posted October 13, 2003 03:31 PM              

I agree with lioneye68. From my reading, you see pretty fair and balanced.

We all express ourselves differently. That's all. It is okay to let our feelings get ruffled sometimes, I suppose (normal) - but holding a grudge? That's not cool. Of course, that is part of the Aries nature, so it comes naturally to me.

With those who are more blunt (male signs), at least there are no hidden agendas and big games going on. Not ALL bad, but maybe appears more insensitive to some. I find it easier to know where I stand.

When someone really offends or hurts you, take a deep breath and think about something else.

Lecturing. That's what I am doing.

posted October 14, 2003 01:02 PM            

People have to be somewhat politically correct while still being able to express their views. If I call someone a derogatory name for being a homosexual would you say it is offensive?

What about if I started calling people racially offensive names?

It would be wrong and I do not have the right to offend someone just because I have the right to free speech.

Our word is what people take us as. In that I mean, I have / had a friend that stated he used racial slurs as a way of shocking people. Hmmm, to me he is still a racists. If someone yells "I like drugs...I like drugs" do we think that person may have a drug problem? More that likely we do because why else would they say it?

If someone states" All women are stupid, should be barefoot, pregnant and cooking a meal for us men", wouldn't we think of them as a chauvanist? I think that person is entitled to their belief, but once it is stated it is open for others to comment.

There is a point where things become crude, where as adults we really don't need to dip into that type of cess or else we only prove to make ourselves look like fools.

Think about the person that always had to cuss. We all know people like that, and one has to think, don't they have anything intelligent to say other than every other work starting with F and rhyming with duck?

I am not perfect, which has already been pointed out on other threads (LOL), but I do try to think about what I say and if I do hurt someones feelings I apologize. If I think they are full of it, then I'll thank them for their contribution and go on my merry way. LOL

As far as men and women:

I think men show their feelings just fine, and maybe even a bit too much. It could be that I seem to be surrounded by Cancer moons and they like to show what they feel. I have more masculine qualities which motivates me to keep my feelings deep inside unless I am writing. I have become more open in the past few years, but it is still hard.

Many of the men I have known and been friends with seem to open up to me and almost get clingy. I am not sure if I convey the feeling that I am understanding and not going to judge them for their emotions, but I seem to see more men cry than most women (it doesn't mean I am special) it is just something that I have noticed.

posted October 14, 2003 01:04 PM              

You are a pretty smart one, too Pixelpixie. You got me for an Aries.

posted October 14, 2003 01:20 PM              

Not trying to speak for lioneye, but - you know how some signs are masculine:

Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius, Aquarius

and some are feminine:

Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorio, Capricorn, Pisces?

These are just astrological terms. The masculine sign is direct and energetic; a feminine sign is receptive and magnetic. I believe these masculine and feminine atrtributes were given to the signs thousands of years ago. Hopefully, most of us try to avoid the sexism in these distinctions. Generally, the masculine signs are strong through action and the feminine signs are more self-contained.

I think that is what Lioneye was referring to - the behavior deemed by sign according to masculine / feminine terminology. Lioneye wasn't the one to come up with assigning signs with these labels.

posted October 14, 2003 02:46 PM              

Well, yes. Otherwise it's just an assertively/aggressively expressed female's viewpoint. It's nice to have the other 50% of the population's (i.e., males) contribution as well, because sometimes they have the truly objective viewpoints, even on woman's issues. It's good to know what THEY think. We already know what WE think.

Also, I recall reading somewhere that the more "masculine" signs a woman has in her make-up, the more she'll require interaction with males, and the more "feminine" signs a man has in his make-up, the more he'll require interaction with females.

posted October 14, 2003 03:00 PM              

In my own thoughts, gender is a social construction. From the astrology that I've read, most think differently about that. Though these days my own belief in the stars, is wanning. The idea that we are neither men nor women, but both simultaneously would probably find favor with only a small minority of people. I entertain it and I like it, the culture of the mind and speech transcribed into living reality. The culture of the unconscious mind, mmm . . . what would they say about gender? A whole Universe that is the stuff dreams and nightmares are made of.

Just my own thoughts. Not looking for any debate.

Peace

posted October 14, 2003 08:00 PM            

You think it's tough being a guy on a site overrun with women? He he, it's Leo paradise Surprised Randall doesn't try to charge me admission Just kidding Randall

Hello key. I read your piece on the other thread that got locked and thought your commentary on the various signs was funny. I've seen links here to sites that just ripped the signs with various slanders without a peep of dissent. Of course, I get along with Leo, Aries and Aquarius well and usually understand where they're coming from. Have a lot of Leo and Mars in Aries myself so I know when it's all in fun and when it's an attack. Leo and Aries know those things Your energy seems very easy and familiar so maybe we've crossed paths somewhere in the far or recent past. Going to save your comments to pull out the next time someone says I'm a $#@^&^ so and so Thanks

posted October 15, 2003 02:16 AM              

I just think people can lose site of what they say or who they are. Some people are more offended than others. My whole thing is positivity. Who in the world needs negativity? It seems only negative people who sub-consiously try to steal positivity, but instead create more negativity. I think they then realise there's nothing else to say to that person, and then move on. Yeah, freedom of speech is great, sharing of ideas and experiences are awesome, but I do NOT accept negativity.

posted October 15, 2003 02:49 PM            

My Dad is a Cappy with a Cancer moon and just loves when we remember his birthday. I always get him a book about American Indian stuff or a fine piece of art (mostly Southwestern). I collect the same, so we are pretty easy to buy for most of the time. I also know that my dad has a sentimental streak and likes when we remember things.

Out of the blue I bought the Willie Nelson CD "Essentially Willie Nelson". It's a 2 CD set and I kept wanting to hear Seven Spanish Angels. My bro, dad and I would blast it on road trips when we were kids. So, I got one for him and gave it to him last week. He was touched because he had been looking for that very song on one of his old tapes. LOL... Also, my Dad, being a Cappy, means NO SECOND HAND STUFF. My brother, sometimes such a sag, will send my dad used stuff. It really torks him off even though little bro thinks it's kind of funny.

My mom just loves when I make her things. She gets all sentimental and weepy...that's my double crabby mommy. Oh yeah, and chocolate!

Leo's can be hard to buy for (just like Virgos). My Leo guy has a Virgo mom and never knows what to buy her so he doesn't get her anything. On a trip to San Antonio I found a beautiful pweter candle piece that cast the shadow of the Alamo. I convinced him to buy it for her and she just went nuts. Virgo's LOVE quality and functionality.

Mr. Leo is a bit harder. I buy him his favorite music and make him pouches for hunting. He also like fine whiskey and my wacky homemade birthday cards. But praise...that works quite well too.