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Topic: Marriage Is Outdated!
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David Bowie Eyes
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From: The center of your mind- muhuwuaaa
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 06, 2012 12:35 PM
  
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
One thing is for certain: with the coming Aquarian Age, the number of couples in formalized marriages will dwindle more and more. Aquarius ideologically resists formality and restriction favouring the feeling of being free, and what could be more formal or symbolically restrictive than a contract? That's not to say that committed relationships themselves will fall out of favour - it is a fixed sign, after all - but I do suspect the formalization of the bond will become more and more passe.
Disagree entirely. As another Aquarian there is another side to the Aquarian ideal being ignored, forgotten, discounted, or simply unrecognized. That is the part that upholds customs, traditions, and beliefs that by the very nature of their withstanding the test of time deserve to be upheld. If traditional marriage dwindles, it will not be the bond, nor the all constraints that accompany, but only those parts that are proving not to work.
What is proving not to work in modern western marriages is the lack of preparation as well as reverence for marriage itself. That includes not assessing the potential partner in advance of marriage nor in realizing the fundamental changes and compromises necessary for both people to go through time together married, and with success. It is constant work and reassessment as well as self-sacrifice. It is not like a car, where with some wear and tear, and the first blush of newness off you trade in your beloved for another. You have to look within yourselves to constantly renew from the inside of your partnership, not to look elsewhere.
Marriage and love, the verbs, are not easy and aren't for everyone. S IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted July 06, 2012 05:54 PM
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Originally posted by David Bowie Eyes:
Disagree entirely. As another Aquarian there is another side to the Aquarian ideal being ignored, forgotten, discounted, or simply unrecognized. That is the part that upholds customs, traditions, and beliefs that by the very nature of their withstanding the test of time deserve to be upheld. If traditional marriage dwindles, it will not be the bond, nor the all constraints that accompany, but only those parts that are proving not to work.
What is proving not to work in modern western marriages is the lack of preparation as well as reverence for marriage itself. That includes not assessing the potential partner in advance of marriage nor in realizing the fundamental changes and compromises necessary for both people to go through time together married, and with success. It is constant work and reassessment as well as self-sacrifice. It is not like a car, where with some wear and tear, and the first blush of newness off you trade in your beloved for another. You have to look within yourselves to constantly renew from the inside of your partnership, not to look elsewhere.
Marriage and love, the verbs, are not easy and aren't for everyone.S
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bonadea33
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From: between mountains
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted July 09, 2012 10:16 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
I think every female wants marriage.
That is not true. There are many marriages because child was on the way and that is reason, why some women get married. At least: in Europe. From other side, many people live together, but they are not married.I know two men; they married because their girlfriends were pregnant. Divorce came after two years. For me that is no love, but some kind of logic: because of children. Some women marry because they want to prove, how they can get a man. There are other women they have many chances and more boyfriends (and their love), but don't get married. In fact in everybody's Natal Chart is a sign, will somebody get married or not. Here is Free Will. Nobody can push me there, where I don't want to be. (Sun 90 Mars – stubborn people)
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Randall
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posted December 05, 2012 01:15 PM
I should have said "majority," not all. ------------------
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Stawr
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From: N. America
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted December 05, 2012 02:07 PM
I am now with a guy who doesn't believe in marriage.We have been whatever you want to call it for about half a year now. So I'm not all freaked out by that. But I am keeping an open mind to his beliefs. IP: Logged |
juniperb
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From: Blue Star Kachina
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 05, 2012 06:18 PM
Not in my family  ------------------
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Randall
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posted December 06, 2012 09:31 AM
Interesting. It's a formal belief system?------------------
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PixieJane
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From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 09, 2012 09:45 PM
Here are what some little kids had to say on dating and marriage:
http://cdn.iwastesomuchtime.com/February-01-2012-21-12-05-marriage.gif  And as for marriage being for the woman, I'd just like to repeat what one of the kids said: "It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them." --Anita, age 9 And I wonder how true that is, given that married men tend to live longer than unmarried and one reason I found believable is because his health is improved by not living in such a dump and living a cleaner life (and more likely to see a doctor as well). IP: Logged |
juniperb
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From: Blue Star Kachina
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posted February 15, 2013 10:22 AM
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We need to listen to our own song, and share it with others, but not force it on them. Our songs are different. They should be in harmony with each other. ~ Mattie Stepanek IP: Logged |
@quaman
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From: 20,000 leagues under the sea
Registered: May 2012
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posted February 20, 2013 01:51 PM
i'm a wedding singer so im all for marriage.. havent had many gigs lately though.  IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted February 20, 2013 02:06 PM
You would be much busier if you were a divorce singer.------------------
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@quaman
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From: 20,000 leagues under the sea
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posted February 20, 2013 02:41 PM
divorce singer huh? i like the way you think. but what songs would i sing? oh i got it ! nanana nanana hey hey hey goodbye  IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted February 20, 2013 06:27 PM
That's a good one. Maybe be a singing telegram person for break-ups. Seriously. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted February 21, 2013 01:23 PM
Sounds like a great business idea.------------------
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@quaman
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posted February 21, 2013 07:55 PM
or i could just go back to doing bar mitzvahsIP: Logged |
Randall
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posted February 22, 2013 01:52 PM
Or audition for American Idol, The Voice, or X Factor.IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted March 20, 2013 01:37 AM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Here are what some little kids had to say on dating and marriage:
http://cdn.iwastesomuchtime.com/February-01-2012-21-12-05-marriage.gif And as for marriage being for the woman, I'd just like to repeat what one of the kids said: "It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them." --Anita, age 9 And I wonder how true that is, given that married men tend to live longer than unmarried and one reason I found believable is because his health is improved by not living in such a dump and living a cleaner life (and more likely to see a doctor as well).
"When they're rich"
D'awww Pam is a baby taurus
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Kerosene
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posted March 20, 2013 01:41 AM
Randall I don't believe in marriage either, you don't have to be married and live a happy and normal life.
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Randall
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posted March 23, 2013 09:40 AM
Agreed.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted March 23, 2013 11:21 AM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Here are what some little kids had to say on dating and marriage:
http://cdn.iwastesomuchtime.com/February-01-2012-21-12-05-marriage.gif And as for marriage being for the woman, I'd just like to repeat what one of the kids said: "It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them." --Anita, age 9 And I wonder how true that is, given that married men tend to live longer than unmarried and one reason I found believable is because his health is improved by not living in such a dump and living a cleaner life (and more likely to see a doctor as well).
its not the marriage that makes married men more healthy its the steady sex that usually comes as a result of being married. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted April 03, 2013 08:59 AM
I support everyone's right to be equally miserable.IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 08, 2013 10:27 PM
I just occurred to me how much marriage has changed in the last hundred years alone. In the last few decades marriage was redefined to allow interracial marriage, contraception, a wife could charge her husband with rape, a wife could have credit in her own name, a wife could have property that was strictly hers...Go further back and slaves could only marry with master's permission, women were property, polygamy, etc. But we've changed, for the better. Accepting gay marriage seems like a natural next step. Maybe we really are entering the Age of Aquarius. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 09, 2013 12:42 PM
True!IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 10, 2013 01:55 PM
We've come a long way. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 11, 2013 10:15 AM
There should be tax benefits to being single.IP: Logged |
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