posted April 08, 2012 12:42 AM
Speaking as someone with Moon square Neptune, I do not have problems with women as a whole. In high school I was bullied by a girl who was very insecure about her own looks and intelligence. I grew up in the South and faced a lot of bs about the way that I looked because my ethnicity wasn't clear enough to bigots on all sides of the colour line. It took me a long time to accept and appreciate my own beauty because I didn't look like anyone. On one hand, I can see where this woman is coming from because I've never been insulted by a man about my looks without the guidance of the shrew he was dating (I'm only using "shrew" for those specific women). Has this influenced the way that I look at women in general? Hell no.
The reason why so many women have turned against her is because she threw us all under the bus. There cannot be unity amongst all women until we get rid of this kind of attitude and mindset where if another woman insults us it's because they're ugly and just can't stand how hot we are. Please. The repercussions that she is facing now are her own fault. Fine, some of the comments that PEOPLE (not just women) have made about her are "catty", but a good deal are not insulting and only point out the obvious- she is narcissistic because of a handful of compliments and wasn't experienced enough to see why she had received them along with whatever else she received.
She could have written her article better. If you really don't want to be ostracised then don't write an article about how you feel other women hate you because you're just so beautiful. She could have written an article that solely focused on how, from experience, insecure women target other women who seem luckier by exploring her theories of why it happened. But she didn't. She chose to write an article where she was the sole victim, nevermind the time that she flirted for a promotion and likely wasn't as qualified as someone else. She chose to write about how her neighbours were rude to her on a few occasions and not connect these events with the fact that she flirted with their husbands (yes, she says so in the article). So she was mistreated by her boss, who later fired her, who hasn't been? She then went on to say that the woman was going through a divorce. Where is the jealousy there? Maybe she just wasn't good at her job. Trust me, if you're expendable you will be one of the first to go. However, if you're a valuable asset to your workplace, your boss will try to hang onto you for as long as possible.
In order for women to have solidarity we need to stop making each other scapegoats and stop it with these backhanded comments about how blah blah is jealous of so and so because blah blah isn't pretty or as pretty.
Also, if you're going to call yourself beautiful publicly you're going to take a lot of crap from both men and women. And can we please stop using the word "catty" for this topic? If we're not going to call out dogs, please leave cats out of this.
Btw, I live in the U.K. and women are doing just fine. I would say that women are treated better here than in the U.S., especially when you have to go on maternity leave. Women's rights are continuously advancing and that's one of the things that I have appreciated about living here. British men are no more beasts than American men. Just to be absolutely clear, this is in NO way a bash on men. I can't stand it when women say that men are no good and especially can't stand it when women bash other women for superficial reasons.
Lindaland
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posted April 08, 2012 12:32 AM
) Because some women have called me beautiful who didn't know me at all? Likewise I've called women gorgeous (who in my estimation were) & I didn't know them either?
posted April 08, 2012 12:42 AM
posted April 08, 2012 12:34 PM