posted November 15, 2004 02:01 PM            

So, seeing a movie...is that like a formal "date" or is it hanging out? How should I interpret this, cause I've gotten mixed signals?

posted November 19, 2004 05:22 PM              

It's a good idea to let men know if you want a date or are comfortable with it or not. Believe it or not some girls are nervous and they guys don't want to scare them off, so they pretend they aren't dating them. This is designed to make the girls less shy and more at ease.

Of course we want to know!
The solution is for the girl to say, I am interested in going to the movie...Your Treat right???

Then if he says yes, tell him thanks for the invite.
Let him know you are okay with dating him.

Air men are pretty nervous about dating,
next time leave the coupons at home. It's a date! He pays for the movie.

posted November 20, 2004 12:33 AM            

I am nervous, and I am unashamed of that fact, but is it likely that he's trying to put me more at ease, or simply equally nervous? I don't know for sure if I want/need definition at the moment...I'm scared. Should I react at all to the fact that our potential plans keep getting all shifted and turned upside down? Would you chalk it off to simple miscomunication, or is he not sure he's interested?

Air men, the charmers of the Zodiac, newvous about a little thing like "dating"? Who woulda known...
I'd love any other wisdom you can share about Libra/Gemini men, and their attitudes toward dating...

posted November 20, 2004 11:24 AM              

Libra/Gemini has a tough time making up his mind and will get confused as to what to do, my motto used to be
Stick with the Plan, when in doubt because the will ask you ten times if that's what you Really want to do!

And if you express indecision, your're lost. Just look at him and say, stick with the plan. Remember the plan, that's it, don't change anything, otherwise you will both be uneasy. If he can't do what he wants, and what he wants can change, he'll get moody and cranky.

So make sure you both want the same things, as in you tell me what you are both going to do, he will like that, as he doesn't have to make the decision and then stick to it with chin up even if it's awful. That way if there is follow through to him, that's a good thing.

There isn't much follow through in his life.
So he will depend on you for that.

I used to hate that men couldn't make a decision, then I couldn't stand the control freaks, now I am wrestling with what works for me or not. Maybe two dates twice a week with two different men works for me. I can't stand depending on one, and I can't stand going by the book with the other.

posted November 20, 2004 12:18 PM            

Eeesh, that sounds chaotic, about him making sure, it's what I really want to do...
Thank goodness I'm not usually indecisive.

Do I assume he is free again this weekend, without knowing much details about his routine? And what about,

quote:

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There isn't much follow through in his life.
So he will depend on you for that.

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BTW, does all this stuff I've said mean he might be pursuing me alone? I mean, I've heard that Venus in Scorpio is not focused on all directions, but then they say Mars in Cappy is very determined about getting what they want, and I've yet to see that...

Hmmmm....

posted November 20, 2004 12:34 PM              

Everything has to do with how much you pursue him, as in make plans for him, but that's not pushy to him, that's little stuff he can't watch all the time.
It's a convenience thing,

you will see,

posted November 20, 2004 10:22 PM            

Why would you conclude that he is "99% stuck on me" right now? Just curious.

Ok, I know I'm way over analyizing this whole thing..my natural tendency :rollseyes:

posted November 21, 2004 09:01 AM            

And he'd like to know I was analyzing the situation? Wow. Totally different than other guys I've known.

I almost feel like, weird and not me as this sounds, if I don't talk with him today, I should have a note ready to hand to him....saying we should hang out soon (maybe with my cell # on it?)...
Is that out of character of what one would expect from me, or is it just my Aries-rising lack of patience showing through?

posted November 22, 2004 07:37 AM            

Mom says he sounds just immature, friend says he sounds shy. If someone was shy, why would they have mentioned going anywhere with me in the first place, then not make definite plans? I'm lost.

posted November 22, 2004 10:49 AM              

Trust, me I was married to one for 8 years, and he never made it absolutely clear if he liked me in anyway, just liked hanging out with all the time. I took that as a yes. Clear decisions are absent.

posted November 22, 2004 11:17 AM            

Does he see it as, he's done his part and let me know he'd like us to hang out, and the rest is up to me?

Does he likely see this as a romantic relationship or are we still at the friends stage? I mean, not to be blunt, but I've never been kissed,...would he see us hanging out as something going in that direction? What is your experience in that department with your Libra/Gemini?

posted November 22, 2004 11:26 AM              

He probably thinks you are in a romantic relationship, he may bring you a book, or mention he misses you, or wants you to call him, and that's as romantic as it's going to get, shy is the word. But I liked that, as I always pick shy guys.

He may bug you with his shyness after a while, mine would rarely want to meet new people, unless he met them on his own. He wasn't gregarious, friendly, but aloof.

Kissing he may like that a lot, but little kisses, he's not going to push you for intimacy. And you always have to tell him he looks good to get a kiss, he needs to be ego stroked often.

This is not a passionate Scorpio like dude.
I would accept him for what he offers, his feelings run deep but intimacy may bother him on a daily basis. He may be confusing you with communication to make sure you're interested, or just for fun, he is an air/air man. Mine would love to play games on the phone, and would often not show up for plans.

I would date others, but keep him as a non posessive friend. He would prefer that too, as Libra/Gemini needs to have lots of relationships to stay healthy, because he is so shy.

posted November 22, 2004 11:33 AM            

Why on earth would he think I was in a romantic realtionship? He has mentioned lending me a book (a vampire romance novel, he regularly reads them)...but as I don't have his number and he doesn't have mine, the calling thing isn't relevent.

posted November 23, 2004 07:43 AM            

My Gemmy (Tony) is so much easier to get a vibe from, perhaps due to his possible Sag rising and possible Aries moon...

posted November 23, 2004 09:26 AM              

This is not a sign that will grab you and kiss you, he may kiss the back of your neck, that's how mine made the first move, but then I had to stand right in front of him with my neck bared, wearing a low cut shirt, it took all night.

I had to encourage him, "I love being kissed on the back of my neck"

That kind of thing, he offered me a back rub when I mentioned my back was REALLY SORE!!!!

On the plus side, LIbra/Gem men are really caring, and remember you forever. My ex still calls to see how I am, and manages things I can't, he's really detached and unemotional about work, but can lose it in a parking garage if he thinks a man is checking me out, or he is disrespectful in front of me, he was really insecure in front of other men. In fact if you seem to have another man in your life, he will most likely go away for a while and sulk. Right now I am managing an insurance claim, and he is very helpful.

But if we try to meet for lunch he is always late and we bicker.

So for what its' worth..., make sure to read all about Air men in posts. Yes an Aries moon and Sag rising would be very different, I have a lot of fire in my chart, and I am pretty much assertive about my emotions, they are on the surface.

posted November 23, 2004 09:48 AM              

Wow, what you wrote above is accurate. I am impressed. You helped me out! I have been dating Air Sign men more than any other this year. You had me laughing at how they are hesitant about forward displays of affection. So true. They love intellectual stimulation. But I have Sun & Mars in Aries . . . :-O

I totally relate with the both of you! May be it's the Aries in us?

Love

posted November 23, 2004 12:26 PM            

Personally, I'm so tired of waiting around for someone I'm into to visibly express they like/desire me in a reciprocal fashion, I just wish someone would playfuly grab me around the waist and give me a warm hug, a peck on the cheek, or both to test the waters. Granted, I choose non-assertive men, so go figure...

BTW, Robby, I'd love it if you could shed some light on my Gemmy guy friend...how are you like emotionally, figuring in the Aries moon, and what effect does it have on your Venus/Sun Gemini conjunction? So, your riisng sign must be Leo or Virgo, right?

posted November 23, 2004 10:34 PM              

You could give him reasons to kiss you, and if you reason with him, and he sees the purpose he will kiss you, but it's not spontaneous. The real question, is do you find him attractive enough to kiss quite a bit? He will need a lot attention, as proof of your loyalty and affection.
Better to kiss him, when you are sure, don't kiss him to find out if you are sure.

If that makes sense.