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Desiring Shadows
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posted April 29, 2018 04:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My so called hobbies.
I personally like spending time with family, on Facebook(seeing what everyone’s saying/doing), reading astrology’s psychology of people and comparing people to signs, and sometimes watching spirituality videos. But as a Taurus ASC I find that I’m much more relaxed with the things I like to do. I had a terrible experience where I was best friends with this girl, who basically said I needed to get “hobbies” because I wasnt as eventful or entertained with diverse trivialities as she was.
Okay my hobbies are justifiable. She would draw, watch anime, play video games. She was all over the place. I’m just too passionate and I am more narrowed in to the things I enjoy. I like psychology and studying people.... At the time when she said that I found it to be really insulting.. Ever since, my best friend at the time, betrayed me because she found me to be dull, rather than passionate... I have felt a tinge of insecurity towards the things I like to do.
In your honest opinion would you say those hobbies are lame?
I think that anything a person spends their time doing could be considered a hobby. Some people meditate. Others fish. Like these aren’t all over the place things. To tis day she has me blocked. She was a terrible friend and I know I’m better off without her because of how terribly she judged me.
She was a Pisces sun, Aquarius Moon, Aquarius Ascendant
I’m a Virgo Sun, Moon Scorpio, Ascendant Taurus

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Desiring Shadows
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posted April 29, 2018 04:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sometimes I go to the gym. I work, and if someone invited me somewhere we will travel to the beach, movies, etc.
I am not dull. What a stupid witch..

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Desiring Shadows
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posted April 29, 2018 04:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
One of the reasons I am bringing this up again is because my new best friend who is a Pisces, Moon Libra, Ascendant Leo, makes me sometimes feel like I am bland in my approach to life.
She gets me, she has mercury Pisces and I’m a mercury Virgo so our communication is completely crystal clear and we understand each other. But she has so many hobbies and I just don’t find that many things interesting. I’m afraid I’ll lose her.

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Desiring Shadows
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posted April 29, 2018 04:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I dated a Scorpio Sun, Moon Pisces, Ascendant Libra and I know for a fact I am not the only one as simple as I am because he liked to watch tv and stay home all of the time.

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posted April 29, 2018 08:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anonymidarkness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Maybe your hobbies revolve around the intellectual realm unlike hers.

It can be a bit hard to maintain friendship if you don't have a common interest though, hell people watch the TV show watched by their friends just to have something to talk about .

Depends on how much your friendship has progressed too I guess, at first we do need common interests, but after a while they stop mattering.

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posted April 29, 2018 10:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I really don't see how you become best friends with people that you have so little in common with (as in this should've come up before you reached "best friend" as it doesn't sound like you're gaming with her, watching anime with her, etc), so I don't see how you're connecting in the first place and how a bond forms that you'd call such a person a best friend.

All hobbies, within reason are fine. Different strokes for different folks. (And let me say it amuses me when people who get excited watching sports on TV put down others for watching game play videos.) I don't measure people by their hobbies (though also being interested in psychology and human behavior I can ponder the hobbies of others and how they came to have them and what it means for them--that doesn't cause me to form a bond, mind you). I can think of someone's hobbies as dull or boring to me, but that doesn't mean I think they're a dull, boring person. It's just part of who they are, not all of who they are, and it doesn't bother me that people have different interests than me, and their differences are likely to intrigue me. I buy people books, movies, and games that I have no interest in myself but know they do.

Of course, we have to have SOMETHING in common to connect, but it sounds to me like you have that with this new person...and if she requires that you like the same things she does then...well for me, I'd say I was better off without her. I don't demand people like what i like, and won't let them make such demands on me (though I may show curiosity and interest, of course).

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
It can be a bit hard to maintain friendship if you don't have a common interest though, hell people watch the TV show watched by their friends just to have something to talk about

I've done this, though more with business associates. One person I do business with is always talking about the Wendy Williams Show, which is not a show that interests me. Still, I watched a few eps (letting it play while I did other stuff) just to have some context and and idea of what she's talking about. Doesn't mean I watch it regularly by any means, but it helps a lot, mainly to keep her from feeling awkward as I stare blankly at her because I barely even have a vague idea of what she's talking about (but as I now have the "tone and flavor" of the show I can fill in many blanks and not be wondering about specifics, and it also clued me in to how she sees and processes the world around her).

Still, I can have problems with people who insist I watch all the same things they do just so we can talk about it. I don't care that they love it, I'm just not going to watch every series or movie as there is so much I want to see as it is to commit the time and money to see everything (even if I can enjoy something, I still have to be in the mood for it). I try to be at least vaguely aware of what the shows are, but I don't have to watch them...heck, sometimes I can be genuinely curious about a show that I don't intend to see and let others talk my ears off about it.

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ReachingForTheStars
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posted April 29, 2018 10:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ReachingForTheStars     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
I am not dull. What a stupid witch..

Lol! Sorry, I had to laugh at that.

I can sense your frustration.

quote:
Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
In your honest opinion would you say those hobbies are lame?

Yes, those hobbies are l.a.m.e lame!

How do you feel about that?

Not good?

Are you thinking, “no they’re not”. “You cannot say that.” “Some people like to meditate.” “Some like to fish.” “Some like to golf.” If they like those things, then obviously, some people don’t think they’re lame.

It’s subjective, right!? It’s obvious you’ve come to the conclusion that there is no objectively right or wrong, true or false.

I agree with that!

My point is:

This question does not have an objective answer. It’s worded in a way that acknowledges the situation as a matter of opinion, but you don’t seem to truly grasp what that means.

Some will think your hobbies are lame, some won’t.

In your friend’s honest opinion, those hobbies are lame. It sounds like you’re not okay with that.

Does the opinions of us strangers matter more than the person you called a “friend”? A best friend even?

Now, I have a confession to make (and I really hope you made it this far) I like the same things you do!! I DO NOT think your hobbies are lame (with the exception of FB - I hate FB). I have a tendency to call certain forms of recreation “trivial” and “mindless” too, but this is ME being a “stupid witch”! Lol.

If you like psychology and studying people, then I hope you’ll find it interesting to know what you’re (and your friend, and probably me) doing here is engaging in confirmation bias. You’re rationalizing and you’re rejecting your friend’s feedback. I took it for granted that you’d also reject my phony feedback! (Sorry about that)

http://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-confirmation-bias-2795024

Your friend has a right to her opinion and it doesn’t make you or the things you like to do objectively dull. 😉

What the others have said about common interests is true. People tend to seek out others that reinforce how they think, what they think, how they feel, what they feel... you get the point. This is largely how the confirmation bias works. You have the privilege of being questioned and challenged. This is a good opportunity for you to stretch your mind a bit. Try new things. Get a bigger perspective. It’s not a comfortable experience.

Be a bit more confident about what you like, especially if it’s what you truly enjoy. This may mean you’re gonna have to be more independent than most. Keep in mind that variety isn’t always a bad thing.

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Randall
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posted April 30, 2018 05:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There's nothing dull about you--with or without hobbies.

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Desiring Shadows
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posted April 30, 2018 09:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Maybe your hobbies revolve around the intellectual realm unlike hers.

It can be a bit hard to maintain friendship if you don't have a common interest though, hell people watch the TV show watched by their friends just to have something to talk about .

Depends on how much your friendship has progressed too I guess, at first we do need common interests, but after a while they stop mattering.


Yeah, she must’ve been too airy. Like a fart! LOL 😂😂😂

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Desiring Shadows
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posted April 30, 2018 09:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by PixieJane:
I really don't see how you become best friends with people that you have so little in common with (as in this should've come up before you reached "best friend" as it doesn't sound like you're gaming with her, watching anime with her, etc), so I don't see how you're connecting in the first place and how a bond forms that you'd call such a person a best friend.

All hobbies, within reason are fine. Different strokes for different folks. (And let me say it amuses me when people who get excited watching sports on TV put down others for watching game play videos.) I don't measure people by their hobbies (though also being interested in psychology and human behavior I can ponder the hobbies of others and how they came to have them and what it means for them--that doesn't cause me to form a bond, mind you). I can think of someone's hobbies as dull or boring to me, but that doesn't mean I think they're a dull, boring person. It's just part of who they are, not all of who they are, and it doesn't bother me that people have different interests than me, and their differences are likely to intrigue me. I buy people books, movies, and games that I have no interest in myself but know they do.

Of course, we have to have SOMETHING in common to connect, but it sounds to me like you have that with this new person...and if she requires that you like the same things she does then...well for me, I'd say I was better off without her. I don't demand people like what i like, and won't let them make such demands on me (though I may show curiosity and interest, of course).

I've done this, though more with business associates. One person I do business with is always talking about the Wendy Williams Show, which is not a show that interests me. Still, I watched a few eps (letting it play while I did other stuff) just to have some context and and idea of what she's talking about. Doesn't mean I watch it regularly by any means, but it helps a lot, mainly to keep her from feeling awkward as I stare blankly at her because I barely even have a vague idea of what she's talking about (but as I now have the "tone and flavor" of the show I can fill in many blanks and not be wondering about specifics, and it also clued me in to how she sees and processes the world around her).

Still, I can have problems with people who insist I watch all the same things they do just so we can talk about it. I don't care that they love it, I'm just not going to watch every series or movie as there is so much I want to see as it is to commit the time and money to see everything (even if I can enjoy something, I still have to be in the mood for it). I try to be at least vaguely aware of what the shows are, but I don't have to watch them...heck, sometimes I can be genuinely curious about a show that I don't intend to see and let others talk my ears off about it.


We went to the same school so we would talk about Astrology often. And classes. And daily life and simple things. But I guess she wasn’t as interested in it. This is a while back, I was just making a comparison based on things.

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posted April 30, 2018 09:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by ReachingForTheStars:
Yes, those hobbies are l.a.m.e lame!

How do you feel about that?

Not good?

Are you thinking, “no they’re not”. “You cannot say that.” “Some people like to meditate.” “Some like to fish.” “Some like to golf.” If they like those things, then obviously, some people don’t think they’re lame.

It’s subjective, right!? It’s obvious you’ve come to the conclusion that there is no objectively right or wrong, true or false.

I agree with that!

My point is:

This question does not have an objective answer. It’s worded in a way that acknowledges the situation as a matter of opinion, but you don’t seem to truly grasp what that means.

Some will think your hobbies are lame, some won’t.

In your friend’s honest opinion, those hobbies are lame. It sounds like you’re not okay with that.

Does the opinions of us strangers matter more than the person you called a “friend”? A best friend even?

Now, I have a confession to make (and I really hope you made it this far) I like the same things you do!! I DO NOT think your hobbies are lame (with the exception of FB - I hate FB). I have a tendency to call certain forms of recreation “trivial” and “mindless” too, but this is ME being a “stupid witch”! Lol.

If you like psychology and studying people, then I hope you’ll find it interesting to know what you’re (and your friend, and probably me) doing here is engaging in confirmation bias. You’re rationalizing and you’re rejecting your friend’s feedback. I took it for granted that you’d also reject my phony feedback! (Sorry about that)

http://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-confirmation-bias-2795024

Your friend has a right to her opinion and it doesn’t make you or the things you like to do objectively dull. 😉

What the others have said about common interests is true. People tend to seek out others that reinforce how they think, what they think, how they feel, what they feel... you get the point. This is largely how the confirmation bias works. You have the privilege of being questioned and challenged. This is a good opportunity for you to stretch your mind a bit. Try new things. Get a bigger perspective. It’s not a comfortable experience.

Be a bit more confident about what you like, especially if it’s what you truly enjoy. This may mean you’re gonna have to be more independent than most. Keep in mind that variety isn’t always a bad thing.


Variety isn’t a bad thing.

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Desiring Shadows
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posted April 30, 2018 09:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Randall:
There's nothing dull about you--with or without hobbies.

Thank you Randall!
Same for you. I appreciate that comment.

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posted April 30, 2018 10:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anonymidarkness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
Yeah, she must’ve been too airy. Like a fart! LOL 😂😂😂

LOL that made me laugh..but I got 6 planets in air in vedic LOL 🎅

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posted April 30, 2018 10:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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LOL that made me laugh..but I got 6 planets in air in vedic LOL 🎅

No, I have nothing against air signs. I was just being silly. Lol!

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posted April 30, 2018 10:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anonymidarkness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ LOL I have not taken it seriously...in the case that I had taken it seriously, yeah a fart, farts they can be! air signs..Imma just switch to my Western chart. Charts, farts, rhymes lol.

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posted May 01, 2018 02:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
😂😂🤣😂🤣😂* rofl*

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posted May 02, 2018 07:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just being honest.

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Thank you Randall!
Same for you. I appreciate that comment.

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posted May 03, 2018 04:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hobbies are overrated!

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posted July 14, 2018 11:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Have you gotten any new hobbies?

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posted July 17, 2018 08:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think your chart shows how many interests/hobbies you will have. I have a ton of them, but I don't think it is because I am so great lol

Someone very close to me has no hobbies, virtually.

We talk about my chart, which has a 9th House stellium. I love to study new things and reading is my favorite activity, so I am never bored, but it is the nature of the chart.

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