posted January 18, 2013 07:11 PM            

What I want to know is...what is your stance? I personally was active from around 15. My sister is 15 too and I recently found out that she isn't a virgin either! It's not shocking news to me to be quite honest.

My stance is I approve of sexual experimentation! I embrace sexual activity. I find it's okay as long as they're making informed decisions. To me, my concern is how informed parents keep their children. But in all honesty, I don't pass judgement on other teens for their sexual choices and libidos. When I have kids, I'll definitely try to educate them, let them know it's okay to have urges, wants, to do things...as long as they know what they're doing.

posted January 18, 2013 07:50 PM            

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YoursTrulyAlways: Lack of control and/or lack if discipline is solely the fault of the parents. [...] Because his mom and I say so.

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posted January 18, 2013 08:29 PM            

But yeah, I was different. And yes I was involved in a lot of activities to keep me busy. Dance and theater. Didn't really start "experimenting" til I was 17(couldn't repress urges any more and was a late bloomer.)

I did dress skimpy sometimes as a kid. I had a tube top when I was 11 and wore it to an N'SYNC concert. but in my teens I was too self conscious to wear strapless tops.
Now I own two halter tops. For the summer time of course. Hey it's hot, I'm covered. But the lace halter one I wore in my clubbing days my mom said "you look hoey in that" lmfao But I didn't start wearing those again until my 20's.

I remember my jr year of high school I got B cups. And I wasn't use to have cleavage. I remember when every time I looked down and saw my cleavage I would pull up my camisole under shirt. It got tiring doing that, so then I finally just embraced my new curves.

But yeah I remember other girls taking "slutty" pictures of themselves cleavage out(though I don't think that makes someone slutty) doing suggestive poses like the whole "v" with the fingers and their tongue out in between. Pretty sure girl wasn't doing it to be funny either, pretty sure she was doing it to give every guy on the internet a hard on. Sadly she was probably age 12-14.

posted January 18, 2013 08:46 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[B]girls need to quit dressing soo provocatively, the little sirens are leading the boys astray.[B]

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That's a classic. Michael Sanguinetti would agree with you.

posted January 18, 2013 09:22 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
girls need to quit dressing soo provocatively, the little sirens are leading the boys astray

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posted January 18, 2013 09:40 PM            

And while plenty of kids are sexually experimenting, I don't see that as unique to today. Granny told me some pretty wild sex stories of the 50s, and back then it wasn't unusual for teens to marry before they were even considered adults. The military, which recruits a lot of older teens, have long included instructional vids on how to use condoms when with prostitutes (here's a WW2 sexual hygiene vid), and IIRC it was the late 19th century in which the Army actually provided prostitutes (who were carefully screened and routinely evaluated by doctors) until the fundies put an end to that (much for the same reason as HPV vaccines today). And I don't think I'll ever hear wilder stories than what some Viet Nam Vets had to share what they did on R&R (what they called I & I for "Intoxication & Intercourse"), I thought I'd heard it all being around prostitutes as a runaway but I was blown away by the sexual adventures they had in Nam (and I was surprised how many enjoyed beads used on them while having sex).

posted January 18, 2013 09:41 PM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
That's a classic. Michael Sanguinetti would agree with you.

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posted January 18, 2013 10:49 PM            

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aquaguy91: girls need to quit dressing soo provocatively, the little sirens are leading the boys astray

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posted January 18, 2013 11:14 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
hiho the patriarchy has to go!

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posted January 19, 2013 02:16 AM            

Back when I went to high school (97-99) oral sex was the thing to get around that. Sometimes it seemed everyone was doing it, though I don't know how many did. Not only did it prevent pregnancy, but many operated under the false belief that there was no chance for STDs that way either (one of the problem of adults lying to scare kids away from having sex or doing drugs is that kids come to ignore that facts along with the lies). It didn't help when then President Clinton said oral sex didn't count as sex (oh did the kids love throwing that at the teachers and others trying to stop the oral sex going on).

posted January 19, 2013 04:24 AM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
Ok I'll just say this strikes a personal nerve for me.. As a woman with let's just say, naturally enhanced features, I was continuously singled out growing up for wearing the same type of clothing other women with smaller boobs got away with (even if it didn't actually reveal anything more or show any more cleavage), for me it was still considered "inappropriate". As if I was doing something wrong.. I was actually legitimately ashamed of my body as a teenager, and it took a long time to overcome that and the issues that came along with it but now I'm just at a point where I feel like this is the way I look and I'm sorry I'm not sorry if that is too "provocative" for you..

And I know you obviously in no way were speaking about me personally, but it's the same concept, just because a woman is comfortable with her own sexuality (even if that means dressing "provocatively") doesn't mean she's asking for every man who finds her attractive to approach her sexually.. If you think a woman is "leading you astray" or asking to be hit on, and therefore doesn't have the right to turn you down, or is provoking uncontrollable actions (or thoughts... whatever) because of the way she's dressed, then that's where the real problem is..

In my humble opinion of course

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