posted March 08, 2015 12:24 PM            

That's usually how we advertise and it would get you out there for more people to see.
They're affordable and help support Lindaland.
(I really liked your art)

posted March 08, 2015 12:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
Exactly! They definitely aren't happy or look forward to sleeping with complete strangers each night/hour. People involved are clearly void of something and it's definitely not positive. Women involved in that business are usually those with daddy issues, those who have men issues, women who aren't happy with themselves and need men that don't know them to make them feel anything other than the disappointment they feel in themselves. Either way you look at it there's some damage there. Usually men who aren't attractive or have issues getting women, getting sex are the ones that seek prostitutes. That in itself would take away the pride of anyone who has to sleep with such individuals. I mean can you imagine having to force yourself to have sex with someone you don't want to? I know I can't. That's what these individuals do and they do it for money. Very sad.

I'm absolutely not judging here and if anyone feels that I am in my posts then I apologize because that's not my intent. Just speaking what's on my mind.

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This is a great comment, thank you BG! Blunt and to the point, not afraid to call it what it is.

This is one of the most difficult things, but also beautiful, in modern communication: the genuine need to be tolerant towards other life styles, however trying to make people understand (what a difficult task! without being called all kinds of names) this tolerance sometimes comes from compassion and the understanding of the fact that we all make our mistakes rather than seeing something ugly as beautiful, something negative as positive.

Not being judgmental doesn't mean seeing everything done under the sun as a positive manifestation, something we all should embrace. Better to be judgmental than to do that.

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posted March 08, 2015 12:28 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I'm still laughing about gatekeepers.

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posted March 08, 2015 12:34 PM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:

I hate it when this happens. So you are suggesting expressing a strong opinion is equal to being self righteous, narrow-minded and intolerant.

When the only thing you had to do now, and I am still waiting for it, is to explain the spirituality, sacredness, expanded consciousness you experience in casual sex with strangers and the difference between casual sex with strangers and fulfilling a physical release for a physical need (similar to going to the toilets).

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I'll be clear though, I don't want you to feel attacked, I'm not saying your personality is any of these things. I know you didn't mention anything about feeling personally attacked but it is worth saying.

But I think the manner of presentation, and probably the core of your opinion does have a superior feel to it.

I'm not trying to prove that casual sex has aspects of spirituality, sacred, and expanded consciousness. I am arguing that the lack of it does not make it inferior to sex with a loved one.

I mean we practice astrology. The whole point of astrology are signs representing all facets of life on a leveled playing field. Not everything requires water house, scorpio like deepness. Deepness doesn't make you any closer to bringing the energies of the zodiac to a whole than does physical, casual, friendly sex.

And I really think you're confusing personal needs and preference for universal growth.

A person having the main mode of casual sex, polyamorous sex, or whatever is simply expressing another energy of the wheel equal to the way you express yours. They're not experiencing 1% of themselves.

That's the difference I think. When someone tells me they don't want to marry, or they prefer casual sex, I don't feel as if they're lacking in something. If a person tells me they prefer deep, meaningful sex with a loved one, I don't feel as if they've expanded their consciousness.

So I can't answer in the way you prefer because it would be conceding that spirituality, sacredness, and expandedness is a necessary result of sex and that it is closer to evolution than practicing casual sex or what some by argue universal love.

I'm very in the middle here as I stated before. I'm quite fine with all these modes. I can commit, I can be casual, and I can be in the middle of the two. Whichever mode I practice I don't feel of practicing a higher self though.

posted March 08, 2015 12:50 PM            

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Originally posted by lalalinda:
Hello LeeLoo, Have you thought about getting a banner?

That's usually how we advertise and it would get you out there for more people to see.
They're affordable and help support Lindaland.
(I really liked your art)

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Thank you for your appreciation, lalalinda, and for promoting me with your post. I will definitely consider supporting Lindaland with a banner at some point, and thus expanding my viewers too, when and if the case. I have already made the first post of my blog an article I first wrote here and redirected it to Lindaland and I will continue to do so , also to find other ways to promote Lindaland on my page, out of love for this forum. For now, my blog is new like a baby and my first concern is to make it worthy of more viewers by the articles I will post there.

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posted March 08, 2015 12:57 PM            

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Originally posted by Koho:
I'll be clear though, I don't want you to feel attacked, I'm not saying your personality is any of these things. I know you didn't mention anything about feeling personally attacked but it is worth saying.

But I think the manner of presentation, and probably the core of your opinion does have a superior feel to it.

I'm not trying to prove that casual sex has aspects of spirituality, sacred, and expanded consciousness. I am arguing that the lack of it does not make it inferior to sex with a loved one.

I mean we practice astrology. The whole point of astrology are signs representing all facets of life on a leveled playing field. Not everything requires water house, scorpio like deepness. Deepness doesn't make you any closer to bringing the energies of the zodiac to a whole than does physical, casual, friendly sex.

And I really think you're confusing personal needs and preference for universal growth.

A person having the main mode of casual sex, polyamorous sex, or whatever is simply expressing another energy of the wheel equal to the way you express yours. They're not experiencing 1% of themselves.

That's the difference I think. When someone tells me they don't want to marry, or they prefer casual sex, I don't feel as if they're lacking in something. If a person tells me they prefer deep, meaningful sex with a loved one, I don't feel as if they've expanded their consciousness.

So I can't answer in the way you prefer because it would be conceding that spirituality, sacredness, and expandedness is a necessary result of sex and that it is closer to evolution than practicing casual sex or what some by argue universal love.

I'm very in the middle here as I stated before. I'm quite fine with all these modes. I can commit, I can be casual, and I can be in the middle of the two. Whichever mode I practice I don't feel of practicing a higher self though.

If my thoughts are scattered feel free to point it out

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And I don't want you to feel attacked either, because I appreciate the intelligence and sensitivity of your posts. Thank you for this wonderful post. But I can't lie to you, I don't think things are equal, and it is not about my lifestyle, who says I have the power to live my life to the heights of the ideals I promote here?

This doesn't mean that living a life of casual sex, now or in the past, makes me an inferior being, but I do it being aware of its limitations and I don't see it equal to living true love or sacred sexuality, that's the problem here, tolerance doesn't mean everything is equally good, equally sacred.

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posted March 08, 2015 01:02 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
AG
Let me shake it down like this. After, I'm taking the shovel to it for now and you can continue on your own.

You want women. You want a gf. Something that is not only evident even in your twisted views and bitterness, but evident in the history of your posts where you're talking to this woman or that one.
Your very bitterness and twisted views are a large part of why you are unsuccessful in getting one. People smell that s*hit from miles away and pass on you.
In all honesty, I think the majority of us would like to help you. I know I would.
The problem is, your triple fixed pia modality. You have some men and a lot of women telling you that you have it wrong. Not to be mean about it, but to genuinely help. What do you do? In the face of many including many women you tell ALL of us that WE ALL have it wrong. Your stubbornness is beyond anything I've ever seen.
We in turn become just as frustrated as you but for other reasons and it turns to this.
If you want to stop being alone, you're going to have to learn to listen.

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posted March 08, 2015 01:03 PM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
This is a great comment, thank you BG! Blunt and to the point, not afraid to call it what it is.

This is one of the most difficult things, but also beautiful, in modern communication: the genuine need to be tolerant towards other life styles, however trying to make people understand (what a difficult task! without being called all kinds of names) this tolerance sometimes comes from compassion and the understanding of the fact that we all make our mistakes rather than seeing something ugly as beautiful, something negative as positive.

Not being judgmental doesn't mean seeing everything done under the sun as a positive manifestation, something we all should embrace. Better to be judgmental than to do that.

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I posted this right before she closed it!
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Your welcome. Thank you, LeeLoo. I really appreciate that. I really wish people would just read instead of projecting their emotions and feelings onto others. Things tend to get misconstrued and fights break out and it all boils down to misunderstanding. It's tough communicating online and getting others to understand what you mean, not what they think you really mean.

posted March 08, 2015 01:10 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
AG
Let me shake it down like this. After, I'm taking the shovel to it for now and you can continue on your own.

You want women. You want a gf. Something that is not only evident even in your twisted views and bitterness, but evident in the history of your posts where you're talking to this woman or that one.
Your very bitterness and twisted views are a large part of why you are unsuccessful in getting one. People smell that s*hit from miles away and pass on you.
In all honesty, I think the majority of us would like to help you. I know I would.
The problem is, your triple fixed pia modality. You have some men and a lot of women telling you that you have it wrong. Not to be mean about it, but to genuinely help. What do you do? In the face of many including many women you tell ALL of us that WE ALL have it wrong. Your stubbornness is beyond anything I've ever seen.
We in turn become just as frustrated as you but for other reasons and it turns to this.
If you want to stop being alone, you're going to have to learn to listen.

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posted March 08, 2015 01:11 PM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:

And I don't want you to feel attacked either, because I appreciate the intelligence and sensitivity of your posts. Thank you for this wonderful post. But I can't lie to you, I don't think things are equal, and it is not about my lifestyle, who says I have the power to live my life to the heights of the ideals I promote here?

This doesn't mean that living a life of casual sex, now or in the past, makes me an inferior being, but I do it being aware of its limitations and I don't see it equal to living true love or sacred sexuality, that's the problem here, tolerance doesn't mean everything is equally good, equally sacred.

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I don't feel attacked at all. Thank you for the compliments. I feel the same way. I wouldn't of engaged in this conversation if I didn't feel there was something to learn from you. I may not agree with you now, and may never will, but the fact we had this conversation now can effect something in the future making it worthwhile.

Arguing is a great way to learn, and if there's nothing to learn I tend to avoid the conversation. It's why I haven't commented on the other conversation in this thread. So again, thank you for putting up with my rebuttals whether you agree or not.

posted March 08, 2015 01:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:

Who's upset or in need of a chill here? *looks around for the one calling names* Clearly there was a misunderstanding or we wouldn't be having this conversation, Koho. I now understand what you meant and didn't before. Thank you for clarifying.

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posted March 08, 2015 01:15 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I could see your point if we were having this conversation in real life but we aren't. The fact is nobody on this forum has met me in person and thus don't really have any insight into what i'm like. All you see are words on a screen. Yes, I can see that I may come across as bitter online but i'm just telling it like it is, that's just the way life has been for me up to this point. I'm not going to sugarcoat it, that's just my style. The thing is everybody has an opinion about everything and that doesn't make them right. Heck, I once had a guy tell me that I wasn't serious enough and joked too much and that was why I struggle with women. I found that funny because I had always been told that having a sense of humor was an asset with women.

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So you mean to tell us that you don't take any of what we say to you seriously? *scratches head* Then why do you repeatedly write essays here about your personal life offline and then ask what we think? Clearly you care and or want/need attention then, am I wrong to assume such things?

posted March 08, 2015 01:16 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i'm just telling it like it is, that's just the way life has been for me up to this point.

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1 - The go-to line.
2- What do you think my post was?
3- You said it. The way life has been for YOU. NOT "the way it is."
4- "To this point" implies that you believe things can change.

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
The fact is nobody on this forum has met me in person and thus don't really have any insight into what i'm like. All you see are words on a screen.

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The same applies to you.

posted March 08, 2015 01:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Koho:
I don't feel attacked at all. Thank you for the compliments. I feel the same way. I wouldn't of engaged in this conversation if I didn't feel there was something to learn from you. I may not agree with you now, and may never will, but the fact we had this conversation now can effect something in the future making it worthwhile.

Arguing is a great way to learn, and if there's nothing to learn I tend to avoid the conversation. It's why I haven't commented on the other conversation in this thread. So again, thank you for putting up with my rebuttals whether you agree or not.

I would love to talk about what you said about tolerance but I think it's worth of its own conversation in the future.

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Thank you too, and for putting up with me, you too!....and we definitely should continue about tolerance some other time...looking forward to it!

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posted March 08, 2015 01:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Koho:
I could of written better and been a little more thorough in explaining myself. Thank you for understanding.

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posted March 08, 2015 01:35 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:

LOL... it's like a "the people of Wal-Mart" in here. I want to walk away but I can't stop staring.

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posted March 08, 2015 01:39 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
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LOL... it's like a "the people of Wal-Mart" in here. I want to walk away but I can't stop staring.

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You did similar earlier if I'm not mistaken.
Also, as Randall states, attack ideas, not people and it's your ideas, not you, that I say things like that about. Otherwise, why would I bother? "That's your problem" would be my attitude. It doesn't offend me or anything. I'd just like you to see the error in your thinking. It blocks you from the things you want and we all see it. We all try to tell you so but you can't open your mind a fraction.
I simply meant that this thread is like that. The thread as a whole is pretty ugly.

posted March 08, 2015 11:18 PM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Thank you for your appreciation, lalalinda, and for promoting me with your post. I will definitely consider supporting Lindaland with a banner at some point, and thus expanding my viewers too, when and if the case. I have already made the first post of my blog an article I first wrote here and redirected it to Lindaland and I will continue to do so , also to find other ways to promote Lindaland on my page, out of love for this forum. For now, my blog is new like a baby and my first concern is to make it worthy of more viewers by the articles I will post there.

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posted March 09, 2015 02:23 AM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
You did similar earlier if I'm not mistaken.
Also, as Randall states, attack ideas, not people and it's your ideas, not you, that I say things like that about. Otherwise, why would I bother? "That's your problem" would be my attitude. It doesn't offend me or anything. I'd just like you to see the error in your thinking. It blocks you from the things you want and we all see it. We all try to tell you so but you can't open your mind a fraction.
I simply meant that this thread is like that. The thread as a whole is pretty ugly.

Also, if that's all you got then I'm going to assume the rest of my post was irrefutable.

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posted March 09, 2015 05:58 AM            

I think it's beneficial for you not to read things like that. Y'all single because you're too busy reading that garbage and analyzing what reasons you have to be frustrated with dating.

The fact is, there are probably many, many factors (geographics, etc etc) that can swing it in the articles favor or the commenters favor.
I just think it's an unhealthy thing to get sucked into.

You read that and think, "That's horsesh*t. I agree with the commenters!!"