posted April 11, 2004 12:30 PM              

I've about had it with all the girls/ladies coming here daily just to get someone to tell them that their current crush is "THE ONE", their "SOUL MATE", the one that they were destined for from the start. This place gets downright nausiating sometimes.
Is that the nod you need to decide whethor you're going to put up with his sh*t from now on, no matter what? Try this. Regardless of his sign, if you don't like the way he makes you feel more often than not, there's you answer. You're cured.

posted April 11, 2004 12:45 PM            

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Regardless of his sign, if you don't like the way he makes you feel more often than not, there's you answer. You're cured.

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LOL....so true

posted April 11, 2004 04:07 PM              

Lets all give each other the slack and support to address whatever they feel like. Actually, as I've indicated before, I'd like to see a separate thread for such advice.

Lanny

posted April 11, 2004 05:11 PM              

The first thing most of us do is read our own chart and decide which traits we recognise or dismiss and more often than not we then move on to applying astrology to our personal relationships. Is this self centred? I could argue that applying a subject to our personal circumstances is merely an effective and natural method of learning.

I agree, that it isnt healthy when the astrology becomes more important than the self or the person you are applying it to (I feel that it is important to get the subject in perspective). There is always a danger that particular aspects/placements etc can be 'imposed upon' and 'definine' a person rather than getting to know someone and then recognising those traits in the character.

But that is merely my opinion and we should all recognise that our respective interest in astrology is as individual as our own unique charts. We all get what we feel we need from the topic but more importantly we should have the freedom to express that.

xxxxxxx

posted April 11, 2004 05:26 PM              

Would you walk into a financial planner's office and say "Please analyze the entire stock market for me, and tell me which stock I should put all my money into for free. You've done all the learning for me already, so now I don't have to. I'd rather you just tell me, because I can't be bothered to study it myself, and I don't want to pay for it eithor."

These ladies (and it IS always ladies, except maybe 5% of the time) are all far better off to know the dynamics of astrology for themselves, rather than having us just spoon feed them with "Yes, you will have a splendid relationship with this man". Or "No, you will probably have many heartaches with this man."
(then, I've noticed that if you tell them it doesn't look good, they'll reject your advise anyway)

It just seems like we don't have many really good, meaty, enlightening discussions on the finer points of astrology anymore around here. Those kinds of threads just die out do to lack of contributers. All anybody wants to know is if it's safe to fall for someone. Well, it's never safe, no matter what your chart says.

posted April 11, 2004 05:47 PM            

juniperb

posted April 11, 2004 10:23 PM              

Everyone is at a different level when they enter here. I remember the first day I was so excited to find LindaGoodman.com.

posted April 12, 2004 12:14 AM            

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lioneye said
It just seems like we don't have many really good, meaty, enlightening discussions on the finer points of astrology anymore around here

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Perhaps pidaua's absence is being felt in this area... She was always a big contributer to such discussions.

posted April 12, 2004 01:41 AM              

Yes, I agree with the members who stated that this site should be totally welcoming to everyone who wants to post here and learn from it.

I understand what people mean when they say you can't only look at the stars for guidance, and you have to learn to trust your own instincts about your life etc...

but still and all, it's only natural for some people to want to look at things from all angles when they are trying to find answers to something, and that is probably the main motivation behind so many of these requests for help.

and Ariesrocks,

I don't mean to offend you, but I do think it's rather strange that you, of all people, wrote such a harsh, snippy reply about other people's inquiries when you, yourself, have your very own thread going a little down below titled nothing less than...

"How do I seduce a Cancer man?" or whatever it's called.

And I can't count how many times that it's been by now where I've seen you ask for sex advice in various threads by now too.

I know that, in certain ways, you might be phrasing your inquiries with more insight than these other people whom you speak of here are doing, but remember that....

at heart, underneath it all, everyone in this place is still searching for the SAME knowledge, which is how to go about finding their own love and fullfillment etc... no matter how they phrase their words when they do that.

So, just because someone else does it in a way that you see as being immature, it doesn't change their intent that is behind it, which is the very same one that yours is as well.

Again, I hope I didn't offend you with my words at all.

Love and Light!

posted April 12, 2004 11:34 AM              

I think that your 'mean looking icon,' shall we call it, lol, is directed at my personal reply to you.

I am sorry that you seem to feel a bit offended by what I said in regards to your earlier comments up above.

Obviously, you seem to be missing the point of what I am trying to say.

I'm sorry, but it's still my personal opinion that your first reply in this thread was rude to other posters.

With the attitude communicated by your words in it, it does seem to me like you are insulting other posters by stating an obvious put-down about the way that other posters phrase their posts when they make them.

Personally, I simply don't believe that you or ANYONE have the right to state such put-downs to fellow posters on ANY posting board for ANY reason.

So, no matter how you or anyone may or may not feel about the content of a fellow posters phrasing in their posts, it's still not your or anyone else's place to make them feel bad for what they write in their own personal messages here.

I guess I just think that stuff like what you wrote up above comes off sounding kind of arrogant and condescending, two qualities which I am not into either in real life or online.

BTW, there's certainly no need to send me anymore little mean looking icons either.

I think we will just have to agree to disagree about this, and move on.

And so as I said before....

Love And Light To You!

posted April 12, 2004 01:01 PM            

And yes *sigh*, we've (most of us ladies) have all been there before

posted April 12, 2004 01:22 PM            

Do we seek new information to help ourselves grow,wish to share info to help others grow, or simply enjoy the interactions with no regard to purpose.

For me, my answers are in direct relation to my participation in seeking/providing help.

It helps me to remember that to be irritated by someone is to give your power to the irritant. As many irritants as there are, we could turn into a walking irritating rash if we did that.

Ok, typical response from a deeper look

juniperb

posted April 12, 2004 01:30 PM              

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I'm not opposed to romantic advise in general. I've even been known to offer it up as well as ask for it myself. However, I do believe people should at least make an attempt to interpret things on their own. Then they can ask about a specific aspect.

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Good lawd, what on earth would we talk about if it wasn't our relationships?! It just annoys me when all they say is "I'm obsesssed with this guy. Could someone look at our chart and tell me if we should give it a shot? Here's our info" I just find the attitude kind of indolent and unfreindly. They just come here to take something away, and have no intention of offering anything in return, not even their input in other discussions, NOT necessarily about Astrology, but life in general. They just post the one thread, take whatever they want, then disappear from here.

I am not suggesting that we don't talk about love/relationship....we HAVE to talk about that, it's too huge a part of life to not talk about it.

posted April 12, 2004 01:31 PM            

True, many come here seeking compassion for their unsure hearts, and many of those seekers are very young, at least that's my impression by their posts. Those of us who are older, whose hearts have become a little weary and wary, can obviously remember what that feels like.

I think there are lots of valid points here. Often I hesitate to join the astrology discussions when they are juvenile in nature--not an insult by any means, just an observation about the youthfulness and naivete of some topics. But I think all queries are welcome...and hopefully someone can step up to help.