posted June 04, 2022 11:07 AM            

He probably did perceive me as somewhat dominant or Martian even if I’m a Libra Rising because my Pluto is opposite his Venus and my Mars is conjunct his Moon. I also have a bit of an athletic build, I’m 5”8 and have defined muscles. We met at a martial arts class and I usually trained with the men because of my strength and height. When we were still in a relationship, I did initiate a lot of the physical intimacy but I was definitely not the one that did the chasing at the beginning of the relationship. He was actually moving a bit to fast for me and every now and then I would have hit the brakes to slow things down again.

posted June 05, 2022 04:08 PM              

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...EDIT: he’s also a Leo Rising so that might have explained his chasing after me as well.

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Hmm, Leo Rising male here. Only have ever chased one woman ever. Normally am fairly passive in most connections.

posted June 05, 2022 04:41 PM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosionV2:
Hmm, Leo Rising male here. Only have ever chased one woman ever. Normally am fairly passive in most connections.

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posted June 05, 2022 05:01 PM              

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As a fire sign with yang energy, I would expect them to be more active and less reactive. But Leo is proud as well so maybe they are just really selective when it comes to chasing?

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Like most things in astrology, it's a whole chart thing.

A lot of Yin energy in this particular chart to counter balance the moderately strong Yang Leo Asc (and to lesser so extent, Libra Moon).

This woman brought out my Yang energy more intensely though, and this was seen in various different ways. For example, her 16* Leo Mars was right on my 16* Leo Asc. Meanwhile, my 15* Virgo Mars was conjunct her 10* Virgo Asc and opposed her Saturn Venus conjunction in Pisces (in my 8th).

For some examples. I particularly resonated and amplified her Mars in her. This was only shown to me in anger, impatience, intolerance, and a general "gruffness" in communication. But I suspect I also had a strong sexual affect on her. Too strong for her liking.

Besides her Mars being so closely conjunct my Asc, it was also opposed my Venus. And considering that Mars rules her Sun, 8th, and co-rules her Moon and NN...and my Venus rules my Moon, MC, and Pluto--well I also had a strongly Venusian and magnetic Yin pull on her, besides exciting and amplifying her Mars. Also too strong for her liking.

At the time we met, she didn't want any man to have any significant power over her. She wanted to be invulnerable to a man's power and potential to hurt, upset, etc her. And so she went with less intense connections where she had more power and control in the situation.

posted June 07, 2022 01:33 AM              

Jupiter rules my 5th and co-rules my 8th. My Jupiter at nearly 10* Virgo was on her 10* Virgo Asc. So even more than amplifying and resonating my Mars at 15* Virgo, she amplified and resonated my Jupiter very powerfully.

posted June 07, 2022 04:23 AM            

These two are actually in their mutual signs of exaltation. As the Sun is exalted in Aries. And Pisces is exalted when on Venus. So they help each other out.

Ven in Aries really prefers to initiate and be the one who sees where the relationship is headed.

But they tend to run out of steam quite quickly.The enthusiasm wears off if things are not going their way. And they can be easily discouraged/distracted by a shiny new venture if the mating rituals with the current one take too long.

There is frustration inherent with Ven in Ari(as it is with Ven in Sco) because both are ruled by Mars.And Mars expects things to progress FAST.

But love takes time. It really does. And that's the lesson they have a hard time learning. So the song by Diana Ross & the Supremes (Diana btw has Sun in Ari/Ven in Pis) "you can't hurry love. No you just have to wait. Love don't come easy. Its a game of give and take." Should probably be a mantra that all Aries Venus (Moon & Suns) should remember when it comes to relationships.

So unless there is a mutual reception coming from Mars(Aries place of domicile) or Sun(Aries place of exaltation), the native may find love relationships a big challenge that frustrates them to no end.

In this case the Sun(Aries place of exaltation) is in Pis. So this will contribute to them being more easy-going and "what will be will be" even if there is a Venus in Ari conjunct to Mars in Aries.

In the latter isolated case, Aries Ven conj Mars may come across too aggressive (even selfish). Fights with the partner would be plenty and jumping from one relationship to another (whilst blaming the partner for the breakdown) would occur.

The above native is often very infantile in their thinking.Their passions burn hot and bright. But without a more stabilizing influence like Cancer /Tau or Leo Moon, those passions fizzle out and are gone.

With the Sun in Pis, there is increased sensitivity. Less of a "push no matter what " mentality. And wanting to "attract" things to them.

But with Venus in Aries, there is the antithetical energy to "go after " that which you want and attain it through assertive efforts. So what's a native to do?🤷🏿‍♂️

What i would imagine is a back/forth energy here that on one end is very open, tender & loving. Very passive. But then on the other end, it is defensiveness, combative & aggressive.

posted July 07, 2022 09:10 AM            

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Venus is in detriment in Aries. And the Sun is not too strong when in Pisces.

These two are actually in their mutual signs of exaltation. As the Sun is exalted in Aries. And Pisces is exalted when on Venus. So they help each other out.

Ven in Aries really prefers to initiate and be the one who sees where the relationship is headed.

But they tend to run out of steam quite quickly.The enthusiasm wears off if things are not going their way. And they can be easily discouraged/distracted by a shiny new venture if the mating rituals with the current one take too long.

There is frustration inherent with Ven in Ari(as it is with Ven in Sco) because both are ruled by Mars.And Mars expects things to progress FAST.

But love takes time. It really does. And that's the lesson they have a hard time learning. So the song by Diana Ross & the Supremes (Diana btw has Sun in Ari/Ven in Pis) "you can't hurry love. No you just have to wait. Love don't come easy. Its a game of give and take." Should probably be a mantra that all Aries Venus (Moon & Suns) should remember when it comes to relationships.

So unless there is a mutual reception coming from Mars(Aries place of domicile) or Sun(Aries place of exaltation), the native may find love relationships a big challenge that frustrates them to no end.

In this case the Sun(Aries place of exaltation) is in Pis. So this will contribute to them being more easy-going and "what will be will be" even if there is a Venus in Ari conjunct to Mars in Aries.

In the latter isolated case, Aries Ven conj Mars may come across too aggressive (even selfish). Fights with the partner would be plenty and jumping from one relationship to another (whilst blaming the partner for the breakdown) would occur.

The above native is often very infantile in their thinking.Their passions burn hot and bright. But without a more stabilizing influence like Cancer /Tau or Leo Moon, those passions fizzle out and are gone.

With the Sun in Pis, there is increased sensitivity. Less of a "push no matter what " mentality. And wanting to "attract" things to them.

But with Venus in Aries, there is the antithetical energy to "go after " that which you want and attain it through assertive efforts. So what's a native to do?🤷🏿‍♂️

What i would imagine is a back/forth energy here that on one end is very open, tender & loving. Very passive. But then on the other end, it is defensiveness, combative & aggressive.

The native may want to take turns with the partner. They don't want to always lead(this even if they seem resistant to follow when you lead). They are actually looking for an equal. But will point your flaws out(should you lead and get it "wrong) . Because that's what Venus in Aries can do. It can throw a tantrum and complain. But with added Sun in Pis ( as said above), it doesn't want to lead all the time. ☝🏿

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posted July 07, 2022 03:20 PM            

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I think a woman should never, ever, chase a man. ever. Make the man chase, if the man isn't chasing he'll think that the woman isn't a prize. He needs to believe he needs to chase otherwise the relationship is likely to fail. A woman who has a habit of chasing men needs to realize its always gonna suck and just wait for whoever chases them

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posted July 08, 2022 01:02 AM            

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I used to think similar, but I changed my mind about it because gender isn’t always the issue. There’re more active Yang women and more passive Yin men.

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While it is true that there are women w/ Yang Dominant Energy, they are NOT the majority. It does not benefit the masses to date & live by "the exception" in society.

Your average woman is FAR more attracted to Yang Dominant Men. 💯 Even many of the masculinzed "I can do it all by myself" types of women! It's in our DNA as females to desire this. No use in denying it.

Too many women today will pursue men, take the lead and even provide for him. Just to turn around and COMPLAIN months or even years later that he "isn't man enough" for her and that he needs to step his game up. 🤷🏾‍♀️ She loses all respect for & sexual attraction to him (stats back this up.) She's frustrated & exhausted from constantly having to "take charge" and overcompensate for his shortcomings and/or lack of drive & strength. As (most) women are NOT built to remain in the Masculine Role indefinitely.

And in many instances - the man often gets sick of feeling like an Emasculated Princess with this woman. And enduring the constant disrespect. Even though he allowed it!! Nonetheless, he will often start cheating on "Miss Independent" and attempt to re-grow his balls. He'll stop seeking her approval. He'll often take HER money and go spend it on a side chick that makes him feel "like a man" again.

And to top it off?? After your SEVEN YEAR relationship with him ends where you patiently waited for a ring and paid the bills... he'll marry the next woman within ONE YEAR and provide for her in all the ways that her heart desires. ❤ Because she knew HER femininie worth.

I've seen this scenario sooo many times with Modern Women. Do yourselves a favor and stop chasing & forcing things! Men who *really* want you are totally capable of pursuing YOU. Go sit down & relax. 👍🏾

posted July 08, 2022 01:23 AM            

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Originally posted by BlueRoamer:
I think a woman should never, ever, chase a man. ever. Make the man chase, if the man isn't chasing he'll think that the woman isn't a prize. He needs to believe he needs to chase otherwise the relationship is likely to fail. A woman who has a habit of chasing men needs to realize its always gonna suck and just wait for whoever chases them

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Yep.

Men love the women they have to WIN over. 💯

And "settle" for and use the women who chase THEM in most cases.

Sperm.
Chases.
The Egg.

Period.

You know that show Bridgerton? When Daphne drops the handkerchief to signify her interest in the Prince? THAT is a perfect example of what works best for women. 💕 Let a man know that you are open to his advances & that you are interested in him *without* being overbearing or taking the lead. Don't allow your impatience to force you into the Masculine Role if you *know* that you are ultimately Feminine!

posted July 08, 2022 08:50 PM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
Yep.

Men love the women they have to WIN over. 💯

And "settle" for and use the women who chase THEM in most cases.

Sperm.
Chases.
The Egg.

Period.

You know that show Bridgerton? When Daphne drops the handkerchief to signify her interest in the Prince? THAT is a perfect example of what works best for women. 💕 Let a man know that you are open to his advances & that you are interested in him *without* being overbearing or taking the lead. Don't allow your impatience to force you into the Masculine Role if you *know* that you are ultimately Feminine!

Women are so out of balance these days.

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posted July 08, 2022 09:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Soo, if a guy's birthday is coming up, the woman shouldn't bother calling? Even if she has never forgotten & has always acknowledged his birthday, since 2018?

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Nothing wrong with saying Happy Birthday to anyone at all. 🎉

But initiating most of the contact with him in general is not wise if you know you'd prefer to be the one being pursued. ⚘ If he rarely reaches out he's not that interested in you *OR* he is a passive "shy guy" that you will ALWAYS have to lead with.

posted July 08, 2022 11:23 PM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
Nothing wrong with saying Happy Birthday to anyone at all. 🎉

But initiating most of the contact with him in general is not wise if you know you'd prefer to be the one being pursued. ⚘ If he rarely reaches out he's not that interested in you *OR* he is a passive "shy guy" that you will ALWAYS have to lead with.

A man is who he is. 💯 Accept it or move on and attract what you *really* want.

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posted July 09, 2022 01:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
This is his chart: https://imgur.com/6jMVE7Z

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posted July 09, 2022 01:59 AM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:
While it is true that there are women w/ Yang Dominant Energy, they are NOT the majority. It does not benefit the masses to date & live by "the exception" in society.

Your average woman is FAR more attracted to Yang Dominant Men. 💯 Even many of the masculinzed "I can do it all by myself" types of women! It's in our DNA as females to desire this. No use in denying it.

Too many women today will pursue men, take the lead and even provide for him. Just to turn around and COMPLAIN months or even years later that he "isn't man enough" for her and that he needs to step his game up. 🤷🏾‍♀️ She loses all respect for & sexual attraction to him (stats back this up.) She's frustrated & exhausted from constantly having to "take charge" and overcompensate for his shortcomings and/or lack of drive & strength. As (most) women are NOT built to remain in the Masculine Role indefinitely.

And in many instances - the man often gets sick of feeling like an Emasculated Princess with this woman. And enduring the constant disrespect. Even though he allowed it!! Nonetheless, he will often start cheating on "Miss Independent" and attempt to re-grow his balls. He'll stop seeking her approval. He'll often take HER money and go spend it on a side chick that makes him feel "like a man" again.

And to top it off?? After your SEVEN YEAR relationship with him ends where you patiently waited for a ring and paid the bills... he'll marry the next woman within ONE YEAR and provide for her in all the ways that her heart desires. ❤ Because she knew HER femininie worth.

I've seen this scenario sooo many times with Modern Women. Do yourselves a favor and stop chasing & forcing things! Men who *really* want you are totally capable of pursuing YOU. Go sit down & relax. 👍🏾

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posted July 09, 2022 02:36 AM            

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There’re also the opposite stories where he gets committed to the more active one. Sometimes, they just go for something new, novel.

I know a story where Scorpio Venus pursued a man, but she didn’t emasculate him. Instead, she made him into more traditional man by making him a provider,

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I get it. But again - these are exceptions.

posted July 09, 2022 10:44 PM            

My sister warned me "don't do anything for a guy, because once you do something for them, they will expect it every time." My sister had this experience with cooking for her husband.

I experienced this with CLEANING!

Gender equality is not women do everything now, in my opinion. Like if I have to work too why am I the only one cleaning?!

I experienced my husband making rude comments to me about what I was not doing while I was doing something while he was laying on the couch.

My husband has come a long way. The end of 2021 was ROUGH for us. I've point blank had to tell him that I am burned out from being married to him. That was a huge wake up call for him.

With my Aries and Capricorn in my chart I do like to flaunt my independence to men I like.

But I do also have that Venus Pisces Jupiter Cancer in my chart that needs, and is super attracted to a handy man. "Oh my gosh this is a new car, how do I turn it on!" LOL

Yeah after what I went though with one relationship...the man must pay on the first date. I of course will pay on dates. But I just feel like I can't have that "set the tone" after what I went through. Oh man, and it's very important that I am highly appreciated when I do pay on a date. Saying "thank you" is nice. But I honestly prefer respect, like being engaged and having a good attitude. What good is "thank you" if they person was looking at their phone most of the time?
My husband was in a very bad mood on a date once, and it was a 5 star restaurant. Before the date, during the date, and after the date. The disrespect after the date was my snapping point. I told him that I am not taking him on any dates the rest of the year. And I said if you are in that bad of a mood, then don't even go on the date!

I did not give it up right away for my husband. I said if you are just looking for casual sex, I already have somebody for that.

And funny thing is the guy I was hooking up with told me "I could never be in a relationship with a girl who sleeps with my right away. (he was a Leo Venus)

I did not put out for my now husband until we decided that we are dating exclusively.

posted July 09, 2022 11:21 PM            

He is going though Chiron conjunct Venus transit now too. So I think it's interesting that we have been connecting more lately. But then we also have wild synastry.(pluto mars stuff) Cause I'm kind of like why is he doing this and why am I liking it? (I have my trying transits too that have been testing the hell out of my marriage, while also having amazing milestones w/ husband too)

He has Mercury Pisces, so he can be pretty intuitive, and wait for my guard to be down more.

I went out to lunch with him his ex gf friend with benefits and our other friend. I am telling you our banter and him paying attention to me was freaking out his ex gf w/ benefits while still being cool. It made me kind of uncomfortable so I ordered two glasses of wine. LOL I kind of gave him a look and a gesture at one point to go with her when she was calling him because otherwise she is going to hate me and freak out more because of the attention I was getting. I've been in her shoes. Part of me felt guilty while another part of me was kind of getting off on it. The glances, our feet touching under the table, inviting me to keep going along with him.

posted July 10, 2022 12:12 AM            

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I can relate to a lot of what you said lovelyAries86

My sister warned me "don't do anything for a guy, because once you do something for them, they will expect it every time." My sister had this experience with cooking for her husband.

I experienced this with CLEANING!

Gender equality is not women do everything now, in my opinion. Like if I have to work too why am I the only one cleaning?!

I experienced my husband making rude comments to me about what I was not doing while I was doing something while he was laying on the couch.

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OH HELL NO @ that last paragraph. 🙄 Not acceptable at all.

Fact of the matter is this: If a woman has to work a FULL-TIME job, clean, cook, raise kids, look after other loved ones, keep up her appearance AND maintain an active sex life w/ her husband - she is ENSLAVED. 💯 This is too much!! Contrary to popular belief... we cannot *effectively* have it all at the SAME TIME. (Wise) choices truly have to be made and receiving help must be embraced.

"Gender Equality" is now about convincing us to be Superwoman. It asks us to strip ourselves of our natural Femininity. To live a life of misery in order to constantly prove how "strong" we are. F**k that! I choose to be HAPPY. ❤

The idea that we need to act exactly like men in order to be valuable is truly INSANE. And that mindset dishonors women and the extraordinary gifts that we possess.

posted July 10, 2022 08:45 AM            

Because he got his big boy job that had him traveling a lot, he thought that meant he was royalty, and a guest visiting in our home.

There were certain things I put up with at first I think because I moved in to his place...but when the imbalance gets to be too much, I will tell him off.

My dad was bragging last week to his friends "my girls are the kind to punch a man back" LOL

My husband in general can lack self awareness. He does not adapt as well when roles in a relationship change. In our time together I've been a part time worker and full time college student, had a full time job with consistent hours, forced overtime, online college student who care gave for my grandma and nannied my niece and nephew, teacher who took her work home with her while being a part time online college student taking condensed classes, and then just teacher who takes work home.

Well now I just get to be a housewife, no pressure to get a job when I travel with him. I think I deserve it.

When I had the forced overtime job, and his lack of self awareness, and his Virgo stellilum having him no problem being critical of others...that when I would talk back to him more, because he still had the expectation for me to act like I did not work a ten hour day. He was working less than me that year. One day I came home from working a 10 hour day he was laying on the couch waiting for me to cook dinner for him. Well it was all fine and dandy, until he made a comment about my shoes being out where they should not be. I let him know that when he was working more, I would clean and organize his stuff, but he wont do the same for me, and instead of complaining, he could actually be helpful. Instead of just laying on the couch waiting for me to cook him dinner. Every time we had an argument I would bring up this incident for four years.

I did lots of talking back to him that year. The job I had at the time was awful, when I was looking for a new job, I just calmly and matter of fact told him, "I am never taking or doing a job with overtime again, because you did not appreciate it." He knew I was right. He did not bother to attempt to argue or prove me wrong when I said that.
I did see more of a change and effort on his part after I said that.

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