posted November 21, 2010 04:58 PM         

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sigh.

i just think taking an authoritative/weeding approach is going to deepen the shizm and plenty of folks will leave on principle and NOT because they are necessarily 'siding' with those who were initially banned. i loved the freedom and laxity of lindaland.. that is what made it so appealing to me

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Yup. This place actually does a better job policing itself than any mods really would. The thing about NOT banning people is that it forces people to figure out how to deal with one another. Some people inquire whether they should have to tolerate certain folks, and I get that. Very occasionally a line may have to be drawn, but it's less often than people believe. People say things in frustration that they don't actually mean, and people misrepresent the totality of who they are when limited to a single interaction with someone that opposes them.

posted November 21, 2010 05:06 PM         

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Freedom of speech is one thing but bullying is another.
Randall has been more than patient with letting conversations ride and some people pushing the envelope.
What he's asking is simple. Be mindful of what you post. If you post something bashing someone or labeling the thread F UCK YOU RANDALL.. well, you'll probably be banned. That's a no brainer.

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but I am missing information to see what happened last night since threads were deleted

I won't say I would forgive since I really have a bad temper, as you know by now, but belgz, is a colourful person, others who are mentioned in this issue are too, and arguments do happen. (I mention ass kisser because I saw a couple of person's post that weren't deleted and that were just throwing some oil on the fire) whatever we do, arguments will happen, they even happen when arguing about not arguing. plutosquared mentioned that it wasn't so bad, "not the end of the world". I guess we don't know enough eachother to accept our colourful personnalities.

but for me the problem is to use the banning, it's an extreme tool.

Ami Anne

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Pire
Since you like it here and want to be part of
LL ,don't you feel a basic respect for Randall for providing it for you?
He could easily ban you and that would be YOUR loss, not his.
I think you owe him to be gracious to him is all.

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I have worked in a school and I know that respect is difficult to gain, but with Randall's remote attitude, and tolerant "leeway" he doesn't have much to do to be listened to and to command respect.

I do have pets, not kids, (gay!) and I walk my cats like dogs, but for that, I must sometimes tolerate that they don't listen to me straight away. that, is frustrating. that's why I am sometimes surprised that he doesn't use his power more often, when thing go alright (just to reminds us who's got the power, and also may be a bit out of frustration), but I understand he's different than me, and I appreciate his difference 'cause I learn from it.

posted November 21, 2010 05:07 PM         

Sorry Randall I wasn`t clear. Not the site but subject matter that either has too much yin or too much yang.Life has a way of correcting any inbalance.

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What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world is immortal"~

posted November 21, 2010 05:14 PM         

I actually posted here, because I'd posted on FB, because I wanted to defend Ami, and because I could see that some people were genuinely looking at it from both sides, or wondering what happened.

I said at that FB group, that I felt a little weird being there; I don't know if you even saw that, a couple of weeks ago. I posted here, to be fair. I don't like gossip. I don't like back-stabbing, and I've been here for eight years now. Eight years in which people have become angry for whatever reason, and left. Some come back, some form their own boards, some just talk on FB. I'm friends with a few people on there, who left years ago.

posted November 21, 2010 05:20 PM         

There are other astrology websites that will ban you for less! I've seen it happen over just "implied arguments"...

The problem here is inconsistency, in my opinion. Randall has been nice to the brats of this site, and unfortunately encouraged bad behavior... Now, some are popping up everywhere trying to find another door to get a toe-hold in...

posted November 21, 2010 05:23 PM         

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love it or leave it, right!? as it is? or as it should be!?

honestly, i don't want to antagonise you, but not because you are a mod, cause I couldn't care less, just because I don't know you. I usually don't get upset by someone intensity or colourful personnality, on the contrary.

posted November 21, 2010 05:34 PM         

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Just delete the repeated offenders that can't handle posting normally on a forum...

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posted November 21, 2010 05:37 PM         

Don't waste your 2 pennies, Lara. I've been a Mod for the last 48 hours, just long enough to see a bunch wacko posters flame this forum enough to bring out my "nice, abrasive" side...