posted December 07, 2013 04:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Naw actually... I mean.. I just think you'd calm down if you had a female friend who was similar to me personality wise.
You'd be less frantic about the whole dating thing..

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posted December 07, 2013 05:57 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
OMG MetalAphrodite!!!

I am really sorry. I'm just messing around. I didn't realise you were the poster who said she was very sad about her bf being a jerk a few days ago. It just didn't click.

No one should make you feel small. He has no right to do that. It doesn't matter if he is nice on some days or apologises.. because the damage is done and you are already hurt.
I know that you are probably still upset now - because he was harsh.. but he is simply biting at you because of his own insecurities. It has no connection to you as a person or to the way you look <3

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I think it's unfortunate that I've fallen in love with a man who does things like this. I won't be able to deal with whatever this is until I meet him in person.

posted December 07, 2013 06:16 AM            

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However, my physical looks amount to nothing if he is not looking for what I have.

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Honestly he does not deserve you if he behaves this way. Bottom line.

posted December 07, 2013 06:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Now now Mr Moderator.... Don't go sending my arien ego into a supernova! It might glitch LL

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posted December 07, 2013 08:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Padre...

So hang on... If Gemini girl wanted just casual sex with you - and not a relationship - and you said she was attractive - Why didn't you have sex?

I am starting to worry about you.

On the other thread you said you're not conservative or prudish.. and that women want to have a serious relationship with you - and you don't want to lead them on.

But now you said.. this Gem girl wanted just sex... so what happened there?

Or are you actually demisexual and hiding it? lol http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Demisexual

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Nah, heterosexual, love women!

A one toilet bathroom in a crowded bar is a bit to public for my tastes

posted December 07, 2013 09:03 AM            

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Nah, heterosexual, love women!

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umm...?

That's a confusing answer.

Demisexual does not mean you're gay.

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A one toilet bathroom in a crowded bar is a bit to public for my tastes

Now the stairwell on the 12th floor of a hotel at 3 am..that works fine

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Where did I mention that you should've had sex in the bathroom of the bar??
LMAO

I mean.. I was imagining someone would've driven someone home.
I wasn't suggesting that you should've had sex with Gem girl like on the spot - then and there LOL
???

I think this calls for another 'Goodness'..... so.....

Goodness!!

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OH NVM... I was scrolling quickly so I didn't catch the whole story!

So you were saying.. she is the one who wanted sex in the bathroom...

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An Actress, a Gemini, was coming onto me really strongly, attractive woman, it was just to much, TO sexual all of the time.

Had to say thanks but no thanks as politely as I could manage..grabbing my ass and offering a trip to the bathroom with her was not exactly my cup o' tea

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posted December 07, 2013 09:22 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Where did I mention that you should've had sex in the bathroom of the bar??
LMAO

I mean.. I was imagining someone would've driven someone home.
I wasn't suggesting that you should've had sex with Gem girl like on the spot - then and there LOL
???

I think this calls for another 'Goodness'..... so.....

Goodness!!

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Uhm, yeah Odette, that is what she wanted to do..w/some blow involved.

So uhm, yeah, one should not worry to very much about me when it comes to sex drive..

Situation has to be right, stairwell at 3 am, that high up, 99.9% of people will take the elevator...which has a camera.

Now the stairwell has no cameras, is secluded yet still relatively public and one does not have to mess around with the room mate at the conference possibly being asleep etc

I'm picturing Odette blushing now..

posted December 07, 2013 09:24 AM            

Was it Natalie Portman?

posted December 07, 2013 09:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
I just saw that!
I didn't read it earlier. I just edited my post lol

Was it Natalie Portman?

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As if I'd tell!

Besides, IIRC Portman was a lesbian now?

Which brings up, there are capital "L" lesbians and small "l" lesbians who are more or less bisexual.

Was close with one in college, she tried her level best to get me to have sex with her, BUT, after a 15 minute conversation about what lesbians do to have safe sex I was not all that interested.

Never told her that though.

Funny thing was, we'd take public transport to school, and when black dudes saw her sitting with me they'd immediately start hitting on her..they had -0- idea..

Beautiful woman, but add in the safe sex convo with her bipolarness and it was just not happening

And back on point, all that means when I chat with AG, and hear about the troubles he's having, have to admit there is a disconnect as since I turned 19 or so attraction/dating issues just have not been a real problem so it's hard to fully relate.

posted December 07, 2013 09:38 AM            

Can you give us a hint?
Is she famous enough that we would've heard of her?

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after a 15 minute conversation about what lesbians do to have safe sex

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Why? What do lesbians do?
Is it at all different to what 'L'esbians do? :\

posted December 07, 2013 09:48 AM            

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But I want to know who it was now!!!!

Can you give us a hint?
Is she famous enough that we would've heard of her?

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Nope, not happening.

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Why? What do lesbians do?
Is it at all different to what 'L'esbians do? :\

I've had lesbians hit on me.. I'm not really sure which "L" to use on that one but it made me uncomfortable because they were too lovey dovey towards me.
I mean it feels normal when someone is just attracted to you on first impressions... But if they act like you are their soulmate and love of their life when they barely know you... it can get awkward :\
Obviously not all lesbians are like that ... but the two that hit on me were both strangely "loving" in an odd way.. I can't even explain it.

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She explained how to split a condom into two parts to make a sort of finger condom and to cover their partners uhm..."happy place" with the other half of the condom

The capital "L" ones are strictly into other women, they may or may not be the dominant ones in a encounter, they just have -0- interest in men to the point they really do not find any man attractive at all.

My college friend was a small "l", she'd sleep with men she liked but had a live in GF as well.

For myself, have had gay men hit on me as I normally seem quite neutral towards the women at a place and have -0- problem talking with anyone (obviously!)

That gets taken the wrong way and normally they'll just ask "are you gay"? When I tell them 'no, but thanks for asking" they leave the place in a hurry as I suspect they fear I'd get violent that they suggest such a thing!

posted December 07, 2013 02:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:

And back on point, all that means when I chat with AG, and hear about the troubles he's having, have to admit there is a disconnect as since I turned 19 or so attraction/dating issues just have not been a real problem so it's hard to fully relate.

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posted December 07, 2013 02:59 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Padre35:
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And back on point, all that means when I chat with AG, and hear about the troubles he's having, have to admit there is a disconnect as since I turned 19 or so attraction/dating issues just have not been a real problem so it's hard to fully relate.

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".not screwing up somehow.."

To your credit AG, it is because you are more concerned with their feelings then with your own feelings.

I suspect that is a product of negative self talk, what if whatever the "Screwup" was, amounted to actually how YOU feel about whatever it is/was?

Do your needs not count as well?

This is why I say negative self talk=low self confidence=comes out as being afraid of being who you are or what you think as it may displease someone else

Look at YTA for example, does one suppose he just sort of worries about what others think about him?

Except for his wife of course!

posted December 07, 2013 03:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:
".not screwing up somehow.."

To your credit AG, it is because you are more concerned with their feelings then with your own feelings.

I suspect that is a product of negative self talk, what if whatever the "Screwup" was, amounted to actually how YOU feel about whatever it is/was?

Do your needs not count as well?

This is why I say negative self talk=low self confidence=comes out as being afraid of being who you are or what you think as it may displease someone else

Look at YTA for example, does one suppose he just sort of worries about what others think about him?

Except for his wife of course!

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posted December 07, 2013 03:31 PM            

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Thanks, but it definitely is me screwing up . The thing about aspergers is you can kind of be oblivious to correct social behavior and say the wrong thing and women are hypersensitive to that kind of thing unfortunately and will write one off in a heartbeat.What has always been a mystery to me is how women can get all offended at a guy like me for making a social mistake and turn their backs on me but turn right around and have endless patience for a man who cheats and stuff . Yes, I'll admit this kind of affects my confidence in a negative way but how could it not? Getting written off for being one's self isn't exactly conducive to self confidence. Aspies have a hard time "faking it" and that's why we struggle in life.

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Hmm, suspect that is b/c you invest heavily into the relationship before there really IS a relationship.

My approach, what works for me, is simply not highlighting whatever faux pas I've made, I simply laugh it off.

When I really, truly do screw up, I examine why I did it, if it was the correct thing to do, if not then I go apologize, to them personally acknowledging the error.

It's not pleasant, sometimes that is just how it has to be.

If she goes along with it then great, if not, then keep looking as walking on eggshells is no way to go through life.

posted December 07, 2013 03:37 PM            

Chart wise, this can be low water. Do you have low water?

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posted December 07, 2013 03:43 PM            

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Hmm, suspect that is b/c you invest heavily into the relationship before there really IS a relationship.

My approach, what works for me, is simply not highlighting whatever faux pas I've made, I simply laugh it off.

When I really, truly do screw up, I examine why I did it, if it was the correct thing to do, if not then I go apologize, to them personally acknowledging the error.

It's not pleasant, sometimes that is just how it has to be.

If she goes along with it then great, if not, then keep looking as walking on eggshells is no way to go through life.

Hmm, do you often recall things that happened badly in the past in relationships, or do you generally recall the good things no matter how it all ended up?

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posted December 07, 2013 03:58 PM            

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Well I have made some really big social mistakes.lol just to give you an idea of what I'm working with my big brother affectionately calls me the naked gun because I'm so oblivious to what's going on in my surroundings. Most of women's communication is unspoken and I miss most of that because I have aspergers. A good example of this was the time I was at the mall and a girl kept trying to get my attention and i didn't even notice it. The girl happened to be a girl I had been chatting with online and she spotted me and proceeded to try and get my attention by apparently putting herself in my path multiple times. Of course I was completely oblivious to this and she was offended and texted me and called me an ******* and never spoke to me again. The ideal woman for me would speak up and say hello but most women wont do that, they will insist on subtle signals till hell freezes over and have no patience for guys who don't get it.

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Hmm, from my pov, perhaps one has the wrong lesson from that AG.

Take it as a self confidence boost as at the very least, she clearly liked what you had to offer.

One sees it as a negative, I see it as a positive as at the very least she clearly wanted to interact with you.

posted December 07, 2013 04:26 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Well don't get me wrong, i do take that as a positive but at the same time that sort of information is next to worthless for me if I can't recognize it and capitalize on it in the moment. Another time me and my friend were having a bite to eat and my friend leaned into me and says " that waitress had the hots for you" and of course I was oblivious and said "huh?" And he said "yeah , did you not notice the way she stood awful close to you and kind of lingered a few extra seconds?" This is the sort of thing that I miss out on because I just don't notice such things.

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That is at least two, that should boost your confidence past just being an 'avg guy w/aspergers" should it not?

On page 1 of this thread, one was mentioning older women tend to want to date younger men who the younger women want to date

posted December 07, 2013 05:03 PM            

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That is at least two, that should boost your confidence past just being an 'avg guy w/aspergers" should it not?

On page 1 of this thread, one was mentioning older women tend to want to date younger men who the younger women want to date

Apparently, that should include "you"

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