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Topic: Are You Jealous?
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Randall
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From: The Goober Galaxy
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posted March 01, 2011 09:23 PM
  
Are you a jealous person? Have you ever dated anyone who wasn't jealous? How much jealousy is acceptable...and how much is too much? My brother's girlfriend controls the way he dresses, and she won't let him watch wrestling, because they have attractive women wrestlers for about five minutes of the two hours!IP: Logged |
SunChild
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posted March 01, 2011 09:57 PM
No I'm not at all.
My hubby watches the UFC, lots of boobies and bums from sexy girls... I just give him a wink when they show them up close for the viewing pleasure of males. I know he loves me and so I don't need to be jealous over anything... even if a sexy woman flirted with him, I wouldn't be jealous because I trust him and even if you could tell he enjoyed it, that would be controlling to try and deny him that. As an example.  lol However my ex was insanely jealous... insanely. ------------------
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Lei_Kuei
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posted March 01, 2011 10:30 PM
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TrueTaurus
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posted March 01, 2011 10:47 PM
Scorpio makes one jealous...come to think of it, it's mostly the fixed signs. Leo, Scorpio, and Taurus. Hahahaha. I'm not so sure of Aquarius though.
I am a jealous person. I get jealous if my guy watches porn or even hot women on television...  Oh well. Taurus/Scorpio/Cancer. IP: Logged |
TrueTaurus
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posted March 01, 2011 10:47 PM
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 01, 2011 10:47 PM
Lei
What are your placements?------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 02, 2011 04:52 AM
I had an ex that was extremely jealous to the point where he would tell me what I could or couldn’t wear because “other guys” will look at me, even had to quit modeling because some shoots would involve posing with another man. It was frustrating but I complied because I wanted him feeling secure. Later it dawned that I was being controlled, that and made me feel resentful towards him. Wearing what HE wanted me to wear was taking away from my individualism and quitting modeling was making me give up something I enjoyed. His jealousy and issues were being projected onto me. It wasn’t fair to either of us. It caused more problems and made us both unhappy. Frankly I was never the jealous type. When another women flirted or made eyes at my guy (referring to past) it wouldn’t bother me in the least because I felt secure and there was that trust. In the recent past I felt my first surge of jealousy. Not the most pleasant feeling at all and definitely an emotion I wouldn’t want to experience ever again. I was up front about it and told him. It was hard to place where it was stemming from or why at the time. After openly discussing it I realized it was my own insecurities (as we’re in different countries at the moment). After the talk I felt much better  thus communicating with your partner is important. Holding in negative emotions will only hurt the relationship and we can’t expect the other to read our minds. I am grateful that my current partner is very understanding and always willing to listen and work through issue if one arises. In short jealousy is a fear of losing someone, well the illusion of losing a loved one. You need to ask yourS-elf why you are feeling that way and where is the root stemming from – that is a start and don’t be afraid to talk to your partner about it.
Jealousy makes people behave irrationally and that is how your partner will view you, among other things if you don’t let them in. There should also be reasonable compromising. Anyhow that’s my two cents for now 
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LEXX
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posted March 02, 2011 11:31 AM
charmainec
OMG! That all so resonates to me in almost every way in what I experienced/felt/did/and the mitigating factors involved! 
And I agree...
very unpleasant  ....having only recently experienced it once for the first time myself.
"shudder"
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~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Nikola Tesla
~There is no box.~H♥
~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~
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LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted March 02, 2011 11:42 AM
PS.
Another person here at LL recently had a jealousy hit.
I did not know what to say to her because I had ALWAYS had my LOGIC to keep me grounded.
I was like......
"jealousy?
Illogical illogical illogical
Does NOT compute.
I do not understand at all!" 
Now I do understand. 
It is very illogical and exceedingly horribly ugly creepy nasty feeling and I was so shocked and utterly embarrassed over losing my logic. PS.
Your advice is great!  I did the same.
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~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Nikola Tesla
~There is no box.~H♥
~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~ IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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From: Pleasanton, CA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 02, 2011 11:48 AM
I think over the course of my life I've had the whole spectrum. However, I've never gone so far as trying to control someone. I just got upset. That was high school era, and I think that the actions were designed to make me jealous.The less sure of where I stand with a person would be the deciding factor for me, and if I couldn't ever figure it out where I stood with a person I'd take that as a sign that it's not working between us. Poor communication doesn't really work for me. In my last relationship I was never jealous. The topic came up in conversation between us, though. I think we were discussing open relationships or something, and we agreed that it would be very difficult to avoid jealousy in that kind of scenario. IP: Logged |
Frozen Queen
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From: 11th Dimension
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted March 02, 2011 12:15 PM
Wow, you go the opposite way...I was ultra jealous and possessive earlier, your stereotypical moody broody Scorpio but over the years, I learnt to control my jealousy and now it's almost gone. I might have a sudden twinge or two but it does not ruffle me and I do not let it get the better of my judgement I suppose Lexx and Charm have been very evolved souls from the start and the jealous episode was to re-Mind them of their humanity...sowwee, not meant to be sounding disparaging, just I've seen these kicks up my bum several times for the Universe but then I have been guilty of climbing up the high horse during my conscious evolution...even nowadays if I think, "I wouldn't," I get a gentle reminder that I would very much be capable of it. So now I have come to understand that I am capable of anything and everything, to do what I despise in another and the only reason that I don't is because I Choose otherwise. In other words I ACT when faced with a particular set of circumstances and not Re-ACT with my subconscious impulses. So I believe it is possible for all of us to temper ourselves. As a result I often forgo any judgement on behaviour the first time. But too much jealousy is very jarring to my nature and implies a lack of trust. It becomes too suffocating. ------------------
Ask Me anything. Anything. I will contrive to bring you the answer. The whole universe will I use to do this. So be on the lookout. This book is far from My only tool. You may ask a question, then put this book down. But watch. Listen. The words to the next song you hear. The information in the next article you read. The story line of the next movie you watch. The chance utterance of the next person you meet. Or the whisper of the next river, the next ocean, the next breeze that caresses your ear—all these devices are Mine; all these avenues are open to Me. I will speak to you if you will listen. I will come to you if you will invite Me. I will show you then that I have always been there. All ways.
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LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted March 02, 2011 12:36 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Frozen Queen:
Wow, you go the opposite way...I was ultra jealous and possessive earlier, your stereotypical moody broody Scorpio but over the years, I learnt to control my jealousy and now it's almost gone. I might have a sudden twinge or two but it does not ruffle me and I do not let it get the better of my judgement
Like I said,
(I am Scorpio too)
but oddly, I never understood jealousy before recently.
It was an alien, revolting and highly illogical concept to me. quote:
Originally posted by Frozen Queen:
I suppose Lexx and Charm have been very evolved souls from the start and the jealous episode was to re-Mind them of their humanity...sowwee, not meant to be sounding disparaging, just I've seen these kicks up my bum several times for the Universe but then I have been guilty of climbing up the high horse during my conscious evolution...even nowadays if I think, "I wouldn't," I get a gentle reminder that I would very much be capable of it.
Touche` 
I feel you are absolutely right!
I could not relate to or understand the pain of jealousy until very recently.
In fact, someone showing jealousy at me hurt and offended me, like,
"oh, so you do not trust me?"
Oh I still felt compassion but could not get what the drama was all about.
Now that I have received my "kick in the bum" LOL!
I totally understand!
I was not on a "high horse" though, not ego wise.
I simply and honestly could not understand. quote:
Originally posted by Frozen Queen:
So now I have come to understand that I am capable of anything and everything, to do what I despise in another and the only reason that I don't is because I Choose otherwise. In other words I ACT when faced with a particular set of circumstances and not Re-ACT with my subconscious impulses.So I believe it is possible for all of us to temper ourselves. As a result I often forgo any judgement on behaviour the first time. But too much jealousy is very jarring to my nature and implies a lack of trust. It becomes too suffocating.
Blessings and Love to you!  ------------------
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Nikola Tesla
~There is no box.~H♥
~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~ IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: The Goober Galaxy
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 02, 2011 01:10 PM
Zero jealousy here. Don't see the point in it.------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 02, 2011 01:20 PM
If I really love someone, I am jealous  ------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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PixieJane
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From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted March 02, 2011 01:33 PM
I'm not. I think in part it's because I was raised in an extended family and that caused me to grow into someone who expects people to have other people in their lives besides me. But I've noticed that some (not all) really jealous people (like my ex) were prone to cheating themselves.. IP: Logged |
LEXX
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posted March 02, 2011 02:05 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
Zero jealousy here. Don't see the point in it.
LOL!
Exactly my feeling
for over 56 years.....
absolutely NEVER jealous!
I saw no logical point in it.
Then very recently....
OMG!
HORRORS OF HORRORS! 
OUT OF THE BLUE........
WHAM!
Sooooo......
in my opinion, it can happen to anyone.
A little while ago, and for over 56 years;
I would have sworn on my soul that such an illogical emotion was completely impossible for me to ever have.
OH GODS WHAT A FREAKING WAKE UP CALL!
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I'm not. I think in part it's because I was raised in an extended family and that caused me to grow into someone who expects people to have other people in their lives besides me. But I've noticed that some (not all) really jealous people (like my ex) were prone to cheating themselves..
Same here, until my recent experience!
I AM STILL STUNNED AND DEEPLY EMBARRASSED! ------------------
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Nikola Tesla
~There is no box.~H♥
~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~ IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 02, 2011 02:39 PM
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Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Frozen Queen
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From: 11th Dimension
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted March 02, 2011 03:47 PM
Aww Lexx No reason to be embarrassed...just the Universe having fun. I call it a Cosmic Joke for precisely this reason I don't think you've been on a high horse but I sure was...it is funny to me when I see the same behaviour in others now to remember how I was the same not too long ago. Makes me compassionate towards them ------------------
Ask Me anything. Anything. I will contrive to bring you the answer. The whole universe will I use to do this. So be on the lookout. This book is far from My only tool. You may ask a question, then put this book down. But watch. Listen. The words to the next song you hear. The information in the next article you read. The story line of the next movie you watch. The chance utterance of the next person you meet. Or the whisper of the next river, the next ocean, the next breeze that caresses your ear—all these devices are Mine; all these avenues are open to Me. I will speak to you if you will listen. I will come to you if you will invite Me. I will show you then that I have always been there. All ways.
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popcorn
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posted March 02, 2011 03:53 PM
I'm not jealous and dont like jealous men. I run if I meet jealous men.IP: Logged |
ScorpioSMR
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posted March 05, 2011 12:41 AM
My scorpio placements behave very nicely...especially with my libra placements keeping them in check. IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: The Goober Galaxy
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posted March 06, 2011 11:01 PM
Is jealousy rooted in insecurity?IP: Logged |
Mblake81
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posted March 06, 2011 11:07 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
Is jealousy rooted in insecurity?
Its the right area to look for it Randall. IP: Logged |
charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
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posted March 07, 2011 01:01 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
Is jealousy rooted in insecurity?
Yes.I stated that in my post. IP: Logged |
EverEvolvingSpirit
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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
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posted March 07, 2011 02:37 AM
quote:
Originally posted by SunChild:
No I'm not at all.
My hubby watches the UFC, lots of boobies and bums from sexy girls... I just give him a wink when they show them up close for the viewing pleasure of males. I know he loves me and so I don't need to be jealous over anything... even if a sexy woman flirted with him, I wouldn't be jealous because I trust him and even if you could tell he enjoyed it, that would be controlling to try and deny him that. As an example. lol However my ex was insanely jealous... insanely.
Wow, I would love to be this way IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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From: Maine
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posted March 07, 2011 10:42 AM
Insecurity is one big factor, but the root is trust, or lack thereof. IP: Logged |
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