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Topic: When You Really Hate Someone.
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 11:31 AM
I only hate when someone disses my heritage or someone I love. These two things will make me have a cold hate to someone. I have felt that twice in the last two years. As I study my Bible CDs, they tell me that I am not allowed to hate. I have been asking God to show me the way and I saw something on Fb. It shows the molecules of water changing in response to love, hate, etc The molecules get all ugly and disordered when they are exposed to hate. Anyone struggle with this? How do you deal with it? Be honest. No fake spiritual answers ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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I'm so cappy Knowflake Posts: 2604 From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron) Registered: Nov 2012
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posted September 15, 2013 11:36 AM
If you hate someone then you hate someone. You don't have to feel guilty about it. Just try not kill them or let it consume you, that would be simply unhealthy.------------------ I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
CatMote Knowflake Posts: 498 From: Fighting Neptune for his trident Registered: Apr 2013
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posted September 15, 2013 12:29 PM
just accept that this feeling you are having is human, and you are human. and its OK to feel this way. acceptance is key here. ------------------ Sun Aries Moon Pisces Mars Pisces Venus Pisces Mercury Aries Jupiter in Virgo Saturn in Aquarius Pluto in Scorpio Neptune and Uranus in Capricorn Ascendant Libra IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 12:53 PM
Thanks Cappy and CM ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2529 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted September 15, 2013 02:18 PM
I try not to engage in hate, as the person I am...there are no limits, and hate will take you places you do not want to beIP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 02:19 PM
quote: Originally posted by Padre35:
I try not to engage in hate, as the person I am...there are no limits, and hate will take you places you do not want to be
I already went there
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Catalina Knowflake Posts: 508 From: shamballa Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 15, 2013 02:26 PM
Maybe if you tried to understand that disagreement is not disrespect you would not feel so personally attacked. And hate would be irrelevant.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 02:48 PM
Thanks for the blue heart, Catalina. I know it is coming from a good place and I can feel that. However, things are not that simple even though I wish they were but thank you for your kind gesture to me, Catalina. I appreciate it ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 03:52 PM
I am going through a hard place that I think is a passageway. It is making me cry writing this. On LL, I used to never let a person say a word against me. I was in one fight for 3 weeks where I had to answer back every insult lolWell, after much grace on Randall's part and many, many times of stepping in it, I have learned to ignore about 95% of the time. When Randall would tell me to ignore, I thought he was being too weak to fight lol but it was not that, at all. He was showing me an avenue to maturity. ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 03:55 PM
Now, I can ignore 95% of the time( don't try to get me to break my record )but I still have hate and that is the next door I have to walk through. For me, I have to do it wrong to learn how to do it right. I just can't listen to someone. I have to do it myself, whatever it is and it is usually stepping in it. . As far as hate, I am in the middle and that feels icky. I have not seen my way through the door out like I did with ignoring. Now ignoring is so easy. I tell other people but they were like I was. They think it is being weak. Anyway, thanks for letting me talk. Love you guys ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 6354 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 15, 2013 04:26 PM
if you hate them you are letting them win because small minded people don't deserve such a powerful emotion.
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 04:48 PM
Aww I love your pic, K!------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 2113 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted September 15, 2013 04:52 PM
I've read that there have been quite a few studies that have indicated that Compassion meditation has demonstrable effects on brain structure and function (in addition to the already observed and attested changes in subjective feeling).If engaging in such meditation falls outside of your religious beliefs, perhaps you can modify it - praying and meditating upon God's love and asking that He help you to be a conduit of His love for others and all of humanity. As they say, it's better to light a candle (in this case, actively engage in or meditate upon Love) rather than curse the darkness (feel bad about the hate that you feel). IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 05:23 PM
Thank you all for your posts. Please, keep them coming!------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Odette Knowflake Posts: 2726 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted September 15, 2013 06:20 PM
I feel intense feelings of anger - when I see people who are generally hateful towards others and go out of their way to harm others (it doesn't have to be myself or my family). But I think I am more angry or outraged at the state of the world... rather than 'hateful' towards the individual in question. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 2726 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted September 15, 2013 06:23 PM
Also - it's very important to be able to defend yourself in life. I very much disagree with the 'turn the other cheek' idea - because no one learns anything from that... I condone aggression in self-defence (which is not the same as revenge)Defending yourself doesn't have to mean you hate them though.... You're just protecting yourself and your own life.
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7583 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 15, 2013 07:13 PM
I have a lot of hatred for certain people, I wish I could get over it but I can't. A lot of people are very easy to hate.&IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 07:17 PM
quote: Originally posted by Odette: Also - it's very important to be able to defend yourself in life. I very much disagree with the 'turn the other cheek' idea - because no one learns anything from that... I condone aggression in self-defence (which is not the same as revenge)Defending yourself doesn't have to mean you hate them though.... You're just protecting yourself and your own life.
Man, I love this. Cap Moon! ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 07:20 PM
Yes and Thank you. Odette My larger struggle is my power to defend myself against harmful intrusions. That is really the core of this.------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 07:27 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: I have a lot of hatred for certain people, I wish I could get over it but I can't. A lot of people are very easy to hate.&
True ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 07:28 PM
I condone aggression in self-defence (which is not the same as revenge)This is what I feel guilty about, Odette. How do you not? ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7583 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 15, 2013 07:30 PM
God can forgive and forgive and forgive but i can't, I'm not God,my compassion only goes so far.IP: Logged |
Zander916 Knowflake Posts: 1043 From: I visit a lot of planets, but the Sun is my home. Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 15, 2013 07:58 PM
I once TRULY hated someone as in, I could not let a day pass to allow them to have peace in their life. I've also pretended to hate people only to discover, in some cases it was the opposite really. We can be excellent actors to ourselves. In my times of hatred I really dug into the issue. There's one quote that I like that really got me thinking. Others may completely disagree and that's okay. "We can only hate what we care about and that which is a part of us. If we didn't care and it weren't a part of us, we would cease to feel anything." While it's a natural feeling to have and you should not feel ashamed to feel it, or to defend yourself against attacks by people. I also look at who the person is and what impact do they really have on my life. How much into my life are they woven into. Long time friend or family? Or someone who is really just words on a screen? I think it's good to really dig, hard and deep into it. Be honest with yourself. Why do you hate? You can look at as maybe you're supposed to so that you can learn to deal with not just these situations, but hatred itself. Did you care about the people and you've turned hurt into hatred? I see that a lot and have done it somewhat recently. Maybe they somehow exposed a part of you that you didn't want to be seen, even by yourself and feel embarrassed/exposed. Carefully examine the feelings that you had shortly before the hatred. In my view, and I'm sure others will disagree, but TRUE hatred is mostly slow moving, like love. Sure there may be instances otherwise but that's my feeling of it. So in that case, you can look at the feelings beforehand. TRUE hatred, I believe is the result of other feelings. It's settled anger (slow burning/less explosive) in a sense. Another quote I like (might not be word for word of course) is Love and hate come from the same source but go in different directions. I don't know... just things to ponder I guess. I'm not saying I'm right. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 08:20 PM
Wow TonyThat is totally awesome. Your 12th house depth showed in that one! ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48864 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 15, 2013 08:33 PM
One person mocked the death of my son and I made him the laughing stock of a group of very hardened people. It takes that level of disrespect for my hatred to come up. It is not a little thing where a person disses me or even disses someone I love or doesn't like me etcThat is all normal stuff, to me. You rub some people the wrong way. I am not talking about that. I am not talking about people who are just normal gossips or just normal back biting either. That happens. It is human and most people act from their human side. We all do. It is something really bad like mocking my son's death or virulent hatred of my heritage. Then I will turn cold and make the person regret it. Is that bad ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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