posted September 03, 2012 08:48 PM            

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Originally posted by PhoenixFire:
There are female players too, I used to be one I don't know if it's just about having the power to charm, vs not having any game. Maybe it's about the why, the motivation behind the games. for myself it wasn't just because I could, it was more about the challenge and fruit of success. As I matured the games of conquest just got boring. A serious and loving union w one person became much more interesting

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posted September 04, 2012 06:33 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
But it's true. Doesn't hurt to be well mannered, have etiquette and not come on strong.

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AMEN to that.

posted September 04, 2012 06:40 AM            

I think that a big chunk of the problem is that people don't want to believe that something is "off" about a person and that they don't trust themselves when they know deep down that someone is no good. Gavin de Becker addresses this in "The Gift of Fear". Being cynical and suspicious can literally save a woman's life. The bad apples that I talked about earlier will often set off alarm bells, but sometimes those bells are ignored and dismissed. So, it's not only good to be able to hear them, but also to listen to them and behave accordingly.

posted September 04, 2012 03:12 PM            

I think being suspicious is already a bad sign. Being cautious is ok and healthy in my opinion, but thats it. Maybe im naive but its much better to be positive about someone until they are found guilty... i think the best way is to get know the person as much as you can. To know about their past, about their beliefs, etc. And to listen to your intiuiton. In my opinion, its still better to get disappointed then being too defensive.

Men really have different views about this topic. I had a friend who said that its impossible for a man to be monogamous, but he still got married.
But my bf is totally the opposite and said that its not true. For him cheating is unaccaptable in a committed relationship and i believe to him.

posted September 05, 2012 09:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Dreamy_AriesGirl:
"Being cynical and suspicious can literally save a woman's life."

I think being suspicious is already a bad sign. Being cautious is ok and healthy in my opinion, but thats it. Maybe im naive but its much better to be positive about someone until they are found guilty... i think the best way is to get know the person as much as you can. To know about their past, about their beliefs, etc. And to listen to your intiuiton. In my opinion, its still better to get disappointed then being too defensive.

Men really have different views about this topic. I had a friend who said that its impossible for a man to be monogamous, but he still got married.
But my bf is totally the opposite and said that its not true. For him cheating is unaccaptable in a committed relationship and i believe to him.

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I'd rather be suspicious and careful and not get raped or killed than to be trusting and raped or dead or worse.

I've seen too many bad things happen to people to assume that everyone has good intentions.

posted September 05, 2012 01:00 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
I'd rather be suspicious and careful and not get raped or killed than to be trusting and raped or dead or worse.

I've seen too many bad things happen to people to assume that everyone has good intentions.

Women are socially conditioned and pressured to be "nice" and that's why so many end up in bad situations. We should be taught to be careful, cautious, and mistrusting for our own safety. That's my opinion, though, and I don't wish to violate moderator rules or get into a big argument, so I'll just leave it at that. Suffice to say that we'll have to agree to disagree on this one.

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