independent of them and its a bit of a turn on to some). Add to that,your reasons for not talking to him were very flaky. I think that and person (psychopaths aside) would ask why the interruption in communication. Not just a Sag.Thats not being "clingy". Thats being human.🤷🏿♂️ IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted December 16, 2021 01:04 PM
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
My 1st thought. But then again, I have Moon in 4th in Cancer (to top it off) and both friends and lovers have complained that I am too detached.My thinking is that it goes right back to the nature of most men i.e the less clingy you are, the more they like you (coz they wonder how you function independent of them and its a bit of a turn on to some). Add to that,your reasons for not talking to him were very flaky. I think that and person (psychopaths aside) would ask why the interruption in communication. Not just a Sag.Thats not being "clingy". Thats being human.🤷🏿♂️
Every guy is different and I wasn’t being “flaky” it had only been one day that I didn’t respond. Do I have to talk every single day? He’s someone who I met online and I just started talking to him. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted December 16, 2021 01:14 PM
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Originally posted by Amoranthaniela:
I'm dating a Sagittarius stellium with some Capricorn in the mix, and I figured he'd be chill and distant but no, he's mega clingy and hyper romantic and mushy lol
Yeah this guy talks a about love all the time. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted December 16, 2021 04:00 PM
I think that any man who is really interested in a woman, would be in touch regularly, and take it personally if you suddenly stopped responding. They might not all say something about it. IP: Logged |
GalacticCoreExplosionV2
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posted December 16, 2021 07:29 PM
Scorpio Asc closely cusping Libra and N. Venus being closely conjoined by T. Pluto. Pluto is one of the symbols, along with Saturn, that can correspond to fear strongly. With Saturn it is usually conscious, everyday fears like insecurities etc we are aware of, and with Pluto the fears are deep, buried, and often more unconscious than not. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted December 16, 2021 10:52 PM
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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
Every guy is different and I wasn’t being “flaky” it had only been one day that I didn’t respond. Do I have to talk every single day? He’s someone who I met online and I just started talking to him.
You didn't provide this backstory. Read your post again. All you said is "I was texting him for a while.Then stopped.He messaged me to ask if all is well. I didnt respond. He said he'd unfriend me on FB. I told him I was busy. Why is he so clingy?
Very vague. Any person who gets me all excited and used to their conversations then ghosts me, I would definitely be mad at.
There is nothing "amiss" with me.There is something wrong with the other person. This habit sounds eerily like a Moon/Ven in Aqua or Moon or Ven/Ura aspect (come to think of it).Not good. And once I get those vibes off of a person, I immediately cut them off 👎🏿 IP: Logged |
saronna
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posted December 17, 2021 01:01 AM
If they are your friend just because you stop talking to them they won't unfriend you. It's good you communicate with your friend to give you space & time to take your time to write. Can be moon 4th house clingyIP: Logged |
vansio
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posted December 17, 2021 01:42 AM
He's jumping to conclusions: to end your relationship. You're inconsistent; he's confused. You ignored him; he assumes you don't want more with him, since you don't like him enough to respond to his question. We're on our phones all day, even when sitting on the toilet - you ghosted him, intentionally. You sent him a clear signal of disinterest (neglect). It's not clingy, you're careless - there's a difference. 'is everything ok?' - 'yeah' - an answer is literally, four little letters. I bet your phone's lock code is longer than that. I don’t blame you for not liking him enough to care, but pretending you do when you don’t, for the sake of attention only when it’s convenient for you, isn’t humane. Its manipulative. IP: Logged |
saronna
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posted December 17, 2021 03:47 AM
I don't think your friend is clingy. Sometimes you need space & distance between friends sun staggittarius. Your friend probably likes to talk to you everyday & to talk to you alot & you don't like to talk everyday. I like to talk everyday to my friends but I don't have moon in 4th house I would look at thier sun sign & Venus & mars but your friends moon has to have securityIP: Logged |
saronna
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posted December 17, 2021 04:00 AM
Venus Capricorn & mars virgo there's alot of consistency. Your friend needs consistency & to talk everyday & talk alot mars virgo & communication have to be open communicationIP: Logged |
saronna
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posted December 17, 2021 04:29 AM
Gemini dont have consistency like Capricorn Virgo & Taurus It's something I had to work on consistency since 2007 on a project. I don't ghost my friends Venus in Taurus & mars in Aquarius I love groups like this & having friends & moon in Sagittarius I love studying & travel feeling free with my mind & things I love to do having coffeeIP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted December 17, 2021 08:15 AM
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
You didn't provide this backstory. Read your post again. All you said is "I was texting him for a while.Then stopped.He messaged me to ask if all is well. I didnt respond. He said he'd unfriend me on FB. I told him I was busy. Why is he so clingy?
Very vague. Any person who gets me all excited and used to their conversations then ghosts me, I would definitely be mad at.
There is nothing "amiss" with me.There is something wrong with the other person. This habit sounds eerily like a Moon/Ven in Aqua or Moon or Ven/Ura aspect (come to think of it).Not good. And once I get those vibes off of a person, I immediately cut them off 👎🏿
We are both Aquarius Moon but I do have Venus square Uranus in my chart. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted December 17, 2021 08:17 AM
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Originally posted by saronna:
Gemini dont have consistency like Capricorn Virgo & Taurus It's something I had to work on consistency since 2007 on a project. I don't ghost my friends Venus in Taurus & mars in Aquarius I love groups like this & having friends & moon in Sagittarius I love studying & travel feeling free with my mind & things I love to do having coffee
I’m a Taurus Sun with Gemini Mars I do get bored sometimes. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted December 17, 2021 08:57 AM
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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
We are both Aquarius Moon but I do have Venus square Uranus in my chart.
Had an ex with Sco Ven conj Uranus Sco. He suddenly ghosted me. It was very infuriating because i didn't know what i did to get that response. I do get the fact that Ura on Moon/Ven can result in someone discarding the ususl rules of relationship engagement (platonic or otherwise). And I wouldn't want to "cage" anyone in. But i think i would have appreciated a little "heads up" before that time i.e "Look. At times I just disappear off the radar. It's not anything malicious. It's just me." That would have saved me nights worrying about him.Then having that worry turning into anger etc. So maybe just text back with a "hey. I will be busy for a while. Cant talk much at all. See ya when i can" etc. It'll save him the "clingy" behaviour and you the questions of why someone is acting "clingy".🙏🏿 IP: Logged |
HeavenlyLove
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posted December 17, 2021 09:23 AM
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Had an ex with Sco Ven conj Uranus Sco. He suddenly ghosted me. It was very infuriating because i didn't know what i did to get that response. I do get the fact that Ura on Moon/Ven can result in someone discarding the ususl rules of relationship engagement (platonic or otherwise). And I wouldn't want to "cage" anyone in. But i think i would have appreciated a little "heads up" before that time i.e "Look. At times I just disappear off the radar. It's not anything malicious. It's just me." That would have saved me nights worrying about him.Then having that worry turning into anger etc. So maybe just text back with a "hey. I will be busy for a while. Cant talk much at all. See ya when i can" etc. It'll save him the "clingy" behaviour and you the questions of why someone is acting "clingy".🙏🏿
Didn't read this thread yet, but agree with your last post in general, people should behave like they would if they would be standing/sitting in front of the other person, online we are still interacting with human beings.
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Aries23Degrees
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posted December 17, 2021 12:10 PM
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Originally posted by HeavenlyLove:
Didn't read this thread yet, but agree with your last post in general, people should behave like they would if they would be standing/sitting in front of the other person, online we are still interacting with human beings.
Absolutely 🙏🏿🙏🏿. We all have feelings. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted December 17, 2021 12:20 PM
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Originally posted by HeavenlyLove:
Didn't read this thread yet, but agree with your last post in general, people should behave like they would if they would be standing/sitting in front of the other person, online we are still interacting with human beings.
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ChildofVenus
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posted December 18, 2021 08:56 AM
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Originally posted by saronna:
Venus Capricorn & mars virgo there's alot of consistency. Your friend needs consistency & to talk everyday & talk alot mars virgo & communication have to be open communication
I have Mars in Gemini which is ruled by Mercury. I like communication but I guess it’s different. Since Gemini is more scattered. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted December 18, 2021 09:01 AM
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Had an ex with Sco Ven conj Uranus Sco. He suddenly ghosted me. It was very infuriating because i didn't know what i did to get that response. I do get the fact that Ura on Moon/Ven can result in someone discarding the ususl rules of relationship engagement (platonic or otherwise). And I wouldn't want to "cage" anyone in. But i think i would have appreciated a little "heads up" before that time i.e "Look. At times I just disappear off the radar. It's not anything malicious. It's just me." That would have saved me nights worrying about him.Then having that worry turning into anger etc. So maybe just text back with a "hey. I will be busy for a while. Cant talk much at all. See ya when i can" etc. It'll save him the "clingy" behaviour and you the questions of why someone is acting "clingy".🙏🏿
That guy was your boyfriend that’s different. This is someone I just started talking to. But yes we like to disappear I don’t need to talk everyday.
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