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izodesmozina
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posted May 22, 2007 01:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for izodesmozina     Edit/Delete Message
Scarlett honey, are you alright?

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Devilfish
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posted May 22, 2007 12:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Devilfish     Edit/Delete Message
im a pisces sun with a cap moon that opposes saturn too , but im a woman.
after reading this i believe he is into you, for sure!
he may get along with other women & then back off cause he is trying to be a friendly guy not seeking to create a relationship so when they turn it into something more he's like oh ****
so if he is building a relationship with you,i'd say it's because he has feelings for you.
when he brought up the orgasm comment my guess is that he was trying to shake things up after being disapointed because of another night slipping away - walking the tight rope of "just friends".......
but sometimes ,as you know ,just friends is comfortably safe too so he's probably torn.
in other words , i agree with izod.........
go slow, don't play games & be sincere.

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ScarlettSoul
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posted May 22, 2007 08:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Izo & Devilfish,

I'm okay - I have been TERRIBLY sick over the last week with strep throat and have been incapacitated. I haven't been able to get out of bed. It's been horrible!

Thank you again for your positive thoughts. Unfortunately, things with my pisces have taken a turn for the worst in the last week or so. I'm very upset and I'm not sure what is going on.

The last time I saw him was the night I mentioned before - the night where he made that weird comment - I guess a week and a half ago. This is the longest I have gone without seeing him probably in a year. He has virtually stopped calling me. I called one time and he said he'd call back that night, but didnt call back until the next day.

I was desperately sick on Friday and called him - he didn't return the call until the next day. He called late at night when he was on his way out to a club. It was like an afterthought. He had no idea how sick I'd been, but seemed concerned and asked if I needed anything. The next morning he called to see how I was doing. We chatted a little bit and in the course of the conversation he said he had a DATE on Tuesday. YES!!! It is a girl his friend set him up with... I'm just kind of numb.

So he never bothered to see how I was doing yesterday... and this morning he called and left some dumb message "checking" on me. I'm thnking... REALLY? All this time later you're going to pretend you're concerned? Needless to say I didnt call back and don't plan to for a while.

I feel he is spending time with new people all of a sudden and I feel kicked to the curb. I"m wondering if he sensed something from me and is pushing me away?

And I can look at this objectively and think it's probably not a big deal in the scheme of things... but you know when you get an INSTINCT something is different? I've got that.

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posted May 23, 2007 12:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for izodesmozina     Edit/Delete Message
Scarlett,

Wish I'd know what to say now... I am puzzled by this just like you are... Could it be that he thinks YOU are not interested?
I hope you'll get better soon. Keep me posted! I'm having some men troubles too. What is going on??
No matter what, don't let the depression get to you! Keep the faith!

Izo

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posted May 23, 2007 12:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Peri     Edit/Delete Message
It's only a guess but I think as a Piscean, he easily got those insecurity vibes from you and believe me, they are very contagious; so now he is doing exactly what you initially were going to do, Scarlett. He may even be not aware of it but this is it! He acts like he doesn't really care, he almost stopped calling, he mentioned a date! In a situation like this it is impossible and not really wise to let him know how you really feel about him (cozz you know nothing for sure) however, you should not pretend you are doing fine and are happy because he knows/feels you are not but he doesn't know why...you explain nothing so he may just blame himself or think you completely lost interest. Maybe the best thing to do is to mention one day that you feel lonely and your friendship is fading away, it often happens when one starts dating and the other is still single so to balance your 'emotional needs' maybe you should think about someone to date as well? Ask him. As a friend.

Great thoughts and advice, Izo!

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posted May 23, 2007 10:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Izo & Peri,

What great advice from both of you! Izo - I'm so sorry to hear you're having man trouble... hopefully not anything too serious??? What's going on?

As for me and the pisces... well i didnt call him back after that dumb message yesterday morning... and then he called me again last night at about 8:30 wanting to know why i hadnt called him back and if i was OK... I said "oh, i thought you had a date tonight so I figured you'd be out". He said he was on his way to the date... but we had a good conversation and I felt connected to him more than i have in a while.

We talked a little bit about the girl he was going to meet, and he said that he'd call me and tell me how it went afterwards if it wasnt too late. He called at around 1:30pm (twice) but I didnt pick up. I think I'll call him after he gets off work today and see what he's up to.

Peri - very insightful... you think he's picking up on my insecurity vibes? That actually wouldnt surprise me. He's incredibly intuitive, almost to a fault... he can see straight through me sometimes. It's a little discomforting. I do think we should talk sometime about things, but I want to wait a little while until things feel back to normal...

Thanks again for your encouragement and well wishes. I'm trying to keep a positive attitude and your wonderful posts really help!!!

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posted May 23, 2007 11:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Pisces called. I'm seeing him later. He's going to tell me all about the girl. GULP. I don't know if I can do this...

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posted May 25, 2007 03:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
I'm starting this post by saying "Be careful what you wish for"...

Last night, after 2 bottles of white wine... my pisces and I FINALLY kissed!!! We actually spent several hours making out and it was amazing!!!

Now... in the cold hard light of day... I'm scared. I have no idea what this means or what we do from here.

Izo... you were right!

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Peri
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posted May 25, 2007 04:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Peri     Edit/Delete Message

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/013837.html

P.S. I bet he feels the same

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ScarlettSoul
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posted May 26, 2007 04:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Peri,

Wow! That is VERY interesting...

Here's the thing. I saw my pisces last night in a group situation and things were weird. We were both shy wallflowers. He was attentive and sweet, but the whole time there was a tangible difference in how we interacted with each other.

On the way home, we talked on the phone. I asked what he was doing for the rest of the weekend and he told me he had plans to spend it with that GIRL!!!! (who, by the way, he kissed on Tuesday night).

I'm in way over my head.

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posted May 27, 2007 08:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CoralFrequency     Edit/Delete Message
I agree with what Izodesmozina was saying about Cap moons.. I think the only problem I can spot in your synastry is that moon. I have it in my chart (as well as a Capricorn Mars lol).. I can be very cold sometimes sexually (if I’m not with the right person) and I don't feel comfortable getting physically close to anyone unless there's a strong bond there.. so that could easily explain him flirting - but not going further.

I flirt as well apparently.. I never notice I'm doing it but I'm told that I do lol though to me it's just talking - socialising - It doesn't have to lead to something physical like a kiss.. It also makes me extremely uncomfortable to be around someone who obviously *only* wants something physical.. I'm sure that's how he feels with those girls who wanted to go there.. It feels like, this person doesn't *know* me.. so what do they want? It would be like spending the night with a blow up doll..

I'm 100% sure he would not feel this way with you. You already know him and you're close.. it's a different situation.

But Capricorn moon isn't that great at expressing emotions so if he seems cold, it's most likely not because he doesn't like or love you.. but because he doesn’t know how to express it.

About him mentioning the other girl.. you've said this previously:

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if my pisces is teasing me just to boost his own ego, why should I be so careful about his feelings when he's not doing the same for me?

It isn't to boost his ego.. I wouldn't take it that way. It's more like acting out on insecurity. I've had a lot of Piscean friends and they do say stuff like that purely out of fear.. They think that unless they play some game - the person (you) will lose interest.. as they are not good enough as they are.. without playing some game to make sure you stay hooked. It’s lack of confidence and trust.

To your question: "why should you be careful"
Because frankly his feelings are so much softer than yours as an Aries (I know because I’m an Aries) that he can't take what he dishes.. I know it sounds unfair and it's a bit sad.. but if you do care about him, don't do anything to hurt him back.. just be patient for a while.. I don't think he'll go on with this 'other girl' thing for long. That's my impression anyway.
If you do something to annoy him back (such as telling him you kissed someone else), it will probably end quite badly.. It’s very unlikely that he’ll take that well and pick himself back up and want to be with you again..

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posted May 27, 2007 11:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for miss_muffet     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Scarlett,

I feel your pain...

For what it's worth, here is my two cents...

Pisces seem to have this fear of rejection. Perhaps he's not sure where he stands where you are concerned and is also afraid to move because he doesn't want to lose you are his friend, or worse yet, hurt you?

Most pisces do not really want to "make waves". They would much rather swim silently in the ocean and be anonymous... Admitting how he feels about you, whether love or otherwise, means he has to 1. hurt the girl he's currently dating, or 2. hurt you. Neither will seem too appealing to him right now.

I don't know what a good advise is but being an Aries, I would much rather know the truth, and be hurt to a point of losing him than not know and be hurt everytime he goes on a date with someone else anyway.

Why not sit down with him and be honest. I believe that Honestly is the most important ingredient in any relationship.

Just tell him how you feel and if he doesn't feel the same way that you would be eternally grateful if he just say so because it would hurt you even more if he doesn't tell you. And if he feels the same way, he should stop seeing the other girl and be with you as a couple.

There is no guarantee that he will reciprocate. He might really just turn around and tell you that he just wants to be friends. In this case, at least now that you know...

If you can't tell him this face to face... try sending him an email. I find it easier to express how I feel in writing.

Hope it works out for you,

Miss Muffet

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posted May 29, 2007 12:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Coral,

Thanks so much for your input. Everything you're saying about the cappy moon sounds right-on and my instincts tell me that you're right too. Things are so muddy and confusing for me right now though.
What do you make of this:
The day the "make out" happened he spent the night and left Friday morning for work. He called me once and left an exhuberantly happy message on my machine that morning on his way in to the office... he was just joking around and being cute and playful and said he'd call me later. Later in the day he calls me... he sounds great, things aren't awkward between us, and then he says, "So I guess the boundaries of friendship were crossed last night, werent they? You're not going to feel awkward around me now, are you?". Of course I say, "No way!". He then invited me out that night with a couple of his friends.

Seeing him for the first time after the fact on Friday night, I had butterflies and I think we were both a bit unsure how to act around each other. Especially since his best friend and another friend were there. I KNOW the best friend has to know about what happened. Anyway, we had a few tender moments and he was very attentive and sweet, but I could tell he was feeling bashful... and maybe I'm reading into this, but it was the kind of bashful when you have a crush on someone... but i could DEFINITELY be reading this wrong. ANYWAYS... fast forward to the end of the night. We talk in our respective cars on the way home that night and I can tell he's not super chatty. I ask him what he's doing for the rest of teh weekend... he then hesitantly tells me he's going out with "the girl" to a movie in the park she invited him to on Saturday... then Sunday or Monday they're going for a drive to Santa Barbara. My heart jumped up in my throat. I played it cool though and told him to have a good time.

Here's the thing - I KNOW he had this stuff planned with her before our "night". And I could tell he didn't feel great about telling me. Fact of the matter is though - he was still going out with her. And I need to accept that he's going to be spending time with her and that probably, this was just a fling with me. I'm very unclear about where he is with all of this.

I haven't been able to stop thinking about that night; I wonder if he's feeling the same?

Miss Muffett,

I agree with you, I need to talk with him about things and what we do from here. I am not ready to come completely clean with him about my feelings yet. There is a lot to consider. I am going to wait and see how I feel when we talk next. I know he probably had a really romantic weekend with this other girl and that kills me... I think I can keep my feelings at bay for a bit longer until I talk to him. I hope to be able to read him a bit better after that.

Love can be so painful.

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posted May 29, 2007 04:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for izodesmozina     Edit/Delete Message
Yes it can...
But without that pain, you wouldn't acknowledge the beauty and the miracle that true love can bring in your life ...
Oh, Scarlett, I am so happy for you! It is clear that the Pisces is into you... he just doesn't want to hurt the other girl... but I am sure that when they'll meet again, he's gonna tell her about you and break it off with her. Oh, I'm so happy for you guys! It is gonna be alright! I have faith in your relationship... You guys are good for each other, even if you're both scared LOL. Maybe you should let the man know that you're not very comfortable with the other girl situation... otherwise he's gonna think you don't care about him and a possible relationship with him.
Hope everything will work out for you two! Best of wishes,

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posted May 29, 2007 06:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for *MISS*ARIES     Edit/Delete Message
HELLO MY ARIES FRIEND WHO ALSO HAS FEELINGS FOR A PISCES MAN. I'VE BEEN READING ABOUT YOUR SITUATION AND WOW, YOU'VE REALLY RECEIVED SOME WONDERFUL FEEDBACK.

HERE'S WHAT I HAVE TO SAY....
1ST- SCARLETT YOU SOUND LIKE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL SOUL THAT IS EXPERIENCING LOW SELF ESTEEM IN THIS SITUATION. YOU ARE CONSTANTLY DOUBTING YOURSELF. YOU MUST STOP THAT! FIRST OFF YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH AND WHEN YOU QUESTION YOURSELF (ESPECIALLY AROUND HIM) IT DOESN'T LOOK/FEEL NATURAL. IT THROWS AN INTUITIVE PISCES OFF AND MAKES HIM SECOND GUESS HIS THOUGHTS AS WELL.

2ND- YOU ARE GOING TO NEVER KNOW AND CONSTANTLY QUESTION YOURSELF AND HIM UNTIL YOU ASK HIM WHAT HE FEELS ABOUT THE SITUATION. JUST SAY THAT "HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THE SITUATION YOU AND I ARE EXPERIENCING?" AND IF HE ASKS YOU THE SAME JUST BE HONEST, BECAUSE YOUR HONESTY IS POSITIVE FEELINGS (OVERALL) WHEN IT COMES TO THIS GUY. AND DON'T FEEL LIKE IT WILL MAKE YOU ANY LESS OF A PERSON IF YOU DO SOMEWHAT PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE LIKE THAT. YOU NEED TO DO THIS BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T A YEAR OR TWO DOWN THE ROAD YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND THINK "I HAD SO MANY CHANCES AND WAS SO BUSY DOUBTING MY INTERPRETATIONS OF THE SITUATION THAT I DIDN'T EVER FIND OUT WHAT HE FELT AND NOW I'LL ALWAYS WONDER..." DON'T DO THAT TO YOURSELF IT ISNT WORTH IT. LIFE IS TOO SPECIAL AND TOO SHORT!

YOU ALWAYS TAKE THAT CHANCE OF NOT GETTING THE ANSWER YOU'RE LOOKING FOR WHEN YOU PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE, BUT I WOULD RATHER HAVE THAT CLARIFICATION THEN A LIFETIME OF "WHAT IF'S" WOULDN'T YOU? AND THAT IS WHAT YOURE CONSTANTLY ASKING YOURSELF ALREADY. "WHAT IF IM NOT READING THIS RIGHT? WHAT IF I'M WRONG? ETC"

HE MAY BRING UP THE OTHER GIRL MORE THAN YOU CARE TO HEAR ABOUT BECAUSE HE'D RATHER NOT FEEL REJECTED BY YOU AND DOESNT WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT. AND BEING AN ARIES, CARDINAL, FIRE SIGN WE DO BEST BY TAKING THE FIRST STEP. SO JUST ASK HIM.....OH AND LET US KNOW (WERE ALL DYING TO HEAR ABOUT IT!!)

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posted May 31, 2007 01:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Izo ~ Thanks so much for the very sweet note and all your beautiful faith in my relationship with my pisces! I wish I could report that life is all unicorns and rainbows... but it's just not. I haven't spoken to him or heard from him since Friday night. You're probably thinking that the phone works both ways and why haven't I reached out to him either, but he was planning to spend the weekend with that girl the last I heard, and I feel like a loser calling him up knowing this. He is probably hot and heavy with her and I'm but a distant memory. It's so hard!!! I WISH he was cutting her loose like you say, but in all reality, my gut says this is very doubtful. I keep replaying our night over and over in my head... it was pure magic, bliss, elation... so tender and sweet... and I can't understand how things have become so icy cold. I guess it's the Cappy moon again??? I'm not sure if he's distancing himself from me, too chicken to call me, or maybe he's just falling for the new girl and hasn't really given it much thought???? Well, I'm keeping busy with work and trying to make sure I have other focuses right now so I don't get too down about this. I'm thinking of him often and sending him loving thoughts. I really loved when you said "have faith in your relationship"... the "faith" part really resonated with me, and so I am holding onto the faith. It's the only thing I can cling to right now.

How are you doing?? You mentioned man trouble in a previous post... everything okay???

Miss Aries ~ Thank you for your wonderfully kind words! I know I'm definitely not a confident aries when it comes to this situation, but there is so much at stake here, I just feel like I need to be careful. We're in such a delicate state right now. Aside from what may or may not develop romantically, my friendship with him is too important to me to ruin. If we are all awkward and closed-up because we're too weirded out by everything, our friendship is definitely never goign to be the same comfortable haven it's always been for me... so I need to wait this one out a tad I think. The last thing I want to do is throw my intuitive pisces off track... but the extra element involved here is this other girl. I feel he needs to figure out what's going on with her before I inject myself into the romantic equation. The silence between us is deafening... when and IF we ever talk, I'll have a conversation like you've suggested... more of an open-ended "how do you feel about things?" thing... if he asks me back, I'm going to say, "if I said I didnt have feelings for you, I would be lying". That's as much as I'm giving up right now... (Baby steps!!!)

This VERY well could be a drunken fling that meant absolutely nothing, so I'm preparing myself for that. I will definitely keep you posted...

Thanks SO much to you all for your loving thoughts and concern... you are all so wonderful.

Scarlett

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posted June 01, 2007 04:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Saw my pisces tonight with another friend. He was so standoffish. He kept checking his phone all night and i know he was getting text messages from the girl.

He suddenly said he should go because he has an early morning tomorrow. This is soooooo unlike him I can't even tell you. If i had to wager a little money, he was heading to her house FOR SURE.

I need to cut this thing off now before I completely fall apart.

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posted June 01, 2007 11:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for *MISS*ARIES     Edit/Delete Message
Scarlett,
Well that is really a crappy situation to have to deal with. My heart is with you on that. Only you know what is best for you. Just know we all stand behind you on what you choose to do w/ the situation. Your happiness is what matters most and sometimes it may mean going through something difficult to get to happiness. It also takes a strong person to recoginze and deal with something that may not be what they had in mind. It's like that saying goes, if a door closes then a window will open. Im not saying that this situation w/ the pisces is done, but if your intuitions are telling you that his feelings are elsewhere then you have every right to protect yourself.

xoxo

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posted June 02, 2007 04:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for izodesmozina     Edit/Delete Message
Wise spoken, Miss Aries! [I'm also an Aries hehe].
Scarlett, talk to your man, ask him how he feels, where does he want your relationship to go, what is going on with the other girl. Perhaps all is not lost. You might feel your man distant when he really isn't and what you feel is a reflection of your own insecurity. Just talk to him. Expect the worse and hope for the best.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! Good luck!!

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posted June 04, 2007 12:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for *MISS*ARIES     Edit/Delete Message
Look at us Aries helping eachother out! Aren't we great supporters?

Izo- Im sad you're going through some difficult relationship times also. It is never easy and it consumes so much, even when you tell yourself to stay busy w/ other things or that you will be just fine w/out them. It is never that simple is it? I think when you reach a point where you can tell yourself "ok I need to move on for my own sanity/happiness" it is a weight lifted off your shoulders. Not much of one however because now you have to redirect all of this energy and focus you've had on this person. And it is energy that has been so strong for so long. It's true that time does heal the pain. I am one, however, that wants to know "how much time til it feels better?!!!!" I guess just faith in yourself and remind yourself also to take full advantage of those that are there to lend support. That is all one can do. I see a bright light for you at the end of the tunnel. One that will bring a lot of happiness and peace. Until then if you ever need someone to talk to I am happy to be here for you.

Scarlett- I agree w/ Izo. 100%.

"What would you attempt if you knew you would not fail?"

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posted June 05, 2007 07:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScarlettSoul     Edit/Delete Message
Izo & Miss Aries,

You both are very wise and ALWAYS give great advice. I'm DEFINITELY planning to talk to my pisces, but things have sort of gone from bad to worse in the last few days.
I can't wait to see what other odd events are going to develop.

We have seen each other every Friday night since I can remember - it's a given - and I called him Friday and never heard back ALL night, which again - is completely bizarre. What planet am I on?

Then, I'm feeling thoroughly ticked off and annoyed, and he calls Saturday afternoon to invite me out. He left a message and barely skimmed over why he'd not called me back. (VERY VERY out of the ordinary). He said "I was out and about last night". Translation - with the girl. Gross.

I never returned this call, and he called again Saturday night to tell me the location was changing. It was going to be him and 5 of his college buddies. I can't tell if this is a great compliment or huge insult that he invites me to these things. It feels he's trying to put a wedge between us a mile high.

So, in an effort to make things seem "not weird", I called him twice on Sunday in attempt to reach him. No call back. EVEN STRANGER!!! This is soooo unusual that he wouldlnt give me a quick call to let me know whats going on.

Then... the kicker. Monday night I get a TEXT MESSAGE from him. Let me say that this man is severely dyslexic and would rather get a root canal than send a text message... I have often been asked NOT to send them to him because he just gets too frustrated to respond and will end up calling back instead of even trying to send one. Anyway... the text I get from him reads:

"Will be out of towm till Thursday"

THAT's IT!!!!!!!! What the hell... I've had it. I'm SOOO done with this blatant disrespect. He is DEFINITELY trying to send me a message.

My intuition tells me that he is scared to death because he was vulnerable with me. He is freaked out by intimacy. Like most men, I'm sure he thinks that since I am a woman I want something from him or I want to nail him down. So he's fleeing. Well I hope he enjoys life without me. I will do a lot for love, but I am not about to be unappreciated and walked all over.

I read Azalaksh's post about Mercury in retro that will affect events that happen after the 31st... well that was the last night I saw my man. (That weird night he was checking his cell all night and left early.) My cancer is in my 12th house and his is in his 2nd. Could this have any pull over us and why things are so strange?

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posted June 06, 2007 02:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Peri     Edit/Delete Message
Scarlett, I feel your pain
I don't know whether he loves you or just being manipultive ... but the question is ... even if he truly loves you ... do you really need this? It will always be like this until he faces his insecurities, you cannot make him feel better about himself ... maybe you should read this

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/002576.html

Sorry I am just a little down today and being pessimistic.

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posted June 06, 2007 04:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for izodesmozina     Edit/Delete Message
Scarlett,

I too feel your pain. I do not wish to be the devil's advocate here (and I do not think your Pisces is the devil LOL), but I have learned that things are not always as they seem. In my opinion, it is not his intention to be disrespectful to you, even if that is what his behavior suggests. I agree with you and I too think he is freaking out.
However, this is not the key issue. The issue is how you are going to react to this. I do not know if there really is a RIGHT way to react... I don't feel qualified to offer my advice in this situation. I don't know which is the right path to walk on. All I can do is share my experience and leave you to draw your own conclusion. I think you should stay true to yourself and take the action that suits you and your principles best.
I enjoyed reading through the link that Peri provided.
As for you, dear Scarlett, you need to figure out what is really important to you, what are your priorities in this issue, what feels right for you. You are the only one who has the right to judge this, because it is your life, and you are the one left to live with the consequences of your actions. Think long and hard, gather all the informations you can from your position, make your decision and stick with it even if it's painful at the moment. In your heart, you already know, I am sure about this.

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posted June 06, 2007 05:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for izodesmozina     Edit/Delete Message
(((((((((((((Peri)))))))))))))

I am sorry you have a bad day. I hope things will get better for you.
Thank you for the link! It's amazing stuff!

Miss Aries,
Thank you so much for your support!

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posted June 06, 2007 05:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Peri     Edit/Delete Message
thanks for your support Izo I really need it ..

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