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Odette
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posted June 06, 2015 01:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wanted to reply here to what you said... because I don't want to make the other thread 'all about me'.

This was your post:


quote:
Odette,
He obviously meant the desire to bang a girl (physical attraction) is almost always what makes a guy interested in getting to know her. Physical attraction is the catalyst.And yes, a guy can want to bang a girl and care about her and respect her as a person at the same time contrary to what some women on this forum may think. Girls aren't much different. I have met girls through mutual friends that shared some of my interests and I probably could have had a friendship/connection with them but they shut me out and didn't want to get to know me on a deeper level? Why? Because they didn't find me attractive. But they were hanging on my good looking friend's (the guy all the girls in the room wanted to bang while completely ignoring the rest of us guys) every word. There's a myth that women don't value looks as much as men and usually develop attraction for a guy after getting to know him (which is basically how you describe demisexuality) but that's not been my experience at all. If that was the case why am I constantly shut out or ignored by women from the get go and never get a chance to even show my personality while my conventionally good looking friend has women eating out of his hands immediately? That's one of the reasons I doubt your sincerity when you say you are demisexual.


^^^
I was surprised that you said, you doubt my sincerity
That's the first I heard of that!

O_O

I am being honest in saying that I feel absolutely nothing at all - no physical "reaction" - towards the outer physical characteristics of other people.
I literally feel nothing. And I never have, not as a teenager/in HS, not later on in life.. Not now.

There were many times when I "pretended" I did.. because I didn't want to stand out, and I was very private/secretive about my sexuality. I still am today, but not quite as much.
At the time, I wasn't aware of the meaning of demisexuality at all. All I knew was that I couldn't relate to anything people around me were talking about.

:edit: For a long while (in my teens), I actually assumed - that the people around me were all "faking" it - to sound cool. I thought that maybe they hear these things in movies or other media.. and they copy-cat.
Because the concept of being "attracted" was so foreign to me. So I didn't even comprehend what it might be like for someone else to actually *feel* attracted (since I had never felt it).
I remember for instance, one of my best friends in HS telling me she had a crush on someone - and it took me months to actually *realise* that what she meant was.. "I am sexually attracted to this guy".
Because my definition of "crush" was: "I think he is pretty awesome and I have romantic feelings towards him".

It was quite the discovery for me, when she told me her feelings were sexual.. I was literally like: "Wow! You actually want to have sex with him??? Seriously? Like.. sex.. sex?? Actual sex??? O_O"

I've been posting on LL for a few years, as you know - but I've only mentioned being demisexual.. since you've joined basically (so in the past two years).
Before then ^, I was also lying to people online about this (even here!).

I remember we had some threads (past tense, before you joined) - where people posted famous men they found attractive. And I also contributed, and posted some actors - who I think are aesthetically good looking (in the way a painting looks pretty) - but who I actually feel zero attraction towards. I remember making posts like "Uh huh.. He's hot etc" - and joking around with some of the other posters.
But ^ in reality there was no sexual feeling behind my words.

Why in the world would I tell you (or anyone) online.. in this context - that I feel nothing (if that wasn't true)?
Like what would be the point of that?

I hide this from everyone in my day to day life. No one even knows about it.

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aquaguy91
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posted June 06, 2015 02:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wasn't being completely serious when I said that. I just meant the way demisexuality is described doesn't sound much different than the way the average girl would describe themselves. Most would say that they need to be friends/ have an emotional connection before they become attracted to someone. That's been my experience anyway.

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aquaguy91
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posted June 06, 2015 02:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:

since you've joined basically (so in the past two years).



I've been here for 3 1/2 years.

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Odette
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posted June 06, 2015 02:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Please read the part I just edited in - about being in HS.

I am honestly not at all lying about this.

It's strange because - despite the views you have on dating and men/women, relationships and so on... I always thought you understand that I identify as demisexual.
I didn't think you were debating my sincerity... sigh

quote:
I wasn't being completely serious when I said that.

So you do believe that I'm being honest?
Yes or no?
I just want to know.

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Odette
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posted June 06, 2015 02:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Odette
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posted June 06, 2015 02:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Odette:
[b]

since you've joined basically (so in the past two years).



I've been here for 3 1/2 years. [/B][/QUOTE]

Oh Ok lol
I don't think I mentioned being demisexual on here, before 2013.

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aquaguy91
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posted June 06, 2015 02:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
Please read the part I just edited in - about being in HS.

I am honestly not at all lying about this.

It's strange because - despite the views you have on dating and men/women, relationships and so on... I always thought you understand that I identify as demisexual.
I didn't think you were debating my sincerity... sigh

So you do believe that I'm being honest?
Yes or no?
I just want to know.



I suppose.

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aquaguy91
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posted June 06, 2015 02:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
Oh Ok lol
I don't think I mentioned being demisexual on here, before 2013.


Yeah. I wonder what happened to Betty Boop? She used to post back during that time.

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Odette
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posted June 06, 2015 02:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ She committed e-suicide! LoL

Actually I mentioned it in 2011 for the first time, so it's been longer than I thought:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/211287-4.html

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aquaguy91
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posted June 06, 2015 02:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's sad. I always she was going to be the one to have my virtual child. LOL

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aquaguy91
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posted June 06, 2015 02:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting thread. But it did kind of prove my point. Some of the other posters were saying they felt the same way which goes along with what I was saying about the average girl identifying herself in those terms. Although I know that some are insincere about it because I have met girls who describe themselves as if they are demisexuals but they definitely reacted to pretty boys.

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Ami Anne
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posted June 06, 2015 04:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Odette

If you want to see if we can see how this may show up in chart, put it up or put it in Beginners. We can check out relevant asteroids. I am thinking you have some strong erotic asteroids conjunct Saturn, perhaps.

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Desiring Shadows
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posted December 12, 2015 02:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm asexual which means I have no sexual urges whatsoever yet I have sex all the time

But I have like a few friends that are guys that I think are hot that I spend time with that we do this with....
Tbh if sex wasn't a thing , I wouldn't have it at all 😈 But it's got the hype and the idea that it brings people together and so people make a big deal about it

Everyone is just a fish swimming in the same direction going the same place turning every corner all in sequence

Now my fish is purple but she wears an Invisibilify cloak to blend in

So like the point of all this mess is that
These sexualities do exist
And if u don't believe in them you are probably dumb

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Desiring Shadows
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posted December 12, 2015 02:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There's a fetish for being blind
It's actually a mental illness
And there's also an attraction to people without limbs

So if this crazy stuff can happen why can't the others?

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Desiring Shadows
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posted December 12, 2015 02:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
P.s. My Uranus is in the 8th so I think that's why I'm so unique with my attitude towards sex.. It's for making babies!!!
But yeah Odette probably has this too 😸

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PixieJane
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posted December 12, 2015 03:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
I'm asexual which means I have no sexual urges whatsoever
yet I have sex all the time

But I have like a few friends that are guys that I think are hot that I spend time with that we do this with....
Tbh if sex wasn't a thing , I wouldn't have it at all But it's got the hype and the idea that it brings people together and so people make a big deal about it


I'm not understanding you here. It sounds as if you're saying you have no sexual urges but you are having sex all the time because some guys are hot and the only way you can be close to them is to have sex with all the time? Are you saying you constantly have sex so you don't feel lonely?

Not all guys demand you have sex with them to be close to them. There are other ways to bond with people. Guys can be asexual, celibate, and faithfully monogamous who don't need to **** you to be with you.

Note, I believe in asexuality (guys can be asexual as well). I'm just not understanding this post of yours, and I'd like to. Especially the part of where you only have sex all the time with a few guys you find "hot" which doesn't sound asexual to me at all for the same reason it would confuse me to hear someone say, "I'm totally gay, but I have sex all the time with a few women I find hot."

ETA (long time after): after seeing post after post and even threads on all your crushes on hot guys you barely know and love interests you compete against other women for (and just how frequently), I must say you are NOT asexual. If you think you are then you have NO idea what asexual means.

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Desiring Shadows
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posted December 12, 2015 04:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
[b] I'm not understanding you here. It sounds as if you're saying you have no sexual urges but you are having sex all the time because some guys are hot and the only way you can be close to them is to have sex with all the time? Are you saying you constantly have sex so you don't feel lonely?

Maybe I am.. That's an interesting point 🤔☺️
There are many reasons as to why people do things. It could take years to discover the real reason but I'm an OPEN BOOK and I just like to have a lot of boyfriends. Without calling them boyfriends hehe! And if they require sex that's cool but I could totally go without

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Desiring Shadows
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posted December 12, 2015 04:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a homoromantic person who has sex with heterosexual woman and marries them to please my mother

Jkkk

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Elysia
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posted December 23, 2015 11:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Elysia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting thread, I didn't know we had so many asexuals @ Lindaland.

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Elysia
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posted December 23, 2015 11:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Elysia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
I'm a homoromantic person who has sex with heterosexual woman and marries them to please my mother

Jkkk


Lolll

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Randall
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posted December 24, 2015 01:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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