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Faith
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posted April 15, 2014 09:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
YES! Bring on the sap today!

I'm not on Facebook but that sounds very cool. Once I go on FB, I definitely will ask you to friend me, and then we can trade links!

**Edit, hope you caught what I wrote, it was funny but I didn't want to leave it up.

Hope you (and everyone reading) have/has a great night.

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Violets
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posted April 15, 2014 09:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Violets     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You too!

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aquaguy91
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posted April 15, 2014 09:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just not a girl i'm repulsed by. She has got to be able to give me wood or it wont happen.

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Violets
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posted April 15, 2014 10:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Violets     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
She has got to be able to give me wood or it wont happen.

Bahahaha...!
(You said "wood".)

Anyway, yes I think that's a known biological fact, as far as I'm aware.

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PixieJane
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posted April 15, 2014 10:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You sure do ask a lot of questions about things you say don't concern you.

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Ami Anne
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posted April 15, 2014 10:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
To me, as a Venus in Gemini, it is all about verbal. Looks don't mean much but can he talk?

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PixieJane
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posted April 15, 2014 10:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As for me I'd say it's not that important, though it has value. And what I'd consider attractive isn't what many others would.

And one thing I've noticed is that imagination has a lot to do with it. For example, someone who is either attracted or repulsed by black men have a stereotype about them in their own imagination. Likewise, both for (and against) Far East Asian men and women. Same for being attracted or repulsed by women who smoke, and so on. It's not so much the looks themselves but what the viewer thinks those looks imply about the person.

And I couldn't help but notice that a couple of years ago someone posted on LL about the kind of men she was attracted to which was internal qualities yet she had to post a pic with each one that I couldn't help but notice had unappealing men (physically) for the bad and good looking ones for the positive and I could see no reason why she attributed a pic to a quality. I came real close to scrambling them so that the unappealing men had the positive qualities and vice versa to ask her how she felt about them then but I had the impression she'd freak out (which she did kinda easily) if I did (and I'd be left without an answer so why bother). But that made me think her imagination is all too easily fooled by appearances.

Many say (especially as children) that the wicked witch is ugly but the good witch is beautiful.

People are fooled by appearances in so many other ways as well so it makes sense to me. I think people in general don't actually think but rather instinctively react, otherwise we'd live in a different world (at least things would get done very differently).

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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted April 15, 2014 10:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well everyone finds different qualities attractive anyway so what one person likes another might not.

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Padre35
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posted April 16, 2014 01:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Really does depend on the person, when I find something I like about a partner, I tend to like that about them and not focus on the other stuff, then find out what they are about.

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I'm so cappy
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posted April 16, 2014 05:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
You sure do ask a lot of questions about things you say don't concern you.

I like looking into people's minds, what can I do ^^

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posted April 16, 2014 09:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
I like looking into people's minds, what can I do ^^


You could ask what dreams people used to have and why they gave them up (or at least put them on hold), what countries people want to see (or have seen) and why, recurring dreams and nightmares (and what they might mean) or even psychic dreams, their favorite pet (and if they lost a pet and then why get another if the pain of the loss was so great), what if they found their brother or mother was involved with criminals, among many other things which would give you a window into their mind that you wouldn't find from common sources (see below).

And if you just have to stir the pot while doing so then ethical dilemmas are popular, and can also give a window inside how someone's mind works. Or say asking about how far they'd bend their moral code to put a roof over their head (as opposed to prostitution specifically) and what would make them more flexible on those personal codes (related to ethical dilemmas, like do you choose homelessness over repugnant animal tests and environmental pollution when your children would suffer with you but hoping they learned your values or is their well-being that allows them regular food, safety, comforts, and a good education more important? What if your decision, either one, cost you the respect of your children?).

But it seems that nearly all your questions (with the exception of astrology) are related somehow to dating and sex (which I thought you didn't care about but going by your threads I'd say you're obsessed with it). And many questions such as this thread (unlike the alternative queries I just listed) can easily be found discussed OL (including chat rooms), on TV talk shows, and among friends (including eavesdropping on others talking in public places).

And don't forget women magazines that obsess over these things as well, and can often be found at the checkout counter of many grocery and convenience stores. Heck, just subscribe to Cosmopolitan, not only do they discuss many of the topics you bring up but also publish personal stories and comments about those stories (OL and in the magazine) with their own OL message boards...given their popularity and how they obsess over the same things you do I imagine you'd get a lot more responses there, too, AND Cosmo tends to treat astrology favorably (at least to how it relates to dating & sex anyway).

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posted April 16, 2014 09:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sibyl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I do have some preferences. I'm blonde, but strangely not very attracted to fellow blondes. It's like if he has brown hair I could go for a 5 but if he's blonde he has to be a 9 or 10.

I engage on an intellectual level first though. That's really what makes me look twice.

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 16, 2014 10:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I engage on an intellectual level first though. That's really what makes me look twice.

Which topic matters interest you primarily? Social science matters, politics, history, economics, philosophy, science, moral values, hobbies?

What are your degrees in?

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Sibyl
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posted April 16, 2014 10:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sibyl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Which topic matters interest you primarily? Social science matters, politics, history, economics, philosophy, science, moral values, hobbies?

What are your degrees in?


ALL OF THEM

Haha.

My main degree is in international politics, which is my primary interest. I'm a very flexible person when it comes to interests though (I have allot of them myself), and so I can hold a conversation on allot of different topics.

To me the most important thing is that people have a passion and some original perspectives. I don't usually even notice a guy until he says something interesting, so I would say appearances are less important than passion and intellect (of which there are many different forms) in my book.

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I'm so cappy
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posted April 16, 2014 10:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Pixie
Just because someone doesn't feel like participating in sex and dating doesn't mean they can't be interested in these topics. You know, a scientific interest. It's good to know something about something that the majority of people on this planet find the most important part of their lives. I may never have sex but I still want to understand it. I've already said a couple of times on this site that I like to research it. I also never claimed to reject the idea of me being in a relationship someday (with the emphasis on "someday"). I would consider it if my expectations were met. What I don't care about is going on dates. This is not how my relationship would start if I entered one. If you still have a problem then avoid my threads, as simple as that.

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PixieJane
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posted April 16, 2014 10:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was saying how strange I found it.

But I will say that for someone who likes to stir the pot as much as you, you sure do get defensive all too easily. There, actual criticism against you.

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I'm so cappy
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posted April 16, 2014 11:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I hope you find it less strange now ^^ It's hard not to get defensive when someone's trying to expel me to another site.

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PixieJane
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posted April 16, 2014 11:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Who's trying to expel you?

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I'm so cappy
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posted April 16, 2014 11:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You? From this board at least.

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PixieJane
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posted April 16, 2014 11:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If I were I might report that pic you had of an octopus to Randall which was pushing it, possibly even you trying to lock the thread out of mischievousness (not saying you were, but if I wanted to expel you that's just one thing I could do). And given how you've gotten onto Kero I'd think you'd know better.

But seriously, how am I trying to expel you?

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posted April 16, 2014 11:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Pixie
Just because someone doesn't feel like participating in sex and dating doesn't mean they can't be interested in these topics. You know, a scientific interest. It's good to know something about something that the majority of people on this planet find the most important part of their lives. I may never have sex but I still want to understand it. I've already said a couple of times on this site that I like to research it. I also never claimed to reject the idea of me being in a relationship someday (with the emphasis on "someday"). I would consider it if my expectations were met. What I don't care about is going on dates. This is not how my relationship would start if I entered one. If you still have a problem then avoid my threads, as simple as that.




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posted April 16, 2014 11:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Never mind.

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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted April 16, 2014 01:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Okay everybody calm down :/

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 16, 2014 02:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Sibyl:
My main degree is in international politics, which is my primary interest.

One of my secondary degrees is in International Affairs where I focused on emerging economic development. That, plus I had a minor UN fellowship and also interned at the IBRD, as part of fulfulling the degree requirements.

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posted April 16, 2014 05:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sibyl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
One of my secondary degrees is in International Affairs where I focused on emerging economic development. That, plus I had a minor UN fellowship and also interned at the IBRD, as part of fulfulling the degree requirements.


That's amazing! Sounds like great experiences I've specialized in conflict resolution.

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