posted January 04, 2013 05:22 AM            

This is my composite with my current partner, though we're neither Master/slave or D/s, more like Top/bottom. He's usually the bottom, though we switch when I feel like it. His birth time is unknown so don't mind the houses.

And the synastry.. He's red, I'm blue.

posted January 04, 2013 06:58 AM            

I'm the slave, in red, he's the Master, in blue. The relationship is more about sex and violence, he really likes to hurt me in bed and hear me crying (he's really sweet after sex tho, and likes to take care of me, also), but there's nothing about discipline involved.

posted January 04, 2013 07:06 AM            

I also am not interested in movies (especially horror ones) or drama tv series, or anything fake or too OTT.

Maybe if you find out the astrological answers to your questions here, we will also be able to figure out the astro opposite of it all.

posted January 04, 2013 06:10 PM            

And if, in synastry ^ these people also have close Venus/Mars aspects *with* each other (mainly conj/opp/square).
It doesn't matter if it's Venus/Venus, Venus/Mars, Mars/Mars whatever - the more aspects the better.

posted January 04, 2013 10:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Well of course Ail & T (& Sand), but I don't think it's what the OP was asking. And as we all know, there is no way of telling how any aspect - whether in natal, synastry or composite - will play out. Astrology works in symbols and there are quite a few interpretations for each. As for what makes a person interested in that lifestyle (or not), it's a different subject and also open to interpretation.

I am seeing a lot of Venus-Saturn in these relationships, I got to say. Which is funny, because usually this marks for impossible relationships in vanilla world (or unrequited, or slow to get off the ground etc), but seems to be working just fine in D/s world.

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posted January 04, 2013 10:30 PM            

Like I said, we have the DW of his Saturn opposing my Venus, as well as my Saturn trine his Venus.
His Saturn is also conjunct my ASC and loosely conjunct my Moon. He comes across as very stern and arrogant...he makes me very nervous and I feel the need to prove myself to him. I thought he was such an @sshole when I first met him, but then a strong sexual attraction grew. He struck me as a very controlled, disciplined, isolated man...and for someone like me who likes to be dominated, I am very turned on by him.
His Venus is conjunct my Mars
My Mars squares his Pluto
His Pluto squares my Moon and Venus
His Mars in in my 8th House as well.
I think his Sun on my MC makes me really look up to him and respect him.

Um, he is my boss by the way!

posted January 05, 2013 04:00 AM            

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Originally posted by sand:
Do we have bdsm synastry? Lol! Am not so sure u can dominate me though. U can try.

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posted January 05, 2013 06:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
A really HOT S&M or BDSM thing would be ... if both people have Venus/Mars aspecting Saturn/Neptune or Pluto [b]in natal.. (two or more aspects - conj/opp & square mainly). Having Venus/Mars in Capricorn/Pisces and Scorpio - counts as well!

And if, in synastry ^ these people also have close Venus/Mars aspects *with* each other (mainly conj/opp/square).
It doesn't matter if it's Venus/Venus, Venus/Mars, Mars/Mars whatever - the more aspects the better.

For example --- say two people born in the same generation who have... Venus conj Mars/Mars square Mars and Venus opp Venus all in synastry --- PLUS generational aspects from those planets to Pluto/Neptune/Saturn --- that would be *REOW*[/B]

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Not a BDSM case (except a spiritual one maybe ), this reminds me of a synastry I had or have with a local performer.

He has got Venus in Capricorn square Mars in Libra, with Mars being on the antiscion/ contrascion of his Chiron-Pluto-opposition, wich Chiron being conjunct Saturn and BML, all in Pisces.

I myself have Venus in Capricorn square Pluto and Mars conjunct Neptune.

He`s gay, so any kind of "romantic synastry" would have to be experienced differently.
Anyway, the energy he is radiating, or that I receive, is extremely electric and almost "violent" in a sense that it seems to penetrate easily any kind of "psychic field or shield".
I will not make the mistake again, to be having a seat in first row, when he is performing. The times I had, I had to constantly fight the impulse to giggle all the time (I NEVER giggle), just to get rid of all that nervous tension. Not emotional, not romantic, I don`t really know what that was.

We have never talked, and I definitely always kept my distance from him (he comes across as the nicest, sweetest guy ever, very easygoing with others, but I don`t know to me he just spells "danger" in huge glaring letters ). Nowadays I am even making a point avoiding concerts or shows he could appear in. I really don´t need this electricity that is too disconcerting. lol

However, though we never spoke, when he sometimes looked at me, he looked so angry. Boy, he doesn`t even know me, and I had the clear feeling that my sheer presence made him "aggressive" somehow.
I never really understand the saying that someone can "burn" you with their looks, until I "met" him.
And I didn`t even do anything except for being.

Well, I was wondering if our synastry might have a say in this.

His Venus conjuncts my Venus
his Eros conjuncts my Venus

his Pluto conjuncts my Mars exact
his Venus squares my Pluto
his Eros squares my Pluto
his Mars squares my Venus

his Mars also sextiles my Neptune exact
his Mars sextiles my ASC and Mars, too
his Venus sextiles my Jupiter exact
his Jupiter trines my Mars

In the composite Pluto opposes Moon widely and squares Sun tightly

Venus in Capricorn sextiles Mars in Scorpio tightly

posted January 05, 2013 11:54 AM            

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Originally posted by ail221:
The circular charts with the lines....it looks like his saturn touches your Black moon lilith and moon. Your BML is connected to not only your pluto but his Uranus and his pluto.

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posted January 05, 2013 12:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
You think BML has smth to do with this? I have mine sq Sat, Pluto and Mars. In Aqua, 1st house. Opposite Nessus. Hmmmm... food for thought there.

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posted January 05, 2013 12:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
You think BML has smth to do with this? I have mine sq Sat, Pluto and Mars. In Aqua, 1st house. Opposite Nessus. Hmmmm... food for thought there.

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Yes, BML DEFINITELY.
Though I only really pay attention to the true BML and sometimes the mean one.

posted January 05, 2013 03:02 PM            

Now the dude I am VERY attracted to has an exact conjunction of BML and Pluto which exactly oppose my Mercury, ruler of 5 and 8. What is also very interesting is that he has asteroid SADO conj BML and Pluto (and yes, he's a sadist) in exact opposition to MY Sado (which conj my Mercury ruler of 8). He was actually the person that made me realize that I am a sadist too (consensually ofc) because he was mirroring my own sadistic nature, with which I struggled in the beginning unwilling to recognize it. Now, for my Lilith. It squares his Sun exact (possibly also his Moon depending on birth time which I don't have yet). The chemistry with him is sizzling, despite not having Venus-Mars in synastry, and it's mutual. He also wants a switching situation with me but I haven't agreed yet.

posted January 06, 2013 11:04 AM            

the placement of true BML might change a little over the day, depending on her speed that day.
The mean one is more stable.
Some astrologers find the mean one quite telling as well, but to be honest, I am not using the mean nodes, why would I use the mean Black Moon then? That wouldn´t feel really consistent to me.

Anyway, BML can create some really heavy attraction, not only in terms of BDSM, but in general. But the attraction she creates very often feels "forbidden" or "taboo" or in the very least so strong, that it feels almost dangerous to touch on that.
The reason for that is that she doesn`T know compromise. She leads you into your (or his) soul, no matter if you want that or not. No shades of grey.

She also is indicative of possible Kundalini experiences.

Actually I started to use her regularly, and I see her, if not as ruler, as having fraternal symbolism with the 8th house, sort of a Moon/Pluto-conjunction, melted into one point.

Now, BML conjunct Pluto in a natal charts looks VERY intense.

Actually I have observed that many actors, who played vampires or in vampire films/ series, either have a strong theme of Pluto/Scorpio or if that is missing, BML often appears. I don`t think that is coincidental.

BTW if it is supported by other fitting aspects, it can add a lot of depth to a soulmate relationship as well (she is a lunar point after all).

Paul Newman had Pluto on 12 Cancer conjunct true BML on 12 Cancer on his DESC on 13 Cancer,
which fell onto his wife`s Proserpina/DESC-conjunction on 11 Cancer

posted January 06, 2013 12:28 PM            

Given the mythology of Lilith, I was surprised to see that precisely in some charts of Dominas it made no significant aspect. But maybe the asteroid might. Will have to re-check charts for that and the mean BML.

Yeah, he's intense lol. He has the conjunction, I have the square. Mine is wider though. Oh, forgot to mention his conjunction is square to Nessus, which sits on my DC. (and squares my Dejanira).