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T
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posted July 21, 2010 03:27 PM
 
Last night I was thinking about how I should not open threads started by people I dislike. Does anyone else who spends a lot of time here simply not open threads by people they know will irritate them? It is a new resolution of mine as I have to be careful about who's energies i allow to enter my sphere. I think of it as looking out for myself and wellbeing and the other. And leaving each to their own.IP: Logged |
juniperb
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From: Blue Star Kachina
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posted July 21, 2010 04:03 PM
Raises hand  It isn`t that anyone irritates me but I know when it will be a waste of my time and energy. Knowing that saves a lot of waste for me and peace for the soul I disagree with 
You note I opened your thread 
juni ------------------
What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world is immortal"~ - George Eliot IP: Logged |
WinkAway
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posted July 21, 2010 04:05 PM
sometimes.. sometimes it's more the subject I look at. Depends on my mood I guess..IP: Logged |
AbsintheDragonfly
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From: Gaia
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posted July 21, 2010 04:06 PM
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It is a new resolution of mine as I have to be careful about who's energies i allow to enter my sphere. I think of it as looking out for myself and wellbeing and the other. And leaving each to their own.
I think I'm going to adopt your philosophy, T. Juni, I think you're just about one of the wisest women I've ever had the pleasure to encounter. I really appreciate you. I'm so glad our paths crossed. I just want you to knwo that!  IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted July 21, 2010 04:13 PM
I usually avoid threads that I think will bug me, but sometimes (stupidly) curiosity gets the better of me. I can't think of anyone whose threads I would avoid, just because they'd started them.
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starkiss1
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posted July 21, 2010 04:13 PM
T, lol,I know what you are saying.
I don't open or reply to threads by people who I dislike, and I find it easy. I just think, "Well, it's their thread and I choose not to participate." What I do find difficult, is, when people who I dislike, post on threads of people who I LIKE and ruin them.
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Geocosmic* Valentine
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From: New York, NY
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2010 04:15 PM
I definitely do the same thing unless the subject is very compelling. But even then I hesitate. Sometimes I will open the thread to see what others might have to say about a particular subject.Sometimes I choose to keep the bath water even if I throw out the baby. LOOLOLOL!! IP: Logged |
katatonic
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posted July 21, 2010 05:47 PM
it is basically just like 3d world...better to avoid locking horns with those who consistently rub you up the wrong way, and certainly don't go to their house trying to change their thinking or decor!! but sometimes you will run into them especially if you have the same doctor or workplace...in which case i try to keep my mouth shut or the subject on non-controversial topics.but i also have found myself working on the same team with people i don't like. tact and remembering not to get my personal feelings involved have served me well. however there are times when getting along is not as important as being honest too... sometimes(believe it or not) i don't come to LL at all because i know i am not centered enough to stay out of the wrong rabbit holes...but there is no one here i really dislike, only some whose arguing style and subjects bug me, and even they not always... and i actually enjoy sparring for mental exercise, though i wouldn't go near a boxing ring or a fencing match (as a competitor)! IP: Logged |
Spanky Butler
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From: Australia
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posted July 21, 2010 06:02 PM
I've been doing that for a while now T. It makes my LL experience a generally happy one.
Kudos for your self control honey!
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Spanky Butler
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posted July 21, 2010 06:07 PM
I think you deserve a reward. Have a lolcat on me.
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AbsintheDragonfly
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From: Gaia
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posted July 21, 2010 06:19 PM
 Bwahaha! Love that cat! meow? IP: Logged |
SunChild
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From: Melbourne. Victoria. Australia
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2010 06:22 PM
That is simply normal isn't it? Like in life, don't give yourself experiences you don't want? Greg and I avoid people and certain situations all the time, it's all energy and what we allow in our home.I still don't open most threads but that is out of bother factor and limited time ~ but then I there is NO ONE here I don't like. Seriously. ...AND THIS bubble is hard to burst.  IP: Logged |
teasel
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From: Ohio
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posted July 21, 2010 06:28 PM
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but then I there is NO ONE here I don't like.
Same here. IP: Logged |
SunChild
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posted July 21, 2010 06:33 PM
Teasel  In my personality and life, even if I don't agree with some one that is no reason not to like them. I happen to like so many interesting people and peculiar souls. There is someone I had conflict with a few months ago and posted a letter to her in HAH, she wont even talk to me but I still read her blog and still learn heaps from her... afterall I wont write her off as some kind of cold hearted noob, but she is a fabulous human being with so much inside that I can't ignore all the special bits! Its like the people here in the forums, some have behaved like noobs but doesn't mean they are a noob. LOL IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2010 08:22 PM
Fortunately the few left here and not banned who have been very cruel to me...usually avoid me and I them. And I have minimal doings with those who are buddies with my haters/tormentors both here and or elsewhere.
So unless it is lighter topics, or nothing to do with me....I try keep my distance these days and no longer trust them or trust as I once did.
As to some threads, even if I like the person(s) I usually (not always) avoid the threads because I do not agree.------------------
Everyone is a teacher...
Everyone is a student...
Learning is eternal.
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Valus
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posted July 21, 2010 08:51 PM
LMFAO  I've been doing it for years.  I've mostly minded my own business here,
while people who clearly dislike me continue
swarming to my threads like moths to a flame. The evidence abounds. I think this is a GREAT IDEA, T,
and I really hope it catches on. That's all I have to say.
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PeaceAngel
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posted July 21, 2010 08:52 PM
Good thoughts. I've been doing this for some time. It depends on the topic too for me. That was the deal with the Godzala threads too. You knew what you were getting before you went in so why b1tch about it later. IP: Logged |
T
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posted July 21, 2010 09:35 PM
Juni, yes, saving peace for souls. That's what it's all about. Weather it's yours or another's. Thanks for the reminder. I love you. Teasel, yeah, curiosity has killed many cats. I am honest with myself (and I'm not saying you are not) and there are definitely people's threads I need to avoid. I am comfortable with the fact that I am passionate and have strong likes and dislikes and they include people. I feel deeply and have a strong aversion to some things. This is not something I am ashamed of or try to repress anymore. I'd rather be honest. Starkiss, I like the method youve adopeted. I mostly do the same but curiosity gets the better of me sometimes too. People's minds operate so differently and it can be intriuging to see how polar opposite they are from you. But, yes, i'm finding it's best to avoid now. Especially when it's the same old song and dance every time. hehe. Yes, i try not to ruin other's threads either. And hold back alot. Geo, yep. LOL!!! kat, great way of putting things. Yes, I dont appreciate people trying to change my decor either. I'll find things out on my own thank you and you may disapprove of them, but that's not my problem. I too, stay away from this place when I know I am not stable enough to deal with certain people and their antics. Yes, the mental excersise and spawing can be a good thing too. It's a big dance. Spanky, thank you! LOL YOu see it! I hold back ALOT! Good on you for doing so too. I'm sure many here do. *wink IP: Logged |
T
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posted July 21, 2010 09:41 PM
SunChild, I understand what you are saying about "giving yourself situations" but i no longer believe that what it is what it's all about. I dont believe in manifesting one's reality the way most new-agers do anymore and have observed that it is all a farce. I wont go into it here and since you are still there, like you said in the other thread we are not "vibrating" on the same level or page anymore, so I will kindly refrain from elaborating on the subject and let you be.I do not like certain people here, this is true and it doesnt make me a bad person. Take care. IP: Logged |
T
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posted July 21, 2010 09:51 PM
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LMFAO I've been doing it for years. I've mostly minded my own business here,
while people who clearly dislike me continue
swarming to my threads like moths to a flame. The evidence abounds. I think this is a GREAT IDEA, T,
and I really hope it catches on. That's all I have to say.
Ah yes. Here he is everyone. Can we all hear his abnoxious laughter? Youve been "doing it for years"? Right Valus. Get off your high horse and take a look at years gone by. You have not. You have far from minded your own business. LOL!!!! And in case you havent noticed for the most part, I, and MANY others here, avoid your threads. There are so many things I, and I'm sure others wouldve like to have said to you but gave up a long time ago. Maybe on a day when we are bored we'll reply to something, but know it's no use. There are no moths to your flame. Some people try and knock some sense into you once in awhile and then remember that is not going to happen and go about their business again. There comes a time when every learns and stops banging their head against a wall. I'm glad you think it's a great idea and it already has caught on, Valus. Take a better look around. Over the years, less and less people read your work or respond to it. And it's not only because they dislike you or because you think you are a a brilliant genius and no one can grasp what you are saying. NOW! That's all I will say to you. Have fun doing what youre doing. IP: Logged |
AbsintheDragonfly
Moderator Posts: 927
From: Gaia
Registered: Apr 2010
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posted July 21, 2010 09:55 PM
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LMFAOI've been doing it for years. I've mostly minded my own business here,
while people who clearly dislike me continue
swarming to my threads like moths to a flame. The evidence abounds. I think this is a GREAT IDEA, T,
and I really hope it catches on. That's all I have to say.
Strike One Valus. Be mindful please. IP: Logged |
SunChild
Moderator Posts: 975
From: Melbourne. Victoria. Australia
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 22, 2010 03:19 AM
That's not what I meant at all T, I was being rather practical about it. But in any event, I've observed the exact opposite. Rather amazing. Or more accurately, rather amazing how our filters work, eh? ETA.. You said I'm "still there"... like inferring I will one day move on from that place. *sigh*... I've had a lot of traumatic things happen to me but I have not abandoned the flow ~ and due to that have been able to create so much from nothing. That's my experience. Friggn magic if you ask me. you probably don't care for talking about these things with me as you said so I'll let it be also..... Wishing you all the best.  Oh and I am only responding cos I like you. Whether you like me or not. lol IP: Logged |
charmainec
Moderator Posts: 493
From: on the other side of the rainbow
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 22, 2010 07:34 AM
What? The minute Valus says something it's a problem and "strike one"? For what? Ja I'm just expressing because this happens all the time.
It's okay for others to express their dislike yet if someone less popular says something it's an issue.An observation. ------------------
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies with in us."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
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PeaceAngel
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posted July 22, 2010 07:44 AM
I'd say that Abs was pre-empting. I know I did a few times (rightly or wrongly) when I was a mod. But I want to say that I agree and think that strike was unfair. The way I see it far harsher things have been said than what Valus actually said.  IP: Logged |
charmainec
Moderator Posts: 493
From: on the other side of the rainbow
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posted July 22, 2010 07:56 AM
Jip PA I think it's harsh too considering.I know many here have.. (thinking to phrase it correctly  English not first language)personal issues with Valus and being a mod means not to use that as a way to get back at someone? Hmmm sounds funky lol sorry trying to word it right. Err . Anyhow I'm sure you all know what I mean...I think.... ------------------
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies with in us."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
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