posted June 04, 2007 09:38 PM              

i have a problem, and it is in my chart, its me, and its resonating in my life,

heres the question, if your compatible with someone who isn't your ethnicity, does racism not exist in the relationship or does the compatibility expose the racism and make tensions worse between the two parties?

i was trying to mention this position i have earlier, but a lot of people ignored me, but i'm not going to stop because i need better help understanding it.

i have venus conjunct juno conjunct p.fort in sagittarius in the 4th house

i feel so out of place with myself, or is it normal for me to feel that way, with that astrological position, at my age?

i'm not afraid to mention that i feel this way either, because i feel things are better said then forgten, better dealt with then unacknowledged.

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posted June 04, 2007 09:45 PM            

I think it's ridiculous, and I don't seek out others of course, I'm just fascinated by all kinds of people.

But to answer your question, my current boyfriend before me has never met a person of a race other than White. He had a lot of stereotypes from how he was raised, negative ones. But once he met me, that all came out into the open and we dealt with it. There's never been any "racism" between us. There've been cultural misunderstandings but that's not the same thing, of course.

Generally, I've always gotten along with people from other races more than my own. Why? I don't know. It's like I'm outcasted/looked down upon by my own, and I hate it But I've accepted it. Maybe because I refuse to identify with just one "type" of person and consider myself far more worldly in my interests.

I've got Juno in Sagittarius 1st house, a Sagittarius AC with Jupiter in 3rd. Uranus conjunct AC...POF in the 9th house.

All I can think of right now

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posted June 04, 2007 10:00 PM            

I second on what Alanabelle said, I get the same grief from my people because I don't fit some stereotypical set that a Russian jewish girl should be. But im happier with it. I am who i am, im proud of my heritage but I can also accept differences in others. So dont worry Neptune you're not alone. I think its the sagittarian energy though.

posted June 04, 2007 10:20 PM              

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Generally, I've always gotten along with people from other races more than my own. Why? I don't know. It's like I'm outcasted/looked down upon by my own,

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i felt the same way at my school and just around people that are considered my kind in general, (i'm african american too), i find myself being the opposite of people's expectations of my race, i like different music, i'm into different fashions, i like different foods, i read different books, and most of all, i'm a humanist, and i believe that there is an underlying reason or motive of a person's racism or jealousy, and i respect that.

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I second on what Alanabelle said, I get the same grief from my people because I don't fit some stereotypical set that a Russian jewish girl should be. But im happier with it. I am who i am, im proud of my heritage but I can also accept differences in others. So dont worry Neptune you're not alone. I think its the sagittarian energy though

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thanks for the support guy's, couldn't have aksed for more,

its actually quite interesting, and sometimes hard to deal with that my venus/conjunction with juno & p.fort in sagittarius is in my 4th house, because my habits and potential relationships will seem to conflict with, my home, ancestry, and environment i was raised in.

Thanks again, ladies, for sharing your experiences with me, very valuable.

love you all!

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Virgo Rising 8'57, Sagittarius Sun/4thH 3'26, Pisces Moon/6thH 8'22

"Our passions are not too strong, they are too weak. We are far too easily pleased." - C.S. Lewis

posted June 04, 2007 10:38 PM            

I do catch flack, but strangely its from African Americans even though I'm not really one of them. And frankly, I've never given a rats a-- what they thought of me because I don't wholey identify with them as a group anyways (too many cultural differences). And strangely, if he's ever caught flack, its from White Americans he's known personally or otherwise because he's light enough to pass off for one and they therefore think he's one of them. Strange but true....

posted June 05, 2007 03:11 AM            

To me it really doesnt matter where someone is from, colour, race & ethnicity have noting to do with who im attracted to.

I like men from my own race (black) & men from other races.

Who your dating is irrelevant in London, my sister is married to a white guy & no one bats an eyelid. My other sister only date white guys <hmmm> & no one gives a damn (including black folks).

To be honest, I do find it as unusual for someone to *only* date people outside their race as someone who *only* dates men of the same race, colour really dosen't matter to me in regards to men - it's irrelevant.

I believe in diversity & the fact that colour/race isn’t an issue.......including your own.

posted June 05, 2007 03:15 AM            

My first love was a sexy, biracial (white & black) Scorpio.

I wonder if the 4th house has something to do with it? Neptune, I noticed that you have your 4th in Sag. I have mine in Aquarius. I think both of those placements would make the natives feel at home with people for reasons other than nationality or race.

posted June 05, 2007 08:02 AM              

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"Our passions are not too strong, they are too weak. We are far too easily pleased." - C.S. Lewis

posted June 05, 2007 09:30 AM            

Juno in Sag people who like to date outside thier race-
Eskimo dates anyone who isnt an Eskimo

posted June 05, 2007 11:16 AM            

Sagitarius likes to date people form other cultures/etnicities/walks of life...Gemini though curious may tend to stick to people who have similar backgrounds and similar upbringings

Like my boyfriend is a Suger Sag (5 planets in Sag plus a bunch of Sag asteroids & Jupiter in 5th) but he's got an HUGE stellium (all those planets/asteroids conjunct) in the 3rd house.

My boyfriend refuses to date anyone who's not American and not from upbringing too unlike his rural..woodsy New England upbringing(He cannot stand city people). The person has to have similar attitudes, tastes, everything like that. I'm a different race, but my upbringing (which made me stand out from others in my race) is similar to his.

My sister isn't so much against dating anyone from a different race, but she says she could never see herself attracted to anyone else who isn't African-American...AND of light skin like her. (I'm dark, mind you)

She's a Gemini Sun and AC with Jupiter (7th house ruler) in the 3rd opposite...Saturn in the 9th house

I have a friend with a Aquarius DC and Uranus/Venus in the 5th house, and Juno in Aquarius who will literally date *anyone* regardless of race, species, age, psychological condition. Anything.

I myself have Juno/Cupido/Uranus/AC all conjunct. I KNOW I need someone completel different from myself or I'll get so bored. Only because I want to learn everything about everything and how can I learn things that I already know?

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posted June 05, 2007 11:28 AM              

I am Asian but I find myself attracted to the Scotish/Irish men. Any other race are not as attractive to me for some reason.

I have friends with a lot of different ethnic groups - African American, Asians, Europeans, Hispanics, etc, but when it comes to dating... I seem to exclusively like Scotish/Irish guys. It's those eyes... green/blue/gray/hazel... I just can't resist!

posted June 05, 2007 03:47 PM            

I was born at Macau, and I'm only 1/4 Portuguese (3/4 Asian lol).. I came to Portugal for some years already, and I came to like more occidental guys.. ^_^; I think that they can be more passionate and has a more liberal mind..
I grew up in an environment with mixed cultures, so I didn't find it hard to adapt..
My bf is Portuguese, and he's interested into Asian stuffs (food, culture, etc.).. ^_^

I think that a similar or compatible background is very important.. Culture compatibility can make a big difference..

posted June 05, 2007 04:19 PM            

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Dulce Luna, if I remember well, your bf was born 1 day before mine right? If your bf has Aqua Asc, then his chart will be very similar to my bf's (as he's Aqua Asc lol)! XD

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Actually, I think remember mine being born 1 day after yours. Unless your's was born on the 16th..LOL. Either way, yours has a Libra venus and a Virgo mars. I remember a thread saying a strong virgo or Libra influence denotes a love of the Asian Culture (particularly Chinese and Japanese). I don't know if that could apply to my bf, although he does like Anime ALOT and always eats Chinese food whenever he's on break or something.

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I was born at Macau, and I'm only 1/4 Portuguese (3/4 Asian lol)..

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Yeah same here, only the other 3/4 of me is African (From Moçambique).

posted June 05, 2007 04:48 PM              

being a mix of genes myself, i dont look any particualr region kind... I have dated africans, asians and europeans...
... nothing excites me more than a new challenge, but one hell of a barrier is 'language', if you do not speak the same native language or communicate very badly verbally, it is very limiting.... (I can speak english, french and hindi, so it covers a good deal of population but I am missing out a lot of chinese, japanese, thai action )

other than tht, beauty/ attraction has no defined limits ...... no gene/ color/ race is ever a plus or minus point for me...

it all depends on the attitude of the person... ATTITUDE SELLS..

posted June 05, 2007 04:54 PM            

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an african is beautiful in an african deadly, dark and animal sort of way

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What does that mean?...a deadly, dark and animal sort of way? I'd think you mean...a *human* way...?

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posted June 05, 2007 05:03 PM              

so if a deadly dark animal sort is human then the french guys are nothing but angels... poor sods..

posted June 05, 2007 05:23 PM            

Sorry if I'm the only who took that offensively but I'm sick of all this reference to "Black/African" in a negative way.

Last time I checked this was an accepting and respectful place, so if you can't abide by those simple rules, I suggest you keep your mouth shut or your palms closed (since typing) and keep moving along.

And Mercury in Sag and Venus in Aquarius, whatever. Astrology does not affect a decent set of moral and respect towards others. So I don't wanna hear the cop out "sorry, I'm a SAG! cuz frankly it's BS".

There are enough insensitive and ignorant clods in the world, do we really need anymore throwing it in our faces?
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