posted October 29, 2002 07:09 PM              

And as far as your argument goes, It's wrong. Being a "single man" living with mostly "single men" - a couple of which have not been single and including me are still recovering from the 3rd degree emotional burns caused by the last relationship with "single women".

In a truly fair society neither would have to stick their neck out, or if it went wrong suffer anymore emotional damage. Now i freely admit the kind of male/female relationships practised up until recently (i do call the last 100-or-so years recent) were less than good. But whatever experiences you've had - we are not all like that.

I dont like sticking my neck out and approaching someone, it scares me stiff, and i'm not the only guy that feels this way, and we bruise as easily.

Apart from evolutionary psychological differences, men and women are the same species here and although most men are still trained and indoctrinated to behave in a specific way thats currently the way it is, and nobody can change the way people internally think, except a big astrological neon sign saying "Aquarian age, this way -->"

And in reply to your post and in defense of carlo, i might well say "Since WHEN do you wear boxer shorts, and have testicles to KNOW WHAT and HOW a man thinks??" - and please dont reply with any smutty jokes, because you know they aren't really true.

If you're happy being single because you "want" to be, thats great. I wish i could be like you because having nobody around is unbearable for me.

posted October 29, 2002 09:52 PM              

I still believe he's a good man, I just don't understand the hot and cold behavior.

I certainly don't "choose" to be alone...I don't "need" someone in my life..I "Want" someone to share my life with becasue I feel it's a life worth sharing.

I also realize that it takes 2 to tango and i'm willing to accept responsibility for some of this man's hot and cold behavior as it very well may be in direct response to some of my behavior. Like I said..I take the cautious route in situations like this.

posted October 29, 2002 10:05 PM              

and I have too wore dresses, sweetheart, and for all we all know, I'd look better than you in Versace any day...and I probably have more Versace in my closet than you ever will lol...just kidding, I only have like three things by that Most Brilliant Designer of All Time.

I am a Pagan male too, so I may get a bit more randy at times, yet it is all in good fun. I never take myself too siriusly, as you can all tell. I am as light-hearted as I can be. And I have been with and around a pile o' Libras, but VWP takes the cake.

Aphrodite, you are a blessing to your screenname, and coming from a guy who has worshipped more goddesses than VWP can probably even name, and who has been a dedicant to Aphrodite for almost a decade, a priest in Her temple at various gatherings, and an active participant in Her rituals, as well as intimately involved with priestesses of Her magick, I can assure you, I have earned the right to comment on the use or misuse of Her Name in public. I have never seen such abuse of Her Good Name in my life, and quite frankly, I call on Randall to force VWP to change her screenname.

In my community, and you Pagans out there know this to be true...anytime someone takes the actual name of a god or goddess, as their own personal magickal name or circle name, it is crucial to be extremely careful to honor that deity properly. Oh, ask any Pagan you know, they will back me up on this. We all hold it to be a general rule, you know, of responsible deity worship...simple stuff. So anytime someone in our community does this, certain eyes raise, as we all say to ourselves, "I hope s/he can handle that energy..." Now make no mistake, women who call themselves Kali, guys who prefer that you call them Loki in circle...invite chaos into their lives just by the simple fact of taking that deity's name. The obvious thing is that we are talking about screennames on a chat site here, fine...yet I would suggest that you all mind yourselves if you ever do this, even taking an email addy or IM nick like venus2002, or panman69, that type of thing. The gods have a sense of humor, ya'll. Please, please, puhleeeease...never think that you do not automatically take on a sense of added responsibility to respect and honor that deity properly.

Aphrodite, I trust you completely with Her Most Awesome Name, and having read your kind posts, have full confidence that your use of the Most High and Lovely Name of She Born of The Sea Foam, is just elegant and lovely, and that you do so honor Her Fabulous Name when you use it here. Yet VWP (and this is why I abbreviate her screenname; it insults my goddess), imnsho, is an affront to the goddess with that type of attitude, and as such, she has cursed her own love nature, and thus will remain single most of her life, if not all. Oh no, come on...we Witches don't really curse people, and that is no curse. Just a fact borne by her own karmic soul testing. By virtue of abusing the name of one of the most revered gods in the history of wo/mankind, and by virtue of abusing her own Sun sign ruler's good name to elevate herself to an actual goddess (we men know you ladies all have the goddess within...we *all* have the spark of deity within us...like, duh), she has and will continue to bring herself into circumstances that will preclude her love nature from truly growing, and I suspect, have serious issues with ever meeting her Twin Self. Gee, do you think that the ruler of her Sun (Venus), conjunct her Pluto, in the house that her ruler rules (7th), which also rules partnership and marriage, could be telling you something? Uh, yeah. Now just ask yourself...think of all the Libras you know. Do you know any quite like VWP, or is she basically an abberation in the category of that Sun sign? I am not saying pig pile on the poor girl, just think about it. Dear VWP, what the heck happened to you, honey? Would you like to share? Right, yeah, you rule, got that part. Parents split up? Sister is Ms. Perfect? Only child? Woke up one morning next to a strange priest? What gives? Why are you so thinkin' you all that and a truckload of chips? Cuz, yo, f*** it, I'm the whole damn party mix...

posted October 29, 2002 10:57 PM              

http://www.wendyrule.com

So truly becoming to her Sun sign is she Let's hope we can all be

Have a nice spooky Halloween, boys and ghouls And just kidding, VWP, I am sure Venus at least gave you some decent looks How about a little balance now, hmmm?

posted October 30, 2002 05:56 AM              

As for you single guys, the reason most of you get hurt in relationships is because you jump in it for LOOKS, not the CHARACTER of the woman. In essence, if you pick up a cheap barfly at a club, don't expect her to be a real woman or a class act. In fact, don't expect much from her at all.
The subject here was about a PARTICULAR Male. Then we discussed particular TYPES.
I never summoned a lunatic with a chip on his shoulder to jump to conclusions about what he THOUGHT I was talking about. Carlo, we're discussing a woman's inner frustrations regarding dating men. If you think your a woman, go ahead, be my guest. I will no longer subject myself to your kind of pathetic behavior. Simple as that. You can ACT like you know what your talking about and if it makes you feel good in your own little twisted world, good riddance.
And you ARE twisted for thinking that you could ever have Drew Barrymore or that she will ever give you a chance. Tell the truth, that's why you moved here to Cali didn't you?
To hunt her down like some star-struck sick puppy. Like all other's moving here hoping to find an unrealistic pot of gold or a celebrity to attach yourselves to. How sick. Like you could ever have her.
Next time I see Drew, I'll be sure to warn her of your stalking potential. I read your old posts about your inner turmoil regarding her... And you think that "I" have a problem??
Like I said, you don't know WHO I am or WHO I KNOW. If you were at least emotionally balanced and were nice, I'd might have introduced you. Too bad!

As for you N_w Evil, I am not yelling. If you had an education outside of GRADE school, you'd have KNOWN that I was accentuating certain words to get a point across!
Guys PLEASE, calm down!

I thought this string was to be based on INTELLIGENCE?
Leave it up to you two to ruin a good time of girl talk!

posted October 30, 2002 08:42 AM              

It just sounded to me like you were bashing us...now is it only fair i put my view forward, even though we obviously misunderstand what you're saying so badly?

posted November 10, 2002 06:54 PM              

Now that you've EXPOSED your TRUTH, can we put this BEHIND us and carry on with love?

posted November 11, 2002 09:36 PM              

The fish swimming in opposite directions...that's how I feel all the time....conflicted. I have the vibrant Leo personality but in a lot of ways I'm shy. I'm very very sensitive and very dreamy...I day dream a lot...I use my daydreaming mechanism as an escape from what is sometimes a painful reality.

From what I understan, Pices tend to be very idealistic rather than realistic and I find this to be very true for myself and I think this is why I feel let down by people in general because then never live up to my expectations....not that I expect perfection...because I don't...but I have some basic rules...or charactersitics that I feel should be in everyone's "fabric" or "makeup" and it's not...people just do not have the integrity or conduct themeslves in a way that I would expect in terms of being truthful and forthcoming with others.

I get let down a lot...I try to manage this because it can be quite detrimental to my overal well being from a mental standpoint.