posted June 30, 2012 04:30 PM            

I recall growing up that I was advised that it was just as easy to fall in love with a rich guy as a poor guy so I should hang around the men with money. That is to say, money and success wasn't sexy but it was convenient. IOW, it was something else that was sexy while the money/success was more of a standard, which at best simply excluded (or tried to) people who didn't meet up with certain standards and at worst actually turned one into a gold digger who either rejected love or had no real idea what it was. (And of course there are so many real life stories of women who marry for money but have a lover on the side because the money inspires neither passionate love nor lust, only her desire for nice things.)

Just to be clear I'd like to say that my idea of what it means to fall in love is in line to Spike in Buffy the Vampire Slayer when he says, "Real love isn't brains, children. It's blood. It's blood screaming inside you to work its will." Or put another way you can decide you're going to be with someone successful or whatever but that's not true love, that's more a game plan ("brains") to advance on someone else's coattails (or, if successful yourself, to not feel taken advantage of and/or as part of an image) as opposed to inspiring passion ("sexy").

posted June 30, 2012 06:13 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I was also curious about "success" (which I presume to mean as most Americans in terms of money, though I realize that's not necessarily so) as well. Is it the confidence it inspires? Or the security it seems to promise?

I recall growing up that I was advised that it was just as easy to fall in love with a rich guy as a poor guy so I should hang around the men with money. That is to say, money and success wasn't sexy but it was convenient. IOW, it was something else that was sexy while the money/success was more of a standard, which at best simply excluded (or tried to) people who didn't meet up with certain standards and at worst actually turned one into a gold digger who either rejected love or had no real idea what it was. (And of course there are so many real life stories of women who marry for money but have a lover on the side because the money inspires neither passionate love nor lust, only her desire for nice things.)

Just to be clear I'd like to say that my idea of what it means to fall in love is in line to Spike in Buffy the Vampire Slayer when he says, "Real love isn't brains, children. It's blood. It's blood screaming inside you to work its will." Or put another way you can decide you're going to be with someone successful or whatever but that's not true love, that's more a game plan ("brains") to advance on someone else's coattails (or, if successful yourself, to not feel taken advantage of and/or as part of an image) as opposed to inspiring passion ("sexy").

That is to ask...is success (or money, whatever) actually sexy (and if so, is it the confidence it inspires) or is it simply a standard?

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posted June 30, 2012 11:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
AND at least one college degree! Education is sexy so is success ^_^

Aren't you Aries Mars, Lioness? lol

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Hate to be a link dropper but:

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum32/HTML/000106.html

posted July 01, 2012 05:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
No hon.. I'm a leo mars.. But close

A degree isn't necessary for me.. But having goals is.. I don't really care abt money.. I would rather have a guy that goes after his.dreams..
but I have an earth void..

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posted July 01, 2012 05:34 AM            

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Originally posted by Xodian:
Hate to be a link dropper but:

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum32/HTML/000106.html

If you guys/gals are attending or have attended a post secondary institution, please contribute .

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posted July 01, 2012 03:46 PM            

As far as looks go I think yes we’re all human and we notice the way people look, and physical attraction is often a motivating factor in trying to get to know someone romantically but what’s beyond a persons looks is far more important for maintaining the relationship and determining if people are actually compatible or not…

posted July 01, 2012 10:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Hahaha, close indeed, but do you have Sun conj Mars? Dunno why but I got a distinct Aries vibe from you ^_^
Oh.. the degree in my case is totally necessary, I'm a bit of a snob and I went ahead and got 2.. so I need him to have at least one.. Though I agree it doesn't prove all that much, sometimes it's just a piece of paper. But I value education and would like someone same as me in this respect.
Ohh.. I thought I didn't care much about money (which I don't think I do) BUT.. crazy ex-Libra asked me for cab money and money to go out with the guys.. and I ended up paying for food, trips, expenses.. He didn't even friggin get me a Christmas gift though he knew what I wanted and I bought HIM a nice sorta pricey perfume... Ha! So in the light of this experience, I say he should at least have enough to support himself. I am not high maintenance so don't need a billionaire. But asking me for money is lame (I mean repeatedly).

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I do have Sun conjunct Mars, but its wide.. So it shouldnt be to powerful its 10 orbs..
So barely barely considering it a conjunction..
I do have Aries intercepted (I think thats what its called) in H1 though.. Maybe thats it.

I think the 2 people should be equal.. But of course not always, But for the most part the two partners should be equals..

I guy with goals, is good.. Yes of course he should be able to support him self.. I support myself...
I would rather a guy that loves his job and lives check to check, verses a millionaire who hates his job..
If someone hates their job, their just miserable in all aspects of life in general..

posted July 02, 2012 03:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
I would rather a guy that loves his job and lives check to check, verses a millionaire who hates his job..
If someone hates their job, their just miserable in all aspects of life in general..

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posted July 08, 2012 12:48 AM            

So if most other people easily feel chemistry, or at least attraction, then I can see how my question was confusing. Sorry about that.

posted July 08, 2012 03:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
^ I wanna be a cougar when I grow up! mew :3

LOL jk
that pic is a lil creepy.. i might delete it in a min.

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posted July 24, 2012 04:13 AM            

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Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma.

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posted July 24, 2012 05:36 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
I'm very generous with my partners and don't mind sharing. But in the case of my crazy Libra ex (I say crazy Libra coz there were 2 Libras, the crazy one and the spineless one), it really seemed like he was taking advantage of me and I may be foolish once, but not twice.

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posted August 07, 2012 01:49 AM            

As far as physical attraction goes - i like guys who are a little taller than me (5'6") but not too tall (over 6'2"), thin or lean, and DARK HAIR. Dark hair and relatively thin body type (relative to me, i'm chubby) are the only shared physical traits among the guys I've dated. I also gravitate toward darker skin..I don't like black guys, but I love me some middle eastern, latino, or southern european skin tones...

Other than that - I have no clue what it is. It's something in their mannerisms and attitude toward me. How they look at me. Ultimately it's an attraction that runs much deeper than the skin.

posted August 07, 2012 08:11 AM            

I do not care about how many degrees he has but with that being said I prefer an employed guy. NOT because I want his money, on the contrary I don't care about that either, but I like to know he's doing something with his life.

When he's respectful and thoughtful. Big turn-ons. Oh and if he is talented or skilled at something creative or even practical, don't get me started. I also love funny men and ones who are good at conversation. I like guys who do their own thing and don't need a ton of ego validation. Yes he must be true to himself, no bs. Smarts are always important

posted August 15, 2012 12:44 AM            

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and most of all if he has good heart.

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I second the good heart. And this is shown by his actions towards the people around him, his family, friends, colleagues, how he treats strangers, kids, animals. A man with a good heart goes to bed with a clear conscience & so this is also reflected in his body physically - clear eyes, smiles, confident, laughs, is interested in the world around him, its all reflected in his general aura. Hope that helps!