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Topic: What sage advice would you give to someone younger than you? :)
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RunAroundScreaming
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posted June 09, 2012 05:27 PM
  
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Originally posted by Hera:
Cap style. Priceless!Do tell her to have some fun in between, too!
LOL!  it's okay. I'm sure YTA has plenty of fun. ------------------
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Ami Anne
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posted June 09, 2012 06:18 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
You reap what you sow. Nothing ever comes to those who wait and do nothing. There are no shortcuts. The main path gets you to your destination. The shortcuts get you lost and over the edge of the cliff. Make your money the old fashioned way. Study hard, work hard, save hard. When you look into the abyss see nothing, just remember that your character and your beliefs save you from that abyss. They can persecute you and take away all you have, but they can never remove your character, beliefs and your dignity. Hold your head up high and live life to the fullest.
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Xodian
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posted June 09, 2012 07:30 PM
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Xodian. LOL!
Oh I am going to see to it that all my daughters know how to inflict maximum damage on an opponent in an unarmed combat  . IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted June 09, 2012 09:48 PM
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Originally posted by Xodian:
Oh I am going to see to it that all my daughters know how to inflict maximum damage on an opponent in an unarmed combat .
That's true love right there lol ------------------
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PixieJane
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posted June 09, 2012 10:18 PM
It really depends on what she's like, what she wants, and what the circumstances are. For example, being true to one's self can be very bad for some people (can potentially get them bullied to the point of suicide or even violently assaulted and killed, like one boy who was himself in school until a boy who was offended by it brought a gun to school and shot him in class, but then I suppose that murderer was just being himself, too). And then of course telling an obnoxious bully to just be true to one's self also doesn't seem appropriate either ("Which is it, am I to be nice or be myself?"). Of course in some especially toxic and competitive regions it can be advisable to be sure people know you're a hammer so that you don't get mistaken for a nail, so even saying "play nice" isn't always the best advice. So...it just depends. But my kids know they can come to me for anything, they know I'll help them against bullies even if the school won't (and will support them defending themselves), but at the same time I won't tolerate their being bullies to someone else. As long as I trust them I let them take krav maga (for multiple reasons, not just self-defense) and have given them The Safe Zone to read (one of the best, IMO, and gives helpful advice from bullies to violent adult perverts that try to lure them away or abduct them). I've added in other things like not accepting drinks or leaving drinks unattended because of rufies (I knew of one case where a 14-year-old girl was given a drink by someone she thought was her friend with a rufie in it and then given to another boy as a birthday present who said the boys with him could have a turn after he was done and only a lucky intervention saved her from being gang raped by her supposed friends that she thought she could trust). And also not to send pix of one's self that she isn't willing for the entire school (and maybe community) to see, comment and judge her on for the next few years. It's amazing how many girls send naked pix of themselves to a guy they want to please and are then shocked that he forwards the pix to everyone he knows who then forward to everyone they know and suddenly she's treated as a ***** , and may face disciplinary actions as well (some underage girls who sent nude pix of themselves have even been prosecuted for child pornography!). All too many kids really do need help in the common sense department like this. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted June 09, 2012 11:35 PM
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
LOL! it's okay. I'm sure YTA has plenty of fun.
Yes, I always make it a point to have lots of fun 
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T
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posted June 09, 2012 11:42 PM
It must be nice to have rich parents to help you get a higher worldly education, nice cars, clothes...etc...no, not really. I'm glad i found a higher education in other ways and dont feel the need to be flashy or show off worldly possessions and make something big out of something small... Sage advice? similar to what Ghani said. Best thing you can do is be there for your sibling. They WILL remember things you said and the love behind it, but in the end, they will make their own decisions. As they should. Just try to always be there ...as an ear..and for a shoulder to lean on. And be as non-judgemental as you can be. IP: Logged |
T
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posted June 09, 2012 11:44 PM
More and more....i realize how grateful I am...to have not grown up a rich kid.IP: Logged |
SpooL
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posted June 10, 2012 01:21 AM
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Originally posted by lalalinda:
DON'T start smoking cigarettes
they're expensive
they're offensive
and it's no longer cool or sophisticatedthis advice comes from a smoker
That's interesting... Are you under lots of stress?.
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pandacake
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posted June 10, 2012 08:12 AM
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Originally posted by Venus:
oh and never leave the house without sunscreen.. 
Absolutely! 
^ Truckdriver was on the road for 28 years without sunscreen, you see the damage on his left side (window side) ...
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pandacake
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posted June 10, 2012 08:12 AM
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Originally posted by lalalinda:
DON'T start smoking cigarettes
they're expensive
they're offensive
and it's no longer cool or sophisticatedthis advice comes from a smoker
Great advice!
Ugh, I'm not anti-smoking at all (to each their own) but I came from a place where mothers actually *forced* their daugthers to smoke before they hit puberty in order to stall lipid cells from multiplying. -_-' IP: Logged |
pandacake
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posted June 10, 2012 08:13 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
You reap what you sow. Nothing ever comes to those who wait and do nothing. There are no shortcuts. The main path gets you to your destination. The shortcuts get you lost and over the edge of the cliff. Make your money the old fashioned way. Study hard, work hard, save hard. When you look into the abyss see nothing, just remember that your character and your beliefs save you from that abyss. They can persecute you and take away all you have, but they can never remove your character, beliefs and your dignity. Hold your head up high and live life to the fullest.
Just like my dad used to tell me. Man I miss him! Great thread RAS. Personally I'm not really good at giving advice in the form of words, but I showed my lil sis pictures of genital warts and other std's, and made her look at documentaries about teen pregnancy. The std part is not really a feast for the eyes but I think she gets what I'm trying to convey.
Oh and of course, let her know you'll always be there for her no matter what and respect the choices she'll make.  IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted June 10, 2012 08:26 AM
I paid for my own education. Every penny of it. Yes, my parents were wealthy, but I made my own money in stock market investments before I was 21, while the rest were in bars drinking their lives away, making sorry a$$ excuses about how unfair life is. In college, I had already made enough money to buy a house outright, without a loan. I worked internship jobs for free. I worked Saturdays and Sundays. All that just to enhance my resume and strengthen my professional connections, so that I could get the best job possible after graduation. I don't accept anything less than the best of everything. Adopt the mentality of success and you will be successful. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted June 10, 2012 08:42 AM
Panda
What country is it that you are referring to where mothers make the girls smoke? Yikes------------------
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Hera
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posted June 10, 2012 09:27 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Yes, I always make it a point to have lots of fun
I know you do - now, when you've already reached most of your goals and can also relax a bit. But I am sure that while you were climbing your mountain you did not have much room for fun. I'm Cap Asc and have been pretty much the same. But while professionally I can't complain, my social life is close to non-existent and I have no family. I had my first date in med school. All I'm saying, career isn't everything in life. Have to keep it balanced, make room for fun and social activities, things that make her feel good. I wish someone would have told me that when I could have made a difference. IP: Logged |
pandacake
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posted June 10, 2012 09:47 AM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Panda
What country is it that you are referring to where mothers make the girls smoke? Yikes
Hi Ami,
Indeed, yikes. It's actually more like a small town fad thing though, where mothers project their modelling dreams onto their daugthers, we had lots of anorexics in our class too (during high school), very sad.*sigh* IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted June 10, 2012 09:53 AM
Hera,I didn't ever had a hard time with my social life and my love life was buoyant. Honestly, I never wanted to hang around the wankers in college anyway: those who were drunks and potheads steered me away. I had a steady stream of girlfriends, except that we're all birds of the same feathers. Go getters tend to hang together. One became a brain surgeon, like I told you. One became a federal US judge, after making law firm partner. Another is a global multibillion corporate CEO. Two others became ultra successful bankers. My two sons ride the horses of an heiress who was also an ex-girlfriend, and she is their Godmother. My wife adores her as well. IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted June 10, 2012 09:58 AM
Wow.. what did you eat when you were a kid?  I want some of that! lol
Well good for you! In my case, however, this wasn't the best advice, that's all I'm saying. Might not be for others, as well, since we are all quite different.  (-> this is why I said what I said)
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lola
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posted June 10, 2012 01:28 PM
respect yourselfand AVOID drama if you can, it is a waste IP: Logged |
T
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posted June 10, 2012 01:36 PM
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All I'm saying, career isn't everything in life. Have to keep it balanced, make room for fun and social activities, things that make her feel good. I wish someone would have told me that when I could have made a difference.
 Don't leave out the fun. I wish I had more of it rather than work back then. & your sis is lucky to have such a caring big sister. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted June 10, 2012 03:30 PM
In my household, success is absolute and unconditional. Excellence is an expectation, and excuses are not accepted. Go big, or go home. Winners work hard, and whinning is for chumps. Everything we do, we do well and to the best of our abilities. The same thing applies to school, to sports, to our hobbies and our careers. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted June 10, 2012 06:38 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I paid for my own education. Every penny of it. Yes, my parents were wealthy, but I made my own money in stock market investments before I was 21, while the rest were in bars drinking their lives away, making sorry a$$ excuses about how unfair life is. In college, I had already made enough money to buy a house outright, without a loan. I worked internship jobs for free. I worked Saturdays and Sundays. All that just to enhance my resume and strengthen my professional connections, so that I could get the best job possible after graduation. I don't accept anything less than the best of everything
YTA, did you grow up in China or America? I thought you said China before but now it sounds more like America (or Western country like it). If it was China, could you explain how one is one's parents are rich and you can invest in the stock market? And did you go to college there or somewhere else? (And if you went to college in China would you say it's like colleges elsewhere? Sounds like it. But what difference does it make that there are so few women there?) I've always heard that China has a proud tradition of being a paradox, at least to Western sensibilities (in part because of influences by people like Laozi rather than Aristotle that brought about a completely different mindset regarding opposites and contradictions) and I've always been curious about this. I was amazed by the footage of a Cruxshadows concert (with scantily-clad dancers, among other things) in Beijing and couldn't help but notice how American the audience (mostly teens) looked in dress and concert behavior... ETA: speaking of that Cruxshadows concert, you can see the footage here, and if you (or anyone else) knows what that flag being waved at 1:02 (5:11 does a close up on it for a few seconds) is can you please tell me? 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZODMaH7R3Es IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted June 10, 2012 08:09 PM
I grew up in neither China nor America. I don't agree with society in China. Neither do I subscribe to the BS there. Most of all, I grew up detesting communism and everything it stands for. I served in a military that identified communists as the "enemy." I grew up in South East Asia in a Westernized country. English is my first language and was the only language spoken at home and with my friends. I grew up in a market economy as a capitalist, free to deploy my capital globally in whatever manner I saw fit. Yes, my parents were wealthy. My father was a multinational conglomerate CEO. Nonetheless, I repaid every penny I borrowed from him for my first year of college and subsequently funded all the rest of my education by myself. Yes, I invested in equities, but also in commodities, foreign exchange and debt instruments across the US, European and Asian markets. It helped that I had a girlfriend who was an even more successful investor than I was and she made me a considerable sum of money. I attended high school in the UK and college and graduate school in the US. I'm a citizen of the US and the UK, and no longer a citizen of the South East Asian country. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted June 10, 2012 11:31 PM
Ok, thanks. And yeah, now I recall it was SEA, I don't know how I got confused on that.IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows
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posted June 10, 2012 11:47 PM
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