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Topic: Roommate problems
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lioneye68 Knowflake Posts: 6062 From: Canada Registered: Apr 2003
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posted November 11, 2005 07:46 PM
The only roomate from hell I ever had was my Taurus daughter Just kidding. She IS a slob, though. But I love her anyway. IP: Logged |
nove731 Knowflake Posts: 943 From: Antioch, Tennessee, USA Registered: Jun 2005
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posted November 11, 2005 08:52 PM
Ugh, I don't know about the confrontation thing. I tried that with this one girl I know (she's exactly the way you described "B"), and she only got worse. (She's a Virgo, though, not an Aquarius.)One time she said something to me like: "Omg, let me buy you a new shirt, that one's awful!" Me: "Why don't you let me buy you a new face - that one's awful." She's stuck on herself, and she's self important and cocky and literally EVERYONE hates her. She thinks she's THE most talented and THE smartest and THE most attractive person in the entire world. The fact is, she can't sing, dance or act, and she's stupid as hell, and uglier than sin. I HATE her. IP: Logged |
Lauren Knowflake Posts: 1158 From: Registered: Aug 2005
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posted November 11, 2005 09:13 PM
I've known two people who always picked on lights being switched on and off and tidiness in general. One is Cancer, my step dad, the other Virgo, my grandpa. I love them both but geeeesh gets frustrating I'll tell ya lol My Saggi friend's mum is an Aqua. They have some kinda arguments those two. I never know what to say. I just sit there feeling awkward while they scream at each other. But then she involves me. She always says things like "see what he does Lauren? see? see?" lol and expects me to agree with her. Then he gives me daggers so that I don't agree lol It's very annoying sometimes. In her defence though, he really is very messy. When I was at his house he couldn't even open the door to his room, because there were too many clothes and books and stuff all over the place so the door was jammed. Anyhoo Good luck with Miss Aqua BR..maybe she has a crush on you and is frustrated because you're gay so she takes it out on you with little things like dishwashing ..just an idea lol Nove, quote: Omg, let me buy you a new shirt, that one's awful!"Me: "Why don't you let me buy you a new face - that one's awful."
heehee omg lol you meanie..Saggi-Moon-Comebks Inc. IP: Logged |
nove731 Knowflake Posts: 943 From: Antioch, Tennessee, USA Registered: Jun 2005
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posted November 11, 2005 10:18 PM
quote: heehee omg lol you meanie..Saggi-Moon-Comebks Inc.
Haha, I hattttttttte her. When we had our Halloween dance thingie - The Masquerade Ball - I didn't have a costume or whatever. I didn't have the money, but I had to be there because I'm in FAME (Drama Club). This was our conversation on THAT: Her: "I don't know why you even BOTHER if you don't have a costume." (read: condescending) Me: "I don't have the money for a costume, you want to buy me one?" (Think snarky, and abrasive.) Her: *snaps fingers at me* "Don't you get smart with me!" (Yelling) Me: "You're the one who ******* STARTED this, you ***** !" AHOIGhspdagboieha ibgoasiobnaksl; I HATE HER!!!!! IP: Logged |
sweetlibra Knowflake Posts: 1382 From: Registered: Oct 2004
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posted November 11, 2005 10:36 PM
BR, ur room mate is awful. I think you should reason with her how you dont want to be bugged for everything. I had a similar (not this bad) roommate. She used to order me to do this, do that. I never argued with her and she took me for someone else. Finally I had to burst out when I reached the threshold of my tolerance. we never spoke again! People always test our limits and then proceed with their plans. You sould make it clear in the beginning itself not to cross your limit 
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BlueRoamer Knowflake Posts: 3944 From: Calm Blue Ocean, Calm Blue Ocean Registered: Jun 2003
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posted November 12, 2005 02:47 AM
unfortunately the beginning has already passed....when you first move in with someone you do your best to accomodate them, unfortunately she has never tried to accomodate to anythingIP: Logged |
lioneye68 Knowflake Posts: 6062 From: Canada Registered: Apr 2003
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posted November 12, 2005 03:38 AM
Blue roamer - repeat after me. "Would you kindly Lay Off, please? If I wanted to live with my mother, I WOULD go live with my mother. I thought I was moving AWAY from her. Sheesh, woman. Maybe you need to have a child to nag and pester. Or better yet, a dog. You may do damage to a child."Ok, just use the "lay off" part, and the "mother" referrence. Forget the other part. That may be getting too vindictive. IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon Knowflake Posts: 1082 From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising Registered: Aug 2003
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posted November 12, 2005 03:50 AM
BlueRoamer..i feel for ya!! Room mate from hell!! You do need to confront her..Just gotta practice what your gonna say over and over to yourself...even write it down..get ready for her comebacks..but be firm in what your not going to accept anymore...like phone calls about clean dishes..you need it for peace of mind..living everyday like that is too much!! when you finally say how you feel..whether she changes or not..you will feel better!! And even if she dont change..(which is highly possible)..once you have it off your chest..it probably wont bother you to the extent that it does now..coz right now your dealing with not only her frustrating ways but your own at not speaking up and telling her what you want to..you have the power girl!!..and everyone here at lindaland behind ya! Good Luck!!
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1scorp Knowflake Posts: 2251 From: Registered: Feb 2003
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posted November 14, 2005 09:26 AM
The most clean person I've lived with, who also did their share of everything:Gemini  _________________________________________ Scorpio sun, venus, mars, mercury and uranus Libra moon, pluto and asc. IP: Logged |
hooked Knowflake Posts: 278 From: Registered: Feb 2003
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posted November 14, 2005 09:14 PM
The best roommate I ever had who always did her share was a Cappy sun, Cancer moon, Virgo rising. yay!IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124 Knowflake Posts: 1382 From: Portland, OR Registered: Jan 2004
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posted November 14, 2005 09:53 PM
BR...I feel for ya, I really do. I'm a Sag too and I lived with an Aquarius man who was nitpicky about ev-er-y-th-i-ng. Even things that weren't dirty now but might be in the future... Not that the two of you will ever become lovers, but if you don't own it already, go buy Liz Greene's Astrology for Lovers, very accurate insight into the Aquarius person.I know some here have commented that many Aquarians aren't very neat, but personally, every one I have known ARE obsessed with living in exceptionally clean surroundings. Next, don't answer your cell phone or any other phone when she calls you during the day to ask about whether the dishes are done. Let it go to voicemail enough times and she will give up but be careful, she might be standing behind the door when you come in, ready to pounce...every Aquarius I have ever known is very good about checking to see if something is/has been followed up on... Next, stand up to her. Be firm. I know this is a challenge for peace-loving you, but ya gotta do it. An Aquarius will back down for sure (and secretly respect you unless they don't have a brain, which we know they do) once she sees you're not cowering. Be logical, (we Saggies are good at this) straightforward (we're good at this too) and most importantly, unemotional (not so easy, especially if she's annoying the h*ll out of you, but do it, you're a guy so no problem). And, park YOUR motorcycle in the living room! (that's hilarious!) An Aquarian's logic makes sense only to them...(gotta love 'em all!) Keep us updated on how it's going Laura IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer Knowflake Posts: 3944 From: Calm Blue Ocean, Calm Blue Ocean Registered: Jun 2003
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posted November 14, 2005 09:57 PM
Thanks Blue Topaz !!!IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124 Knowflake Posts: 1382 From: Portland, OR Registered: Jan 2004
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posted November 14, 2005 10:09 PM
You're w lcome!IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer Knowflake Posts: 3944 From: Calm Blue Ocean, Calm Blue Ocean Registered: Jun 2003
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posted November 14, 2005 11:31 PM
How long have you lived in Portland BlueTopaz?, I LOVE Portland, I'd like to settle down when i'm older somewhere in the suburbs there, it's such beautiful country! And nice and liberal too!IP: Logged |
Nephthys Moderator Posts: 3800 From: California Registered: Oct 2001
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posted November 17, 2005 10:16 AM
BR ~ what is going on with this? Have you stood up to her yet? When you do, just think of all of us Knowflakes backing you up. Just think that this is like a test you are taking in school, only the classroom is the school of life and all you have to do is pass You can do it! Be strong and stand up to her! And if that doesn't work, go to the landlord! If worse came to worse, and you kept the landlord apprised of the situation, he might be more understanding if you *did* have to break the lease. IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer Knowflake Posts: 3944 From: Calm Blue Ocean, Calm Blue Ocean Registered: Jun 2003
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posted November 17, 2005 01:00 PM
Thanks for asking!Unfortunately our landlord is terrible, and has a lot of animosity towards my other roommate, i doubt he would care. Since she shuts off the lights if I leave a room for 5 mins, I calculated how much money it saves to do this. I presented her my findings, and she tried to make up all kinds of weird arguements like, "i cna't turn off a light bulb in my own house, " and "how do i know thats what it costs to power a light bulb in OUR house?" I just kept telling her that it really upsets me and my roommate, then she said "i don't understand why you're doing this?" (she can't understand why anyone would ever not do exactly as she says) Then she just SHUT DOWN, stared straight ahead without moving or saying anything. I think she was fantasizing about killing me. LOL IP: Logged |
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 11943 From: Pleasanton, CA, USA Registered: May 2005
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posted November 17, 2005 04:09 PM
I love Portland, too.  IP: Logged |
lovelyelle Knowflake Posts: 94 From: New York, New York, USA Registered: Jul 2005
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posted November 17, 2005 04:39 PM
Eeks. I'm actually looking into finding a roommate, and after hearing these stories, I'm a lil scared off! Any tips for those who are experienced roomies?IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer Knowflake Posts: 3944 From: Calm Blue Ocean, Calm Blue Ocean Registered: Jun 2003
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posted November 18, 2005 12:38 AM
Don't move in with them without meeting them first! LOL, its hard not to though when you're moving coast to coastIP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124 Knowflake Posts: 1382 From: Portland, OR Registered: Jan 2004
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posted November 18, 2005 12:56 AM
"I think she was fantasizing about killing me." BR, I've been in Portland for three years and I love it here. Quite a switch for me, I grew up in the Bay Area, just south of San Francisco. Yes, Portland is very liberal...the farther out you get, though and it gets verrrrry conservative... Beautiful and green, you don't have to go very far for scenery and a nice hike, skiing or bike ride. Bike trails all throughout the city. It's very people-friendly for people who are active outdoors. Laura  IP: Logged |
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 11943 From: Pleasanton, CA, USA Registered: May 2005
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posted November 18, 2005 01:18 AM
Lovelyelle,It really depends on your personality. However, it is good to pick people who are in a situation similar to your own. If you pick people lazier than yourself, then you may feel yourself dragged down a bit. If on the other hand you pick people more ambitious than yourself, you may feel a bit challenged to keep up. Either can be draining. In a lot of ways making sure you gel well with your roommate's personalities goes a long way towards having some peace at home. Like anything, though, it's a learning process. Living with anyone, even your best friend is going to pose challenges. IP: Logged |
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 11943 From: Pleasanton, CA, USA Registered: May 2005
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posted November 18, 2005 01:23 AM
I've been to Portland three times, and loved it each time. People are very nice up there. Love the free buses down town. It's artistic and liberal, but not over the top (or not in a competitive way like the Bay Area). Very nice place.IP: Logged |
Nephthys Moderator Posts: 3800 From: California Registered: Oct 2001
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posted November 18, 2005 06:42 PM
***Then she just SHUT DOWN, stared straight ahead without moving or saying anything.*** BR ~ What a freak! Ugh. Instead of arguing with her, just nip it in the bud. Say; "Listen, there are more important things in the world to worry about. I need you to leave me alone." walk away. "Listen, get off my back." end of story. walk away. "Why don't you spend your energy on more important things like feeding the hungry. Leave me alone." leave the room. If you are feeling feisty, say, "get a life!" What about a job? Does she work? I am kind of older, and when I was in high school people used to say, "get a job" which meant, "get a life". Etc. etc. Good luck 
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