posted January 17, 2020 05:46 PM            

I use to be too busy to take my supplements at work. But my boss gets so in my face. Sometimes she checks up on/has to tell me something/interrupts me every 25 minutes. It like bothers her that I don't want her help. She has spurs of being too busy to do this all the time, otherwise I think I would be gone by now. But she is not busy enough right now. And her ways are pushing me away.

She can be so overbearing that I have to sedate myself to deal with her. She goes about annoying me as soon as she gets there. She wont even take her coat off and she will want to obsess over me. So even though I haven't finished my first morning cup of coffee, I see that I already have to take a lobelia supplement. But what good is a supplement if someone just keeps annoying you all day long and they are also rude, and lack of awareness that they are an obstacle of your productivity.

The lobelias are not strong enough. On days like these I need to squirt in the scull cap tincture. Then I feel sedated enough the rest of my day.

I joked with a few people today that I need to be taking xanies to be around her.

Anyways I have 5 college classes left, so I feel like a new job in my field would not solve my problems. Plus I know that my boss will eventually get busy and wont be able to "hellicopter parent me." But yeah if she still acts like that when I am done with college, I will have to leave. Which really sucks because everything else here is great.

posted January 18, 2020 10:43 AM            

Know that it will be over soon.
"This too, shall pass!!!"

Congratulations too on handling yourself with that!!!!

If she's just being 'annoying',
then that nervous-annoyance is better than her becoming a direct persecutor and enemy.

I do volunteer work in an office once a week.
The super-boss was a micro-manager-- but it is a defense-mechanism (on her part) to try to deal with other kinds of overwhelming stress she was under. She was dealing with political shenanigans of an upper-echelon who were making decisions that affected her OWN stress-load.

Just like some people bite off their fingernails as a sign of stress, avoid 'feeling' as though her 'chewing you out' is about *YOU* personally?

She probably already knows-that she's taking the micro too far? I hope for your sake that she becomes more 'aware'. Sometimes that doesn't mean they necessarily change their behavior right way (because it could be a 'nervous' compensation that she is laying upon you), but, if she becomes more-AWARE, then you're probably 'safe'. LOL

Hope so. Cross-fingers.

Get that Diploma! Yay.

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As far as my own management?, I stay away from ANY outside chemical substances, whether drug or natural.

(Have heard that magnesium can be helpful for nerves, and for stomach acid?.. but you have to be REALLY REALLY careful about messing with your body's natural balances. You could 'give' yourself a body ailment from throwing off balance with supplements.)

Maybe reward self with glass of wine (or if especially rough, a whisky-sour??? LOL) with dinner at night?

HUMOR is also a great stress reliever.

A little bit of levity on the subject--
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posted March 20, 2020 09:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
In my youth;
I was high often on Pot.
Was able to tolerate annoying people much better than now some 40 years later.
I have become very reclusive.

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posted March 22, 2020 10:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
Good to hear from you!
LOL it's legal in my state now! It's more of a night time thing for me...but who knows could get to that point for round two of the Capricorn planet back track.

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posted March 29, 2020 03:43 PM            

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Originally posted by vansio:
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posted April 08, 2020 01:18 PM            

As an Aries Sun, I am no stranger to having a lot on my plate. As I try to sort the menial BS tasks I need to do while I do my online college, and things for work, maybe by miracle put time and energy into chores. I also enjoy thinking my own thoughts. Tend to my family,and OTHER friends.
She blows up my phone like "OMG I NEED ATTENTION!!" Okay she doesn't flat out say that but that is basically the message.

Sometimes I will ignore her calls but will pick up for my sister and other friend. Because yeah it is super annoying to talk to someone who does not know what to do with them self and to hear about it when my time has pretty not been my own for years!!!
I just want to talk to normal people who understand working hard to eventually make time for their personal fun goals...and understand getting around to socializing with people, and that we don't have to stay in contact every freaking day to be friends.

In the past few years it seems like all she wants to do is talk on the phone with me and make plans. To an extent where it is not normal or healthy. Cares more about attention than the pandemic virus and tried to invite her self over last weekend.

A few months of the "oh my gosh I need attention, I'm bored, I don't know what to do with my self" I finally realized I don't always need to be the good friend who always answers because I need to take care of my self and my own responsibilities.

I do have a good time talking to her, but all of a sudden a few years ago she got super demanding. The entitlement and her impatient ways disgusts me.
Talking on the phone once a day for an hour is not even enough to satisfy her. Why I say NOT normal, and NOT healthyyyyy!!!

I almost want to track down her shrink and say CAN YOU PLEASE HELP HER???

She has this attitude of because I am social distancing when I don't care for my nieces and nephews I have no excuse no not pay attention to her.

When she blows up my phone once in a while I will remind her that I have a life, and sometimes I am like who the hell is she that I always have to tell her every single reason why I am busy and don't feel like talking to her? She can just learn to be okay with me not picking up my phone and move on with her day!

Having talks about needing more space always hurts peoples feelings. No matter how you try to do it. I've had "the talk" from others of course, while hurt, a sane person gets it and respects the boundaries. I know this quarantine will bring this to me. I haven't "snapped" at her per say. But I have had to get more firm. I put my foot down with her trying to invite her self over. I could tell it hurt her feelings, but yeah she did adjust because if she didn't I would be done.

Oh my God and todayyyyy. I nanny nieces and nephews two days a week. It's great to get my kid fix and have an excuse to spend time and socialize with family but it's exhausting!! It's a long day to care for an infant, toddler, and small child at the same time. I do absolutely nothing when I finally get home on these days. I really do nothing for else besides that for two days.
So the morning after I am back to focusing on myself. I am sipping my coffee at a decent time and and watching some youtube videos.

A thing with my friend...she thinks if I text back that means I can and want to talk on the phone. So I will not respond to texts when I don't want to risk dealing with that.
Well I basically just text back emojies back this morning because that is what I am up for. Tries calling me twice I ignore. Yeah if someone does not pick up their phone when I call them I WAIT for that person to call me back and if they don't oh well, their loss.
So I get texts like "you working today or no?" after ignoring her two calls. I took this as 'what's your excuse for not picking up your phone?' I was not having it. So in my way; I basically let her know that just because I am not watching my sister's kids today does not mean I am not doing anything and have to talk her her. I said it nicer than that but the tone was definitely there and she picked up on it.
Then starts texting me like we don't have talk today if you are busy only if you want to.
I was not playing THAT game. Where I give her validation for how crazy she is being, where I am being challenged to say to her 'Yeah I don't want to talk you you', she already knows I don't want to talk to her, but that I will care what she thinks and tell her what she wants to hear, I wont be manipulated like that. I ignored. Because how do you say I value our friendship....BUT! YOU NEED to CALM down! You are acting like a freak. WHY can't you just be normal!??
Of course she couldn't handle the silence. And said she would contact me around 8pm. I said that is fine. Lets see if she can actually handle that.

If she keeps this up, this friendship will run it's course. It's like even her behavior adapts part of me would know how she would act if I let her. Oh maybe someday she will go back to normal and she will go wow I can't believe I did that. I'm glad I got help and healed, thank you for still talking to me when I acted like that. Anyways....that's the annoying person in my life currently.

On the inside we are like "SHUT UP!!" and or "Stop" when someone is annoying. LOL Or my two year old nephew who combines the two words "Shhhup!" <3

posted December 15, 2020 06:14 PM            

I work great with my boss now.

My friend has adapted my boundaries. Sometimes I miss our long talks. We are in the same field so it is nice to have a friend like that were a can talk about the field. But the trust is sort of gone, I don't want to lead her on to blow up my phone so much.

NOW it is my students that drive me up a wall. I have never had to be so blunt with children before. So much talking back already. I feel like I have to say "don't argue with me" at least once a day. I feel so cheerful with them in the morning. They try my patience so much to the limit where by the end of the day I have no patience left and go into a blunt and kind of b1+chy mode with them. My center doesn't do breaks either. I eat lunch with them. The staff kitchen has been out of coffee a long time too. It was one of those days where they kept testing me and they kept disturbing me trying to eat my lunch. I took Rhodolea Rosea. No, that did not cut it. The kept on testing me. When my challenging student is having a good day. He still tries my patience a lot. When he is having a good day, the GIRLS decide to test out the waters. When I redirect them today they just look at me and keep doing it.
This class in general are persistent little f()ckers. When I don't tell them what they want to hear, the keep on persisting on it. It is a huge button pusher for me. It makes me feel like I need to go into this b1+chy blunt mode so they get the message... To accept the reality the first time I inform them.

posted December 16, 2020 06:11 AM            

It will be of great help to learn the Hematite Shield as taught by Katrina Raphaell. It is a stone layout using hematite and pyrite. One of the benefits if using it is that it builds up your light frequency to the point where your are not affected by other people's junk. The layout can be found in her latest book "Crystal Illumination". If you are in the United States, this method is taught by Mika Nelson. He is someone who trained under her and took himself to the point where he was responsible, for a time, for the testing of her students.

There are micromanagers that need to be engaged with an initiative. That means proactively engaging them with such a confidence and certainty that conveys that you know what you are doing, that you want to keep THEM on the same page with you and that you are aligned with whatever vision they have established. You are building their confidence in you. once that happens, they start to loosen their reins because they have someone who is on their side. If they don't, it is because they are a complete whack job and there is no helping them. Use the Hematite Shield and survive the madness.

posted December 17, 2020 10:07 PM            

I am working on my future mother in law now. I don't see her all the time, I do like her as a mother in law. But there are certain things she does that makes me want to go off on her. So I feel like that is my next thing to work on now...basically letting her know I demand a certain level of respect and if she cannot give it, it is on her and not on me. Wish me luck.
She does that thing where she acts like she is looking out for me. But I am super put off by it, like she can assume she knows what my business is. I work too hard and I am too smart to be talked to that way. It's too the point where I have to hold back from telling her she can f()ck right off.
I am secretly relieved for social distancing from her this Christmas. I do not like how she talks to me about wedding planning. Lots of unwanted advice. Just about every time I get together with her, she tires to interject. It's kind of her personality in general. She wants to control everything. I think she likes to think every younger person in the family is co-dependent on her.