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Topic: Is Scorpio Truthful?
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AquaLady
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Registered: Feb 2006
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posted February 23, 2006 11:16 AM
 
My scorpio man and i have been dating for couple months.Everything is going great! But, I have a strange feeling that maybe he's not being too truthful. My reason, in the beginning he said to me he was soon to be divorced wasnt finalized yet but you may as well say there divorced that the agreement between he and his wife was written up and signed. He and his soon to be ex live in different states, he now resides in my state. Oneday, he told me that his ex was not talking to him and that she seems bitter towards him. He said he was just going to kill her with kindness. Im thinking to myself ooooooook.
He and I went to a movie and he asked if he could hold my hand,so as we're holding hands in the theater i notice a band on his left hand ring finger. Am i reading too much into this??Or are the warning signs there?IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted February 23, 2006 11:24 AM
Oooohhhhh I don't know, pay close attention bc he should not be wearing a wedding band if he is getting a divorce. Talk to him soon ask him about the ring..I hate to be in the dark and I have learned to ask questions no matter what.. IP: Logged |
MoonDuchess88
Knowflake Posts: 692
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Registered: Mar 2005
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posted February 23, 2006 11:55 AM
yeah girl, he's supposed to have that thing off. Ask about it.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 3328
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted February 23, 2006 11:56 AM
In general, I believe the Scorp people I know and myself are pretty truthful, but anyone can justify enough grey layers..
Likewise, ask questions!IP: Logged |
Touchstone
Knowflake Posts: 222
From: York, UK
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted February 23, 2006 01:52 PM
It sounds a bit iffy that he's still wearing a wedding ring. That doesn't quite gel with the fact he's telling you he's practically divorced. You might need to ask him a few tactful questions to clear things up.On a positive note, the Scorpios I have known have always been very truthful. Wishing you well with your fella, Aqua 
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Aphrodite
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posted February 23, 2006 08:40 PM
Well, sounds like you have a few good clues, albeit not great indicators though. Might as well follow up with a background check to see if the woman/wife/ex wife is indeed living in another state, and if there are kids. You don't want to get involved in that kind of mess. Sorry to say this.IP: Logged |
taurean_scorpion
Knowflake Posts: 770
From: santa monica, california
Registered: May 2005
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posted February 23, 2006 09:53 PM
That's just one sign though..
most scorpios i know are very honest....IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 4086
From: Generic New England City
Registered: May 2003
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posted February 23, 2006 10:44 PM
Every good relationship depends on a foundation of trust, that means no lies.
The way to get rid of a lie is to confront it and then it goes away. You don't have to find out the exact truth, just clear up anything that feels wrong, it's appropriate to ask about anything that seems untruthful but it's usually not a good idea to dig just for the fun of it. So if he is late coming home I wouldn't ask, worry but dont' dig, but a missing ring? yep you better ask. Scorpios are traditional underneath, he probably expects you to ask at some point. It's about you two people, not anyone else so don't feel guilty or strange about asking, there shouldn't be any other woman in your mind at all, it's your job to focus on him. Shaky relationships focus on too many outside things, don't pretend everything is okay even if he does. My thing with Scorpios is that they need someone else to dig into their moods and talk. A little jealousy is okay too, but not unless there is a good reason. He could keep up the mystique about her for years, just to get you riled up and jealous you know. The reason I say this is because I dated a very recently divorced Scorp and although he was innocent of seeing anyone, he would bring up the ex just to see me get upset, he thought he needed that to keep me jealous a bit. I ended up blowing up at him one day and that was that. Now I know some men can be insecure and hang on to the ex till the bitter end. Yours may talk about her everyday and never see her, that's why confronting the issue once in a while is necessary. He'll be mentally and emotionally preoccupied with her to no end. Natasha
Taurus
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starruby
Knowflake Posts: 13
From: Brandon, FL, USA
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted February 24, 2006 09:52 AM
I had a Scorpio BF for about a year and a half. I am a Virgo. He said I was too passive for him and that is why he broke it off with me. He is very blunt, agressive, and sometimes, hateful. To EVERYONE. BUT on the other hand, he is funny, and affable. I used to talk to him after we broke up, but, he is just too negative for me so I cut him off. Sorry, no more Scorpios for me!IP: Logged |
starruby
Knowflake Posts: 13
From: Brandon, FL, USA
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted February 24, 2006 09:53 AM
Although I do have to say, he was honest. BRUTALLY HONEST. Not mean, just honest, which can be mean sometimes!IP: Logged |
pidaua
Knowflake Posts: 4074
From: Bisbee, Arizona
Registered: May 2002
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posted February 24, 2006 01:10 PM
Ask him.. plain and simple. Say - Hey what is it with the ring?If the ex is living in a different state, he has no need at all to wear it - even if he thinks he is showing her loyalty until the divorce is final. Basically, if that is the case, then why is he seeing you? get it? Loyal enough to wear the ring, but still sleeping with (or interest in)another? Hmmmmm..... Here is another explanation (which, as a Sag would freak me out even more). Maybe he is wearing it because he has his sights set on YOU. Meaning, he doesn't want anyone else to approach him as he is happy being with you so the ring keeps them away. Again.. just ask him
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Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 912
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Registered: Jun 2005
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posted February 24, 2006 01:25 PM
I know it was just a thought Pid but Im gone say Hell to the naw on that, Please men don't think like that. It was a nice thought though.. LOL!!!!IP: Logged |
Scorpionic Web
Knowflake Posts: 111
From: Pennsylvania
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted February 24, 2006 02:46 PM
Scorpio's are very truthful, they just aren't forthcoming. Scorpios are always wary of how they're being received and something like still wearing a wedding band is a sign of conflicting desire. Inner conflict is one of the many topics Scorpios really don't want to share aloud.I don't see how he could be so naive to think you wouldn't notice a ring still on his finger... so, all that I can conclude is that it he is subliminally asking for help, as Scorpios need understanding but can't readily admit when their life is screwed up. He probably feels trapped and liberated at the same time. I'm a bit of a "grey lizard" Scorpion and he probably is too- at a perpetual crossroads, making life confusing and difficult for the people around him. Asking him about the ring may not get you much of an answer, but you're probably serving an important role in his life and self-realization. It will probably take a lot of patience on your part. IP: Logged |
pidaua
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From: Bisbee, Arizona
Registered: May 2002
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posted February 24, 2006 05:53 PM
I know Mama.. I was just trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. Had he been someone I was with - I would have been done right then and there IP: Logged |
AquaLady
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Registered: Feb 2006
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posted February 25, 2006 12:07 AM
Well, after finding the courage to ask him about the ring, his answer was he found it at the gym. He says its costume jewelry and he just put it on. Ironically to me it just happens to fit his ring finger. Now, he asked me if i saw the ring before or after we kissed at the theater. I said to him i saw it in the theater but i didnt want to say anything about it. He says why didnt i ask him about the ring before we kissed? I couldnt answer. But i think i didnt want to ruin the time we were spending together or i trusted him. He just doesnt seem to undrstand why i never said anything. I wanted to talk with him more but didnt want to ask too many questions all at once. My intuition tells me somethings not right about him and the ex wife situation,.its a strong intuition. He says he likes me because i keep him guessing that i'm mysterious, fun,sweet to him. He says he wishes he could see me everyday.I'm not a selfish person, i care for him but want to ask him if he has thought about going back to his ex-wife. I think she will have him back if he date her again and maybe ask her to go to counseling with him, at least for their two kids. Maybe i'm just the one to suggest this to him and right now its not good for me to get my feeling tied into this but its too late because i already have. I really hope he wouldnt pull this stunt just to get a reaction from me. Thank you all for your insights: )IP: Logged |
Love
Knowflake Posts: 84
From: Canada
Registered: Feb 2006
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posted February 25, 2006 03:17 AM
You know, I keep hearing people say that Scorpios are honest, but I know so many Scorpios and a few of them are really, really dishonest. In fact, my ex-BF (a Scorpio) was a compulsive liar. He constantly lied as a means to feel as though he was in control of our relationship and if I didn't have a healthy dose of self-esteem, I would have found some way to blame it on myself (that he couldn't feel secure enough with me to tell me the truth).I do not think that you can ever say that one sign is one way or another, but I will say that many of the Scorpios I know tend to like to play games and see themselves as being very clever about it all, when I can see right through it! I suspect that if you have an intuition or a sense of discomfort about this situation, you are better off asking b/c one thing I have no problem categorizing Scorpios as, is SECRETIVE. Every last one I have ever met. So he's not going to tell you, he's waiting for you to ask.
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 4892
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted February 25, 2006 12:53 PM
Scorpios make very good liars, if they feel the need to.......very convincing indeed !!!IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 4086
From: Generic New England City
Registered: May 2003
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posted February 25, 2006 02:30 PM
sounds like bigger problems than a ring!Start asking, don't worry about ruining the time together because if it's real it stays together. Don't get caught up in illusions. Ask where are the kids? Where is the wife? Tell him what YOU want, don't ask him what he wants. Make sure he knows honesty is a dealbreaker for you, and stand firm. After all you, you are interviewing him not the other way around. Natasha
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MysticMelody
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Registered: Dec 2005
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posted February 26, 2006 01:40 AM
Natasha and the girls are right, and so is your intuition. There are many people in this world who lie, regardless of Sun Sign.
The one thing we DO know about Scorpios is that they want to possess their loved one mind, body and soul. How can this Scorpio be "over" his wife if they are not even divorced yet?! Not that you are being unreasonable, usually if someone is living in a different state, it is a good sign that things are over... but have they been separated for 6 months to a year? Anything less than that and ANYONE is bound to still have some unresolved feelings, let alone a Scorpio.
If he is wearing the ring he is doing it because he is still married to her in his heart. And the $@$*@%@ lied to you. He FOUND it and is wearing it on his ring finger as COSTUME jewelry? No married or formerly married man is so stupid that he doesn't know which finger a wedding band goes on, and no single man is going to put on a wedding band as "costume" jewelry. And if he is that stupid, you should get away from him anyway because he'll just end up dying on the way home from the grocery store in the next year or so because he's too stupid to remember to look both ways before he crosses the street. In fact, I don't know how he's lived this long.... 
Don't believe that crap. DO NOT BELIEVE THAT CRAP.
What kind of piece of crap would find someone's wedding band at the gym and not turn it into the front desk anyway? (Even if it was true, which it is NOT.)
He's just wearing it as "costume jewelry."
*sigh*
What freaked out chemicals in our emotional make-up make us BELIEVE this crap? I know it hurts less to believe the bs. Take care and if you decide to let him go, pray for peace and to let go without pain.  IP: Logged |
MysticMelody
Knowflake Posts: 269
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Registered: Dec 2005
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posted February 26, 2006 01:45 AM
Sorry about all the "crap"s I just feel so upset that we (women) continue to allow guys to get away with that kind of behavior. (And I do not exclude myself from this!) My Goodness... somebody call Dr. Phil!!!!!!!!
Heeeeeeeeeeelp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  IP: Logged |
Scorpionic Web
Knowflake Posts: 111
From: Pennsylvania
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted February 26, 2006 02:56 AM
hahaha... Scorpios are simply disastrous. Stay away!!! Scorpios are never fully satiated and we'll ruin everything. I promise.IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 4892
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted February 26, 2006 08:31 AM
Scorpionic WebMy husband says to me "nothing (in love) is ever enough for you"..... I think you understand what I am saying.... Ive had three husbands up to now.....speaks for itself doesnt it.... WHY ARE WE LIKE THAT ??????? IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 4086
From: Generic New England City
Registered: May 2003
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posted February 26, 2006 09:51 AM
Maybe Scorpios depend on others to take care of them? So love is a practical thing?It's been that way in my experience, so it makes sense to keep looking for someone better. To most people stability depends on being with one person, but if you want someting other than stability, or if you believe you aren't stable emotionally or in your affections..then there is constant moving. Scorpios like to use their imaginations a lot too. Scorpios always seem to be changing their minds about most things! Unfortunately I tend to fall for Pluto/7th house sometimes because my Gemini/7th house is emotional and outgoing. I have freaked out hormones once in a while.
For me the plutonian male is seeking a wife, even if she's just a roomate, she's a wife, someone to cook, clean and be his. Doesn't mean he respects her or loves her, just needs one. Scorpio women around me always have someone. I don't like to be alone either, but it's less traditional. Scorpio and Plutonian/7th house people are seeking traditional qualities in a mate when they project a wild image. Pluto gives off a wild man, strong image but it wants to BE taken care of and take care. Personally I'm not strong enough, but I do like to take care of the ones I love. Another thing is the Scorpio tendency to DESTROY everything that does not work, so it can be controlling and demand change. Every Scorpio I know has destroyed ex's, even if in word so that he comes out stronger. It's a competitive sign-
Good for business but for me not so good for cuddling. Pluto 7th house people have taught me the meaning of commitment and what to stay away from-they are VERY sensitive to what you say and do, but not so sensitive to their own words. This guy with the ring probably said this off the top of his head without thinking. He is being self centered and mean by lying. He has hormones and wants to mate but what kind of mate is he? Get that controlling nature to work on itself, or tell him to GO BACK TO HIS WIFE.... (and Cancer men can be almost as bad-I am struggling with one right now who has an ex. He lies all the time too) Natasha
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AquaLady
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Registered: Feb 2006
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posted February 26, 2006 12:12 PM
I am in utter shock from everyones post.because what you are saying is so true. This is my first time with a scorpio and everyday something new unfolding with him. Everything went from 0 to 100 in a matter of minutes. Something within myself tell me to 'run' and save myself from the situation (hurt/pain) because its only going to get worse. He call me up lastnite he was drinking and asked me if I want to "become One with him". I'm just in alittle shock right now and confused.Peace and Love
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Focused Chi
Knowflake Posts: 39
From: A quiet place ignoring his 20' tall fire breathing EGO
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted February 26, 2006 04:26 PM
AquaLady,There is absolutly No Way the guy is separated/divorced/whatever from his wife if he still has a ring on his finger. He is either being untruthful or as MysticMelody so humorously put it too stupid to cross the street. lol I fear you are unknowingly "the other woman." I wish you the best and hope you sort it out. Regards, Focused Chi IP: Logged |
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