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PlutoSquared
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posted January 28, 2011 10:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PlutoSquared     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I do. Just wondering who else is like me...

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Randall
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posted January 28, 2011 11:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I love being single...but I also thrive in the relationship thing very well.

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coconutcancermoon
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posted January 28, 2011 11:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for coconutcancermoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's easier for me to be single since its hard for me to open up to people and maintain close relationships.

But I enjoy being in one too

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NickiG
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posted January 28, 2011 11:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i enjoy being free and not having to worry about anyone but me when single but i also love being in love and i know what i want in my love life even at such a young age

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remixel-pixelpixie
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posted January 29, 2011 12:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for remixel-pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I remember loving being single. It hasn't happened in a long time and likely won't again... but I remember loving it.

But then again, I would have loved to have met my 'mate' when I was single- so I was always open to that. Searching, loving people, looking for the 'right one'...and always having a 'friend' to help with the parts i needed...ahem.

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AcousticGod
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posted January 29, 2011 02:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I like being single. Keeps things easy. The easiest life a person could have is being a monk or a hermit completely away from people. No one could p!ss you off or cause any kind of drama for you.

That said, I can envision a pretty fantastic life with a mate. I can imagine saying to this woman, "Isn't our life amazing?" With the right woman, I believe my married life could be as simple and easy as my single life. There have got to be practical, fun loving, soulful, creative, dynamic, dreamer women out there.

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Ami Anne
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posted January 29, 2011 02:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
AG
You are so cute. You express yourself in such a simple ,direct way.
That must be the Sag part of you

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LEXX
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posted January 29, 2011 03:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do I like being single?
Yes and no.
It does get lonely though.
However,
I have learned by my mistakes/experiences;
that it is better to be alone, and even feel lonely at times, rather than to be/feel lonely and alone whilst in a relationship.

Been there done that, not going to put myself through such again.
Resignation and apathy do not make for a good relationship.
Accepting just good enough is not good enough.
I used to think it was OK,
Like, each failed relationship was....this is fine, probably cannot do better,
just accept that it may be the best I'll ever have......
loaded with those insidious fears of being forever alone......
but in retrospect, it all sucked.
Unbalanced relationships suck.
And loving someone does not mean they feel the same or as deeply.
If concepts of what is love do not match,
are not mutually expressed by action.....well
the relationship is doomed to fail in time.
Tired of paying too high a price, too many self sacrifices, with not much more benefits than a another body around to warm a bed.
I can use cats or electric blankets and a body pillow for all that.


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Every difficulty slurred over will be a ghost to disturb your repose later on.
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Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted.
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LEXX
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posted January 29, 2011 03:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by AcousticGod:
I like being single. Keeps things easy. The easiest life a person could have is being a monk or a hermit completely away from people. No one could p!ss you off or cause any kind of drama for you.

That said, I can envision a pretty fantastic life with a mate. I can imagine saying to this woman, "Isn't our life amazing?" With the right woman, I believe my married life could be as simple and easy as my single life. There have got to be practical, fun loving, soulful, creative, dynamic, dreamer women out there.


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I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate - it's apathy. It's not giving a damn.
-Leo Buscaglia
Every difficulty slurred over will be a ghost to disturb your repose later on.
-Frederic Chopin
Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted.
-Aldous Huxley

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Mblake81
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posted January 29, 2011 10:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mblake81     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"The easiest life a person could have is being a monk or a hermit completely away from people. No one could p!ss you off or cause any kind of drama for you."

The free time for letting the mind think is nice, It is a give and take depending on just yourself all the time.

I have to be around human contact some part of my day, I get sick when I do not have enough or too much.

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scorpio17
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posted January 29, 2011 01:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for scorpio17     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not always.

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coconutcancermoon
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posted January 29, 2011 02:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for coconutcancermoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by AcousticGod:
I like being single. Keeps things easy. The easiest life a person could have is being a monk or a hermit completely away from people. No one could p!ss you off or cause any kind of drama for you.

That said, I can envision a pretty fantastic life with a mate. I can imagine saying to this woman, "Isn't our life amazing?" With the right woman, I believe my married life could be as simple and easy as my single life. There have got to be practical, fun loving, soulful, creative, dynamic, dreamer women out there.


Aww

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PlutoSquared
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posted January 29, 2011 06:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PlutoSquared     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would like to include the things you CAN do when SINGLE:

1. Dress as comfortably as possible
2. Not worry about looking perfect all the time
3. Not worry about someone elses uncleanliness
4. Not worry about someone elses moodswings
5. Care most about your own motivations and desires
6. Talk to anyone, go anywhere, and not have reprocussions...
7. Structure your life towards your optimum best
8. Meet your other obligations without distraction
9. Did I mention wear ugly underware? just kidding, people ...

Sort of...

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ScorpioSMR
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posted January 30, 2011 02:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScorpioSMR     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I love being single

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Ami Anne
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posted January 30, 2011 03:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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ghanima81
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posted January 30, 2011 09:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ghanima81     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes.

It is much easier. I have enough drama with my ex. LOL.

My daughter and I do just fine without another person to worry about.

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Stawr
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posted February 05, 2011 02:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That is an awesome list PlutoSquared. True dat! lol

1&2: Well for me those 2 arn't true for me. I useally end up letting my self go and looking like a bum when I'm in a relationship. And my two longest relationships they wanted to make me feel bad if I did wanna look good going out. My older sister let me know that I shouldn't have to put up with that. So I'll make sure I wont next time.
3-8:

Oh yes my standards have raised a hella lot(lol) since my last relationship.
I feel like I get the message now the one you should be with makes your world a better place, and doesn't complicate your life.

I'm glad I'm single and getting my life on track now. I don't need any guy right now to distract or mess that up.

I just care about me, my friends, and family right now. Oh yeah and my Cat Bobby! And the Children of the world. lol
I would really prefer a potential guy to just be my friend first...and alot of guys fail at that. So then in my head I'm just thinking NEXT!!!

But yes, I am very content being single right now.
I would rather be single than with a douche.(I got that quote from Holly. From Holly's world on the E channel. lol yes I watch that kinda crap on TV
) So true, and so I feel about relationship status.

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Randall
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posted February 11, 2011 04:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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Mblake81
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posted February 12, 2011 06:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mblake81     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by coconutcancermoon:
It's easier for me to be single since its hard for me to open up to people and maintain close relationships.

But I enjoy being in one too


Honest, Self-Affirming

Now, You can go up. Remember if you ever need to go back, You have a safe place here. Honest/ Self-Affirming.

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Randall
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posted February 12, 2011 07:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Valentine's Day is my second fave holiday, so I hate being single then. I call it Single Awareness Day. I like to go all out on V Day and celebrate in obscenely massive proportions.

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ScorpioSMR
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posted February 12, 2011 08:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScorpioSMR     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Nevermind- not single anymore so my reply doesn't count. =)

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NativelyJoan
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posted November 14, 2011 08:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NativelyJoan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The truth is I don't ever really see myself as single. I'm just doing my own thing, walking along my own path. And I've got friends and family that add joy to my already enjoyable life.

For me it's not so much about having a partner, more about being able to be yourself around someone who knows you very well. If that's a mate cool, a cousin, sibling, old friend, it's like coming home to who you really are. And it's easy.

I'm a Libra and obviously it would be nice to share the world with solely one person but I'm okay with sharing it with the people in my life and all the other billions of people on this earth. As long as I have love, my world keeps spinning.

I do like to do things in pairs though....

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Voix_de_la_Mer
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posted November 15, 2011 03:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Voix_de_la_Mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I used to.
Until I met another alien like myself

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sand
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posted November 16, 2011 05:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sand     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
been single a few months. hate it LOL! i blame sun and venus in 7th..

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starfox
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posted November 16, 2011 05:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for starfox     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Pros : It gives me more time to work on my personal projects

Cons: I get lonely and you can't hug yourself without feeling rather silly.

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