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Odette Moderator Posts: 6755 From: Registered: May 2012	posted March 08, 2016 06:24 AM . IP: Logged
teasel Knowflake Posts: 8960 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 08, 2016 11:55 AM I haven't read the whole thing yet, but I will. Skimming to the end, I can be both. If I'm anxious, then my mind is already in the mode of thinking the worst about someone/something. That happened to me just recently. I'm also the type that needs a certain amount of space. I don't check email until I'm ready, won't always answer my phone (it isn't always charged up). IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 69033 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted March 08, 2016 12:30 PM This is sooo powerful, Odette. I am in awe of these insights and they give everyone else courage to be themselves. Bless you, my Friend. ------------------ Want to Read Simple, Fun,Sexy Articles on Astrology? Check Me Out, DUDE. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 11685 From: Registered: Nov 2011	posted March 08, 2016 01:07 PM Interesting. IP: Logged
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12072 From: Wankety Wankerson Registered: Jan 2012	posted March 08, 2016 01:30 PM I got fearful-avoidant IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 69033 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted March 08, 2016 09:11 PM Odette Do you think you had experiences that made you form these patterns or is it your make up--the chart/born with certain traits etc ------------------ Want to Read Simple, Fun,Sexy Articles on Astrology? Check Me Out, DUDE. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
Valentine Knowflake Posts: 797 From: Canada Registered: Dec 2014	posted March 08, 2016 10:10 PM No surprise to me, I got secure........ IP: Logged
Odette Moderator Posts: 6755 From: Registered: May 2012	posted March 08, 2016 11:03 PM . IP: Logged
teasel Knowflake Posts: 8960 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 08, 2016 11:19 PM .................. IP: Logged
teasel Knowflake Posts: 8960 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 08, 2016 11:22 PM Also, if I feel secure in my friendship or relationship, then I won't be that concerned about their not being there all the time. Which is why I'm attracted to the men that I like. IP: Logged
Elysia Knowflake Posts: 2150 From: Gotham Registered: Aug 2015	posted March 09, 2016 01:28 AM Odette. Well, let us know how it shapes up with this guy. Or if you want to talk about what got you here in the first place. Either way, we're here for you. IP: Logged
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12072 From: Wankety Wankerson Registered: Jan 2012	posted March 09, 2016 07:11 AM quote: Originally posted by Odette: AG - I did feel that we are in the same general camp. So many times I defended you and told people you are not a chauvinist... and remember I said once that you were just hurt and disappointed in relationships - and it has nothing to do with chauvinism Its strange how I saw certain things in you.. and also in other avoidant friends I've had --- but I was completely blinded to them in myself.o It's funny because I remember being suspicious of girls when I was like 11 years old. It has only gotten worse as I have gotten older and had real negative experiences with dating. I thought "women don't have any integrity and can't be trusted. They are a waste of my time" but I kept trying. I literally laughed out loud when I read "Fearful-Avoidant types are the avoidant types that haven't given up". So basically our philosophy is "everyone is **** , but i'm lonely so let's get together". IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 69033 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted March 09, 2016 08:40 AM Odette My total joy is seeing you search your heart and coming up with these gems. It gives me courage to do the same. Love you ------------------ Want to Read Simple, Fun,Sexy Articles on Astrology? Check Me Out, DUDE. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
Vajra Knowflake Posts: 1737 From: Registered: Dec 2012	posted March 09, 2016 02:07 PM . IP: Logged
Valentine Knowflake Posts: 797 From: Canada Registered: Dec 2014	posted March 09, 2016 11:43 PM Vajra, thanks for sharing your story. Odette, I wish you all the best. I can remember my mom telling me how important it was to give babies lots of love and attention. I'm thankful that she knew that. IP: Logged
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12072 From: Wankety Wankerson Registered: Jan 2012	posted March 10, 2016 01:28 AM I have been thinking about it and I do not believe that 60% of people have a healthy and secure attachment style. There's no way.... I would say the majority of people have some kind of baggage that affects how they relate to others. It would be a miracle to get through childhood and the teen years without any emotional scars from major betrayals and disappointments. Just look at the dating patterns of young people today. Everyone wants to play games and nobody wants to be vulnerable. I don't think that's healthy and secure, but that's just my opinion IP: Logged
Elysia Knowflake Posts: 2150 From: Gotham Registered: Aug 2015	posted March 10, 2016 12:03 PM ^ I quite agree with this, actually. Going by sheer numbers alone - I've hardly found anyone with a 'healthy' emotional attachment style. Maybe in an ideal world, we'd all be issue-free and able to have normal, functional relationships. But where's the fun in that? IP: Logged
teasel Knowflake Posts: 8960 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted March 10, 2016 02:18 PM I used to have a pretty healthy emotional attachment style. It's still there somewhere. But the baggage from the last six years buried it. When you have "family" and "friends" suddenly shut you out/basically abandon you, sometimes in favour of someone else, it's really hard not to take it personally. I'm angrier and more hurt than I've been in years, and it took me right back to when I was bullied/shunned in school, that left me suicidal. Being made to feel ugly and awful. I still can't get over the fact that family did that to me. So those who did the damage, still have their relationships, and I get to hear how happy my sister apparently is. They crushed any happiness I was feeling, and it seems like it's never coming back. Not now. IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 69033 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted March 10, 2016 04:39 PM I am so glad this Forum is getting back to what it is meant to be. We helping each other ------------------ Want to Read Simple, Fun,Sexy Articles on Astrology? Check Me Out, DUDE. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
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