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Topic: why all the fuss about having your own place?
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SaturnineMoth
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From: Saturn 9
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted December 04, 2012 03:25 PM
  
I like tuna just fine - but never had to survive on it.  hamachi/maguro nigiri (by the dozen - guilty pleasure) : toasted tuna & pickle sandwiches (I could have lived on... when I was preggo lol - but I was phobic of mercury poisoning, and listeria... really finicky diet regiment... but the cravings were almost intolerable for tuna...) ><; great now I'm hungry~ IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted December 04, 2012 03:50 PM
I've lived independently of my parents since the age of 13. Can't say it helped me grow up faster or whatnot. It just happened and now I'm not sure it was a good thing.IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted December 04, 2012 08:09 PM
I just recalled one of my favorite commercials ever (and I'm not even that big a fan of Star Trek):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l9FOhqb8dX4  IP: Logged |
SpooL
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posted December 04, 2012 11:27 PM
Well, In some places in Europe such as Spain were unemployment is high its almost okay and understandable. The parents understand the situation and are trying to help there children. In general families members try to help each other. In North America its a different story, there are a lot of dysfunctional families and parent-children relationships aren't as great compared to European families. A lot of children are glad to leave the nest at 18 or feel they have to because there parents may be difficult to deal with. Other reasons are pride, a domestic partner or more freedom. Off the record I still live at home, ironically I've saved enough living at home that I could put a down-payment on a home. I still may plan to live at home just because as soon as I finish school a lot of jobs in my field are either contracted or are gradually becoming contracted and are in different places. So I wouldn't be home half time and traveling all the time. You can't stay in one place anymore for the top job. ---------------------------------------
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SpooL
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posted December 04, 2012 11:39 PM
Also, it depends on the person. If the child is lazy and just mouthing of there parents that's one thing. If they live at home because there going to school or trying to save money that's a different story. My coworker that works in the next desk beside me is more of the lazy type, he's 30 and I found out last Thursday he wasted half of his yearly salary on another st*pid off-road jeep.
Non of us are permanent, he's just a tester generally that's an entry level position in the tech world. I wouldn't be bashing him if he was doing school, workshops or courses outside of work to move further and eventually leave home, but that's not the case. He's one of those 30 yrs old's that acts as if he 19 yrs old, lol.
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RedScorp
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted December 05, 2012 01:47 AM
My 22nd birthday will be spent in my own place, if not birthdays before that. I won't become a slob who depends on my mumma through life! I won't allow that of myself.  IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted December 05, 2012 02:10 AM
living with your parents past 18 or 21 doesnt automatically make you a moocher.... i work 2 jobs.... lots of days i work from 9 am to 10 or 11 at night, i rarely have a full day off, this friday will be the first day off i've had in like 2 weeks.i help pay bills and do house work, so how am i a lazy good for nothing lol? btw i plan to start school this fall and ultimately transfer to a university 2 hours away and live on campus.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 05, 2012 07:49 AM
Just do what you have to do. When you can, buy your own home. Rent if you need flexibility, but you'll have the last laugh when you have saved up for the downpayment on your first four bedroom two garage house and the others are still living in their silly rented bachelor pads.IP: Logged |
Londongirl8
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From: London
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 07, 2012 02:08 PM
I'm an Aquarian who loves my own space and company so buying my own place was the best thing I ever did. Also the idea of lining someone elses pocket with rent money didn't appeal to me. Having said that, I don't look down on anyone who rents as there are some people who do not want a mortgage .IP: Logged |
T
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posted December 07, 2012 07:47 PM
Saturnine Moth,  Sometimes you have to do what you have to do. It's nice to have some options & you know it won't be forever.In this day and age especially, there is nothing wrong with it. As you said, there will be plenty of time to live on your own one day. Hopefully not on ramen and tuna though. lol And especially not together. Blech! LOL IP: Logged |
T
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posted December 07, 2012 07:50 PM
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
My boyfriend lives with his parents still. I tease him about it, but not relentlessly . He DID live on his own/with roommates for two years. At least I know he's capable of being independent. Big turnoff if they're not.
I do hear you there. It is a turn off if they are not, but if it's clear that they are successful or working towards being, then there could be some exceptions. Don't think I could live with a guy who lived with his parents his whole life at this point. IP: Logged |
T
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posted December 07, 2012 07:51 PM
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Originally posted by sand:
^i actually really like tuna lol! I even order it. The belly.
You really have to dress up the canned stuff to make it taste good. Give me some good sashimi any day of the week.
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T
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posted December 07, 2012 07:57 PM
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Originally posted by sand:
Things I miss living alone. Exercising in your underwear. Yes in front of big a$$ mirror. Things I miss living alone with somebody else. Wash the dishes sex. Do the laundry sex. Take out the garbage se.. Ok I never got that! the nooner that lasts till u have dinner reservations. Le sigh.. Things I miss living with people/ roommates. Their weirdness. That anything could happen on a Friday night. In terms of family, the meals. Definitely better food than when it is just me. I prefer listing the good stuff.
After living alone for so many years it really would be a struggle, or uncomfortable to have a roommate. It'd have to really be the right one. The things that were fun about having a roommate(s) when I was younger, and did, no longer seem like they'd be fun or cute now. Especially when one of your roommates is a partier - which i used to not have much of a problem with (on nights that I was up for fun too), but sometimes it would get out of control. It's not fun when you want to go to bed and get up early, but your roomie comes home with twenty people from the bar and you have to try to drown out their voices, music and loud drunkenness with your pillows. I'm too old for that sh!t now. Glad I have expenereinced a wide variety of roommates in my day, but don't want to go thru it all again, really. IP: Logged |
T
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posted December 07, 2012 08:35 PM
I miss having someone to share expenses/bills with. That's it. It's too hard on your own right now. Survival in this world as a single person is not easy. For many of us anyway.IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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posted December 07, 2012 09:27 PM
As long as the parents can afford it and one is not mooching and contributes to the utilities, food, and other household expenses,
and chores.
I was on my own from age 15 partially, then completely at age 17.
With 12 people in 3 small 10x12 feet bedrooms, sharing 4 beds;
well home was miserable to say the least.
Shared bathing, using dirty water was revolting but with 12 people well water was rationed. Yucky.
In good weather I bathed under the water spouts from the rain gutters or in the local creek, or at the school showers.
I more often than not slept in the dirt floor cellar on slab wood and coal on army blankets and burlap bags and tended the huge old wood/coal furnace on cold Winter nights.
Yeah, not glamorous but cozy and warm and PRIVATE!
So as soon as I could leave and go out on my own, I did it!
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sand
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From: In the garden of evil
Registered: May 2011
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posted December 08, 2012 12:14 AM
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Originally posted by T:
After living alone for so many years it really would be a struggle, or uncomfortable to have a roommate. It'd have to really be the right one.The things that were fun about having a roommate(s) when I was younger, and did, no longer seem like they'd be fun or cute now. Especially when one of your roommates is a partier - which i used to not have much of a problem with (on nights that I was up for fun too), but sometimes it would get out of control. It's not fun when you want to go to bed and get up early, but your roomie comes home with twenty people from the bar and you have to try to drown out their voices, music and loud drunkenness with your pillows. I'm too old for that sh!t now. Glad I have expenereinced a wide variety of roommates in my day, but don't want to go thru it all again, really.
T u can room with me! I will behave and follow ur orders! oh and we will get a dishwasher to avoid that tension by the sink!  IP: Logged |
T
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posted December 08, 2012 01:52 AM
...or we could NOT get a dishwasher and argue over who's turn it is and then make up over it and argue about it, again and again. just a thought. might be fun to go about it that way! IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted December 08, 2012 02:00 AM
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Originally posted by T:
Just wrote you, teasel.
I will write back! I'm having trouble with my email on this computer, and I've just found out that mine isn't fixable.  IP: Logged |
sand
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From: In the garden of evil
Registered: May 2011
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posted December 08, 2012 02:41 AM
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Originally posted by T:
...or we could NOT get a dishwasher and argue over who's turn it is and then make up over it and argue about it, again and again. just a thought. might be fun to go about it that way!
I will wash all the dishes the first few months and then bam neglect! #taurusmen IP: Logged |
T
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posted December 08, 2012 04:17 AM
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Originally posted by teasel:
I will write back! I'm having trouble with my email on this computer, and I've just found out that mine isn't fixable.
NoooooOOOOO Well, it seems you read what I wrote anyway and will be able to get back to me either way! I'll be here. x  IP: Logged |
T
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posted December 08, 2012 04:20 AM
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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
As long as the parents can afford it and one is not mooching and contributes to the utilities, food, and other household expenses,
and chores.
I was on my own from age 15 partially, then completely at age 17.
With 12 people in 3 small 10x12 feet bedrooms, sharing 4 beds;
well home was miserable to say the least.
Shared bathing, using dirty water was revolting but with 12 people well water was rationed. Yucky.
In good weather I bathed under the water spouts from the rain gutters or in the local creek, or at the school showers.
I more often than not slept in the dirt floor cellar on slab wood and coal on army blankets and burlap bags and tended the huge old wood/coal furnace on cold Winter nights.
Yeah, not glamorous but cozy and warm and PRIVATE!
So as soon as I could leave and go out on my own, I did it!
Sorry Lexx... in my flirting frenzy with sand, i missed this post before. There isnt much I can say to ease those memories, but I will send you a big cyber hug anyway. Hope you feel it.
Love to you.
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T
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posted December 08, 2012 04:24 AM
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Originally posted by sand:
I will wash all the dishes the first few months and then bam neglect! #taurusmen
Well...dishwashers can be expensive. I think i'd rather argue about it and watch you do them for the first few months....at least. lol :P hold on.....we are sounding more like a married couple than roommates now.....hahaha IP: Logged |
sand
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posted December 08, 2012 05:24 AM
T.. I do! IP: Logged |
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