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posted April 22, 2022 11:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
With a nudge of encouragement. I wanted a place were people can share and get support for these transits.

Chiron in Aries will be squaring something almost the entire time in my natal chart here.

I have been wondering how people having been handling these transits.

I am part of the generation. That has Uranus, Neptune, Saturn in Capricorn. I wonder how others with this have been coping? Oh my and people who have Cap in personal planets on top of that.

Cardinal people in general are also welcome to participate.

Chiron in Pisces was a much simpler time for healing for me, because I have so much water and earth in my chart. The only thing that Chiron squared was my Gemini rising.

I felt like I could heal from some stuff while still being an idiot who barely got a scratch on me.(Plus I was in my 20's during that time) Now I feel like that I am trying to do everything the right way just for everything to go wrong it seems so unfair.

So if you have Leo, Gemini, Aqua, Sag, in your chart it's okay for you to gloat about your healing being breezy. You have done your time in the past I'm sure.

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posted April 23, 2022 10:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Librapurr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Chiron is transiting through my 6th. Work related dramas have been a center of my life for several years. It trines Uranus what shouldn’t be that bad, but probably transits Pluto and Saturn create a room for drama.
I dread the days when it will come closer to my personal planets.

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posted April 23, 2022 11:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So sorry Librapurr. I had a period of hostile work environments from 2016-20. But not because of Chiron. I do not like the 6th house transits. My 6th house is Scorpio.

Bad Chiron transits feel like an absolute mind fuq.

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posted April 23, 2022 11:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Librapurr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Stawr, I wonder if Scorpio at a house makes related areas Plutonic. Probably with a personal planet in it, it could be tough. I’m glad you’re better now.
Do you feel transit Chiron affects house related issues?

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posted April 23, 2022 01:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have on my sun natally, and I think the transiting one is square Saturn, trine Neptune.

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posted April 23, 2022 03:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YellowGerbera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I recently had Venus-Chiron double whammy transit and around that time my hopes and dreams were shattered 😞But! I’m slowly picking myself back up and moving on. Onto my next plan!

With Chiron it’s so hard to deal with… No pain on gain is what I think Chiron does but when I’m struggling it’s hard to feel optimistic that this current pain will lead to some blessing one day. 😞

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posted April 23, 2022 03:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
tChiron is currently square my Cancer Mercury and Capricorn Moon. I guess I'm going through a period where I feel misunderstood, out of place and I also seem to deal with some past family trauma I experienced while growing up. I'm trying to make sense if it all but there's just too much..friction..

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posted April 23, 2022 03:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Librapurr:

Do you feel transit Chiron affects house related issues?

It's weird having Chiron transit my 11th house from my late 20's-30's!

Because I see it as like friend groups and social circles. At at my age it's kind of like "oh my God who the hell cares" about being popular or whatever. Especially when around that age career and family becomes such a focus.

Pisces is were my 11th house begins 16 degrees I think. I do generally like 11th house transits. I haven't put much thought into Chiron being in my 11th house for quite sometime.

I really feel like I do not have time energy for friend drama when I am so grown.

I also highly value having different friendship circles.

I started going to really awesome parties in my early to mid 20's.

I feel like the universe is trying to teach me something right now though.

I have experienced friend drifting apart from me, it was sad but it made me stronger. Teens early 20 was being super bummed if plans got canceled. late 20's to 30's is more "oh thank God."

So when I am in the other persons shoes...of being less interested in a friend. I don't respond or pick up my phone etc, always have an excuse. I am like why do these people need closure so bad. If I were them I would just sulk and move on.

I am feeling cornered by an old friend group. I am not sure how to handle it, right now I just keep blowing them off. I have been less social for years too, but kind of getting my groove back a little.

I kind of feel like I'd rather be alone than hang out with people who are annoying and draining and wait for the right people to come along, or get back in touch with someone.

Planets are piled up in my 11th house right now.

One of my friends got a DUI at my bachelorette party. She does not know that I know and she has been keeping her distance. When she is ready I will be ready I do not take it personally as she adapts to being a non-drinker and pot smoker.

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posted April 23, 2022 04:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonMystic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mine is now in a square with transit BML I realize this is rebellion in my Chiron energy. I haven't read about this one. Trine Karma (a lot happening there).
As well sextile Pluto. The easier ones are tr Chiron semisextile N. Sun, wide cnj n. Neptune and Jupiter.

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posted April 23, 2022 04:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When Chiron goes rx and squares a planet for some reason it feels worse than the first time. (could be other hard transits intensifying it though)

I've had Chiron square my Jupiter since 2018 I think. I had to panic move in 2021 while planning a wedding. So when I moved somewhere else. I felt optimistic though, but when I started having issues with the new places I was renting my mental health completely spiraled. But it made me say no more renting. I had to really light a fire under my husband's arse.

Hmm now that I think of it, I became less submissive to my now husband. I kind of let him take the lead and call the shots more at first and put up with that king of the castle mentality he had. Probably because I moved in with him. But then it's like okay I pay the other half of the rent. I realized how incisive he was, and that I'm in charge now.

My family (parents sister) have been my rock as I go through this.

I've had to adjust to joining my husband's family, and establish more boundaries with them.

With counting 5 degrees, I am done with this transit. Even when it goes retrograde!

It goes retrograde on....

"• Retrograde on July 19 , 2022 at Aries 16 degrees for 157 days

• Direct on 23 December , 2022 at Aries 11 degrees" http://www.findyourfate.com/astrology/chiron/year2022/2022-chiron-retrograde.html

My Jupiter is 4 degrees in Cancer.
Any other Jupiter Cancers want to chime in, or should I stalk people on FB I know who were born in 89-90?

I'll still be going through it in some kind of way though. I am experiencing Uranus opposing my Moon on and off. Maybe that's why it felt that much worse the second time dealing with both those transits at the same time.

Jupiter is my second house. So not the most ideal timing for having a bridal shower. Kind of like what's the point? And I have barely got to enjoy the things I was gifted for my shower. Since I have to bag everything up for pest sprays.

I also let husband know he needs to stick up for me more when it comes to his family. Especially his oldest sister. Her behavior really escalated when I let her know I am not a glorified sitter for her dogs. I have a life. AND Getting engaged. The night before the wedding was when I realized this person will not make me self conscience. And if she is not going to like me, how about an actual reason?

My husband sticks up for me now, and he sees what I am talking about.

There are some people I know who are real jerks and I can't help but think of their whoop arse with all their Aries and Cappy in their chart.

Sister in law has Jupiter Cancer too, and Cap generational stelly with Cap Venus. So maybe she will get over her self with this. She also had her first child. Coincidence that she got preggers a month after her brother proposed to me?

Because you know what they say "hurt people hurt people"

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posted April 23, 2022 04:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MoonMystic:
Mine is now in a square with transit BML I realize this is rebellion in my Chiron energy. I haven't read about this one. Trine Karma (a lot happening there).
As well sextile Pluto. The easier ones are tr Chiron semisextile N. Sun, wide cnj n. Neptune and Jupiter.

Very interesting! I've been lurking at your posts here and there. I see it.

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posted April 23, 2022 04:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I will mind my own business that an ex who also has Venus, Uranus, Saturn, Neptune in Capricorn is getting his karma? and Jupiter Cancer.

I was with him when Uranus was squaring his Venus.

Said he did not believe in labels when we were together. But still broke up with me. And then got with another girl and made it FB official a month after. Crappy yes. But I feel the good karma for choosing to take the high road.

I will look at his FB once in a blue moon. And go oooo still just your girlfriend. I wonder how the girlfriends feels about being with someone for 7 years, and not being engaged. To each their own, and back to minding my own damn business again.

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posted April 23, 2022 05:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonMystic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stawr:
Very interesting! I've been lurking at your posts here and there. I see it.


@stawr,
lol I get it. I know I'm a Greek tragedy this year especially. I think my past, future and present are definitely a big twisted mess. My husband and I were up all night discussing the (my) issues. He doesn't want to let go. Energetically I have karma stuff that isn't letting go of me either.
I'm trying to get a handle on it all.


Yours "Said he did not believe in labels when we were together. But still broke up with me. And then got with another girl and made it FB official a month after. Crappy yes. But I feel the good karma for choosing to take the high road”


There are some def men out there like that. I see your aggravation. You might have shown him the way but he might had been a coward when with you. Men are so funny.

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posted April 23, 2022 07:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sashavittoria     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for making this, Stawr

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Originally posted by charlie:
tChiron is currently square my Cancer Mercury and Capricorn Moon. I guess I'm going through a period where I feel misunderstood, out of place and I also seem to deal with some past family trauma I experienced while growing up. I'm trying to make sense if it all but there's just too much..friction..

That sucks, Charlie. Deal with as much of the past trauma as you can, so you can heal as much as possible or else it will follow you and make things worse... I repressed everything for thirty years and now it has been wrecking my professional life just when I had the best chance at my dreams...

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It's weird having Chiron transit my 11th house from my late 20's-30's!

Because I see it as like friend groups and social circles. At at my age it's kind of like "oh my God who the hell cares" about being popular or whatever. Especially when around that age career and family becomes such a focus.

...

I feel like the universe is trying to teach me something right now though.

I have experienced friend drifting apart from me, it was sad but it made me stronger. Teens early 20 was being super bummed if plans got canceled. late 20's to 30's is more "oh thank God."

...

I kind of feel like I'd rather be alone than hang out with people who are annoying and draining and wait for the right people to come along, or get back in touch with someone.


I totally feel this way. This is why I don't like my chart in Placidus, because it puts my moon/Venus conjunction in the 11th and I don't feel that at all. I am like that video montage of every reality show contestant ever sassily saying, "I'm not here to make friends!" I am so happy to be almost thirty and not have to deal with all that anymore. I was never a young, party sort of person. Unfortunately my sun is in the 11th no matter what so I guess I do sort of care what others think. But I'm also humanitarian and attached to my dreams.

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So when I am in the other persons shoes...of being less interested in a friend. I don't respond or pick up my phone etc, always have an excuse. I am like why do these people need closure so bad. If I were them I would just sulk and move on.


Ha, did I catch that your moon is in Scorpio? Is this a Scorp moon thing? (Asking for a friend... lololol)

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@stawr,
lol I get it. I know I'm a Greek tragedy this year especially. I think my past, future and present are definitely a big twisted mess.

You and me both, MM! If they are our TFs then we can blame them, yeah? lol

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posted April 23, 2022 07:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sashavittoria     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Chiron is about to hit all my personal planets. He just shifted back into my 10th house and he's about to pass over my Mercury/Juno (in about a month), then retrograde almost back into my 9th before turning, then over Mercury/Juno again (March 2023), then square my Uranus/Neptune and sextile natal Saturn (May 2023), retrograde back over them and Mercury/Juno, and after two more retrogrades then "finally" conjunct my Moon/Venus (May 2026; square my Lilith and natal Chiron, but trine my NN and Jupiter), and retro 3x more before moving on to my 11th conjunct my Sun and square my natal Saturn... yay. I'm about to change schools and I'm so nervous about whether I'm making the right choice for my career. I paid the deposit right when he was finishing my 9th house.

He's also squaring my AC/DC right now. I had no idea he was so erratic until I looked just now.

Chiron will conjunct NN Aries (on my Mercury/Juno) in February 2024. Conjunct Saturn in June 2028 (Taurus) and they'll retrograde together like two happy little schoolchildren skipping to class hand in hand!

Chiron was in my 9th from March 2013 until February 2022. It started with a wonderful but very tough travel experience during which I grew but also had a traumatic experience. I had a lot of spiritual growth from 2012-2014, but it was also my waxing Saturn square and probably the darkest period of my life. I did graduate college in 2014, although I wish I had changed schools instead of sticking it out. 2013-2017 were full of travel and experiences abroad, with lots of philosophical and spiritual growth. Things seemed to calm down after that and I don't recall as much Piscean/9th house themes, except that I'm always reading and seeking knowledge and spiritual growth anyway. I did finish a novel and for a solid year was trying to publish short works, but didn't have any writing published - however, I was luckier with illustration. At some point Chiron would have crossed over my 9th house Mars, sextile Neptune/Uranus and trine Pluto in my 5th, and would have trined my natal Chiron in Leo in its early stages of Aries. Only harmonious aspects while in my 9th.

When Chiron first shifted into my 10th house, my whole life fell apart - my birthday, early May, 2021. But it was mainly my Saturn Return.

Then when he retrograded, I got accepted into a new school I thought would be great, but it turned out to be a horrible experience these past months. I had to deal with a lot of deep old wounds. That retrograde went back into my 9th and then forward again into my 10th, and once he returned to my 10th was when I decided to change schools.

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posted April 23, 2022 07:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sashavittoria     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think I am in for a really difficult period until Chiron passes my 11' Taurus sun. Especially while I still have Saturn Return, but after this year's retrograde it should get better... right?

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posted April 23, 2022 08:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just looked it up on that one website, Chiron will be done going directly over my planets when I'm 36 years old! I'm sure I will look great afterwards! I'm sure I will still look like I am 25! har-har!

It will be done completely screwing with my cardinals when I am 38!

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posted April 23, 2022 08:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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@stawr,
lol I get it. I know I'm a Greek tragedy this year especially. I think my past, future and present are definitely a big twisted mess. My husband and I were up all night discussing the (my) issues. He doesn't want to let go. Energetically I have karma stuff that isn't letting go of me either.
I'm trying to get a handle on it all.


Yours "Said he did not believe in labels when we were together. But still broke up with me. And then got with another girl and made it FB official a month after. Crappy yes. But I feel the good karma for choosing to take the high road”


There are some def men out there like that. I see your aggravation. You might have shown him the way but he might had been a coward when with you. Men are so funny.


Yes they say the biggest apology is changed behavior.

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posted April 23, 2022 09:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
sashavittoria:

Oh my gosh these transits feel so dragged out! I really had to remind my self that it shorter than a Pluto transit. It feels so long because I have never paid so much attention to it. I like Saturn transits better. LOL I was not even phased by Saturn squaring my Moon Pluto and Lilith.

I have 11th house Sun. I totally see myself as a social lone wolf sometimes. At work I have that "I'm not here to make friends, but if it happens, awesome. Totally don't expect it though."
I'm going to be a bridesmaid for one of my co-workers. I have a really good friend at my current job too. I've gone out to eat with a girl at a previous job too.

My 11th house sun is trinned by Mars and squared by Saturn. So my popularity and fitting in has always fluctuated. Not very phased anymore but traumatic when you are school aged.

Also I will be traveling with husband the second half of the year so I will have a whole new chapter of a social life. I have no idea what it will look like. They right people will keep in touch with me. One of my friends is planning to visit me where I am! And I know they mean it.

Yes I have Scorpio Moon! I grew up with 3 girls my age in on my dead end street. At least two of the other girls hit puberty before me, and I just wasn't all that cool anymore to them or something. That shi+ hurt. But I am not the forceful confrontational type. But knowing them since I was 3 and the fact that they were willing to throw that out in the garbage. Felt like a betrayal. I forgave one. We aren't as close as we use to be and I respect that. She wasn't there for me for a certain time in my life when I could of used her. So I don't want that level of closeness anymore. Plus we are adults. But the other one was super shallow, and mean and then acted like she was too cool for me. Even though we are grown adults now and were just kids, I just know how ugly she was for whatever reason...And I respect my self too damn much to ever consider her a friend again. But I'm pretty sure she is a better person now but still.

I've had Scorpio moon girl friends for a brief period of time. But we did not stay in touch when we moved on from school. I don't take it personally. I enjoy our time and memories though.

I had a best friend for a few years with Scorpio Moon. But it did not end well. We had the same taste in guys at the time, and that ended up being a huge problem! Competing for men with each other. I won one time. She did not take it well, and said I was going behind her back, even though she ditched me there with the guy. She text me for her dress back, I was done with her disrespect I did not even fold the dress and gave it back crumpled up. She then told me off and told me not to come to her graduation party. I just looked at her like whatever, and walked away. This did not happen out of nowhere. Her expectations in the friend ship were ridiculous. Double standards. I see her picture on FB people you may know sometimes and totally cringe.

But then I realize that I have been sh!tty and decided not to be friends for dumb shallow reasons as a kid.

As an adult losing interest in being friends with people who are just drama or whatever, has helped me forgive people in childhood. If people are no longer comfortable with a friendship for whatever reason, I truly believe that needs to be respected.

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posted April 23, 2022 09:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When Chiron was in my 10th house I was pretty directionless with career. Highschool age to mid 20's. But in 2010 I started in the early childhood field and really liked it.

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posted April 24, 2022 11:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Librapurr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I am feeling cornered by an old friend group. I am not sure how to handle it, right now I just keep blowing them off. I have been less social for years too, but kind of getting my groove back a little.

I kind of feel like I'd rather be alone than hang out with people who are annoying and draining and wait for the right people to come along, or get back in touch with someone.

Planets are piled up in my 11th house right now.



I wish I could lose interest to people who are draining and with dramas.
I could relate to your story with old friends where I cannot support too close relationship because of some past **** . However, It’s also hard to cut people off, dang Libra.


Also, transits going through my 11th house placements. Groups have been a challenging topic. I read many planets in the house could make it more challenging. Like people with many planets in 7th might choose to stay alone because they’re losing themselves in relationships.
Maybe, in our situations 11th house placements are emphasizing the challenging area.
However, I feel like the majority of areas are challenging for me.

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posted April 25, 2022 08:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@librapurr

I have zero in planets in Libra (unless my earth sign counts)
I have a lot of Libra's in my life to fill the void (boss, my 2 assistants, dad, sister, late grandma, second cousins, precious nephew)

My chart is even steven with blessings and challenges related to the 11th house.

When it comes to empty houses I realize no news is good news! I have an empty 7th and 4th house. Having planets square my moon and cancer Jupiter makes me think what if I had a planet squaring a planet in my 4th house right now and consider my self lucky.

Ahh yeah it's mainly one friend in the group that has me running. Maybe I would have less problems if I was more blunt. Maybe if I had Virgo in my chart I would say. "ever think about writing in a dairy or getting more friends?" LOL

It takes me long time to tell someone they are bugging me or that their shhh stinks.

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posted April 25, 2022 09:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Chiron is squaring planets in my 8th house! I've really had to address the elephant in the room when it comes to my husband and I's intimacy.

Disclaimer: if you do not like reading about sex related topics stop reading now!

I first addressed issues with him with sex related topics and how I wasn't satisfied with the attention I was getting when Saturn was in my 8th house. (summer 2017 or 18 maybe)
He was home more than I was around that time. So he would beat off to porn while I was working having nothing left for me.
I started to feel down when my friends would talk about their sex life.
I did some research online and said it could be because of porn.
So I one day just asked him if he likes porn better...
I wanted to know why!
I then told him whatever the reason is he is not telling me.
And then he said he was molested at a home day care by a boy that was about middle school aged and how it is one of his earliest memories.
I was the only person he has ever told. We were both crying.
BUT I decided that only he could decide when he was ready for therapy or if he wished to ever talked about it with anyone else.

I would try to lightly bring up topics of how we could spice up our sex life and he would pretty much tell me to shut up.

Also he did a lot to make me not feel desired. So one day while I was overworked, unpaid, underappreciated and under-beeped. My funny feelings for my college professor started to develop. I would fantasize about him soon. For like 2 years.

But then it developed into celebrities. And then last year it developed into the custodian at my job. About a year ago we really started locking eyes with each other. Over the summer while I tried to fight it, I fantasied about him. I told my self never again, to not make thing weird at work.

I've been awkward AF around this guy since I have a conscience. But I still tried to play it cool. But then he would talk to me in this low voice sometimes. And then I was put in a situation where I was staying at my parents for 4 months. I couldn't distract myself with podcast guy. All I had at night was my memories of interactions with this guy, and little privacy. Then he crept up in my dreams a few times, and they were intimate and emotionally supportive.

So when I confronted husband again about how uncomfortable he was with intimacy, and how it was impacting me, with out really clapping it out for him too harshly.

I eventually had to be so blunt with my husband with everything. I even had to tell him I was not that excited for our honeymoon. I've had to tell him how bored I was. I've had to tell him that starvation has led me to fantasying about other men I know in real life. I've had to tell him how much more adventurous my sex life was before him. Thank God I have more experience than him, because husband tried to make me feel like I was crazy.
I've been pushed to the point where I've had to say I feel nothing for him at all.

I never wanted to talk to my husband this way , but it really lit a fire under his arse.

How conservative he has been with sex with his wife is not normal to me at all and not what I want in a marriage. I never wanted to do this but I told him that he needs to talk to a therapist about being molested when he was 4. I was sexually abused as a child too, and if he really has issues, he should of thought about that before wasting my time and ripped me off.

He did it! He has had about 3 or 4 sessions now.

He has been getting out of his comfort zone too.

Also the way we started things too...with how low his drive was, I thought I should just be happy he wants sex. I don't want to say or do anything that will discourage him....until I few years ago I snapped about how bad in bed he was. I started to speak up more.

There is no going back! And our sex life has gotten better. Much better. I take charge more, we fight for dominance and it's hot. We get verbally aggressive/sassy with each other in bed sometimes. It works. Before he hit the road for work he was undermining me on top and I grabbed the sash off the robe I was wearing and I tied up his hands to keep him under control. He gets a big smile on his face whenever I put his hands back down in general.

We have made progress while still having ways to go.

Uranus Capricorn 9 degrees and Neptune 14 degrees.

Maybe this is where Chiron in the 11th house kicks in a coworker friend who has been married 11 years told me that she got bored with her sex life. And her husband thought she was crazy too, and how good in bed her husband is now.

She also recommended we watch porn together. We haven't done that yet, but we plan on it.

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