posted October 04, 2012 01:51 PM            

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posted October 04, 2012 01:55 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
well, to my understanding, exercise releases endorphins--I think that's what she was getting at, as a physical way to feel better, if not change anything else; that's how I took it

and you are right, too--plenty of people way better looking than me are depressed

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Well, i'm hoping the social atmosphere that i tried to emphasize didn't escape you.

And it isn't about "exercise" or "good looks"-- i hardly think that i said any of it in a way that would have it be taken so lightly and shallow-- it's about results.

Your situation sounds as if you're exerting effort and seeing nothing in return. Some of what you said sounds as if a lot of those issues are out of your hands.

What you may want to do first, is letting go of "control" and focusing on what you can do and reflects to you your hard work and effort and if you ask me, seeing your body transform because of the concentration, work & effort, yes, that will help build you up and help you start believing in yourself.

If you're already around a lot of people that don't make things happen; imo, you're hanging around losers.

There is a personality type that likes to get things done and follow up with their word.. That builds belief in the self and in turn creates confidence. All of those that may give you "yeah, yeah's" but in the end nothing happens, those are losers and not someone i would advise you team up with because that's how lightly they take their affairs.

You'll find DEDICATED people in the gym and that dedication, flows onto everything else in their life and if you team up with someone who influences or encourages you in a positive way, you'll get out of your rut.

That's what i'm getting at in case i didn't cover it well enough the first time.

posted October 04, 2012 03:36 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
At least let me know your industry sector or specialty. I cannot look out for your interests or connect you with the desired people without knowing what your professional sector is. I cannot possibly be an expert in every single sector but I do have a vast network of professional acquaintances and may be able to help place you.

Remember last night's nonsense about the 3% of small business? Well, I know quite a few of 3%ers.

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posted October 04, 2012 05:31 PM            

I'm with YTA about networking. I think if you want some practical advice, it would help to at least know your field and I think what he said is correct also about maybe not knowing how to network. I know from your posts that you are reserved. I am the same and have the same challenges I think.

However, I think the key to success is using the personality you have and finding your niche rather than trying to fit into someone else's definition of the path to success. It's also the key to not feeling like you don't match up to some standard that doesn't suit you.

Think about this:

What do you really really love doing for work?

What do you have lots of experience in?

What would you like to learn more about?

What qualities do you value in your co-workers? Do you have these same qualities?

Put that all together, create your own dream job on paper and then go out and find that MOFO! I barely know you and yet I'm sure you can do it.

Re: Networking. Follow your own style. Don't try to do it the way someone told you to do it. If you feel comfortable about who you are meeting and feel comfortable about what you have to offer and you talk to them about something you have thought out and feel passionate about, it will most likely fall into place. I've seen it. It happened to me.

I'm TERRRIBLE at networking. I hate it. I don't do it. I just do what I like and stay close to my interests and values and comfort level and that automatically attracts people that are compatible and helpful and every single job I've had came from a casual connection about something I think is fun or interesting, because that's what I'm open to and screw the rest. Right??!!!YEAH!

posted October 04, 2012 05:44 PM            

You need to develop your style. Stick with women focus groups initially and branch from there.

For example, one of my good friends is a co-founder of "85 Broads." Sounds like a funny name, but the previous address for Goldman Sachs' headquarters was 85 Broad Street. Regardless, with that catchy eye-opening name, they have become a ratther powerful force behind women in business.
http://www.85broads.com/

posted October 04, 2012 06:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
RP
I looked at your chart, a bit. It is very hard. If I were in your position( and I am and do this, myself)I would go over each part of my chart and really try to see what it is showing me about myself, as the chart is THE road map to each person, bar none imho.

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Ami, could you erase/delete my chart, please? Nothing at all against you personally. I didn't realize you'd held onto it, honestly.

At the very least (and I appreciate that you did this in your post, so thank you very much), please don't mention any details of my chart to anybody.

posted October 04, 2012 07:22 PM            

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posted October 04, 2012 11:44 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
if you're so paranoid that you cant relax on an online forum, you're prolly very paranoid irl and people pick up on that. people are not going to trust you if you dont trust them. you dont seem like a bad or mean person, but you need to lighten up. i'm not trying to be mean or anything, just trying to be helpful.

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posted October 06, 2012 11:36 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I didn't hold on to your chart, RP. I just remembered it.

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wow; you have a good memory then

posted October 06, 2012 11:38 AM            

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Originally posted by Venus:
platero, maybe just once you should take a risk. just see how it feels, no matter what the consequences are you'll survive them. and who knows you might learn something new about yourself..

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I have to politely disagree about surviving regardless of the consequences. In some cases, that is literally not true (as in, you take some risks, you could die). I don't take risks with big stuff, like my health or safety anything like that.

posted October 06, 2012 11:38 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
wow; you have a good memory then

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Well, there is one particular aspect that I never forget when I see it, in a chart. I will not say what it is, in case RP does not want me to.
This one aspect is the single hardest aspect, imho

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