posted February 01, 2010 09:23 AM         

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I am my own best friend. The sound of my own thoughts are the most comforting thing.

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I feel the same!

As to silence, I prefer minimal noise.
The sounds of nature, wind, rain, thunder, waves, trees creaking, leaves rustling in trees or on the ground, and many other quieter sounds both natural and not, such as the ticking of a clock, wind chimes, cats purring, even my own body sounds suit me just fine.

posted February 01, 2010 06:46 PM         

i should mention that when i was a baby and as a kid, i used be totally clingy to my parents, best friend, sister, like anyone. i was really shy, still am quite shy, but shy and almost afraid of people and new things. i think it got to a point where it was like, i'm a very driven person and i'm one of those people everyone knew was supposed to "go somewhere" but my neediness and clinginess was holding me back.

it was more like not that i can't stand to be alone in a social sense, but i was scared of people and new things and never wanted to face anything that was unfamiliar alone. but then finally one day i was like i can't waste my brains or talent. i gotta make a change. and so thus i've changed for the better.

posted February 01, 2010 07:26 PM         

My best male friend passed away on April 14, 2008. I was there, and after they came and took the body, his widow wanted to dismantle everything in the room and throw out all his stuff..

I understand grief and not wanting to be reminded of illness, and death, but it was so extremem, all his belongings!! The folks that were there all chimed in, with "I'll take that, or don't throw this out, can I have it?" And she refused to let any of us have anything, she wanted it all gone.

Within 3 weeks she moved another man in.

It's not working out, so she has put her self on several dating sites, making perfectly clear that she is looking for a "husband" not a "boyfriend."

It has really bothered alot of us, but what can we say, it's her life.

posted February 02, 2010 01:31 PM         

I used to date a man, who also could not be alone and wanted to see and talk to me every waking hour of the day. It drove me crazy. One morning I told him that I needed some me time and he got all insecure and was starting to look for a replacement for me by asking a mutual friend to go out. In the start of the relationship he was planning to have me move in and I didn't really go for it, I thought it was too soon. He was a very strange guy.

He was a Sun in Aquarius, Saggy rising and Moon in Cancer in the 7th house conj Jupiter. With him I really picked up on the Cancer Moon and felt smothered and wanted to get away. He was super friendly and had a tonne of female friends that he would talk to.

Eventually he had his own harem going on with a string of exgirlfriends - some of them knew each other. I knew 3 of his exgirlfriends. Sadly, it dawned on me that I was with the village bicycle - everyone has riden him at one point or another. That struck horror into me and I felt very sick to my stomach over that - but when meeting somebody, who knows what their past is really like.

We lasted a few weeks - I felt so used after that. Less than a week he got himself a girlfriend - one of my friends, who said that she would not date him. They came out on my birthday and I was not amused.

He had the nerve to ask to still be friends and my Aries side said NO way and I blasted him out of my life!

A gal pal and I used to have alot of inside jokes about him - actually his other exes too.

I figure it is a Cancer/Libra 7th house emphasis that has an influence like that. I find anything Libra is not really wanting to be alone....

I was watching the biography of the Bee Gees, just after Maurice Gibb died back on Jan 12/03. They had an interview with Barry Gibb who was quoted saying that he always had this desire to have somebody spend his life with and was never really alone. Now Barry Gibb is a Virgo, however he has around 2 or 3 Libra planets in his chart and to me that would explain t me his quote.

posted February 02, 2010 02:39 PM         

I've noticed the same with sag/cancer men as what you described above. The Village Bicycle, yep, that is too true.

posted February 03, 2010 10:23 PM         

however i do know libras with strong scorpio placements who like to be alone. they can be loner-ish and alone a lot. but then i also know a lot of libra suns with no stelliums in anything and be very needy and hungry for attention. one guy was so needy he irritated everyone who met him. very needy and whiny like a little kid for attention.

posted February 04, 2010 03:03 AM         

But you know, it's 3am, and I have one child asleep next to me, two dogs in the bed, and the rest of the family and the bird in other rooms.

I've been "alone" as in, with my own company for hours, and that is fine, I guess I just don't like being ALL alone, if that makes any sense.

posted February 04, 2010 07:24 PM         

anyway yeah i get what you mean by not wanting to be totally alone or by yourself. everything in doses or moderation. it's the same for people who can't handle too much social interaction. they want to be alone but not completely alone. i get all of that. i tend to bounce back and forth myself. but i can be either/or. unless something really bad happens then i don't wanna be alone. i'll call everyone i know and start writing a bunch of emails.

posted February 19, 2010 04:00 PM         

The first time I was married was at 17! To my high school sweetheart. We had a baby at 18, but he was stillborn. We split by the time I was 19, in which I met my next husband. The divorce papers weren't even signed yet.
I did manage to put off the second marriage until age 24, but by then, we already had a daughter, then we had two more.

So, I don't know for sure if your theory on Venus in the 8th can't be alone, or if it's more that OTHERS don't leave us alone!!!
Hubby number two wore me down with sheer determination, even though, I told him I was not very good at marriage.

posted February 19, 2010 07:03 PM         

For example: I recently got a job, plus I am still trying to get my own business going on the side. And I also like playing at music nights. Which means that my friends are currently somewhat neglected. But this time has also been useful for me in that I have weeded out the really "needy" or "stressy" friends and kept the best ones, also am more selective about what I want in terms of friends. One of my friends is this really needy guy who doesn't work and, if he is given half a chance, will spam text you. If you send one text message he'll send you 10 back, and it kind of puts you under an obligation - he also has other obsessive behaviours, and I think it comes from stooging around with no real direction or motivation and nothing to do. I am gradually ignoring him more and more - I know it sounds awful but it's the only thing to do with needy people as they take my energy.

I put my phone on "silent" mode most of the time. First of all, it conserves the battery power (yes, really) . Secondly, if the call is genuinely important the caller will leave a message.