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Topic: Viscious Rumours
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GypseeWind Knowflake Posts: 1694 From: Dayton,Ohio USA Registered: May 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 12:05 AM
Why do people do this?????I was supposed to go to a wedding tonight, but didn't attend because I'm sick. My childrens father went in my place, as it was more his friends then mine anyway. Afterwards he came and woke me up out of my NyQuil haze to inform me that the rumour going around the wedding was that my best friend during high school had comitted suicide. That woke me straight up, NyQuil or not. I asked him the source, and he told me the name of these two sisters who were a pain in the a$$ way back since high school. They were very jealous of my friend as she was the beauty of our school. She was also abused, and her Mother passed away in our senior year, at which time she came to live at my house. She was the maid of honor in my first wedding and we were very close until I moved away. When I moved back I did have a heck of time finding her, as she had become quite reclusive and suffered depression. But she was very much alive. About five years ago I lost track of her again, and had to search her out. Much to my surprise and delight, she was pregnant with a little girl, and very excited about being pregnant since she was in her late thirties at the time, and never thought she'd have a child. I knew the child was born, was a girl and was fine. But I lost track of her again. And then this. I spent an hour online (she has a common name) and then an hour on a borrowed phone until I finally contacted her brother in a town 2 hours away, who confirmed she's alive and well!! I was so MAD, as I was informed the girls that passed the rumour around were laughing and giggling and mentioned the death in passing as if it were old news and barely worth noting. Why do people do this? Have they no clue what impact words can have on another person??? Years of memories passed before my eyes, and then guilt that I may not have been there for her in her time of need. My heart was beating so hard, I thought with that and the NyQuil I was going to black out. Had to vent, sorry. ERRRRR!!!!!!!!!!! IP: Logged |
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 1532 From: acousticgod@sbcglobal.net Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 12:17 AM
That sucks. I would have been the same way, and just like you I would have frantically found out for myself. Ridiculous!...and while you're sick, too. IP: Logged |
koiflower Knowflake Posts: 752 From: Australia Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 12:31 AM
That's terrible!!! No-one should ever joke about death.I have an almost cultural superstitous reaction in terms of how people treat death. I think joking about death in this serious way invites a bad spirit/karma into ones life. Those silly women should watch their spiritual health!! IP: Logged |
DepTaurus Knowflake Posts: 863 From: canada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 12:36 AM
that is so dumb gossip and rumours get you nowhere, i cannot believe they did that.dont worry karma is waiting for them in a few years. IP: Logged |
Dee Knowflake Posts: 343 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 12:51 AM
I don't know why but some people enjoy stirring the pot That's a terrible thing to do. and she has a child At least she's alive and well IP: Logged |
Antiquarianbookcollector Knowflake Posts: 327 From: Registered: Jun 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 01:07 AM
That's horrible! I'm glad she's okay. I don't know why people are motivated to spread rumours of any kind.IP: Logged |
Dervish Knowflake Posts: 297 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 04:14 AM
Different reasons. But in this case I'd think boredom, love for attention, and/or a thrill out of fooling others to make themselves feel smarter than everyone else. As for how (as opposed to why), I'd point out that many people have very little empathy for others. And can even see your getting upset as hilarious and something of a power tripping ego boost. I can't stand it either. Frankly, I despise the media more and more because I see so much vicious rumors and infotainment over real news, too (and some of it knowingly and willfully lying on their part, as opposed to a little "tweaking" with some manipulation and unnecessary drama). IP: Logged |
Unmoved Moderator Posts: 930 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 04:30 AM
these two sisters are idiotsIP: Logged |
GypseeWind Knowflake Posts: 1694 From: Dayton,Ohio USA Registered: May 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 01:19 PM
Thanks for your replies.I feel better about it today, but yet sad that my friend has these unfounded rumours swirling around about her, such a shame, she's been through enough. *and the rumour-ers were specific in their intent that I be told, by this statement, "Make sure you let Gypsee Know, we know how close they were." So now I'm wondering if it WAS a personal dig towards me. ehhh, Once a B, always a B. But y'all are right, let the Karma Gods have them. IP: Logged |
Azalaksh Moderator Posts: 759 From: New Brighton, MN, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 01:29 PM
What a nasty thing to do to someone, even when they *are* at full strength I'm with kat and dep -- sending out that kind of malicious energy will boomerang.....I guess some people never mentally leave high school IP: Logged |
songwriter Knowflake Posts: 248 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 04:26 PM
Maybe this bad incident was a message for you that you should contact your friend and catch up again. Sometimes things that appear bad in the beginning, may actually do you good at the end. I mean, yes, what these two sisters did was totally vicious , but also I think you can make good out of this ugly situation.IP: Logged |
GypseeWind Knowflake Posts: 1694 From: Dayton,Ohio USA Registered: May 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 05:10 PM
yes I thought the same thing. I asked her brother for her number and he said she currently doesn't have a phone. I'm thinking of calling him back and getting her address and just popping over. Thanks for the suggestion though, Songwriter. Love your name, btw.IP: Logged |
SunChild Moderator Posts: 444 From: Melbourne. Victoria. Australia Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 10, 2009 08:00 PM
was thinking along the same line of energy as songwriter. IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 316 From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 11, 2009 10:30 PM
It is the same unkind unthinking attitude that cause people to laugh at folks in pain or in an embarrassing situation. ...too often a big ha ha.
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downtomars Knowflake Posts: 534 From: NY Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 12, 2009 01:16 AM
That is disgusting. I have had it up to here (raised hand very high) with vicious, catty people and their lies and rumors. Some people just cannot get away from high school, and with our Facebooked, Myspaced and Twittered exhibitionist society no one will every truly leave high school because it just feeds the rumor mill. It is insane! I agree with songwriter though, this is probably a sign that you should get in touch with your friend.
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teasel Knowflake Posts: 177 From: Ohio Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 12, 2009 08:31 AM
Wow, I can't understand why some people feel the need to be so cruel.
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