posted July 03, 2009 09:24 PM         

I DO have a Laurell K. Hamilton's Incubus Dreams. It was cheap, and I'm curious how much her intriguing work (that I enjoyed as a teen) has turned into eroticism as I've heard. But I've had it for over a year and still haven't gotten around to reading it.

There's very little porn or erotica that has aroused me in the slightest, though I have found some of it amusing (whether it meant to be or not) and/or entertaining in other ways.

I find lesbians who do porn for lesbians are VERY different from men who do lesbian porn for men, and I'm most likely to get off on this. But really, my imagination can arouse me far more than any porn or book ever can. Especially as I'm just not very visual (actually, it's the SMELLS that usually turn me on, if anything physical). And I also find that if done right, clothes (even covering nearly the entire body) can easily make someone far more sexy than nudity ever could.

However, I have WRITTEN erotica. I mainly got started because of male writers of erotica, especially lesbian erotica, were so...silly. And it was a challenge. Actually, a problem is that I tend to turn it into a story (so that it has erotic elements rather than being pure erotica), or as a joke (typically parodying porn & erotica itself), or I lose interest, no matter how hard I try to finish it. In any case, I've never been turned on by my own works, but others have enjoyed them, and I've even won 2 awards in one fan community for a couple of them, and have been repeatedly begged to finish those I just can't seem to find the interest to do so.

I also intend to get the movie Better than Chocolate one day, which has some very erotic elements, though I wouldn't call it porn (I'd call it a comedy).

I generally don't care one way or another about the idea of porn, though. There seem to be a lot of abuses that go on in the industry (just like other industries), and I don't care for that, and also porn is often either very unimaginative & repititious, or it tends to get exceedingly violent and/or degrading, which I also find disturbing. (While I could see someone looking at something like that out of curiosity, if I knew someone was into "rape flicks" for example, there's no way I'd be able to have an easy going relationship with him...or her.)

That said, I do enjoy a lot of essays and thoughts by some porn-active individuals, such as Susie Bright (though I ignore their pornographic elements and go for the thoughts). I'm also very impressed with Lydia Lunch, though she does go into some very dark & degrading elements that include porn.

posted July 03, 2009 10:18 PM         

What about Jaiya's new world sex education? Now I like those videos!!! Best ever.

posted July 03, 2009 10:26 PM         

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posted July 03, 2009 10:37 PM         

kidding.

posted July 03, 2009 10:42 PM         

I thought Boogie Nights was a great flick about porn in general.

posted July 04, 2009 12:47 AM         

I do like erotic literature a lot though.

posted July 04, 2009 12:58 AM         

I find one's body is sacred ground and to be kept private. I took sex education in school and know what the female and male body looks like. I don't need to keep any pictures around like that. With sex, it's a private one to one intimate affair In my own opinion and others can feel free to agree to disagree, is to be kept off film and remain private away from the eyes of the world.

posted July 04, 2009 03:18 AM         

Now at seventeen going on eighteen here pretty soon..I yawn at porn though there is the occasional "lol she sounds like a dying cat!" *gags herself*. How can I put it..

There's just no substance, no spark, no..no.intimacy basically it's just bam wam thank you mam and the fake prolonged screeching of a raptor and the grunts of a oaf through a screen.

I rather just have it then watch it..including the horrible drooling sleep face OAO.

posted July 04, 2009 04:11 AM         

I think that's the whole appeal of Playboy - that whole airbrushed quality. It's not really supposed to be about "real women" but the unattainable sexual fantasy.

posted July 04, 2009 04:14 AM         

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found 99% of the pics of naked women absolutely disgusting! No taste whatsoever! Is it because I'm not an American, I'm Japanese? Could that be the reason?

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posted July 04, 2009 08:35 AM         

porn, i could give or take. if there is a long stretch without someone in my life, i like the visual stimulation. i only fantasize about the actual lover i have, so when i am without a lover for a period of time, i utilise erotia...as to not get pent up energy.