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Topic: I got stood up tonight
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aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted March 11, 2016 04:04 AM
  
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Originally posted by Odette:
Out of curiosity though - are any of these friends - who were never written off, female? 
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Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 04:05 AM
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Odette *Knock Knock* Odette *Knock Knock*
Lollll Yes.... What do you want Sheldon?! IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 04:06 AM
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Odette:
[b] Out of curiosity though - are any of these friends - who were never written off, female?
No. [/B][/QUOTE]
Oh Boy....
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 11931
From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted March 11, 2016 04:08 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
LollllYes.... What do you want Sheldon?!
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Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 04:57 AM
hahaha But Sheldon... We are in the Hominidae family, order of primates..class mammalia.
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aquaguy91
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posted March 11, 2016 05:01 AM
But you are asexual and compared sex to making a pizza. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 05:59 AM
#touché Lolll... That comeback works for everything haha IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 06:01 AM
But... I actually have to reconsider demisexuality - in light of what I realised...Because... while intimacy could lead to sexual attraction.. and sex.
The opposite would also be true - that sex creates more intimacy between two people. So now I'm not sure if this was another subconscious dismissive-avoidant tactic to keep people at arm's length. It's really hard to say. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 11, 2016 06:03 AM
Really? Interesting.IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 06:05 AM
Yes ^ Just edited IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 11931
From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted March 11, 2016 06:19 AM
Interesting.... Veery Interesting
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Elysia
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From: Gotham
Registered: Aug 2015
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posted March 11, 2016 07:48 AM
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 11931
From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted March 11, 2016 08:13 AM
Odette,
for what it's worth I have never perceived you as emotionally unavailable or anything like that. You always struck me as a sappy and touchy feel person.IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 08:26 AM
^ Thank you AG! That's because I'm empathetic. Being dismissive in this way does not make one a sociopath lolBut my emotional shutdown lies in the fact that I never let anyone get (really) close to me romantically and haven't had one proper relationship in nearly 30 years now. And I am also strangely unphased by the whole thing.
Unphased like... I genuinely feel nothing about this. Even now if someone asked - Are you sad about this? Or - Do you want to have a relationship?
My only conscious answer would be: I have no preference. I simply don't care. ^ The only difference is that now I know that there is something unhealthy about my level of dismissiveness... and there are much deeper reasons behind it. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 08:32 AM
Elysia - I did see your reply and I agree. I never said I was 100% that this girl is avoidant.But I'm also taking into account the fact that AG has these negative experiences with women time and time again.
The attachment theory could be a possible explanation... since insecurely attached people often date each other. IP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted March 11, 2016 08:41 AM
Yeah, I know you didn't mean that.. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 11931
From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted March 11, 2016 01:49 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
Being dismissive in this way does not make one a sociopath lol
Who said not being sappy and touchy feel make one a sociopath?
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 11931
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posted March 11, 2016 03:44 PM
Well.....
I considered giving her another chance, but she is being incredibly selfish given the circumstances. She asked for a rain check and I initially told her next Friday would be the best day for me. She seemed anxious to meet me sooner and said "Why can't we just meet and go for a walk downtown?" So I said "Sure. What time can you meet?". She said "How about tomorrow?" and I told her that Saturday and Sunday would not be good days for me because I work from 7am to 7pm both days and will be very tired after work. I told her tonight is a good night though. Then she had the audacity to ask me "Well, can't you just meet me after work tomorrow?" She asked me this after me telling her that I have to work 12 hours tomorrow. Unbelievable.... A decent person would feel bad about standing someone up and be cooperative about setting up another date, but she is just being impossible. Next.....IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 11, 2016 03:49 PM
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Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 03:52 PM
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 11931
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posted March 11, 2016 03:57 PM
I did read up on it, Odette. That's how I know I am fearful-avoidant. It's irrelevant now because I'm not playing these games with her.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 11931
From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted March 11, 2016 04:03 PM
Odette,
We should date... We could avoid skype dates with each other. LOL IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 04:54 PM
AG Lol
That would be pretty funny.I actually do this you know... avoid skype dates and calls and messaging.
I'm not proud of it now that I know the reasons behind it.
I used to give myself excuses (like "I'm just too busy".."I just can't do this".. "I need space".. "This is really draining".. "This person is just too much. They are too needy:.. "They're an emotional vampire and sucking the life out of me" etc) ^ It's a very compulsive subconscious thing.. like a claustrophobic person trying to break out of an enclosed space. Sorry to keep derailing your thread.. But ok... with you, this wouldn't happen to such an extent because you're not trying to get very close to me, in a way I would find invasive (probably because you're also avoidant lol). I usually overreact when someone tries to get close... rather than Sheldon/Amy friends IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 11931
From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted March 11, 2016 04:59 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
AG Lol
That would be pretty funny.I actually do this you know... avoid skype dates and calls and messaging.
I'm not proud of it now that I know the reasons behind it.
I used to give myself excuses (like "I'm just too busy".."I just can't do this".. "I need space".. "This is really draining".. "This person is just too much. They are too needy:.. "They're an emotional vampire and sucking the life out of me" etc) ^ It's a very compulsive subconscious thing.. like a claustrophobic person trying to break out of an enclosed space. Sorry to keep derailing your thread.. But ok... with you, this wouldn't happen to such an extent because you're not trying to get very close to me, in a way I would find invasive (probably because you're also avoidant lol). I usually overreact when someone tries to get close... rather than Sheldon/Amy friends
You do realize they ended up having coitis, right? LOL
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Odette
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posted March 11, 2016 05:06 PM
hahaha you and this coitis obsession lolllIP: Logged |
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