posted July 25, 2012 06:35 PM            

I swear sometimes men throw out random sh*t to confuse on purpose From experience what are some of the tell tale signs of being tested by a man?

posted July 25, 2012 07:08 PM            

A girlfriend of mine was telling me her guy checked out a girl right in front of her and rightly she pointed out that she didnt like it... Now he teases her about it and does it on purpose.

So Iam not sure if this is a test or not.. I think letting a man be a man is one thing... He can do all his macho crap with his buddies all he wants lol but checking out other woman in front of your girl is just rude and disrespectful. But anyways.... It got me thinking about some of the test woman in general play with men, like trying to make them jealous lol what are some of the tests men play on woman?

posted July 25, 2012 07:36 PM            

Nor would I put up with a man who did it.

I grew up with a male cousin who liked to tease me in many ways so some ways (like "sucking the brain" out of a crawdad so that the eyes disappeared was a favorite of his and used to gross me out a lot which made him laugh, though when a woman I brought back with me from California responded by doing the same thing he was delighted and took a liking to her). So I can handle being teased, but I wouldn't put up with that and if he insisted then he'd be gone.

I have heard that some men harass women as a test. Interesting enough some are masochists who WANT a woman to put him in his place and loves it when it happens and hating the women who tolerate his crude talk and advances. I'm not sure if that counts as a test or some sick game. He could conceivably be trying to find an "easy woman" and using the "for every 9 slaps I get one woman says yes" approach...

I recall someone posting a question on how women test men and gave an example of a guy saying where he wanted to sit at the cinema and she said she wanted them to sit somewhere else and was this a test, and if so, what was the right answer? Since women aren't all the same we couldn't say (I think I even asked for this hypothetical woman's chart to make a guess), as some women would want him to be all alpha while other women would want him to be considerate (and it may be, for example, she gets headaches watching 3D movies too close so wants to sit in the back...).

But just maybe it's the man who's testing her. Does he want her to prove to not be a pushover? Because plenty of women who are pushovers have a nasty habit of bitter gossip, passive aggressive revenge, making the partner making all the decisions and then being miserable because she refuses to say what she wants, and even exploding one day, and so some avoid the spineless for that reason, so to pass the test she'd have to stick to sitting somewhere else. OTOH, maybe he's testing her to see if she knows he wears the pants, in which case he's testing her to see if she needs to be dropped as someone who isn't spineless (or worse, "needs to be broken").

Personally I think it's a stupid test, for either a man or a woman to inflict on another, but it's conceivable that this test is actually done.

posted July 25, 2012 07:50 PM            

Iam going to look for that thread. Thanx for the tip!

Its a tight rope, because men will check out a pretty girl. Its in their nature. Just like woman check out a cute guy. But the difference i think is how you do it and where you draw the line...its diff for most.

For me... My guy will check out another girl. Sometimes i participate and sometimes i dont. I dont let it bother me. Thats just how he is. For my gf, it bothered her and she is really upset. And thinking about dumping him. I dunno. Its dumb to let something like this get to you. unless he is openly flirting in front of you with her then ok, but a quick look is nothing to make a mountain out of a mole hill.

posted July 25, 2012 08:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Junethird:
Hey creeper ( i mean that in a nice jokingly way, because of your other thread)

Thats a good one. Thanx for sharing. would a high number bother you? And woulda low number make you suspicious if she had skills in the bedroom?

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posted July 25, 2012 08:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Junethird:
Ok. U prefer low numbers lol and what about skills in the bedroom... If her skills surpassed that of a person with a low number?

Lol blame my mercury in gemini for my random question... Once an idea gets in my head i run with it

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posted July 25, 2012 08:41 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
if she supposedly wasnt experienced and gave the perfect blowjob it would definitely make me suspicious, also if she was willing to have sex too early it would be major redflag too. i'm really picky about sexual purity (moon conjunct vesta) and i take sex seriously and want someone who does as well.

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posted July 25, 2012 08:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Junethird:
I seeee. Sexual purity. Mmm.... But a bj is not hard to prefect lol being in a. Few longterm relationships gives you plenty of practice time, no?

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posted July 25, 2012 08:50 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
yea i guess. the biggest redflag is if she wants to jump in bed right away. to me that means she has done that with every guy before lol. i'm not the type to jump right in, to me you should know you have something before going that far.

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posted July 25, 2012 09:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Junethird:
And what wouldyou consider having sex too early? Ok i get not the very first meet and greet date... But whats wrong with going with the moment? I want to find out asap if we match up sexually, if not its a waste of my time lol.

I dated a guy who didnt know how to kiss at all.. No clue how to make out properly... I should have gone with my gut on that one. It completely turned me off, but i talked myself into thinking maybe it was nerves and with a little guidance it would be fine. Nope. Sexwise, bleh. The worst.

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posted July 25, 2012 09:21 PM            

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lol thats something that annoys me about
women, they think too much about skills and such, to man generally a kiss is a kiss, sex is sex. we dont sit and discuss how bad of a kisser a woman is like women do about men, our conversations are generally like this "guys, i totally made out with amy last night, awesome dude (high five). i kinda wish women would keep that stuff to theirselves. lmao. it puts alot of pressure on us to perform. i remember one girl i dated started grilling me about kissing when we were still in the talking phase, started talking all about skill and such and it made me insecure and ruined the first kiss for me

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That bites... Not cool. No, no grilling on my part lol. Just tried to nudge him gently... Kinda like no, like this and then showing him lol but it didnt work.. I went with his way and it wasnt good for me.

But when you know what you like and what gets you going, whats wrong with saying so?

posted July 25, 2012 09:25 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[b] That bites... Not cool. No, no grilling on my part lol. Just tried to nudge him gently... Kinda like no, like this and then showing him lol but it didnt work.. I went with his way and it wasnt good for me.
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posted July 25, 2012 09:28 PM            

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i'm not talking about that, thats fine. thats trying to be helpful.i'm talking about bringing up skills of ex boyfriends. because from then on it puts alot of pressure to perform. i dont want to feel like i'm in a competion with anybody, it shouldnt be that way lol.

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posted July 25, 2012 09:31 PM            

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[/b] In that case, you are right. And i agree. Never compare skills to a past ex. Vocally to your current partner.

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posted July 25, 2012 09:35 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i mean she can do it all she wants but dont tell me about it lol. i dont need to second guess myself more then i already do lol .

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posted July 25, 2012 09:45 PM            

As long as they are not bird like pecks to replace hot tongue action. You are fine.

Start slow or ask her to show you how she likes to be kissed

I like to do that for fun and spice things up... Iam like kiss me passionately and let him go to it and then respond accordingly.

posted July 25, 2012 11:58 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
My wife had the ultimate low number: zero. Honestly, that's the way I like it. But then, the learning process was rather quick and she went from clueless to porn star.

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