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I'm so cappy
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posted September 28, 2013 07:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Some people end up settling with their first partner. Do you think it can be fully satisfying? Would YOU like to be one of them?

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Odette
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posted September 28, 2013 08:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'd be more worried about other things in our relationship - if he was my only partner (for a life time).

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted September 28, 2013 08:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am my wife's first and only partner.

You better make sure that your male partner is a good lover. Is able to conceive children, if you want children. Is physically healthy. And is likely to remain virile through his old age without popping pills.

If you're going to have sex with one only, better be ultimately infinitely desirable so that you'll never ever lose interest.

And if you have no interest in sex, you better find a man with similar indifference. Or he's gonna go hunting for the next sexy mama who walks by.

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posted September 28, 2013 08:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

And if you have no interest in sex, you better find a man with similar indifference. Or he's gonna go hunting for the next sexy mama who walks by. [/B][/QUOTE]
Yes that's true. If a man doesn't get sex at home, he will wander. I know a man in his early 40s who steps out on his wife because she hasn't had sex with him in 4 years! He has tried to get her to have sex but she always has an excuse. Her main excuse is their daughter has to sleep with them because she is scared to sleep alone. He has tried to get babysitters and everything but his wife refuses every suggestion. He doesn't want a divorce because he loves his wife and kids but he cheats because he isn't getting any sex at home. The fact is men need sex and anyone who says differently is full of politically correct crap. Of course there a few exceptions to this rule .

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Kerosene
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posted September 28, 2013 08:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think it was a blessing I had the opportunity to explore different relationships.
It just confirmed my feelings.

Honestly a lifetime seems strange, I think people change through out our lives and I can't say what my priorities in the future but all I know is that I want this right now.

Maybe I might fall out of love after a few decades.
I certainly do not want to live a life where I have to be bound to a person I do not love anymore.

I don't think my reason for existence is to be a lover, I think that would be selling myself short.

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posted September 28, 2013 08:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Odette:
I'd be more worried about other things in our relationship - if he was my only partner (for a life time).

Like what, Odette?

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted September 28, 2013 08:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know a guy who has sex with his kid's teacher, his kid's music teacher and his kid's babysitter and basically every female who walks by. But never has sex with his wife because she doesn't like sex. Yet he's an awesome father and a dutiful husband. Just that his wife consciously prefers to behave and look like his mother and not some sexy plaything.

Be warned. Don't like sex? Don't like to look sexy? Don't marry. I've never heard of a guy who is able not like to have sex. Ever.

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I'm so cappy
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posted September 28, 2013 09:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I've never heard of a guy who is able not like to have sex. Ever.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

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If you're going to have sex with one only, better be ultimately infinitely desirable so that you'll never ever lose interest.

Yes, sir!

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And if you have no interest in sex, you better find a man with similar indifference. Or he's gonna go hunting for the next sexy mama who walks by.

If I had no interest, I wouldn't have made this thread

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I certainly do not want to live a life where I have to be bound to a person I do not love anymore.

Same here.

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Honestly a lifetime seems strange

Right, after all you plan on living for 1000 years

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I know a man in his early 40s who steps out on his wife because she hasn't had sex with him in 4 years!

Ridiculous...Nothing justifies infidelity but that woman must have known how that was gonna end. I don't get this "you knocked me up, thanks, you can stay if you like" thing.

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aquaguy91
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posted September 28, 2013 09:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
See this is why me and odettes virtual marriage works, we are virtually intimate sometimes. I mean where do you think that virtual baby came from? I get lucky once a year and this is why I'm always jolly around christmas and she is really depressed and drinks lots of spiked egg nog.

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Zander916
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posted September 28, 2013 09:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Zander916     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Two friends of mine are going on year nine of marriage and they were each others first.

I can sit here and say that I could do that but most likely I'd be lying.
I think it's admirable though.

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PixieJane
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posted September 28, 2013 10:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'd say it depends on placements. I believe it can be truly satisfying for some people, especially the kind who never want to leave home, or at least their home town (heck, a few literally want to keep it in the family if they can and there's a reason why about half the states in the US allow first cousins to marry with full rights & recognition...interesting enough most of them are also the the most antigay states that have passed measures against gay marriage, just as they did interracial marriage decades ago!)

People like me, OTOH, have to explore and experiment, and we have to be our own person which means some time to develop by one's self (heck, I sometimes still think it might be nice to become a hermit for a year or so without any internet, just watch the seasons pass with only animals for regular company, and see how I develop and what insights I gain). The very idea of getting married immediately after high school (let alone at 16 like Ariel the Little Mermaid) is not one that I understand. And part of understanding the world and myself (not to mention all that Sag energy with Libra on the Scorpio cusp no doubt adding to it) I just as I have to try out many cultures, subcultures, fields, environments (from mountains to misty redwoods to brush & desert) and (to the best of my ability) countries I also have to explore what it's like with different people...or the curiosity would kill me.

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posted September 28, 2013 10:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MetalAphrodite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have usually been more interested in sex than my partners. Sometimes, I think I'm oversexed. My most recent ex-partner went without sex for a year and no matter what I did, he would avoid having sex with me. He didn't like me taking care of myself either and would yell at me if he caught me doing so. I was at my most fit at this point and I consider myself generally attractive.

I don't believe he physically cheated on me. Other suggestions were that he was gay or that he was in love with someone else. I asked him if he was gay and told him I will accept him if he were. He balked at this and suddenly sex was back on. Idk, it was weird. He had also asked me to consider getting a boob job and I'm a D-cup.

Anyway, sex is important to me. It's an expression of love and I want it on a regular basis. I seem to end up with partners who can't keep up with me. It doesn't dampen my love for them but it is important.

I want to be with someone who can keep up with me. I'm tired of suppressing self because the guy is threatened by who I am.

I wish that the person that wants to be in a loving relationship is the one I shared my first sexual experience with. It wasn't. I want to find that person and make him my final and only sexual partner.

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted September 29, 2013 09:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^^. He's into the kinky sh1t and has been slapping the salami so much that he's well empty. He sounds the type that has three times self-loving a day marathon sessions with his computer/cell phone. D-cup not enough points to either Honey at the strip club or Candy on the web. Since he's a young guy, I'm totally discounting Bambi at the brothel, since that where horny old toads who live on viagra tend to go to get their twisted fixes.

The Mary Palm twins and their 10 sisters seem to appeal to a certain segment of the male population, presumably because dates are a certain thing and the dates never give lip or attitude.

I myself go for the heartbeat and as much as possible.

Check his web browser. It's probably clean as a whistle since he probably clears the cache and browsing history upon exit of browser. You wonder why.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 29, 2013 10:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow Ian

You are smart about life

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posted September 29, 2013 10:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My husband is my first and I'd like him to be my only.

It has been satisfying for me and I have no doubt that it will continue to be satisfying. If our marriage broke down for whatever reason, I'd be celibate for the rest of my life.

This question brings back memories. It always makes me smile when people look at me like I'm some kind of alien for not wanting to "try" it with different people. Some even went so far as to say "Well, I can't believe you'll settle for that, how boring", or to insinuate that I must be very simple-minded in order to feel satisfied with so little "variety".

LOL.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 29, 2013 10:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That is awesome, Muddy.

That is how it was supposed to be imo.

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted September 29, 2013 10:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Wow Ian

You are smart about life


That's only because I've been a rascal before. And I'm no spring chicken. The sidewalks around the block have my footprints since I've been around the block multiple times.

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posted September 29, 2013 11:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MetalAphrodite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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^^. He's into the kinky sh1t and has been slapping the salami so much that he's well empty. He sounds the type that has three times self-loving a day marathon sessions with his computer/cell phone. D-cup not enough points to either Honey at the strip club or Candy on the web. Since he's a young guy, I'm totally discounting Bambi at the brothel, since that where horny old toads who live on viagra tend to go to get their twisted fixes.

The Mary Palm twins and their 10 sisters seem to appeal to a certain segment of the male population, presumably because dates are a certain thing and the dates never give lip or attitude.

I myself go for the heartbeat and as much as possible.

Check his web browser. It's probably clean as a whistle since he probably clears the cache and browsing history upon exit of browser. You wonder why.



When we first married and lived in our first house, he got so carried away with looking at porn that he started doing it when I was standing in the kitchen cooking his dinner. I remember flying into a rage over this and asking him why. Not because he was looking at it, but because it was the middle of the day and there's a time and place for everything. I'm standing right there and no one else is home. Why did he have to do that? "I don't know, I'm bored." That happened after the asking me to get a boob job lol. I trashed his stash.

Years later, around the no sex year, he complained that my reading romance novels and fanfiction was equivalent to his looking at porn. So I gave it up. We were at a public event and I had his phone because he had to perform. Mine died so I was surfing the net on his for Wonder Woman costumes and porn stuff came up. Checked his history and found tons of crap. Idk, I don't understand it.

Not to be mean, but I think I look better than the women he looked at on those things.

Ugh, I ended up with a lot of image and sexual issues after I left him. When we married, I used to say I wanted to grow old with him. I did. He was my life. Anyone who has a devoted partner is lucky enough to have him. I have a bf now. I hope he is someone that wants to work with me instead of against me.

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posted September 29, 2013 11:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ If I ever have problems decoding the male mind, I'll look for your advices first YTA kaka. It is not easy to find someone so direct.

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posted September 29, 2013 11:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
LOL Ian

I appreciate wisdom. Many people( of even older ages) are idiots.

I see that and realize that I want the few people I can bring into my life to have some wisdom.
If not, why bother?

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posted September 29, 2013 11:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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That is awesome, Muddy.


thanks Ami Anne =)

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libraschoice77
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posted September 29, 2013 12:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for libraschoice77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's why I waited to get married later on in my life(mid 30s), I wanted to make sure the man I married was compatible with me in all ways, and not just sexually. We did a trial live together for 6 months to see if we could stand living with one another before we said 'I do'. Some people just get pulled in by their crotch and think that its love, when really its lust that will fade over time. Now he is my one partner for life, and I do have a high sex drive so everything should be ok.

I came from a strict repressed family, and if it would have been up to them I would have became a nun and entered a convent. With my lack of dating history as a teen they figured this would happen. But I wanted to get married and spend my life with someone to love. Unfortunately I encountered alot of jerks an bad guys along the way from lack of guidance an experience. But I did finally marry my one to be, just too bad it wasn't much sooner.

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posted September 29, 2013 01:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
The very idea of getting married immediately after high school (let alone at 16 like Ariel the Little Mermaid) is not one that I understand.

lol I know that baffles me too,

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posted September 29, 2013 01:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NoRainNoRainbows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
Unfortunately I encountered alot of jerks an bad guys along the way from lack of guidance an experience. But I did finally marry my one to be, just too bad it wasn't much sooner.[/B]


about finding the one. i have concluded though when we do find him or her, we don't do that a minute sooner or later than it was meant to, even if it feels late for some of us.

for the OP if the two people really end up loving each other, nothing wrong with that at all. (am a big believer that real romance comes later in a relationship, and not in the beginning, simply coz of my experiences)

@ISCappy Good topic, you ask stuff that is on a lot of people's minds, but that no one asks for some reason, so thanks.

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posted September 29, 2013 02:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aquacheeka     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No, I envy them.

I went to high school with some people who ended up marrying their high school sweethearts. I wish I had found my soulmate right off the bat. I wish I had always had that stability and someone to "watch my back" and didn't endure the heartbreak and disappointments that I did. Those people will never experience the deep-seated trust issues I've inherited.

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