posted July 05, 2009 05:06 AM         

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Where have all those cowboys gone~~~?

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Out rescuing damsels in distress, Slaying dragons, celebrating Canada day... Or in my case, all of the above, plus earning a living, and doing household chores and maintaining a social life and a relationship .

Hence, I think an apology is in order for my prolonged absence.

Anyway, to the topic at hand:

Don't care for porn really. Never really have had interest in it to tell you the truth (and that sadly is the honest answer.) For me personally, I just never saw the need for it Lol! Ok so I am no cassinova but for me, sexual fulfillment = Beautiful girl + Beautiful mind + Beautiful personality. Porn IMO is desgined to stimulate only the carnal side of sexuality (though some might argue against that; citing tha fact that there are softcore porn made for couples.) But even then, the intimacy generated by watching soft core porn is a result of the couple in question getting more intimate with each other.

For me, sexuality needs to go hand with hand with an intelligent and confident personality with a healthy side of mysterious allure. Porn just seems too... Shallow for that.

Mind you I like to admire female beauty as much as the next guy but fortunately (or unfortunately as some of my female colleauges would put it Lol!) it goes just as far as me thinking "Wow... She is definately model material. She should sign up with a good agency." And... that's it Lol! That's about as far as it goes. If females (or gay males Lol!) have a problem with it, take it up with my incredibaly alluring beloved . She ruined it for the rest of you Lol!

posted July 07, 2009 11:03 AM         

However, I do watch it sometimes. So does my fella. Sometimes separately, sometimes together.

posted July 07, 2009 10:09 PM         

Sometimes I watch porn just out of curiosity. I get all weirdly psychologically analytical about it and try to read the participants faces to see how they're truly feeling. I wonder what they're going to do afterward? What did they do the morning prior? Did someone bring coffee to the shoot?

I've heard so many stories from men I know about their girlfriends' reactions to their porn- throwing it away, burning it, ending the relationship, crying fits, etc. As far as I'm concerned, as long as it's not keeping you away from ME I don't care what you look at. I'll be stashing my vibrator right next to your stack of mags anyway!

posted July 07, 2009 10:47 PM         

I think it must take a really amazing kind of person to accept their partner making porn for a living, you know? To accept their individuality and freedom that much. I can't say that very many of my exes would have been a-okay with me having sex on film, that's for sure.

posted July 08, 2009 12:14 AM         

Even people who TRY to live like porn is real (male or female) seemed perpetually miserable at their failure to do it, in my observation. (And I've lived in red light districts & dabbled in that myself before finding other ways to support myself, so I've observed plenty.)

I don't know if porn actually inspires sexual psychopathy, but I have my doubts...but also have to consider good points that maybe it does. It may be one of those "chicken or egg, nurture or nature" debates that can never be fully resolved. I'm sure plenty of sexual deviants do get porn, just as I'm sure many thrill killers get violent movies & video games, but that doesn't mean the medium is what made them that way. Personally, while I'm open to the idea that I could be wrong, I think porn (as it currently exists) is more a symptom than the cause itself.

And as for objectifying women, that's what the vast majority of SOCIETY does (from children cartoons to women's magazines--and even parents get their teens breast implants as graduation gifts!), porn just does it more blatantly & with the least hypocrisy. To me, if one wants to change that, then the time spent going after porn could be much better spent going after the root cause of it, otherwise the head will just keep growing back again & again (assuming you can behead the hydra in the first place).

And as for me personally, I like well developed bodies, like with HIPS, not the standard model that looks like a scarecrow with fake boobs & too much makeup. So even though I appreciate good looking women, I generally don't find them to my taste in porn, even when tastefully done. Also, I tend to find "situation" far more compelling to me than "flashing." Also, clothes can make someone far more sexier, IMO. (And many nudist beaches & colonies exist without turning into orgies.)

Much like dancers...in most music videos (from country to hip hop), the women dancing are typically scantily clad models much like in porn who more gyrate suggestively than dance. Here's an ironic example of dancers I DO find impressive & attractive (but aren't trying to be):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KcGGfHcA6Xg

Fully clothed even, but more sexy to me than the usual who TRY to seduce in little clothing ('course, their target audience are typically guys, which doesn't include me...and no, a lesbian is NOT a "man in a woman's body"). Though as for Hannah Montana there, who shows the most skin, she's just cute to me, the way many puppies & kittens are cute. 'Course the pornographers would prefer HM to the dancers there, which is very different from me...

But I used to have a semi-pornographic vid in my YT favorites. (I got rid of it after an 11-year-old in real life asked about it and said she found it icky.) The reason why I liked & favorite it (besides that I could never recall the name of the singer or song) will follow the link to it (I believe it's work safe):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5IyAGpooGko

I have an enigmatic and ambivalent view of love and sexuality, and this video represents that for me, making me feel like I'm connecting with others who can understand the conflicts, concerns, desires, and paradoxes of resolving (and living) that part of our nature. I personally sensed many metaphors in both the lyrics AND the video itself, making this more a performance piece about the human condition than simple entertainment (or anything erotic).

As for the guy with the mask, I see that as her own carnal impulses that make her do things that she wishes she wouldn't, and the guy is faceless because one, it can be ANY guy (perhaps make that MANY guys...and the vid is suggestive to me that the "guy" may even be a woman at times), and two, because it's not about the guys, it's about her instincts making her lose her self-control. And she mixes with a crowd that is also losing their own self-control, and that can be pretty scary. In short, she's not going out with "Jason," but rather he's a symbol of her inner reality that affects her life and what she does, even when she knows what she's doing is a very bad, or at least inadvisable, course of action.