posted February 03, 2005 06:39 PM              

Maya-v, what IS it about you? You are a magnet for Scorpios!!!
But you also seem quite genuinely sweet, and I think Scorpios warm to that.

LOL

posted February 04, 2005 04:30 PM            

I'm a Scorp - Five planets in Scorp (Venus incl, Moon in Libra tho).

And yes, one CAN say, "my Scopio"

If a Scorpio is interested in someone, that someone would have no doubt. We're too intense for someone to miss that.

It's also been my experience that Virgos are one of the few signs that can intimidate us, because they are one of the few signs who have the same level of integrity that we consider ourselves to have. Even if the Scorp isn't into astrology, they can sense that this person is honorable, honest, and judgemental (just like us). And we HATE being judged, ironically enough, being that we can do quite a bit of judging ourselves. The other thing that is intimidating is that Virgos can come across so..virginous, we would hate to put our kinky weird selves out there and be judged for being weird or bad by the Virgin (cause while we revel in it, we don't want to be judged for it lol)...

We hold back at first, some of us maybe, because the feelings are so intense and we fear getting hurt, or we fear that our emotions don't make us see clearly (or is that just my Libra moon? heh), or we fear that our intensity will freak the person out and drive them away. But once we decide to go for it...

Well, this analogy says it best IMO.

Some people wade into a pool slowly...and others just jump in, deal with the intial shock of the cold, cause they know as soon as their body gets over the initial shock they'll be fine. Scorpios take a running leap into the pool. Or we don't get in at all. There are, I'm sure exceptions, this is just based on my personally, and the few Scorps, men and women, that I know.

But you can say, "My Scorpio". Just because we hold part of ourselves back doesn't mean we're not "yours", if we love you.

And if a Scorp is interested, you will know it. We are more known for freaking people out with the forwardness and intensity of our love, than being aloof holding back emotionally.

posted February 04, 2005 06:51 PM              

Good Luck with him and keep up the commitment talk, tell him a very lucky man will receive all your attention someday, if he wants to be that man, he has to let you know, because that man will commit to you, every night and every day. And if he can't drop everything to do that right now, then he has no business leaving you alone.

It feels more like he dropped you emotionally that week he didn't call, he has some issues with "being good enough" probably,
there are things he could do,
make your coffee in the morning for one thing, help out around the house, in your job, the challenge with Gemini/Aries women, and I am one too, is that they do EVERYTHING for the guy, so he doesn't feel he has anything to do.

Make sure you give him somethings to do for you, so he feels powerful, he could drive you to an apt. for example, or help you make dinner. Be sure to share and open up with your vulnerabilities, but not physically.

I have Gemini/Mercury/3rd house, and Mercury is the ruler of my midheaven, plus I have Venus in Aries, and Mars rules my Ascendant, so I really, really relate to coming on strong.

Be patient with yourself, remember you are a fabulous woman and you have to keep it together for yourself, with any man. He's trying to be a "real man", but he's not assertive like you. Let him become assertive, don't fill the gap.

posted February 05, 2005 06:16 AM              

GeminiAries, DO show him that you like him, but also DO be prepared for the intensity, and (since you are both single) I think you both need to accept the fact that in theory that does not prevent you from seeing or dating others. Unless, of course, you both REALLY want to make a go of it. I think you should date each other, experience talking to each other, more before becoming intimate.
If he phones and you can't manage to see him one night, suggest another night. Don't avoid him if you really are interested, he does need to know you are not playing games with him. Actually, as I've discovered, playing games doesn't do anybody any favours.
I can understand Linda Goodman's comment that "remaining detached in the face of a Scorpionic romantic assault requires an objectivity most Rams don't possess". I also have a feeling that Scorpios like to set the pace of a relationship. Whether fast or slow. So I think the best advice is - to BE THERE for the time being, show him you care, let the relationship proceed naturally, and try not to freak out!!
Ideally, sex shouldn't be causing conflict, rather enhancing your relationship. Don't be scared of him. Just tell him that you don't want sex too soon, if that is how you feel. Be straightforward, explain the situation to him. On the other hand - if you feel confident enough and you have seen quite a bit more of each other - if he wants you, go with it, and see what happens. I don't know how sound this advice is, but if you want him and he wants you, neither of you can hang around for ever. What are you waiting for?
Maybe pay him a visit, and if he's not in that day, don't be disappointed, try another day.

LOL!!!

posted February 05, 2005 12:00 PM              

I've got a question abut Scorpio intensity, and their hang-ups about whether they're good enough for the other person.

What about a situation in which they can sense that the other person is equally intense, and feels just the same regarding them??!

posted February 06, 2005 12:09 AM            

but this all sounds like a bunch of bullsh*t!!!

(and this is just my opinion based on what I've read so take it with a grain of salt)

Geminiaries you sound like a wonderful, sweet, dedicated person who is willing to go to the ends of the earth for someone you care about. My only problem is that this guy doesn't seem worth going to the corner for. I think he is a selfish, erratic, game player who has you wrapped around his little finger.

I think he comes to you when he pleases and how he pleases with no concern about your feelings or wishes or what's going on in your life. When he wants you then you should come, when he says jump you should ask, "how high" He seems like a master manipulator.

You say you love him, but how can you love someone who seems to treat you so poorly? It almost seems as if you love the idea of him. It seems like you are placing too high of expectations on him and you are building him up to more then what he is. This sounds like lust and obsession, not love.

If he really was into this relationship as you are then I think he would be at your front door step right now, no! he would have been there weeks ago and ended all this "what if, what about, what should I do" drama. This just sounds like he wants you to be the shoulder he cries on when no one else around and the person lying in his bed when the sheets get cold.

I think, if he was that committed to the "relationship" (or the possibility of there being one) then he would have made his move. This all sounds like he is jerking you around and stringing you along. It really seems like YOU are the ONLY one in this relationship doing anything. Making the effort and shouldering all the pain.

No relationship is perfect but this doesn't even sound like a relationship, it sounds like you're the whipping boy.

posted February 06, 2005 07:30 PM              

She has to get her needs in order, it doesn't matter for who, mentally and emotionally she has come a long way.

Sometimes, it's good to care about today, if you feel someone is down, and I would talk to the Scorp to ask how he is, and if he sounds down, then ask him to let you make him dinner Somtime when he feels like it. That way you open the door. Then it's okay to care just for today, it's not selfish, but sex goes with the FUTURE, for a woman who is emotional, there is no other way.

It's hard but every relationship is about adjusting, and making small compromises to be part of someone's life, making a connection.

I am still of the opinion that if your lives are together enough, you could live together, with minimal compromise, that is you don't have to have sex at all. You could invite him over for dinner, cook, then another night he could stay late, and then another night spend the night without sex, and then another time two nights, and then a week, with one night of sex, and then a month, and gradually see how it goes.

That's how you take your time, and become part of someone's life, getting him to get to know YOU.

Then if it's not working, he can move out, and talk about what went wrong, it takes some faith and getting used to, and you have to have your life and emotions together to handle ANY man.

So I am more concerned with GeminiAries's needs and wants, and how she has defined and communicated them to the Scorpio.