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Topic: What if your soul mate doesn't recognise you?
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purple_scorp Knowflake Posts: 432 From: Australia Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 16, 2007 07:09 PM
Hey vinita,better that you jump off, than keep going round and round....cos all you get is giddy! Where do I stand....well, I never heard again from the guy that I wrote this thread about. Looking back now, well, he used me and he had no clue about the soul-mate thing and that's okay....... Wow, that was like Sep 2004 anyhow, so much has happened since then. After him, I went out with an Aries Gold-Miner for about 18 months but he kept pushing me away and then pulling me back. I left him three times. In between each time, I would not hear from him for up to six weeks at a time....then he would ring. I gave him two-second chances but hey, wasn't prepared to give him a third. We split last July-August-September and he rang me in March 2007 and then again in June or July 2007. I spoke to him in March but the call went through to my message machine the last time. I haven't heard from him since. I say that we broke up over a three-month period because he started to withdraw in July 2006 and so the contact was minimal. I cut ties for good when he came to visit in early September 2006 but I hadn't physically seen him for a month before that. Meanwhile, later in September 2006, I started dating another guy (a cappy) who I met at work. I thought things were going really well and then, all of a sudden, he asked for a time-out. Seems he had commitment problems around the one year mark. Seems this a pattern for him in every relationship (I wish he'd had shared that information with me before I fell in love). I think he has sorted himsElf out now, and we are trying to rebuild what we had - but it's a slow journey (for reasons which I won't go into here). So, I just plod along day to day. I do not think long-term and I have withdrawn slightly as a self-protection mechanism. I found that I was obsessing over the whole relationship thing (wasn't I zala ;-) ) mainly because I am so passionate and throw all of mysElf into relationships. Often my friends and forums like this, take a back seat in the interim, which I don't really like doing but as one of my friends pointed out - I am finally doing some real-life living. So, I'm trying to find the balance between being in a relationship (where I throw in all of my sElf) and remaining a good friend to my friends (and frequenting great places like this). I don't live with this cappy but probably spend a week of nights together every fortnight (the nights I don't have children I am at his house - the nights we both have children he is at my house - and then the odd night where I have children and he doesn't, he sometimes comes to my house too). It's great that we maintain two houses because we still can have time to oursElves and time alone with our respective children if we want to. Sometimes I feel I know him so well, and other times, I don't think I know him at all. But, I'm just going along with the flow, enjoying what I have for the moment, which works better than stressing about what I may not have in the future (should we part). I have to say though, I have grown tremendously from the first soul-mate experience right through to now. My growing has fast-tracked it seems, since I've been with the cappy. And there you have it.....that's exactly where I'm at. with love purple_scorp IP: Logged |
vinita Knowflake Posts: 126 From: Mumbai, India Registered: Apr 2004
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posted October 17, 2007 04:22 PM
It's amazing how you say it with so much clarity, simplicity and honesty. Due to some events in the past, I think I've become more reticent if not diplomatic. [I just typed a whole paragraph on my update and deleted it] *sigh* Anyways to say it in a rather offish way. I still believe in what you wrote first, but we really can't hold on to someone and since we have to make do with living in *this* world, we will have to follow its rule-as alien or impossible they may seem. I met him 7 months back-only to know he was leaving the country almost immediately-serendipity I thought then, destined. And he said things I thought only I knew/remembered/had felt. But now 7 months from then on. I just think it was wiping the bad blood. I get no replies to e-mails I was asked to sent. IP: Logged |
vinita Knowflake Posts: 126 From: Mumbai, India Registered: Apr 2004
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posted October 17, 2007 04:24 PM
Also on a totally random note. Have you read "He's just not that into you" It's from the writers of Sex and The City. It's hilarious and so so so accurate! IP: Logged |
vesta-sister Knowflake Posts: 31 From: colorado Registered: Sep 2007
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posted October 17, 2007 05:39 PM
purple_scorp, I completly understand, I have a soulmate situation going on in my life too. I noticed you made referance to 9 clubs. If you don't already have the books I recomend Robert camps books Destiny cards and love cards. I have come to understand that my guy is to teach me unconditional love. and I am to teach him spiritual values. in return his reward is unconditional love and mine is a perfect spiritual union , a divine union. So, my advice is read theese books look at the charts. If it is promised it will be. And most importantly follow your heart. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia Knowflake Posts: 1989 From: Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 17, 2007 05:52 PM
WOW that is amazing because I have that same lesson going on..Unconditional love and him spiritual lessons..And I think that it has finally sunk in on both parts..He makes me so angry but I have decided long ago to that I don't think my love will ever die for him and he talks about and understands the spiritual stuff now.. IP: Logged |
Azalaksh Moderator Posts: 5279 From: New Brighton, MN, USA Registered: Nov 2004
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posted October 17, 2007 06:28 PM
Purple ~ quote: I found that I was obsessing over the whole relationship thing (wasn't I zala ;-) )
Just a tad..... Fast-track is certainly the word -- you've learned so much about yourself since you started this thread!!Love & Hugs, K'Z IP: Logged |
vesta-sister Knowflake Posts: 31 From: colorado Registered: Sep 2007
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posted October 17, 2007 07:13 PM
Mama Mia, That is really great !!! I am happy for you. The problem with me is we are both married and have kids I don't want to hurt anyone, I just felt that connection in his eyes. My husband has found out because I was going through my transformation and pulled into myself. Wonder why? after the experiences I had, astral travel, seeing shadow figures, astral projection, dreams that have come true, ect... before I saw his eyes I started loosing weight and have lost over 90 pounds. I wear a size 2-3, was in an 18-20. There was a jolt of energy that overtook me for days. I was so lost and confused that I sat and cried to God one night asking for any kind of answer, He sent an angel that night who said The AlPHA said the heart of the seven belongs to the eight and he is returning the seven to the eight. this has been very hard for me. thanks, to blabber mouth (husband) my family thinks I am crazy. I keep seeing signs from heaven like when I ask a question I get an answer always to the exact question I asked. I am afraid he will turn me away and I don't think my heart can take that, I see he is happy or at least I think. I read the charts we are very simmilar in many ways. Names, dates, places, mannerisims, ancestory, even our partners have simmilar features. and we have a simmilar marking on our body, our lives have been a little diffrent but still very simmilar. Apparently we would be able to completly understand one another and even finish sentences for one another. we have a spiritual bond this is according to the composite. I just feel lost with out him I feel so lonesome. Like I said I don't want to hurt anyone but my heart can't take much more. He believes he already has his soulmate but when I read the charts him with her it says that Thier bond is more of a sexual nature, and that she will come to find that her ideal love is not really her ideal love. with me and him it states that love will be true. I did the destiny cards and hers is karma for things said in the past and letting go of one in her circle, she won't understand why he has to go away. My husbands is learning the truth (secrets)and faith in god. I know I have to choose but, I am afraid I believe that is why I was lead to this song the other night (Where fear and faith collide.) Never heard of it before last night but it is very empowering. IP: Logged |
purple_scorp Knowflake Posts: 432 From: Australia Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 17, 2007 08:35 PM
Hey vinita,this morning I read right back through this entire thread and I have to say that your growth is very evident throughout. Why does your soul-mate continue to taunt you? I know that you don't bite or take the bait anymore - which is great because it shows that you have truly let him go. But that he can't see that and wants you to still like him is a bit childish and just feeding his ego. Arrgh....some people just don't get it, do they? And the book you spoke about was also mentioned earlier in this thread. I haven't read the book but I remembered the Sex in the City episode on tv. And, I did see an Oprah show with the authors too. Hi vesta-sister - it was Robert Camp's website that I got that information from. I don't have his cards or his books but I should look into getting them because I found that small snippet of info at that time to be very interesting. Guess what....one day I was walking at lunchtime and found a playing card laying face down. It was on its own and I thought it odd that it should just be laying there. So, I picked it up and turned it over. It was the six of diamonds. It was only when I got back to work and revisited Robert's website that I realised that I am the six of diamonds. The odds are 1 in 54 (incl two jokers) that it would match. How freaky, yet wonderful. Thanks for the reminder about this book, I'll see if I can track down a copy! I feel your pain - that you can't be with this soul mate and perhaps for you too, your destiny was not to be together, but to check up on each other to make sure that all was well in each other's worlds. Regarding your own marriage, only you can decide whether you want to remain in it.......I got out of a 20 year stagnate r/ship. It was not for another man, it was for mysElf! I just knew that there was nothing there for me anymore. It happened to me overnight. I really just woke up one morning thinking - wow, you are not providing anything.....anything.....anything.....that I cannot provide for mysElf. It wasn't that I was unhappy - I was just dead inside! And, I figured even if I was on my own, there had to be more to life than just what I was living. So, I asked him to leave. Funny enough, he agreed! So, my advice to you is before you even contemplate whether you will be with your soul mate or not........find yoursElf. If you are going to leave your marriage......leave for yoursElf. It was hard - because we have two beautiful children (who were 2 and 5 at the time) but I have never looked back. I had almost four years on my own (dating on and off) before I met the soul-mate who I wrote about in this thread. I would not change that for a thing! with love purple_scorp IP: Logged | |