posted December 17, 2014 05:41 AM            

Why? Not by what was posted but because it's always the same crap brought up over and over and over. I worked really hard getting over all the nasty cyber stuff that happened in the past- to myself, Randall and yes, the *#@!!!??? that went to drastic lengths to even harrass my family!!! The lies, manipulation, gossip, bullying, passive aggresive remarks, taunting..IT WAS HARD. It took it's toll on me emotionally and it affected my health. So I can't help but feel sick to my stomach reading all this without having all those old feelings swarming back.

Randall and I were NOT in a relationship when he and T were flirting. We made it official in May 2011.

Randall did tell me everything that happened between himself and T. He never hid it from me. It was part of his past and it didn't bother me in the least. Howevern I did start noticing that whenever I posted at LL, that T would take shots at me or be rude for no reason. It made no sense because prior to that she and I had no altercations here. When it continued and i saw her go at Randall..that's when I would speak up and from there it got worse.. The passive agressive remarks, taking shots at my age (which she doesn't know), comments on how naiive I am.. Blah blah. Then when I replied she would edit her comments making it look like I was the one starting fighhts (which is why I quote most ppl here now just in case).

Long story short: I'm sick of crap. The he said she said they said crap and people who interfer and distort stories! People who have nothing to do with this!!!! Or those who take "sides" and want to add their 2 cents worth. If you don't know what happened and hearing one side then butt out!!!! It's none of your damn business.

And Teasel: we haven't communicated in months. Do not email me complaining about Neez blocking you. That has NOTHING to do me. This is how unnecessary trouble starts. That is between the two of you - don't involve me.

There's a lot I want to say but I'm too annoyed to get into all of it.

I am currently in SA on a mini vacation and may not reply or post in a timely fashion.

posted December 17, 2014 06:31 AM            

*I don't look at Randall flirting with me back then as cheating on you. The phone text stuff was a spaced out between a couple of years a few years before 2011 too btw. So that wasn't cheating either. I had my doubts with the person who told me you two were dating at that time the crap went down and apparently i was right and you weren't dating yet.

*I have never disliked you charmaine. I don't know how many times I have tried to explain that to you. When all that crap went down in 2010/11 I was treated nastily here by you so I defended myself.

It was frustrating to me to think that you might have thought I was interested in him when I wasn't. I got the idea from posts here that you thought I wanted him or was jealous of your relationship or you. I never was. When someone is rude to me, as you have been before, I am not likely to sit back and just take it.

Again, please know that I have never disliked you. Have I been in spats here with you? Yes, but they had to do with things that were going on at that time. And you'd been quite nasty with me a number of times.

You have always seemed like a nice person despite it all and I found it sad that you disliked me for no reason and that things came to that. I know it was you getting caught up in stuff that wasn't about you. And apparently your boyfriend convincing you and others of things that aren't and weren't true about me.

*I hope by now people are beginning to see the full picture. And know that things have been really distorted. I don't appreciate people here thinking I am or was in any way jealous of anything to do with you two. I've had snide comments directed at me on the forums here in the past and it infuriates me because I in no way shape or form am interested in the guy or jealous of you. I've never even seen you and don't really know anything about you.

Wouldn't anyone begin to get a bit peeved knowing someone has a whole bunch of people thinking the wrong thing about them???

BTW yes, Randall told you everything, but from what he's said here, it's very different than what my side would be. But that's neither here nor there at this point. There is no good reason to keep bringing these threads up and rehashing.

So, now that everyone has gotten everything out and says they want it all to stop, i'd really love it if people could practice what they preach.

I think we've all had our say at this point. There could always be more to say, but it's clear that it would go nowhere and just continue the drama. I'm happy with what i've gotten out and I think everyone else is too. So, let's be done with it now.

posted December 17, 2014 06:57 AM            

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Originally posted by T:
Thanks florence. Yet, i should mention that many people have pointed out how I have been picked at here over the years as well (mostly by Adminis). Almost incessantly. I can only take so much.

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posted December 17, 2014 07:04 AM            

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Originally posted by T:
I have been picked at here over the years as well (mostly by Adminis). Almost incessantly. I can only take so much.

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In my opinion, this is the overarching problem. Many of us relate to it, albeit for different reasons, but we still all relate to it. That's a serious problem.