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Ami Anne
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posted September 15, 2013 11:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I only hate when someone disses my heritage or someone I love. These two things will make me have a cold hate to someone.
I have felt that twice in the last two years.
As I study my Bible CDs, they tell me that I am not allowed to hate.
I have been asking God to show me the way and I saw something on Fb.
It shows the molecules of water changing in response to love, hate, etc
The molecules get all ugly and disordered when they are exposed to hate.
Anyone struggle with this? How do you deal with it?
Be honest. No fake spiritual answers

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I'm so cappy
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posted September 15, 2013 11:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If you hate someone then you hate someone. You don't have to feel guilty about it. Just try not kill them or let it consume you, that would be simply unhealthy.

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posted September 15, 2013 12:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CatMote     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
just accept that this feeling you are having is human, and you are human. and its OK to feel this way. acceptance is key here.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 15, 2013 12:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Cappy and CM

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Padre35
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posted September 15, 2013 02:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

I try not to engage in hate, as the person I am...there are no limits, and hate will take you places you do not want to be

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Ami Anne
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posted September 15, 2013 02:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Padre35:

I try not to engage in hate, as the person I am...there are no limits, and hate will take you places you do not want to be


I already went there

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posted September 15, 2013 02:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Catalina     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Maybe if you tried to understand that disagreement is not disrespect you would not feel so personally attacked. And hate would be irrelevant.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 15, 2013 02:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for the blue heart, Catalina. I know it is coming from a good place and I can feel that. However, things are not that simple even though I wish they were but thank you for your kind gesture to me, Catalina.
I appreciate it

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Ami Anne
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posted September 15, 2013 03:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am going through a hard place that I think is a passageway. It is making me cry writing this.

On LL, I used to never let a person say a word against me. I was in one fight for 3 weeks where I had to answer back every insult lol

Well, after much grace on Randall's part and many, many times of stepping in it, I have learned to ignore about 95% of the time.

When Randall would tell me to ignore, I thought he was being too weak to fight lol but it was not that, at all.

He was showing me an avenue to maturity.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 15, 2013 03:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Now, I can ignore 95% of the time( don't try to get me to break my record )

but I still have hate and that is the next door I have to walk through.

For me, I have to do it wrong to learn how to do it right.

I just can't listen to someone. I have to do it myself, whatever it is and it is usually stepping in it.
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As far as hate, I am in the middle and that feels icky.

I have not seen my way through the door out like I did with ignoring.

Now ignoring is so easy. I tell other people but they were like I was. They think it is being weak.

Anyway, thanks for letting me talk. Love you guys

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posted September 15, 2013 04:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

if you hate them you are letting them win because small minded people don't deserve such a powerful emotion.


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Ami Anne
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posted September 15, 2013 04:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aww I love your pic, K!

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posted September 15, 2013 04:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mockingbird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've read that there have been quite a few studies that have indicated that Compassion meditation has demonstrable effects on brain structure and function (in addition to the already observed and attested changes in subjective feeling).

If engaging in such meditation falls outside of your religious beliefs, perhaps you can modify it - praying and meditating upon God's love and asking that He help you to be a conduit of His love for others and all of humanity.

As they say, it's better to light a candle (in this case, actively engage in or meditate upon Love) rather than curse the darkness (feel bad about the hate that you feel).

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posted September 15, 2013 05:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you all for your posts. Please, keep them coming!

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posted September 15, 2013 06:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I feel intense feelings of anger - when I see people who are generally hateful towards others and go out of their way to harm others (it doesn't have to be myself or my family).
But I think I am more angry or outraged at the state of the world... rather than 'hateful' towards the individual in question.

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posted September 15, 2013 06:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Also - it's very important to be able to defend yourself in life.
I very much disagree with the 'turn the other cheek' idea - because no one learns anything from that...
I condone aggression in self-defence (which is not the same as revenge)

Defending yourself doesn't have to mean you hate them though.... You're just protecting yourself and your own life.

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posted September 15, 2013 07:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a lot of hatred for certain people, I wish I could get over it but I can't. A lot of people are very easy to hate.&

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Ami Anne
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posted September 15, 2013 07:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
Also - it's very important to be able to defend yourself in life.
I very much disagree with the 'turn the other cheek' idea - because no one learns anything from that...
I condone aggression in self-defence (which is not the same as revenge)

Defending yourself doesn't have to mean you hate them though.... You're just protecting yourself and your own life.


Man, I love this. Cap Moon!

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posted September 15, 2013 07:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes and Thank you. Odette
My larger struggle is my power to defend myself against harmful intrusions.
That is really the core of this.

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posted September 15, 2013 07:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I have a lot of hatred for certain people, I wish I could get over it but I can't. A lot of people are very easy to hate.&

True

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posted September 15, 2013 07:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I condone aggression in self-defence (which is not the same as revenge)

This is what I feel guilty about, Odette. How do you not?

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posted September 15, 2013 07:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
God can forgive and forgive and forgive but i can't, I'm not God,my compassion only goes so far.

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posted September 15, 2013 07:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Zander916     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I once TRULY hated someone as in, I could not let a day pass to allow them to have peace in their life.
I've also pretended to hate people only to discover, in some cases it was the opposite really. We can be excellent actors to ourselves.

In my times of hatred I really dug into the issue. There's one quote that I like that really got me thinking. Others may completely disagree and that's okay.

"We can only hate what we care about and that which is a part of us. If we didn't care and it weren't a part of us, we would cease to feel anything."

While it's a natural feeling to have and you should not feel ashamed to feel it, or to defend yourself against attacks by people.
I also look at who the person is and what impact do they really have on my life. How much into my life are they woven into. Long time friend or family? Or someone who is really just words on a screen?

I think it's good to really dig, hard and deep into it. Be honest with yourself. Why do you hate?
You can look at as maybe you're supposed to so that you can learn to deal with not just these situations, but hatred itself.
Did you care about the people and you've turned hurt into hatred? I see that a lot and have done it somewhat recently. Maybe they somehow exposed a part of you that you didn't want to be seen, even by yourself and feel embarrassed/exposed.

Carefully examine the feelings that you had shortly before the hatred. In my view, and I'm sure others will disagree, but TRUE hatred is mostly slow moving, like love. Sure there may be instances otherwise but that's my feeling of it. So in that case, you can look at the feelings beforehand. TRUE hatred, I believe is the result of other feelings. It's settled anger (slow burning/less explosive) in a sense.

Another quote I like (might not be word for word of course) is
Love and hate come from the same source but go in different directions.

I don't know... just things to ponder I guess. I'm not saying I'm right.

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posted September 15, 2013 08:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow Tony

That is totally awesome. Your 12th house depth showed in that one!

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posted September 15, 2013 08:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
One person mocked the death of my son and I made him the laughing stock of a group of very hardened people.
It takes that level of disrespect for my hatred to come up.
It is not a little thing where a person disses me or even disses someone I love or doesn't like me etc

That is all normal stuff, to me. You rub some people the wrong way. I am not talking about that.

I am not talking about people who are just normal gossips or just normal back biting either.

That happens. It is human and most people act from their human side. We all do.

It is something really bad like mocking my son's death or virulent hatred of my heritage.

Then I will turn cold and make the person regret it.
Is that bad

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