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Topic: picking apart the guy "friend " thing....
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BugginOut6106
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posted December 30, 2004 12:03 PM
 
You know all of that someone else asking you if you would make a good pair from your l/g guy. Maybe was true. I mean look at us. LOL we get responses from each other on an astrological message board. Guys are less finesse about finding the skinny on someone they may have crush on. They resort to having someone else do their dirty work. I'd be little put off by the whole getting paid for probing?! That's weird. However, It may be as innocent as mr. l/g guy finding out your vibe towards him. You all need to get away from the workplace to find out more about him and how he feels. I mean he must be getting good vibes from you if he has someone sleuthing about you--right?? Mr. Saint and I are getting along well. He came over on his only day off. When we were lying beside each other he would grab my hand and put his in it. It's terribly hard to not think about him all the time tho. He's a very generous person. I dig what he has to say, and we agree on most moral issues. Politically we agree. We've never gotten into an argument yet. I dunno we get along so well it makes me think it's too good. Hey somewhere else on here you had a post in another topic about how aquarius is freedom loving and how you think you're compatible with that. Have you been w/ an aqua before? Just curious. IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted December 31, 2004 12:46 AM
LOL, yes, I do think that's a good sign and I must be giving off the "right" vibes  Not that I trust the Aries coworker to keep his mouth shut about all this, that's kinda why I was evasive about answering...see, the same coworker has asked me similar Qs before, but this time was much more insistent. The last thing I want is other coworkers to be privy to all the details of my love life, and risk the superiors being aware of all this. It just isn't my way.
Hey, if he can ever get the guts to ask me himself, well, we might make a good couple, but see, I won't, as I told the Aries coworker, ask the L/G guy out, not like on a date cause I don't do things like that.
If I were to ask him to do something, I'd make it a group thing....if he wants me to himself, he has to be the man and do the formal asking. I know with women's lib and such, they say either can ask out, but hey, slap me, I'm old-fashioned.Nope, sorry, can't help with the Aqua men. I've never been seriously interested in one yet. You sound like you and Mr. Saint are getting on well, though, as since you click mentally, well, that IS most important with air sign men...trust this gospel for one who's fallen for both a Libra AND a Gemini. You hook them, and their attention fist by your stunningly agile mind, opinions, and varied knowledge, then, and only then, they consider your emotional and physical possibility... ------------------
-K
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As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight IP: Logged |
BugginOut6106
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posted December 31, 2004 09:19 AM
That sure is the case. Last night I told him he has a fine mind. I hear what ur saying about being old fashioned. I let him do the asking and plan making. also, the whole work atmosphere, may not be good thing if things were to go awry( spelling)Imagine if you had to work with him and his buddies, I'd wonder if he'd be the kiss and tell type of guy?? BYW I found out that Mr. Saint has a libra ascendant and a cancer moon. I have a gemini moon, and pisces asc. You and I have more in common other than being virgos. Two airy men. Hmmmm tell your tale sista! Hey, have a great new year. Be safe, let vulcan take over!! IP: Logged |
Virgo-AriesArtist
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posted January 03, 2005 08:12 AM
See, the work aspect, and seeing him frequently if and when things might go badly, it wouldn't bother me so much, since my mom explained it to me like this: the same goes for highschool, because it's no different there when you break up with someone you still have a class or several with...there's still that "ooo, I have to see them and not make it too awkward"....
If two people can be semi-mature about it, it should not be a future issue, see, cause too many people have harped on the whole, you-shouldn't-date-someone-from-work thing, but it is only wrong to ME when you have an authority figure like a boss or supervisor involved. I like thinking of it more rationally, like my mom pointed out to me above. I don't get the vibe that he is the "kiss and tell" type, I'm not sure why I'd conclude that, it's just a vibe I get, and my vibes are usually right on. With the Scorpio Venus/Capricorn Mars personality, I get the impression that he is quite secretive and undertoned both when a romance starts and when it might end.Hehehee...  yes, definitely two airy men. Things have been a tad weird between he and I, the last time I saw him, he kept looking my direction, almost like he wanted an excuse to come down to bag for me so he could be all chatty, but I consistently had one or two different baggers helping me at all times, so he kept moving dwn the lanes in the opposite direction. Then, after his shift, when he came through my line to buy some food, I was cold and detached, just the barest of courtesies, cause I was hurt at being ignored. He had asked me earlier at the time clock how my new years was, if I was out partying. I said no, I had had a friend from highschool over, and we had a nice realixing night. He informed me/bragged that he had gone to two parties, one of them at his house, and how drunk he got that when one of the other people at the party made a creepy weird suggestion, considering there were only guys at the party, they'd cut off that guy's supply of alcohol and locked him in a bedroom. I don't know if he exprected me to be impressed or something, cause I definitely wasn't considering how the highschool was where I grew up. I had to put up with a lot of crud at highschool, including listeing on a weekly basis every monday to lots of the stupid popular kids tell eachother all the crazy stuff they did cause of how plastered they were, or high on some substances. But, hey, he doesn't know anything about that, because he doesn't really know me, so whatever. My first thought when I hear that some had a lot to drink is how idiotic can ya get? He claimed to be still hungover too. Was he possibly just exxagerating to get my attention? I don't know. To top it off, on new years, his mom came though my line, was real friendly and made a point of mentioning her son was the L/G guy....Strangeness... ------------------
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As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight IP: Logged |
BugginOut6106
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posted January 03, 2005 11:07 AM
Yeah mixed messages I see. So It's a good thing that his mom seen you then? I mean I guess It can't be bad? A grandiose party(s) maybe isn't necessarily a bad thing for him to be at or participate in, I mean It was new years right? It was just strikingly different than your relaxed night. At least he asked how your holiday was...Mr. saint and I haven't spoken to each other since the 31st. Maybe I made him mad by going to see the ex-leo in NYC?? I was very clear about going there to see a band I dig on, rather than spending time w/ ex-leo. Before I left he and one of his buds were talking about a past new years and some chick's name was mentioned so I dunno if he was upset and pushing my buttons or what. I invited him to go w/ me, we could ditch ex-leo and have fun by ourselves. Sometimes I wonder that aquas aren't as spontaneous as they're portrayed? He said no. HMMM how to get the emotions out of these air men, is it impossible? IP: Logged |
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posted January 03, 2005 12:23 PM
Well, considering it's the 4th or 5th time in the last 2 monthes that his mom has come through my line (once she was with him), every time mentioning that the L/G guy is her son, it's beginning to get sorta weird, I suppose. Good, perhaps? I'm not sure anymore...Yes, it was new years, but he's previously mentioned a bit more familiarity with alcohol that one would expect from one who's 18 (compared to me, I guess everyone's wilder, I'm a goody-two-shoes), and I don't know if it should worry me or not. I mean, he's indicated that both his parents smoke, and their home is usually hazy with smoke, and he has been the one that mixed their drinks, so he knows more about that too than I. Am I overreacting maybe, or is he giving me hints that are supposed to be red flags and rive me away?With the Cancer moon, yes, you royally annoyed Mr. Saint, as I know from experience that those men are very very sensitive (my oldest little bro is a Cap with Cancer moon), although the water does ground him a bit, as the L/G guy's Taurus rising does as well. Getting emotions out of these air men...? Good luck, let me know if you succeed ------------------
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As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted January 03, 2005 12:35 PM
At eighteen, he is impressionable.. it sounds like he is trying to impress you, and in general, if you are a hard--partier, lots of chicks like that.. (the bad-boy thing) he is being general, not realizing you aren't into that, and are more mature than a lot of your peers. The teens is all about partying to a lot of people. That is his poit of reference (maybe it's intrigued others before.) To me, he is trying to impress you. Hopefully he will read the signs and see that 'bad-ass' to you doesn't translate to 'hottie'.IP: Logged |
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posted January 03, 2005 02:14 PM
Impressionable, yes, that would make sense, pixelpixie...well, impress me, he did not. I do hope he realizes that while I love a good time and a good party, to me that translates to quality food, pleasurable company, and jumpin' music to dance to. I know, to most people my age, hard-partying is what its all about, I've just never been all that down with the chaos of that.See, the fact that he had somewhere to go on new years intrigues me, cause at heart I'm a social butterfly in the right circles, but his choices, well, I think he wasn't all that wise. If he'd been smart or bold enough to ask my number, I had no concrete plans up until the day of to do anything with anyone, and he coulda come over, we coulda gone to do stuff, or something if he felt so inclined. I don't know, I'm just fantasizing at this point because it was nice to kick back on new years, and break out the chicken wings (or my usual shrimp...yum), crackers and cheese, and sparkling cider, and toast in 2005.
Funny thing is, physically, if I saw him across the room, I wouldn't have been drawn in very much, not that I'm attracted to "model" types or anything, but looks firgure second to the friendly/interesting mind factor...
Yep, "bad ass" not equal "hottie  ------------------
-K
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As if they were someday to hate
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BugginOut6106
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posted January 03, 2005 07:43 PM
Whoa, did I hear that right. He mixed the drinks for his parents? OMG He sounds hard core with the liqsie! Maybe I would be worried?!!?IP: Logged |
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posted January 03, 2005 11:50 PM
I think that's what he said...I can't remember all too clearly...I don't know how much of this to take-in and judge without giving this relationship a shot if we're meant to have one.------------------
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posted January 10, 2005 06:02 PM
Saw "B", the Libra/Gemini last night.
When I had arrived 10 minutes early, he saw me and said "there you are!", and I was like, "I'm not scheduled yet", then he was like "I know, but I've been waiting for you to get here so I can bug you..." . I was pleased in a strange happy way. Weird, I suppose, although he did help me a bit when I had to bag the first hour and a half of my shift instead to being at the register. Other co-workers seem to send him on other missions around the store whenever he's at my register and business slows for even a moment, then complain that they have to "babysit" him or he won't work...the whole theory for them being, if he's out of sight, he's slacking off and not working. So, why, thinks I, would they send him away when I (or others, LOL, but I prefer him near me) can always use help bagging, and he's easier to keep track of when he's working on the front end? Logic, people!...they have a pure and crummy lack of it.Might our coworkers see some form of attraction between us? I mean, we are both pretty controlled people, emotionally I think, and I know that I don't try to walk too near him when we've been talking over break, and walk back toward the time clock together. And I can't help it when he follow me over to my register...or when he swings by occasionally for a minute or two on his break... , right? ------------------
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posted July 18, 2005 08:54 PM
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posted July 18, 2005 09:51 PM
I think the guy "friend thing, might just be a gift to some of us, lol. I have mostly guy friends. I don't know...I just have a good time, I pretty much talk to everybody like they are the same gender. Aqua thing I guess...got both masculine & femenine energy. I do think inviting him to a gathering with lots of other people around is a good start.IP: Logged |
nove731
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posted July 18, 2005 10:08 PM
Hm. I agree with Evermore. I pretty much talk to everyone like they're one big gender. :-P I have a fairly even male/female proportion when it comes to friends. My close friends are 2:1, though. hahaha, Two girls, one guy.  I generally get along better with girls, though, honestly. A lot of other guys annoy the living hell out of me.IP: Logged | |
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