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Topic: Female Opinions Needed!
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scorpio17 Knowflake Posts: 756 From: Netherlands Registered: Dec 2009
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posted March 23, 2011 04:03 PM
I am here! I'm running to you and hold on to you like a little monkey. LOL, I am in a crazy mood.IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 12345 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 30, 2011 11:47 PM
Haha! I just now saw that!IP: Logged |
abcd efg Knowflake Posts: 1118 From: India Registered: Mar 2011
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posted June 22, 2011 10:44 AM
quote: Originally posted by Quinnie: OMG! I am so afraid of compliments it's unreal! I analyse every word of it...I think I just get confused by language and communication so much that I barely trust it. Like my family call all their daughters beautiful all the time without any kind of discernment. I understand the sentimentality but I really get confused whether or not they actually mean it for real this time. Then there are the times when guys purposefully do NOT compliment girls because they either think they get complimented all the time or they like to refrain from doing so because it gives them power over her...(and vice versa) Then there are girls who are being bitchy, who will call girls beautiful or ugly and say the opposite behind their back! All sorts of communication... I now don't trust any of it.... Does anyone else relate to this or is it just me?
Ofcourse these things happen. So I don't give them much value. But when someone compliments i take it at face value, enjoy the moment and the compliment. Feel happy about it and leave it at that. Don't read anything into it. Just enjoy it. IP: Logged |
StelliumH6 Knowflake Posts: 276 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted June 22, 2011 06:09 PM
How would you describe a 'hot' woman?IP: Logged |
pixelpixie Knowflake Posts: 452 From: ON Canada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 23, 2011 09:27 AM
Are you still looking for female opinions Randall?IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 20953 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 23, 2011 09:32 AM
quote: Originally posted by StelliumH6: How would you describe a 'hot' woman?
Interesting question ------------------ Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality Jung I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine. Song of Solomen He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city Proverbs IP: Logged |
sand Knowflake Posts: 1408 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted June 23, 2011 11:14 AM
i like cute/pretty. would be my fav of the three. i always get sexy. now i'm not complaining lol but iz not my first choice. beautiful is hard to come by. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 12345 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 23, 2011 01:09 PM
Yes, opinions are always welcome.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie Knowflake Posts: 452 From: ON Canada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 23, 2011 01:51 PM
I've been in the 'beauty industry' my entire adult life. It's quite an industry. I am equally entranced by the face paints and possibilities as I am repulsed by the ads with the children pimping 'anti-wrinkle' creams. It's quite simplistic when you break it down. I feel like my role is not just ' here, use this cream because of this reason' , it is also to act as 'bartender'- I am an empathic listener, a barometer, a yardstick, an educator, and a creator of beauty. I am in a unique position in many ways.Women's relationships with themselves are complex and massive. I am at once, cute, beautiful and sexy..... I am cute when I play a silly game with my chubby cheeked pre schooler. I am beautiful when my husband looks at me with love, and reminds me with a look that beauty really does come from within, a glow- but also when he tells me what a lucky man he is. I am sexy in the times that follow . Or if he catches a glimpse of leg in the car, as my skirt rides up, or even making dinner. The little things. All have value and validity. That said- I have had many admirers in my life. Usually they'll start out 'liking my looks'....or that 'something about me'..that quality everyone possesses (to the right onlooker) But always, when they get to know me, I won't ever just be 'the sexy one' or 'the beautiful one' or 'the cute one'. I am just One....multi-facetted. Multi-skilled, Multi-loved woman. Thank God for goddesses! IP: Logged |
StelliumH6 Knowflake Posts: 276 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted June 23, 2011 08:20 PM
Ami~ HahaI am thinking a hot female would be considered more of a sexual play toy. ?? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 20953 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 23, 2011 08:48 PM
quote: Originally posted by StelliumH6: Ami~ HahaI am thinking a hot female would be considered more of a sexual play toy. ??
Well, I have been thinking about this all day.Men do not always like the most beautiful woman. I think that is it how they FEEL with a woman. I have observed that the most desired woman is not always the most beautiful OR the sexiest but there is something else. I am still thinking on it. It is a work in progress ------------------ Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality Jung I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine. Song of Solomen He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city Proverbs IP: Logged |
StelliumH6 Knowflake Posts: 276 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted June 23, 2011 09:53 PM
Ami, I like what you said - I think it is how they FEEL with that woman.Chemistry! (The "something else") Astrology/Synastry perhaps IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 20953 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 24, 2011 02:22 AM
quote: Originally posted by StelliumH6: Ami, I like what you said - I think it is how they FEEL with that woman.Chemistry! (The "something else") Astrology/Synastry perhaps
Well,Stellium I think it is beyond chemistry cuz chemistry is biological. I feel what I want to say but can't express it right lol I will think about it some more and be back. ------------------ Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality Jung I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine. Song of Solomen He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city Proverbs IP: Logged |
kanwalratan Newflake Posts: 18 From: Dhanbad,Jharkhand,India Registered: May 2011
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posted July 21, 2011 06:49 AM
is masturbation right?IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 7946 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2011 07:50 AM
quote: Originally posted by kanwalratan: is masturbation right?
It is your body so enjoy! Very healthy and nothing wrong with doing it at all.------------------ ~Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you ♥ ~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла ~There is no box.~H♥ ~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~ IP: Logged |
kanwalratan Newflake Posts: 18 From: Dhanbad,Jharkhand,India Registered: May 2011
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posted July 21, 2011 01:34 PM
does it work against enlightenment and physical immortality?IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 7946 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2011 01:44 PM
quote: Originally posted by kanwalratan: does it work against enlightenment and physical immortality?
Of course not. However this is NOT the topic of this thread. Please stay on topic. ------------------ ~Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you ♥ ~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла ~There is no box.~H♥ ~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~ IP: Logged |
Saraintheski Knowflake Posts: 547 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 21, 2011 07:52 PM
Iv'e gotten every compliment and every insult on the face of the earth beautiful to weird but pretty, cute to flawless to fat and ugly ...I can accept it all what matters most on compliments to me as when the person i'm with notices one thing about me and it drives them wild. I'd rather be told how i'm oddly beautiful or someone told me I had an old world beauty I would rather be that then some cheap looking person who thinks that a lot of cheesy cosmetics (altho i love makeup) and cliche things are sexy ....Also it really comes from the inside on good days when I get sleep I feel like I can show the venus (libra)/Aphrodite ( Taurus) within lol isn't that a razor commercial ...IP: Logged |
Saraintheski Knowflake Posts: 547 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 21, 2011 07:52 PM
Iv'e gotten every compliment and every insult on the face of the earth beautiful to weird but pretty, cute to flawless to fat and ugly ...I can accept it all what matters most on compliments to me as when the person i'm with notices one thing about me and it drives them wild. I'd rather be told how i'm oddly beautiful or someone told me I had an old world beauty I would rather be that then some cheap looking person who thinks that a lot of cheesy cosmetics (altho i love makeup) and cliche things are sexy ....Also it really comes from the inside on good days when I get sleep I feel like I can show the venus (libra)/Aphrodite ( Taurus) within lol isn't that a razor commercial ...IP: Logged |
Saraintheski Knowflake Posts: 547 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 21, 2011 07:53 PM
Iv'e gotten every compliment and every insult on the face of the earth beautiful to weird but pretty, cute to flawless to fat and ugly ...I can accept it all what matters most on compliments to me as when the person i'm with notices one thing about me and it drives them wild. I'd rather be told how i'm oddly beautiful or someone told me I had an old world beauty I would rather be that then some cheap looking person who thinks that a lot of cheesy cosmetics (altho i love makeup) and cliche things are sexy ....Also it really comes from the inside on good days when I get sleep I feel like I can show the venus (libra)/Aphrodite ( Taurus) within lol isn't that a razor commercial ...IP: Logged |
Saraintheski Knowflake Posts: 547 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 21, 2011 07:53 PM
Iv'e gotten every compliment and every insult on the face of the earth beautiful to weird but pretty, cute to flawless to fat and ugly ...I can accept it all what matters most on compliments to me as when the person i'm with notices one thing about me and it drives them wild. I'd rather be told how i'm oddly beautiful or someone told me I had an old world beauty I would rather be that then some cheap looking person who thinks that a lot of cheesy cosmetics (altho i love makeup) and cliche things are sexy ....Also it really comes from the inside on good days when I get sleep I feel like I can show the venus (libra)/Aphrodite ( Taurus) within lol isn't that a razor commercial ...IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 12345 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2011 07:54 PM
Do you have the hiccups?------------------ "To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing." Aristotle IP: Logged |
Saraintheski Knowflake Posts: 547 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted July 21, 2011 09:19 PM
quote: Originally posted by Randall: Do you have the hiccups?
Lol oopsy it posted a couples times sorry ...
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MoonWitch Moderator Posts: 848 From: The Beach Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2011 11:29 PM
I love pixie. She stated things so eloquently.When I was a teenager, I was 5'10" and a half inches tall and weight 125 pounds. I wanted to be a model because that's what tall, unreasonably skinny girls tend to do in large cities. I had some pictures taken and went to a few agencies where I was told: "Too all- American" "Not exotic enough" "Too Christie Brinkley" "Nostrils aren't perfectly symmetrical" "A$$ is too big" "Hair is too short" "B00bs are too small" "Feet are too big" "Too pale" "Too many freckles" "Dye your hair darker" "Bleach your hair" "Get implants" I was approached one night by a modeling scout. I had been approached many times before by creepy guys claiming to be modeling scouts but this guy actually turned out to be one and worked for one of the largest modeling agencies in the world. I went to a huge posh party filled with models and photographers where he introduced me to everyone as his 'next big thing' and that his commission was going to be another Rolex and he was extremely pleased with himself. I made an appointment to see him the next day at the agency with my father because I wasn't 18 yet. I was told when I showed up that they would LOVE to sign me but at 125 pounds with a BMI of less than 18 which is underweight, I was too heavy and if I lost 10 pounds I'd be able to get work.
It became a mute point anyway because my father wouldn't sign any contracts at the last minute but the thought that they wanted me to be 115 pounds still sticks with me... especially now that I'm in the upper normal range of BMI's. I struggle with this almost every single day. I guess this stuff was pushed into my face in a very specific and personal way at a vulnerable age but - We, as women - ALL OF US - are accosted by media daily... hourly... constantly showing us what the 'ideal' is and for 98% of us it's not what we were born with. Even for the 'perfect' ones there is always something wrong with them. They're 5 pounds too heavy. They have to wax their unibrow. They have to shave their big toe. They were genetically blessed with cellulite even while underweight. Websites, tv shows, radio... we hear about these famous beautiful women that were seen at the beach looking absolutely HIDEOUS because they enjoyed their Christmas holidays and gained a couple pounds. Look at that one with her undyed roots! She's really letting herself go! Or so and so celebrity had a baby 48 hours ago and she's in a bikini on the catwalk. Nevermind she has personal trainers, personal chefs and an army to help her with make up, hair and caring for the baby. Suddenly, people are looking at the rest of the new moms saying "Hey... if she can't do it why are you so fat a month later?" And don't get me started on the people that go on and on about how FAT and horrible Khloe Kardashian is when she looks perfectly normal weight to me. There's some website that has a special every week about who used to be hot but is now a total fugly zero. It's almost all women and all of them are 20 or 30 years older than they used to be. Picture one is from the 80's and photoshopped to heck and picture two is the same person last week walking down Hollywood Blvd. with no make up on. HELLO. We all age. It's like if we're not younger than 30 or a "MILF" or "Cougar" then we don't have much value in society's eyes. Female politicians are judge by their looks. There can be 50 ugly old guys but they are powerful and it doesn't matter what they look like so no one notices. One older female politician comes in without a perfect figure and botox and that is most of what is commented about. Who cares what her issues are or what's coming out of her mouth? Let's give all the attention to cute Sarah Palin instead even though she has a vacuum between her ears. EYE CANDY! Sure, keep talking as long as you stay trim and wear a tight skirt. We'll just shake our heads and laugh. Maybe pat you on the head. Prince William? Not hot. Maybe sort of cute in some light but not really because he looks like his dad. No one cares. BUT OOOOH Kate is beautiful because she's so skinny and perfect and a size 0. Imagine if she had been a size 12 and plain... oh poor William. I could brush it off as men being more 'visual' and women being more 'cerebral' but some women are just as if not more vicious than men are against women so I just don't know. I think I could go on and on about this... Even the most confident woman can easily waver with constant bombardment. I have days where I feel like a goddess. I have days where I feel cute and perky. There are days when I am a master seductress. There are days when I'm strong, unstoppable, ambitious, smart and irresistible. And, unfortunately, there are days when I am too fat, too old, too jiggly, too frumpy and no amount of pep talk or make up will change it. That's when I just need to put out "Bridget Jones" on DVD or roll up with a good book on the beach (with a cover-up, of course) until the mood passes. IP: Logged |
kanwalratan Newflake Posts: 18 From: Dhanbad,Jharkhand,India Registered: May 2011
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posted July 21, 2011 11:55 PM
sorry....just found this and posted,but thanks for helping! IP: Logged |