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NAM
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posted November 25, 2007 01:41 PM
 
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AcousticGod
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posted November 25, 2007 02:01 PM
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As a cancer girl I understand his way of seeing love , since he is a cancer boy.
Sacrifice until the other peson f*cks you over.
Boundary issues. People can't f*ck you over if you set up your boundaries. IP: Logged |
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posted November 25, 2007 02:08 PM
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posted November 25, 2007 02:10 PM
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Virgo/Aries75
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posted November 25, 2007 02:13 PM
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Now what I want to know is how I can take the feelings I felt/and had for him and apply them to someone else
I think we could make a fortune if we could figure this one out and sell it!!!  I don't know that you can take feelings for one person and apply them to someone else. Have you seen the movie, "Memoirs of a Geisha?" In it the lead heroine says that since she cannot be with the man that she loved then every act she does with another man, she will do it as if it's for him. When she dances, she will do it beautifully for him. When she pours tea, she does it gracefully and with love for him. That resonated with me at the time when I saw it because I couldn't be with someone that I loved. But then I realized that I was still doing myself and whoever I was with a disservice by not allowing each individual experience be what it was instead of making it about HIM. I wasn't allowing myself the possiblity of loving someone else because I was limiting love to only relate to HIM instead of allowing it to be possible with someone else. Whatever you share with someone is between you and that person. It's unique in itself and can't be duplicated exactly. But feeling love, connection, and intensity can happen with more than one person. As I said before, I would suggest just getting out there and enjoying your life without it being related to him. As time passes, this will get easier and easier until you will find yourself open again as you were when you ended up loving this guy in the first place. Then you probably won't even be thinking about it and WHAM! You'll be in love all over again. As for this one: quote:
One more time what is real love to you?
I can tell you what real love is to me but that will be another book.  I'll be more than happy to share that with you but don't want to thread jack as my posts are already too long. lol IP: Logged |
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posted November 25, 2007 02:18 PM
Virgo~ok, where is the link to your books? come on quit hidding them from me, can't you see I am hungry and thirsty IP: Logged |
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posted November 25, 2007 02:32 PM
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Azalaksh
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posted November 25, 2007 02:47 PM
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posted November 25, 2007 02:49 PM
ok you two... what are you up to?IP: Logged |
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posted November 25, 2007 03:19 PM
Hey Azalaksh! I'm popping in and out on Lindaland between other sites & forums(and doing laundry). How about you ladies? IP: Logged |
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posted November 25, 2007 03:22 PM
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AcousticGod
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posted November 25, 2007 03:41 PM
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Let's say we can all do that, let's say we can all read each other's minds...how do you create boundaries in this case?
You can do it. I think it's enough that you think about it. The questions you have I think you can work out the answers to... if not now then at some point in the future. IP: Logged |
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posted November 25, 2007 03:46 PM
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